How do you guys cope with break-ups or bad experiences with women?

ThatSpecialPlace · 2014-11-16T23:58:50+00:00

I was fine before I met her, I will be fine without her.

2014-11-17T00:46:37+00:00

First off: Stop contact for 30 days. This is very difficult and most people can't do it. But I've found two things are going to happen, either she's going to miss you and ya'll get back together, or she's going to forget about you, and you'll see she wasn't worth the thought - either way, you're going to be happy.

I've also learned that if you two were truly compatible, then there's really no breakup, it's just a matter of time away and let things pass. If things are truly over and she doesn't see the same potential, then trust me, this is the best thing that could happen to you.

I recommend that you master the art of the "Unsent Angry Letter" anytime you want to contact her.

Take out a sheet of paper and write your ex the most disgusting letter. Point out all of her flaws, the reason why you are pissed, and just vent your frustrations on that letter. Make sure it breaks down any hope of you two ever getting back together. Make the letter so bad that it would cause her to hate you after she read it.

Read that letter over and over again until you feel better, and then rip it up and throw it away.

I repeat. Do not send that letter! Once you do, you'll essentially be validating her decision, and you'll simultaneously make yourself look like an idiot asshole.

You'll be surprised how much stress that relieves. If you want her back, or if you want to move on, (I don't know your situation) you HAVE to let go of your feelings. And that angry letter really helps if you do it every single time you feel great frustration towards the end of your relationship.

childishgames · 2014-11-17T02:53:03+00:00

I feel sad just like everyone else for a period of time when a relationship ends. That being said, I can always have fun. I try hard to be a positive person and just because I'm feeling sad or depressed doesn't mean I have to make others feel that way. Its a waste of time feeling sorry for yourself.

The keys to getting over a girl are:

Finding more girls
Not contacting her
Get rid of things that remind you of her. The biggest thing I can recommend is unfollow her on facebook. This does wonders. You will be surprised. That way don't have to delete her, but you won't be constantly fed reminders of who she's fucking and how awesome she's doing without you. Everyone knows that facebook is fake.. it makes people feel bad about their lives because everyone looks like they are always having fun and being happy. At first, everything will remind you of her... but as time goes on, you stop associating stupid things with her and will only be reminded when you see her friends or her social-media.
Time. There's nothing you can do here. No matter what, a break-up is going to be sad at first. If you do steps 1-3, that time period will be much shorter... but no matter what you are going to think about her.

DAD_FISTER · 2014-11-17T09:09:00+00:00

Working out.

wheeling_and_dealing · 2014-11-17T03:57:06+00:00

I listen to Yung Lean and Spooky Black and become introverted and explore myself for a bit.

Not feeling sorry for myself or my situation, just calming down my social activity and vibing out

recyclablebantha · 2014-11-17T11:09:54+00:00

How do you guys cope with a bad experience you've had with a women, or a break-up of any sort? I'm curious since I usually have a bad time with this, as I just got out of a relationship and really feel horrible, what do you guys do to make things better for yourselves?

Rejections and break-ups are good because your time isn't being wasted by things dragging out, as happens when things should end but they don't right away.

Also, your life has been freed up to move on to bigger and better things.

Yadeno · 2014-11-17T05:05:34+00:00

Ever have a person in your life you let go a few months ago or years ago, and feel literally no connection with them anymore. Like you actually don't care, or thoughts cross your mind about them anymore? (Not always in a bad way)

That's how she feels about you.

RichieFinn · 2014-11-17T11:03:12+00:00

Keep myself busy doing things I enjoy with people I enjoy. Go for food, go watch a game, go play a sport or do a hobby. Time heals all.

snotsnot · 2014-11-17T12:02:53+00:00

This and this.

POTATO_IN_MY_WHAT · 2014-11-17T13:13:29+00:00

Exersize en healthy eating. I become a person not even considering her to be hot enough.

UNDENIABLE_LOGIC · 2014-11-17T16:55:54+00:00

Got out of a 2 year relationship with a kid involved. When I broke up with her I immediately closed off contact (no facebook(unfriended), calls, and texts). I should of kept it that way because 3 months down the line I made the unfortunate mistake of trying to contact her and found out she has a new guy, that brewed up a primal jealousy which rekindled feelings. Got a new place since then and haven't spoke to her since. Things are looking up and I'm looking forward, because I'm not playing out scenarios in my head of what I'll say and how I'll act and yada yada yada, because I made the decision to not talk to or see her any more. Its my solid first step into a break up.

YOLOtheRapist · 2014-11-17T17:08:24+00:00

Delete everything. Cut all connections with her. Don't contact her when tempted. Hold your ground and just after a couple of weeks you will be surprised that you did not even think of her for a whole week. Just think that there is no good thinking, staying, or keeping in touch with her.

gexxx007 · 2014-11-17T21:11:38+00:00

Just remember that the girl that dumped you is a stupid bitch for letting you go; it's her loss, there's tons of hot chicks out there to bang. Get over it by hanging out with your buds, get high, get drunk, hit the clubs and fuck some horny chicks.

WhitePhillip · 2014-11-17T05:50:43+00:00

People say that fucking other girls won't help. That's bullshit. 60% of the time it works every time. Just remember to wrap your package.

KMuffin · 2014-11-17T00:43:28+00:00

Start moving right away. Approach people people ASAP, and don't let yourself be dragged down by something you could not control. If you keep digging yourself deeper, sooner or later you won't be able to get out of the hole.

LawSchoolGuy83 · 2014-11-17T00:10:23+00:00

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accountingdouche · 2014-11-17T01:33:05+00:00

Fuck it, I don't take life too serious. I'm like hey its that cunt's loss.

Lagavulin · 2014-11-17T01:16:53+00:00

Realize that both of you are hurting. But it wasn't going to work out for either of you.

Afrovis · 2014-11-17T06:59:07+00:00

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Title	How do you guys cope with break-ups or bad experiences with women?
Author	ithearrow
Upvotes	26
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Date	November 16, 2014 11:49 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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