I have noticed throughout the years as I have mastered the art of seduction theory but languished as a novice in practice that there seems to be a reversion back to the old pick up way of thinking.

Beginners (not that I blame them), seem to think that ANYONE who watches a little Mystery or RSD Tyler can immediately shower, put a shirt on and go out and kill it with ANY woman. The crushing disappointment when an overweight guy realizes despite using all the techniques girls still aren't interested in him is enough to make him crawl back into a pit of self loathing. Now a little bit of belief in ones self is not harmful, in fact it has sometimes tipped the edge between not getting laid and getting laid however if you think as a badly presented, awkward, overweight guy that belief alone will turn you into a chick magnet, think again.

This community especially in the last few years has quite rightly turned to self improvement as a whole rather than just tips to trick a girl into bed and I'm glad of that fact. However the harrowing fact is that self improvement takes time and effort, months even years of discipline which is daunting when a lot of guys come here just looking to get laid with hot girls as they are.

For me just as important as kino, keeping frame and all of that is getting fit. Girls aren't these blind creatures that they have been made out to be by the pickup community who just sense confidence and latch on to it, they do find physical attributes attractive too, infact some find it so appealing that they will actually approach a fit guy. Dressing well is important too and adds to the overall presentation of a guy that a girl wants to sleep with.

Here's why I think you are doing a disservice to yourself if you aren't keeping yourself fit and presentable:

  • You really have to polish your game to legendary standards to get laid by 9's and 10's every week. Being fit and well groomed opens the door up to 9's and 10's in your life.
  • The amount of pride and confidence you get from working out and seeing progress will make you so much more at ease with yourself and when you are talking to girls, which will make you more outcome independent.
  • Some of the biggest insecurities when out comes from a mindset of going for girls that are "aren't in your league" in terms of physique, so you then feel a feeling of inadequacy. Imagine now you have been exercising and dieting regularly for a while, these fit confident girls who make your heart race would be in your league physically!
  • Pick up is so much easier when girls actually have some kind of physical attraction to you. You're allowed to make mistakes more often and they will still let you sleep with them (as long as you don't make too many).

I guess the point i'm making here and that has probably been said before but i'm saying it again is don't treat pick up as a short cut to getting laid all of the time without improving other aspects of your life along with it as it just leads to misery and self loathing as a whole. Sure some guys can do without it and get on well but for most guys its a valuable tool which needs to be utilized, especially if you want to get with 9's and 10's on a regular basis.