Hey guys, I saw a video a while back that rung very true and wanted to share that:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rZTqF5oYUqo

Basically the video explains how flirting can be fun and exciting, a huge confidence booster and generally healthy, and it doesn't have to lead to nor mean anything.

I feel like guys and girls have this backwards.

Girls understand that they can flirt with anyone and it doesn't have to lead nor mean to anything.

Yet most guys I have met seem to be under the impression (I used to as well) that flirting is a clear indication of affection and should always be an indicator of wanting some intimate with the other person.

The video argues that The Good Flirt can simply be something harmless and fun, without the immediate intention of escalating.

If you are worried that when you approach a girl, "what if they are in a relationship?" Don't be, the very act of going up there with the intention of flirting without the intention of having sex removes that derogative and allows you to hit on anyone and then go your separate ways.

An example of this is a couple months back, at the age of 22 I coincidentally came across a very good friend of mine that I was supposed to meet a day later, he was there with his family which I never met, I got introduced to his father and his fathers gf who was smoking hot for a 50 year old, and that didn't stop her from flirting with me.

I sat with her talking, hands on knees, hands on hands, even though my friends father was right there, her telling me I am very handsome and me telling her she is gorgeous.

We both knew it wouldn't lead anywhere, that didn't stop us from flirting with each other without the intention of going beyond that, and we went our separate ways, it was a huge confidence booster for me of course and I would like to think she enjoyed still being found attractive by younger men at her age.

End case in point: Even if the girl is not looking for anything, go out there and try anyway without it needing to mean anything, perhaps it will be harmless flirting and even if it doesn't end that way she will most definitely appreciate being found attractive and boost her confidence. (Obviously don't be creepy)