I accept any kind of advice, I've never really had a relationship before but I think it's time, I don't have much self-esteem and I have a little social anxiety. (I'm not ugly or anything like that, I'm a normal guy, I'm a black guy, 1.70m tall, I'm not 100% in shape but I have the appearance of a strong guy, good chest, shoulders, big arms.

I was quite fat and didn't get many looks, but now that I've lost a bit of weight I've noticed that some women look at me, but because it's something new I can't tell if the person is just looking and I'm also afraid to look to check and look like a pervert.

I really feel like I need to make the first move, basically I think there's a girl at the gym who keeps checking me out, I usually use the full weight of the machines, really heavy weights and type shit. How do I know if she wants something or is just impressed? because usually people at my gym check me out because I use a lot of weight