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Follow the 11 principles of approaching women. It is easier to practice and not that complicated. I have wirtten it around 2 years ago. You can go find it.
/r/seduction26/07/26 07:09 AM
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When its the right time you'll know. Forcing it is no good
/r/seduction09/07/26 03:37 AM
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Good job, keep going and increase the number of sets.
/r/seduction08/07/26 06:26 PM
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Haha. I've been longer in this community than the age of your account. I would suggest reading it instead of skimming through
/r/seduction08/07/26 06:06 PM
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Anywhere is a good place. Just overcome your limiting beliefs, express yourself and be authenthic
/r/seduction17/06/26 03:43 AM
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Haha
/r/seduction17/06/26 03:41 AM
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Pickup is not magic. There is no tips or tricks. What works is who you will become after transcending your limiting beliefs, not the technique itself.
/r/seduction17/06/26 03:41 AM
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Be more authenthic on the approach and make yourself more memorable if you're doing direct. If indirect, just express yourself naturslly and the roght audience will arrive in front of you eithout effort. Youre doing nothing wrong. In fact you're learning quite well.
/r/seduction16/06/26 06:19 AM
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Reduce your energy and dont worry about engagamenet. Hook point = when you can tell the girl likes you.
/r/seduction06/04/26 01:07 AM
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Intentions needs to be shown somehow, not making it explicit keeps the girl guessing, so its more emotionally stimulating and engaging. You're not hiding your intentions, its just making it non verbal and "hint like" Probably a bad analogy and explanation haha!
/r/seduction06/04/26 01:05 AM
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If you have a strong identity and fancy yourself in a self image not grounded in reality, then I think reality should serve you a good dose of fear and anxiety when you're looking at the truth.
/r/seduction06/04/26 01:03 AM
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Its not as complicated as you think it is. You are a red flag because you escalated too fast physically.
/r/seduction31/03/26 06:22 AM
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Then read my article "attraction 1.0"
/r/seduction22/03/26 12:19 PM
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Your insecurity around your height is not an issue. 172 is average. You're not a troll neither a giant. Unless you are green and arrive from another species, being a man of colour is not a problem. They stop replying or ignore your texts because your approaches suck and failed to spark sufficient buy in and attraction. Please read my article on the 11 principles of approaching women.
/r/seduction22/03/26 10:22 AM
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You can read my article on approach anxiety and the 11 principles of approaching women. That will give you your sticking points for the next 450 approaches.
/r/seduction22/03/26 10:20 AM
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A real long term relationship takes work and its not easy. You're basically saying that you're the get rich quick type in dating. I mean its fun. I too had a lot of fun. But you'd have to know how much is enough and when to stop. You can try reading my articles on love and attraction 3.0
/r/seduction22/03/26 04:35 AM
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Its fun so long as you dont have the experience. Its gets boring once you find it repetitive and "looping" around the same experiences.
/r/seduction21/03/26 02:11 PM
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I think its normal and healthy to be in the friendzone. I used to think it was a faliure, but friendzone indicates that the girl is seriously thinking about her life with yiu rather than just allowing her hormones to do the decision. I think it guves enough brakes to not let any party waste their time. Get friendzoned by a lot of women, and irononically they will be your social circle with in built pre selection no matter whats the outcome, giving you greater access to even more women.
/r/seduction16/03/26 04:24 PM
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He is right. I can only now maintain my abundance because I actually had real abundance previously. The only difference is that I burned off my attachments, because having the actual abundance did not make me happy nor fulfilled. So now I'm happy and fulfilled without anything. But I am aware of people who have no such attachments, but they are not interested in pickup in any way. But you are right as well. Meditation can do this instead of wasting your time maintaining a harem of 8 women.
/r/seduction06/03/26 06:51 PM
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I'm more so saying that abundance has nothing to do with external circumstances. You can have acccess to the benefits of abundance mindset even with zero women chasing you.
/r/seduction06/03/26 03:52 PM
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I meant its as a presence. People will pay attention to a strong presence, and if they like your presence, they will approach you natuerally.
/r/seduction06/03/26 07:34 AM
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xD. Keep your self deception at home yeah. I think I have a post on the top 10 reasons why you cant get laid. One of the reasons is living in the middle of nowhere. You can read that as a first step.
/r/seduction06/03/26 07:23 AM
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Then you just answered your own question on why women dont approach you.
/r/seduction06/03/26 07:18 AM
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Then that is the choice you have made. You cannot have everything. Transformation does not come for free. Why not move and practice your dating skills for 2 ~ 3 years and return to the oil field? Your career wont end with your track record.
/r/seduction06/03/26 07:04 AM
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Stop bitching and take responsibility. If you really think that dating was an important aspect for your life, you would find a new job at a big city.
/r/seduction06/03/26 06:56 AM
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Women do approach. Just that they approach under different conditions. They have to observe you for a good while before they get attracted. Then after that they enter your orbit.
/r/seduction06/03/26 06:09 AM
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How to dominate is that you dont. Its going to blow up in your face. You should be such a great human being that everyone wants go be arlund you. This can be achieved without much talking and social savviness. See my post on social circle.
/r/seduction06/03/26 06:02 AM
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Read my posts on escalation. It will teach you the techniques and mindset to deal with these situations. Go to library and scroll down.
/r/seduction06/03/26 06:01 AM
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Abundance is more of a perception illusion. This is common when you view women as a means to fulfill your needs and desires. So when you have a lot of women interested in you, then the supply and demand equation seems to tilt in your favour and you relax. However this abundance is rather fragile. To have so much time to cold approach, social circle and whatever and get 8 women interested in you takes a lot of time. If you're not a full time PUA, then this external abundance can easily be lost on…
/r/seduction06/03/26 05:58 AM
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Maybe they are prideful, but you dont take responsibility. So nothing gets achieved.
/r/seduction27/02/26 11:18 AM
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You are unconsciously doing the things I mentioned in this post. If you really learnt the nature of authenticity, then approaching people would not be a problem, and it wont take you 2 years to break your rigid self of self identity. Even if pickup didnt bring me joy, it has indirectly led me into it. By showing me the limitations of the material, without pickup as an activity, I would have never known this. Im not this and that is just your social nonsense. If you can just drop this nonsense, y…
/r/seduction27/02/26 11:17 AM
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For pickup to come back, all this talk about getting laid, bodycounts and using it as a means of getting sex needs to go. It is socially repulsive to any person whos eyes see humanity instead of objects. I find that society will accept pickup if it is used as a means to form genuine connections and to improve your social skills. But as of the moment, is can never turn mainstream. If I post a guide on relationship skills it will barely surpass 50 upvotes, while someone else who have sex for a liv…
/r/seduction23/02/26 04:32 AM
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I think you're just getting into it. I also entered spirituality with affirmations and visualizations. Eventually at one point, the youtube self help guys will be out of luck, and you need to seek help from more traditional lineages from India or Tibet.
/r/seduction22/02/26 08:14 AM
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Nice! The depth of a relationship is not determined by labels. I can have a better and deeper relationship with a tree compared to my girlfriend. Is that ideal? No. But is that the reality for most people? Unfortunately so. But if you turn yourself into an accounting firm, counting what you gain and what you lose, then unfortunately, best to live on a private island alone. The depth of a relationship is all we have, there is nothing else to gain.
/r/seduction22/02/26 08:12 AM
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Why I am! Why not try some meditation isntead of affirmation to obliterate your mind
/r/seduction22/02/26 08:08 AM
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Dont force the texting, but check in to show interest so the heat doesnt cool down. Let her engage in texting however much she wants, and mirror her texting behaviour. But intiate the texting. Sharing about my day or just snapping a photo f what I'm doing is good enough to open
/r/seduction22/02/26 08:03 AM
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I only think when I want to. I dont need affirmations
/r/seduction22/02/26 08:00 AM
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Well when things get difficult and you cut people out, thats your personal faliure. Just let her go and be with someone else, maybe work on your relaitonship and communication skills, which is essnetially about acceptance in diversity.
/r/seduction22/02/26 07:59 AM
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Haha. Thoughts are just thoughts, if you are attached to your thoughts then you will go crazy. Including affirmations, its a type of thought you have leached with positive meaning. The meaning your project is problematic, not the thought itself.
/r/seduction22/02/26 07:56 AM
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Race is only relavant to how much discrimination someone has in their mind. If I have certain ideas about XYZ, then you shall be doomed eitherway. And the other way goes that if someone chooses to be with you on the basis of your skin type and race, haha. I dont know what kind of trouble you're asking for. So is it relavant as a means of disqualification, yes very much so. But does it have relavance for you personally? No. Because you woudn't want to be with these women anyway, whether positive …
/r/seduction31/01/26 11:14 AM
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Usually I let the girl initiate. Only logistics determine how comfortable they are when it comes to the degree of touch.
/r/seduction20/01/26 11:13 AM
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Read my articles on flirting, apply them and you'll change slowly. Its proven to work and have already transformed people exactly in your situation
/r/seduction13/01/26 11:34 AM
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Do a lot of cool stuff and aggressively expand your comfort zone. This will give you a high surface area with the general public and will increase your volume naturally.
/r/seduction11/01/26 04:24 AM
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Its because you have an idea of how the night should go, and you're rehearsing what you need to do to "practice your skills" and subconsciously pressuring yourself. When going alone, leave those things back at the house and focus on your breathing. When breathing in, mentally say "I am not the body" and when breathing out, "I am not the mind" This works great for my students. So give it a try. You cn also explore my article "guide to nightclubs" something like that.
/r/seduction11/01/26 04:19 AM
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The secret is that you just need to be congruent. Now you're treating it like a disease you're trying to fight off. If you own up your neediness you'll be more confident, so stop rejecting a part of yourself that is clearly within you. Deperation can only appear due to cognitive dissonance between who you think you are, and who you actually are. I dont know which article of mine talks about this. But probably its under the umbrella of verbal skills in the library. You can learn about the theory …
/r/seduction11/01/26 04:15 AM
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Good question. You're noticing something very real. Most people date only because they have need, or in your words "fixations." Once these fixations are gone, the reason why you perform an action loses its motivation and meaning. This is where devotion/presence oreinted attrction becomes important. Becaause not only will you develop yourself at an extraordinarily fast rate (ego dissolution), its also makes you highly attractive as a byproduct. Any of my recent articles will touch devotion/presen…
/r/seduction10/01/26 03:15 PM
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Another round of the same thing would mean you'll be single at 40! So maybe invest a great deal into your growth and development before jumping into the dating market again. See how you can make sure the next attempt would mean conclusive retirement from the dating market
/r/seduction09/01/26 05:21 AM
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What I mean is that to solve your problem, you should stop putting people into an idea of how you want them to be. If you want them to be in a certain way, then the results are the ones you stated in the post. If I want you to be like this, aren't I imposing my will upon you? Even if a girl likes you and can tolerate your mindset, eventually she will get fed up and leave you because you're not dating her for who she is. Plus, to have preference over one thing, means to have an aversion to the op…
/r/seduction09/01/26 05:10 AM
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Very good! Unless you're willing to see that this dissatisfaction and emptiness is a problem created by you, you will countinue to go on dates dissatisfied. There is no optimal person, and there is nothing to find.
/r/seduction09/01/26 03:05 AM
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https://www.friendlywrenchilling.com/library/
/r/seduction09/01/26 03:01 AM
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Action needs a trigger. If you have no trigger, there is no action. That trigger is your neediness/compulsion/unconscious.
/r/seduction09/01/26 03:01 AM
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Yes. Thats because you're no longer compulsive about dating and relationships. It would require a very high amount of neediness to even approach so many women in the first place, but once these neediness is resolvedt theough action, you can feel happy doing nothing.
/r/seduction08/01/26 12:57 PM
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Feel free to ask questions
/r/seduction08/01/26 05:50 AM
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Many of the advanced guys here find pickup to be redundant and outdated after a few years of doing it. We are all just moving into different systems as we mature. For example, I can attract women using my presence and devotion alone. I dont have to speak a single word.
/r/seduction08/01/26 05:05 AM
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Flirting is an expression of your inner congruency. If you are totally congruent, then flirting will always go well. Congruency means awareness, being able to walk, talk, and do things with the absence of compulsive/intrusive/distrssing thoughts. Bascially having so much control over your mind that you can think whatever you want.
/r/seduction08/01/26 05:02 AM
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Then downvote and get lost!
/r/seduction28/12/25 03:33 PM
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The entire existence is a vibration of sounds. If you put sand on metal and play a frequency, it would produce a geometry. Similarly, depending on our inner state, there is a geometry. You could personally hold the geomtery of love, sadness, depression or joy. The body language and eyes is the transmission of your personal frequency. If you are playing a sound of sadness, you will cause your subject to feel sad. If you are playing the sound of joy and attraction, they would feel the same
/r/seduction28/12/25 03:31 PM
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Please, for the beginners I have already said that this is an advanced post. Could you be sincere enough in your heart to see that not everything revolves around you? Just because you dont find this helpful, doesnt mean other people dont. Do not bury this post, this can be life changing if landed upon the right pair of eyes. I have sacrificed a lot of my time and effort to write for beginners. You can literally just ignore this post, scroll back and find it!!
/r/seduction28/12/25 11:34 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/u/FriendlyWrenChilling/s/zRn1eZLI3M
/r/seduction28/12/25 11:18 AM
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The eyes and body language are a means for state transfer. The reason why you could overdo it is because of inner incongruency. If you have a perfect inner condition, you can never overdo eye contact. You could refer my article called "top 10 inner beliefs" something like that to help you build up congruency. For your comment on scaling back on the escalation once the girl is hooked, this is calibration. There is an entire section in the library called "escalation" which discuss how you can twea…
/r/seduction28/12/25 10:54 AM
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No worries! I'm happy that you found it helpful. Check out the new or old articles, I've written for all skill levels and there would always be something for you.
/r/seduction28/12/25 10:42 AM
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It will be practical at one point. I've already written all the beginner content. It is time that the advanced people get some love and value from me. If you're just starting out, I have written (like a year ago) articles on how to flirt, build comfort, escalate, approach, mindset, beliefs and everything you can almost think about. My content is a library, it works holistically. What you find practical is what you need at the moment and you should read that corresponding article.
/r/seduction28/12/25 10:36 AM
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This is one of the most advanced and successful ways I have used to attract women. This transcends all manipualtion, tricks, tactics and even the need to initiate. We build upon all the principles and success you have achieved within pickup and revolutionize it into a totally new way to experience dating. Not for the feint hearted! I have made a lot of mistakes on the way and this is my first attempt to verbalize my techniques and experience. I hope all the advanced PUAs pushing for fulfilment a…
/r/seduction28/12/25 10:26 AM
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Extremely, a whole new relavation indeed!
/r/seduction28/12/25 10:14 AM
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A highly, highly advanced article for those who are nearing their end of the journey in personal development. Know that life is not coming to an end, but its just the very begnning. Your leap into a new way to generate and create meaning in your life is when life actually begins. A life systemized beyond oneself, is where your future fulfillment will be found. Thank you for entrusting this vulnerable process with me. For the beginners who have zero idea what I am talking about, do not worry, thi…
/r/seduction28/12/25 09:33 AM
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Thank you! Glad you can see through it. Unfortunately, most will require direct experience to figure this out, and only a very small handful transition and change. But hey, this writing and piece will always be here.
/r/seduction28/12/25 09:26 AM
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Haha exactly.
/r/seduction28/12/25 09:25 AM
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You can be good looking, tall rich and whatever, but that does not mean you're respected. You're just accessed by how others can use you for their own wellbeing. These men you're describing are just tolerated at best. The only respect people have for these men is how they are useful to them. The person underneath is never recognized. Once you're no longer useful, or that you cause a great deal of fustration, you will be discarded. Is this the type of respect you want? This might as well be convi…
/r/seduction28/12/25 07:25 AM
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Haha, rhen you'd have to switch it up. I also started in daygame and transitioned into nightgame. Focus more on an escalation heavy style early on, you can see my post on nightclubs.
/r/seduction28/12/25 06:34 AM
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Of course it will. Who wouldn't want to be around a real alpha? Would you yourself refuse to be around someone who exhibits the 7 traits I've listed?
/r/seduction28/12/25 06:08 AM
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Okay, I will write about it.
/r/seduction28/12/25 05:56 AM
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I agree with his premise. Even using the definitions of alpha and beta today, trying to be alpha is the most idiotic way to exist. Like he said, being beta is objectively better and more effective at attracting women.
/r/seduction28/12/25 05:31 AM
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Words have no meaning, if tomorrow I write "how to be more alpha" and copy and paste his post, I would change the way how people understand as alpha and beta. In this post, he is telling people who are alpha to be more beta. This is clarity, not misunderstanding. With the current meaning, being alpha means domination. Do you like being dominated? Why would you want to be an alpha?
/r/seduction28/12/25 05:15 AM
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There is no other concept that is more important than this. A responsible, thoughtful approach to dating is the only way to achieve happiness in dating outcomes. Alpha and beta is only used so that he can communicate his point to people who have an active investment in these labels. If that is what beta means, I would defentely like everyone to be more beta.
/r/seduction28/12/25 05:06 AM
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Despite the bad writing, I understand exactly what you're trying to convey. Check out how I write my articles, you'll be able to convey your thoughts and points in a more legible manner. I too, allow for women to catch up. Hehe. Unfortunately, that would make me a beta. You only get better at writing if you write more. Your message needs to spread, especially for a more responsible approach to dating, and how individuals can do so.
/r/seduction28/12/25 05:01 AM
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Why would this not be an important concept? He is advocating for a more responsible approach to dating. I find this to be more important than any other concept that perpetuates retarded behaviour.
/r/seduction28/12/25 04:56 AM
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Putting aside the alpha and beta nonsense, I think this is great advice. Hardly do you ever see anyone here advocate that you think from the woman's POV rather than fulfilling your own selfish needs. The very fact of thinking from her point of view already demonstrates superior calibration. He is just translating what he understands into language that other people can understand.
/r/seduction28/12/25 04:49 AM
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Good. More people should learn from you.
/r/seduction28/12/25 04:44 AM
4

Its a different enviorement, clubs are escalation heavy with different logistic flows. But If daygame and social circle is working fine, then just ignore nightclubs alltogether. Why would you bother?
/r/seduction28/12/25 04:40 AM
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Why would you change anything? I think reading this sub is doing you a disservice rather than a service. These macho idiots here can barely attract one woman, while you can attract women effortlessly before even reading this sub. You just previously lacked the escalation skills and the know how of how you can move the interaction forwards / progress, which is why you were interested in this sub. However, you've already learnt that by sleeping with 10 girls. I suggest that you do not countinue wi…
/r/seduction28/12/25 04:34 AM
1

Improve your mental health. Easiest and simplest way.
/r/seduction28/12/25 04:29 AM
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People cant even get a control over their approach anxiety within 100 approaches, he only WENT to the club 3 times and he wants to pull. Cmon. Might as well hire a astrologer to help you seduce women. This is not scrolling tiktok, the feedback loop is a little longer than that haha!
/r/seduction27/12/25 05:58 PM
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You only went to the club 3 4 times as a beginner and expect to pull? When did you master anything complex by doing it 3 4 times? Please teach me.
/r/seduction27/12/25 03:56 PM
1

No difference.
/r/seduction26/12/25 03:47 AM
1

Thanks. Cheers and wishing a good new year.
/r/seduction25/12/25 11:43 AM
1

Your sets are not long enough. It takes 8 ~ 15 minutes of solid flirting to make a set solid. It's likely that you're just being a phone bandit.
/r/seduction25/12/25 07:01 AM
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I mean you'd dont even have to hide like that. If you're a genuine coach who is exploring the limitations of the current status quo, people are more than happy to support you if you'd remember to come back and provide free value.
/r/seduction25/12/25 06:37 AM
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I hope everyone is loving the articles. I put, usually months of effort into each of the recent articles that I'm producing. So publishing them has slowed down dramatically but the quality has increased substantially as I take time to write. Eitherway, I think anyone who read a few of my stuff can see that I put a lot of effort and love in making guides free and avaliable for everyone. To not miss any of my stuff, just bookmark my blog and check in periodically. This way you'll always access my …
/r/seduction25/12/25 06:22 AM
2

Oh, if you lack confidence then its a more fundamental issue that you're facing. You can read a post I put out here awhile ago, "cultivating confidence" something like that.
/r/seduction22/12/25 03:22 AM
1

I think you've been sold the PUA dream too much. I think the ultimate point of pickup is not to meet and greet women, but to exhaust your desires past a certain point where it stops making sense doing so. It's rather regrettable that you only found this out at 40, but I don't recommend that you countinue with pickup. Advanced usually means that you have zero neediness, and you can attract women using devotion. Most major dating coaches are actually still rather needy, because you need a certain …
/r/seduction21/12/25 04:30 AM
1

Unconsciously you are imposing your will upon them, because of the ridiculous idea pushed by PUA gurus that you can socialize, mix and attract anybody you want just by using sufficient skill and techniques. You sound like you have resonable experience and are inheritely attractive by your nature. So I'd suggest just using your presence to attract people to you rather than you going to them. This way you dont impose your will on anybody and people are coming to you by choice.
/r/seduction21/12/25 04:21 AM
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Social circle is really easy. Just "be yourself" which means you'll have to be attractive and you'll attract all the girls within the circle effortlessly. However, this is a problem if you are not naturally attractive and rely on "techniques." If that is the case, I recommend you not mess with too much social circle and make yourself attractive by approaching women to understanding the mechanics of attraction.
/r/seduction21/12/25 04:16 AM
1

This is like a survival manual. In case your food gets stolen by hyenas, make sure you hide a stash under a hole. The problem you have is that you're severely needy and require someone else to fulfil your needs in a relationship. So long as you want others to fulfill your needs, you will be in a loop of breakups and new women forever. A relationship based on connection cannot be replaced, because it would take you another few years just to reach that same level of depth and trust again. I know y…
/r/seduction14/12/25 12:28 AM
2

I would say one a day is too low. Try to do 30/week instead, focusing on the top 11 principles of approaching.
/r/seduction14/12/25 12:21 AM
1

Haha I think you've missed the point. You can be compatible with anyone, the only problem is that can you hold the other person as more significant than yourself? If you can put yourself aside, then you can be in love with juat about anybody.
/r/seduction11/12/25 08:15 AM
2

No worries. Cheers.
/r/seduction11/12/25 04:03 AM
1

Well at least be honest with yourself and just say you're scared. Interested or not, you still have to perform the same action, which is the approach. So why does it matter? Also, not recommended to approach at the gym.
/r/seduction11/12/25 01:01 AM
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Social circle. Be proactive, extroverted and talk to new people wherever you go. A lot of kids are struggling with social anxiety, so you'll be a relief for many of them. Be willing to drop and spend less time with people who do not reflect your values as well. Dont get stuck in one SC, join many different and diverse people. College is the best time for expirementation. You can see my post on SC and how to do it.
/r/seduction10/12/25 09:30 AM
1

Please refer to my ancient post, the principles to building comfort
/r/seduction09/12/25 04:32 AM
3

Women are sensitive to superiority, especially when they are building comfort. You have to understand when she wants comfort and when you should build attraction. So yes, you ruined the mood.
/r/seduction09/12/25 04:31 AM
5

Not necessarily. You'll be surprised how invested you can be in your own bs
/r/seduction09/12/25 04:27 AM
21

Flirting cannot be rehearsed. Just place yourself in a playful mood and you'l tease naturally as a consequence.
/r/seduction09/12/25 03:58 AM
8

Only 4 ways to meet women. Cold approach, social circle online and fame.
/r/seduction09/12/25 03:57 AM
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Lower consciousness will never be able to manipulate you. If you're more mature and developed you'll easily see through it. If you're getting manipulated, you're in the same rung of cognitive development of the person who manipulated you.
/r/seduction09/12/25 03:56 AM
1

If attraction based on inclusion (love) and joy is bad advice, feel free to use the 1.0 version, which is a big list of 30 personality traits you can cultivate to create survival based relationships. Version 1.0 has 400 upvotes and 200k views.
/r/seduction20/10/25 11:58 AM
0

This post is not spoken through the dimension of reason.
/r/seduction20/10/25 11:32 AM
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I hope my articles are not floating too high into the air. I've already set up months of groundwork with my previous 50 articles to make this one happen and legible. If you truly understand what I said here in the article, then grace will be upon you.
/r/seduction20/10/25 08:06 AM
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Real interest shown during an approach will achieve hook point. For that please refer to my post "outer game something" and theres 10 hook point indicators inside. All the indicators like you said, touching, giving you number without asking is also hook point. After hook point is your permission to escalate, since she gave the "signals" for you to move the interaction forward. If you receive a lot of positive signals and you DID NOT escalate, then emotions will cool down and the girl will give y…
/r/seduction15/10/25 03:05 AM
1

This tension you are reffering to is something made up in your mind. Then, you use the law of state transfrence to "transfer" over that tension over to her using eye contact, body language and your tone. If you do not have tension, thats because you dont really like the girl you're talking to. Refer to my post on escalation,
/r/seduction15/10/25 03:01 AM
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Woman loving a guy = choice Woman being in love = survival transaction. Why they can stop loving you tomorrow is because you stop fulfilling their needs. Refer to my post "top dating red flags" to solve this problem for yourself
/r/seduction15/10/25 02:59 AM
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Well you said it yourself, you have needs to be fulfilled, so how are you not expecting anything in return? What kind of self deception is this xD Use the "bad boy" and own up those needs and use the nice guy whereever you are detached. Thats your ratio. Detachment is the natural state of all attractive people, so you'll be nice 90% of the time other than the 10% to express your personality. I think you have already read my post on nice guys, kudos on that.
/r/seduction15/10/25 02:54 AM
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Haha yeah, being dragged out by a coach weekly will probably cost a fortune. I dont think its realistic. If I was to design a solution for him, then its probably learn cold approach skills himself, learn some emotional management like the Sedona Method, and then rack up his first 100 approaches. Maybe after that he can get a coach, and a coach will be in a better position to help him go faster as well
/r/seduction15/10/25 02:48 AM
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Hmm I've done my fair share of live sessions and I find that a person dont really change much after his experience, which is why I changed it to online. I think the best way to deliver sustainable value and see real change over the long term is to model how therapist do it. He mentions that he suffers from panic attacks just from talking to women, so i dont think he'll even be in a position to approach women yet. He probably needs some theoretical foundation on how his mind and emotions work tha…
/r/seduction15/10/25 02:00 AM
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If you seem like a couple from the outside, then that is the correct level of calibration. I believe i discussed this in my calibration post awhile back. You can find it.
/r/seduction14/10/25 10:14 AM
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I dont think you would benefit much from a dating coach. A coach can only help if you can implement his advice. This requires at least some degree of experience. Just read material yourself, my library have over a hundred thousand words. Maybe you can start with "top reason on why you cant get laid", that will help and give you concrete action plans you can do independently first. Best to get a coach only when you reach a plateou. Now you have yet to even make your first step.
/r/seduction14/10/25 06:33 AM
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They can do this because they know you are needy for them, and obviously you are. Because if you just moved on without a second doubt you wont be here complaining. The moment you become detached again they gain interest. You should be like that 24/7 Read my post on how the dating marketplace works, and you will understand why these behaviours exist.
/r/seduction14/10/25 02:27 AM
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Fun = present moment.
/r/seduction07/10/25 07:08 AM
1

You're too hard on yourself. If you think about it, every successful pickup guy eventually gets married right? So their success rate is 1/(number of approaches they did). Can you imagine how tiny of a fraction that % is? You only need to win once. Ideally with someone that you can tolerate and still be happy with for the rest of your life. If you think like that, rejection is the natural outcome. Would you want to be with someone whos a pain in the ass? So theres nothing wrong with rejection, ei…
/r/seduction07/10/25 03:59 AM
0

I wrote a very detailed article on confidence a while back. You can read that
/r/seduction02/10/25 02:22 PM
1

Great healing visualization you have included in this article. Its more effective if you made a recorded meditation the listener can folllow. 100x more potent. I've done so many of these that I released all trauma. The first time doing it can be a powerful experience, such as the one you have described. I'm very happy that you have brought this into the consciousness of the people in this sub. Keep up the good work!
/r/seduction02/10/25 02:19 PM
2

Read my post "nightclub guide" and do that next time you visit. It deals with appriach anxiety all the way to pulling.
/r/seduction01/10/25 11:58 AM
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Good advice, listen to mr.acrobatic. FWC approved.
/r/seduction01/10/25 11:57 AM
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Hey, just take your time. I have a post calldd "how to learn pickup" and that will help you set resonable expectations. It will take yiu at least 2 or 3 years of consistent effort. So you will see the light when you're 24.
/r/seduction01/10/25 11:55 AM
1

I dont drink either. It is not a problem. Just get water or orange juice and say you are the one driving
/r/seduction01/10/25 11:53 AM
2

Flirting is creating a wide variety of emotions that spikes up and down. Think "how tonmake someone laugh/interested/engaged" and so on is a good way to start. Tension is when the listener expects something but you have yet to do the thing. So when girls expect you to kiss them but you take it really sloooooow. You can read all my articles under "verbal skills", you will find much help in that regard. My instagram also have some nice illustration of how flirting works to build attraction.
/r/seduction01/10/25 11:51 AM
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Just buyers remorse. Thats why you should solidify the attraction with meaningful comfort. A good guideline is 7 hours of comfort before sex. If you're really in a rush such as this nightgame scenario, then 2 hours of comfort See my post "principles of comfort, how to make a girl fall in love with you"
/r/seduction29/09/25 10:08 AM
2

Great mindset. Thank you for taking the time to share what you know.
/r/seduction29/09/25 05:38 AM
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It's okay haha. I gave up catching typos long ago. As long as the reader can understand what is being said, then its not a problem. Thanks for the kind words!
/r/seduction28/09/25 03:15 PM
1

Neediness is not a character trait, more so a state of mind. When you are not living in the present moment, you have already became needy, because you need something from the future or past. Having pride and egoism to hide your weaknessess makes you incredibly fragile. All of your external armour can be broken very easily. The person who chooses to be vulnerable becomes immortal because he is no longer held back by fear
/r/seduction28/09/25 05:56 AM
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Awesome. Glad to hear that. Make sure to read my more pragmatic articles that regards the tactics and techniques. For a materialistic guy you would find much more enjoyment in that!
/r/seduction27/09/25 12:19 PM
2

Thanks. Cheers to that!
/r/seduction27/09/25 10:35 AM
1

If your city is too small relocate.
/r/seduction27/09/25 09:41 AM
2

Porn has produced many unrealistic expectations and depictions of sex. So first of all is to evaluate your expectations of what you think is going to happen. Once you can let go of your need to put yourself to that standard, this anxiety will naturally go.
/r/seduction27/09/25 09:40 AM
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Now this is one life changing composition I have just writtien. I hope you all enjoyed it! It took me 2 months to write this. Very proud of this piece in particular.
/r/seduction27/09/25 08:03 AM
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I used to have a wing and he would almost pull every night we went out. Usually at the beginning we'd split up and then combine our sets later on around 1am. The reason why he is successful is because his approach acount was around 8,000.
/r/seduction20/09/25 11:04 AM
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A lot of the "practice" approaches are done when you dont really like the girl that much. What I meant there was that I only approach women I really like nowadays. If you dont find the girl to be attractive its going to be very difficult to being out your "natural game"
/r/seduction04/09/25 02:34 PM
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A consortium of many factors. Mainly the golden three, which is approaching, flriting and escalating skills. On the low end, I can do 4 approaches and get one date, and on the high end, 10 approaches per date. But that's because I'm not spamming my approaches to anyone who feels attractive. If you are spamming, your ratio reduces down to 25 ~ 100 for one. That's because you were unattractive. Women will conceal the fact that they have a boyfriend if you are very attractive. Very difficult. I mad…
/r/seduction03/09/25 07:37 AM
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You won't be able to find good advice here. Even I, a dating coach, can't give good advice because seduction stratergies between the two sexes are different. Generally women's dating stratergies will be centered around getting commitment from the guy. And I do think women have it harder in dating, since there is so little literature regarding the matter. You can follow my blog posts and I'll eventually create a post for women when i figure this out.
/r/seduction29/08/25 01:25 PM
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I don't ask anything. I just observe them, and shut up when I qualify. For making them understand me, I use the principles listed in my post "principles of comfort - making women fall in love."
/r/seduction28/08/25 05:54 PM
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Oh no! 27 + is old? :,)
/r/seduction27/08/25 10:06 AM
2

Nonsense. Seduction is all about giving, those that don't give do not succeed.
/r/seduction26/08/25 12:42 PM
4

The lizard/monkey/human framework helps guide you through a lot of decisions, not only within dating. It's really easy to tell when you're making decisions as a lizard/monkey/human. Being able to differentiate these different frames of mind helps you make better decisions in your own life. Chemistry has nothing to do with "red flags." Peace is something that is invested into and worked towards, not something that occurs spontaneously.
/r/seduction22/08/25 11:56 PM
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Love is a choice you make everyday, and it is within your control. Refer to my post, "7 principles of love." Good relationships feel like a friendship, sorry to say that you were acting like a monkey in that instance.
/r/seduction22/08/25 11:52 PM
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What a nonsensical excuse. You are responsible for the women you date, and the women you date reflects your weaknessess. Read the radical acceptance part again. Take responsibility rather than putting the blame on women and others.
/r/seduction22/08/25 11:50 PM
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Thanks
/r/seduction22/08/25 11:44 PM
1

Not at all. Attraction is an emotion of survival. You'll be attracted to women who benefits your survival and vice versa. Pickup is just ome big scheme to pull the attraction triggers and survival agendas of women, which is why i wrote this piece. You'll have to date mature women in an entirely different way. Choosing peace only happens when you drop using relationships as a survival agenda, which is why it is rare in practice. As said in the radical acceptance section, the women you date are a …
/r/seduction22/08/25 11:44 PM
2

Too many lizards
/r/seduction22/08/25 11:35 PM
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Neither. It is from experience.
/r/seduction22/08/25 04:50 PM
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I can really see my writing skills improve haha. This article is so beauitfully articulated!
/r/seduction22/08/25 03:01 PM
0

Thank you for your suggestion. Please make sure you read the wikipedia definition as well in addition to my article.
/r/seduction13/08/25 03:07 PM
1

Yes, I agree with you. But practically when attempting to explain this to a beginner it is more helpful to seperate the two things as escalation and verbal skills. Because from a beginners persepctive, they have zero understanding of what flirting entails. It's helpful to distinguish that flirting is having fun, and that escalation is moving the interaction forward. You can both have fun and move the interaction forward, but they are not the same thing. I think you're trying to make to critique …
/r/seduction13/08/25 03:00 PM
1

Looks like we see this differently. Too bad.
/r/seduction13/08/25 02:06 PM
1

I find it more helpful to seperate escalation and flirting (verbal skills) for beginners and teach them seperately. In your instance, you're combining both together. Perhaps it is exactly because of the current definition that so many people are confused everyday. From my experience, the outcomes and understanding are better when I seperate the two categories into distinct distinctions.
/r/seduction13/08/25 01:55 PM
1

Yes. You're constantly flirting with the world, as a result you become charismatic. If you examine it deeply, there's no difference between charisma and good flirting. Signalling sexual intent is esclation. As stated in the article, M2W communication is not flirting.
/r/seduction13/08/25 01:03 PM
0

That is escalation, not flirting. As stated in the article, flirting is not man to woman communication.
/r/seduction13/08/25 01:01 PM
1

While I'm not religious, going to church can be a good advice for certain people. Religion provides a structure in how one should live their lives. Although flawed, better than no structure whatsoever.
/r/seduction13/08/25 06:38 AM
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Read all my posts listed under verbal skills
/r/seduction12/08/25 12:12 PM
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If you turn them on, most will initiate. Just flirt a lot, build attraction and when they feel ready they will escalate themselves.
/r/seduction12/08/25 05:44 AM
1

Then get lost.
/r/seduction11/08/25 08:03 AM
3

Your friend likely uses cold approach and social circle to make an impression first, and then schedule the dates on Instagram. He explains it to you by saying he meets women through Instagram, because perhaps he has very strong texting abilities. Eitherway who cares whether its real or not. This is the standard way to escalate after getting contacts. Focus on your own sets
/r/seduction10/08/25 07:01 AM
3

No. Stay at home.
/r/seduction09/08/25 09:48 AM
2

Haha yes they do. The headphones do stand out, it gives the women a good excuse to open me.
/r/seduction09/08/25 09:48 AM
1

Goodluck
/r/seduction09/08/25 09:47 AM
3

I wear the soft one you can buy in any pharmacy for 5 bucks. I layer a construction headphone over that, bright yellow. I'm 5'6 as well. The tall guys bites the dust unfortunately.
/r/seduction09/08/25 09:46 AM
2

Awesome.
/r/seduction09/08/25 09:45 AM
1

Approaching is the foundation for everything. Don't skip it and find shortcuts just because it's difficult. No.
/r/seduction09/08/25 09:45 AM
-2

I do. Do you have an addiction to looking stupid?
/r/seduction09/08/25 09:43 AM
-2

Lol. What a load of crap. Women are at a disadvantage, not men. Thats why they have to be so cautious when they date men.
/r/seduction09/08/25 05:13 AM
2

Yes, and most importantly, put it to practice.
/r/seduction08/08/25 05:32 PM
5

Instead of suggesting dinner the next time you are scheduling a date, just say something else. I've done rooftopping, pinics at the beach, hiking, bowling etc.
/r/seduction08/08/25 12:13 PM
1

Then dont leave your BS reply.
/r/seduction07/08/25 11:52 AM
2

Yes, eitherway just putting yourself out there will enhance your looks. If you have to present yourself in front of other people, and if they are attractive, you would naturally want to be attractive as well. This circular logic of whether the chicken comes first or the egg is irrelavant. Just get yourself out there and you will improve your looks via osmosis.
/r/seduction06/08/25 04:11 PM
2

My entire library is catered to those that want to settle down. Just read the articles and your old skills will probably kick in.
/r/seduction06/08/25 01:17 PM
1

Tbh, if you just start cold approaching instead of thinking about it, you'll naturally want to improve your looks so that you present yourselves with more confidence. Conclusion? Do something about your cicumstances and you'll subconsciously make the adjustments.
/r/seduction06/08/25 01:15 PM
1

Dont do such asshole things.
/r/seduction06/08/25 10:14 AM
3

No worries.
/r/seduction05/08/25 02:43 PM
19

There is only 4 ways to meet more women. Cold approach, social circle online and fame. If you feel invisible, you'd probably have some problem with the attraction part. So I recommend you focus on your flirting rather than your volume. See all my posts indexed under "verbal skills" on my lirabry.
/r/seduction05/08/25 02:11 PM
2

Because being shy means you lack confidence. Shyness is not a personality trait, and nobody should be shy. Introverts and exteroverts alike.
/r/seduction04/08/25 05:59 AM
3

Everyone has childhood trauma. Its actually not a very special thing. Perhaps you would benefit a lot from the act of forgiveness, in yourself and in others. See my post on "how to love yourself"
/r/seduction03/08/25 06:17 AM
1

Success is a basket of personality traits, like discipline, resilience, critical thinking and so on. These traits are not common because they require years of dedication and practice to whatever difficult thing that may be (entrperenuership, pickup, spirituality, sports). So the word success does punch above its weight and is unappreciated for the costs that needs to be paid to obtain it.
/r/seduction02/08/25 06:37 PM
0

Be polarizing in your openers. Either be very direct or be very indirect. You can follow the framework in my post "nightclub guide" which teachers the A - Z on how to succeed using the direct approach. Helpful to beginners and those starting out.
/r/seduction02/08/25 03:15 PM
1

Sure, with a lot of motivation and discipline about anything in your imaginaton can be achieved. But from my observations and in field practice, not everyone is cut out to succeed. For about 2/3 of the population success is not in their vocabulary. But sounds like you've already taken a lot of action, so you will find success soon enough.
/r/seduction02/08/25 03:13 PM
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I hope that you never become one of my customers. People who have crippling sslf esteem issues around their looks and micropenis are a nightmare to deal with. Thanks but pass. You cant even pay me to deal with you. Sorry but I have better ways to make money. There are other coaches who pimp themselves out for money to serve this blackpill demographic but thats not me. My customers are all very grateful that I even offer such a service in exchang for my time and dedication.
/r/seduction02/08/25 09:19 AM
3

That is an issue for calibration. Please refer to my post on that instead.
/r/seduction02/08/25 09:18 AM
1

No worries. Cheers
/r/seduction02/08/25 06:10 AM
1

Thanks. Cheers
/r/seduction02/08/25 06:10 AM
0

Haha thank you for the feedback. If you like this one the other articles might help a lot as well.
/r/seduction02/08/25 06:10 AM
2

Defentely. Thank you for taking some time to share your experience. For me, compassion.
/r/seduction02/08/25 06:08 AM
1

From my library. Just go through the articles that you find the most interesting.
/r/seduction02/08/25 06:07 AM
0

Thank you for the input. I appreciate that you've taken the time to add something positive.
/r/seduction02/08/25 06:04 AM
3

Sure. Perhaps you should read the list of repulsive traits once again.
/r/seduction02/08/25 06:04 AM
5

You must be joking to think that confidence and emotional variance will apply to a very small percentage of women. Sometimes shutting up when you have nothing intelligent to add is the best course of action.
/r/seduction02/08/25 06:03 AM
1

Haha that's awesome. So long as you countinue to enjoy life I think it's a good arrangement. It would be curious to see if pickup can be sustained into one's 50s and beyond. I hope you countinue to share your experiences. Thank you for the insightful exchange.
/r/seduction02/08/25 05:23 AM
1

The best responce is buried here with two upvotes!
/r/seduction01/08/25 06:58 PM
19

Thank you for your acknowledgement. It's just how Reddit works. There are thousands and thousands of new and different readers everyday. Most of them beginners, clueless and are subscribers to the colourful pills or toxic masculinity. Eitherway, don't mind them so much. They do not reflect popular opinion. To make them shut up, just voice out againts them and you won't see them commenting again since they have pretty low self esteem.
/r/seduction01/08/25 06:41 PM
2

Correct. That's only you.
/r/seduction01/08/25 06:37 PM
7

In the club, there is no psychologists staring at you behind a one way mirror. Is these "studies" produced by attractive people who have approached over 4,000 women? No. Why do you care what they say?
/r/seduction01/08/25 06:35 PM
2

Goodluck then. I presume you have a lot of qualities listed in the repulsive section.
/r/seduction01/08/25 06:32 PM
1

Focus on removing the "unattractive qualities" and installing the "dealbreakers" before you focus on the 30 "nice to haves."
/r/seduction01/08/25 06:32 PM
4

Yes, status is a component. But if you were to list everything out on what is a dealbreaker, that would be confidence and emotional varience. With those two things you will be deemed as "attractive." Everything else is a nice to have.
/r/seduction01/08/25 06:31 PM
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Haha thank you. Love is not shown through words but by actions. Thank you for youracknwoledgement and I hope that you find the transformation you're looking for.
/r/seduction01/08/25 06:30 PM
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No worries. Thank you for taking the time to make an acknowledgement. I appreciate your comment.
/r/seduction01/08/25 06:29 PM
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Haha damn right. Serious dedication right there.
/r/seduction01/08/25 06:28 PM
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Here you go
/r/seduction01/08/25 06:26 PM
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In a very deep sense I think that is the case. Because women have less developed masculinity compared to femininity. So these qualities reflect masculine traits. If we switch vice versa to women, then these list would become feminine traits and the unattractive part are the anti feminine traits. In a shallow sense, no. If you're dating someone mature, they won't date you based on what they need and lack in themselves, but date based on the compatibility of the visions you both have for life. I t…
/r/seduction01/08/25 04:03 PM
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Well seems like you already have your answer. Why are you projecting your insecurities unto me?
/r/seduction01/08/25 03:47 PM
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Now I understand where the negative criticism are coming from. This looks stuff is debunked many times. If you want to be a blackpiller, don't hang out here. This is not the right community. It's wasting your time and energy. It's actually quite sad to see that so many people buy into this manosphere stuff. I mean, can't you just reflect on your own life to see that clearly something is wrong with your belief system?
/r/seduction01/08/25 03:42 PM
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No worries. Cheers, thank you for the acknowledgement.
/r/seduction01/08/25 03:36 PM
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Thanks
/r/seduction01/08/25 03:31 PM
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Oh, I get what you mean. I've already written about this in the past "Why success does not make you happy." This is more of an individual's outlook on life. It's very hard to convince someone to focus internally rather than externally. You're right to say that you should allign your motives internally, rather than externally such as the attempt to get laid.
/r/seduction01/08/25 03:27 PM
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Haha that's great that you reframed it into a positive light. Are you planning to have another LTR or just date moving forward? Your situation defentely sounds tough, especially with age. For the coaching part I think people just like being in a tight knit community in which they are rely on an authority figure they can trust so that they can countinue to make progress on their goals. It's sort of like a way to externally motivate themselves. The results and value will already be provided when y…
/r/seduction01/08/25 03:22 PM
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Okay, I'm eager to read your article on what is factually correct. Source: A man who approached over 4,000 times over 6 years, studying everything possible about the subject and putting it into practice (and succeeding might I add)
/r/seduction01/08/25 03:10 PM
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Did you even read the post or just blabbering your insecurities directly into the comments? I said that confidence is the source of attractivness, and that money is not important at all.
/r/seduction01/08/25 03:09 PM
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Don't oversimplify. If you neglect all your other traits you'll lose your pre-selection.
/r/seduction01/08/25 03:02 PM
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Unfortunately no. It's all hosted on my website and I have a backup for every piece as a Word document. Don't worry, I will keep the website up, and it will be there for years to come. So don't feel anxious that it will dissappear one day.
/r/seduction01/08/25 02:59 PM
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I did. Over 100,000 words standing on my current library, spanning over 50 articles. The value of what I write can only be realized if you read everything holistically. I cant cover every single detail in one post, or else I would be publishing a book.
/r/seduction01/08/25 02:51 PM
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That really sucks. Sorry that didn't work out for you. Haha I think the coaches are great. I think if Mystery and other coaches can't make it their career to use their time and effort to pump out all their knowledge we will all still be in the dark ages without a solution for the massess. It's actually great that you've managed to find a wing you could game with for all these years. For most of my time learning and till today, I did it solo and picked up sporadic wings along the way at venues. H…
/r/seduction01/08/25 01:35 PM
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Haha a little out of your mind there with your thinking. Read my post "how to love others" and change your ways.
/r/seduction01/08/25 11:24 AM
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I'm quite the believer that AI will replace all knowledge work. When I made my AI chatbot to mimic my teaching style, this was a miracle blessed to mankind. It's like your eyes is opened to the new world. Eventually I think there wont be a need for coaches and info products anymore. If I can coach more and feed enough data in, it can start giving advice on my behalf (in fact it already can, with some errors). The advice it gives will be significantly more consistent, informative and emotionally …
/r/seduction01/08/25 11:10 AM
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See my post "the magic pill of attraction - confidence." That contains a 2,000 word introduction on how you can improve your confidence. If you need to blueprint to approach, see the post "principles to approaching" and practice all of the principles 5 approaches at a time.
/r/seduction01/08/25 11:05 AM
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Hello. Read my nightclub guide. It has a specific section that addresses safety and ethics. I dont drink and is heath conscious as well. So you might like my approach to nightclubs.
/r/seduction01/08/25 11:02 AM
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Hello. I've practiced my entire 4,000 approaches in KL my entire life. If your goal is to just practice your pickup, I would auggest you go to the neighbouring Thailand or Singapore for better outcomes. In regards to daygame locations, the prospects are pretty grim. Malls are falling out of popularity and there is an oversupply of different malls. It was not what it used to be when I started. In regards to nightgame, very lively. I would suggest doing nightgame instead if you are coming to kuala…
/r/seduction01/08/25 10:55 AM
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No need a wing. Just live and hang around the hostels and gather a group, then hit the club together. When I was there I was diving a lot, those communities are very tight knit. Easy peasy pre-selection.
/r/seduction01/08/25 10:50 AM
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Haha yes, I remember when I was a learning and scrolling this forum for help. It's a bit unbeliveable that you've been moderating this reddit pro bono for so long from my first approach all the way to now when I am giving back. I see, thats awesome. I tend to see these situations as more like networking/social circle rather than cold approaches. Its a lot more friendly and a lot more fun! Unfortunately lately I've gotten myself involved in an LTR. So I wont be posting field reports anytime soon.…
/r/seduction01/08/25 10:32 AM
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Thanks for sharing your experience. Glad to see that the masters are still in-field. Was there a little trouble with volume? Since you went on a Thursday. But eitherway, I dont think you would have cared much. Also u/Life-Income2986, don't piss him off mate. He's been moderating this forum before you were even born. Reagrdless of worldview, everyone can learn something from field reports
/r/seduction01/08/25 10:15 AM
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If you go indirect, the idea is to build attraction so that you can isolate her. Once you isolate her, do kino and your intentions would be revealed, making it man to woman. You can treat it like any other set after the fact and escalate to a pull. See my post principles of escalation. Build attraction (pre- M2W) Isolate (pre-m2W) Physically escalate (M2W) Pull
/r/seduction31/07/25 04:56 PM
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Showing intent. Once you make it man to woman, the frame becomes that you are not there to be her friend. That's the only difference, don't overcomplicate it. The longer you stay in "friend" more the faster the attraction fizzles out over time. That's why in general, you make it M2W really quickly. See my post "The fundamentals to escalation"
/r/seduction28/07/25 03:10 PM
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It works best if you talk to it conversationally, don't send it a big bulk of text since it reflects the way I talk. It's actually a little creepy, but you can trust what it says since its backed by all my content, replies in the past, coaching calls to real people seeking for answers to real problems. Hopefully one day this AI will be more reliable than myself haha.
/r/seduction27/07/25 11:53 AM
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Mutual connection is your problem. Love is selfless, and if you want to love, you cannot take consideration of yourself. Difficult of course, because the opposite side must do the same for it to work. See my post, the how to deeply love others. Love is fully in your control. What you are now describing as love is the opposite of love. You are mainly selfish and looking out for your own needs
/r/seduction27/07/25 06:48 AM
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No worries. Thanks!
/r/seduction26/07/25 11:51 AM
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This might not be directly relavant to your progress today but hopefully you will be able to deploy this knowledge once you get into a stable relationship with a woman you love. It took me much trial and error, fustration and pain to learn and apply this knowledge I'm sharing with you today in my relationships. I hope you can circumvent my pain using this article.
/r/seduction26/07/25 08:21 AM
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Haha the secret to this is detachment. Once you can quickly let go and forgive yourself on most things, rejection and approaching will be a breeze. Its the first thing I teach my students
/r/seduction26/07/25 05:49 AM
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Your mebtality is the problem. See my post "how attraction works" and build your confidence around the correct attraction triggers. You're worrying about things that are inconsequential to the dating and attraction process. Theres another gppd post I've written called "the top 10 natural beliefs" - that can help you build thr right beleifs needed for success. After mindst refer to the post "how to learn pickup", it will show you step by step what to do to build up your skills. My journey took ab…
/r/seduction26/07/25 05:47 AM
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You can see my post I've written awhile back called "nightclub guide" something like that. Someone took that advice and conquered their fear on approaching and started their journey in pickup, wrote a field report about it and shared it here a few days later after i published that post. But that flow is pretty much what I did to get good at nightclubs. If you dislike the gunwitch direct approaching part, you can switch them into indirect approaches social circle style. But its still important kn…
/r/seduction26/07/25 05:43 AM
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I usually like to keep a journal of my sets. Writing it out what you did step by step pulls out the insignificant details which help you spot yoir mistakes.
/r/seduction25/07/25 04:53 AM
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This is not kino, the framework for kino is incidental/overt. Hands Body Face What you included in your posts are just outdated routines that will be perceived as incongruent by the girl. However the mindset part is good👍
/r/seduction25/07/25 04:45 AM
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Tap her shoulders or get attention by making eye contact and extend your hand.
/r/seduction20/07/25 06:39 AM
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A lot of men dismiss what they don't understand as women getting attention, but you'd have to know that women don't like attention from ugly men they find unattractive. So by trying to get your attention, she at least wants you in her orbit in case her conditions for rejecting you change. No harm done keeping the relationship friendly and a little sexual, in your mind just move on, detach from the girl and introduce competition. Plus, good for practicing flirting for beginners.
/r/seduction18/07/25 10:08 AM
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Haha while it is very nice to clown these people as having no life, you must admit that they are putting in serious dedication into the practice. This is why they get ahead in their dating goals compared to those sitting in thier moral high ground saying that they are "employed." How ignorant and jealous of you to make such a statement!
/r/seduction16/07/25 07:23 AM
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Its most likely that they can sense you have a secret agenda. See my post "why nice guys lose out"
/r/seduction16/07/25 07:19 AM
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Women don't like players. They like men who have options BUT choose them. It mkes them feel special, and that you're just not using her for sex and shallow reasons. See my post "the dating market explained", it will give you a comprehensive understanding of how the dating market dynamics work.
/r/seduction16/07/25 07:17 AM
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You can refer to my post "how to learn pickup." Just follow that progression and practice each stage appropriately.
/r/seduction14/07/25 03:58 PM
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What a great compliement.
/r/seduction14/07/25 03:56 PM
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If you're the logical type you should have no problem with comfort, so don't focus on that. To generate interest and attraction you bascially have to be "fun." What that entails is just to be nonchalant and laid back (dont be so serious), make jokes and tease a lot. Follow the principles of flirting, which I outlined that post with the same name. No worries!
/r/seduction14/07/25 03:54 PM
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If you don't like it then don't do it. Focus and double down on the other vaenues. If you can do daygame and online really well realistcially you don't even need to touch nightgame ever again. Social circle might be an ideal method for you, maybe you can explore transitioning to that. See my post on social circle.
/r/seduction14/07/25 06:20 AM
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In the club you could either be approaching on the dancefloor or at the bar/quiet area. In places where you can talk properly, then you just follow a standard cold approach. If you approach on a dancefloor, you have to doa gunwitch direct open, which is what I found to work the best. If the girl shoots you IOIs you can use invitational openers or physical openers and escalate from there if you want. See my post "nightclub guide" it has the A-Z blueprint from mindset to pull, in a systematic way …
/r/seduction12/07/25 08:23 AM
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You don't need to change if you don't want to. Gunwitch a technique whereby you transfer your "sexual state" requires you to do this kind of visualization to some degree. But I dont think is realistic for you until you reach some point where you become more outcome detached.
/r/seduction12/07/25 08:19 AM
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Logistcially escalate, take her to more and more intimate places and eventaully your bedroom. Then you can transition to a relationship after that. See my post "how to transition into a relationship" when you get to that point. You can choose to avoid doing kino if you do not want to. Logistical escalation is what moves things forward.
/r/seduction12/07/25 08:13 AM
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That's great to hear that your life is moving in a positive direction. You defenetely have a lot of already "built-in skills" needed to success. Really the only thing you need to practice in cold approach is mastering the first 15 minutes of the interaction. See my post "principles of approaching" and once you master those 11 things (usually I like to ask students to rotate 5 approach each principle), you'll get similar results to your friends who are having success. Regarding ethics, I have a p…
/r/seduction12/07/25 08:11 AM
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Funny guy builds comfort and connection (see my post on comfort). Entertainer only builds attraction by being "fun"
/r/seduction12/07/25 08:06 AM
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Cheers.
/r/seduction12/07/25 08:04 AM
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Those that do not require it.
/r/seduction11/07/25 10:16 AM
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Only a fool criticizes because he cannot see the wisdom in things. A criticism reflects one's stupidity rather than pointing out the stupidity of others.
/r/seduction11/07/25 07:46 AM
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Sorry that you have to experience that, a bit hard to read. Maybe take a 6 month break from pickup to recover from this PTSD experience. Anyone who uses your ego to market to you such as promises to getting laid are usually not legit and target young impressionable beginneers who dont know any better. Its something like those money gurus promising you a million dollar buisness in 3 weeks. Learning how to attract the opposite sex is not easy, it will take you years. Because someone who have compl…
/r/seduction11/07/25 03:33 AM
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Failing your approach is common, I'd say dont approach women at the gym and practice elsewhere less consequential. As to what you should practice, see my post the principles of approaching and practice everything on that list. Guilt comes from dualistic thinking, and the answer to guilt is forgiveness. As to my reasoning to what I've just said, look closely on what is around you.
/r/seduction11/07/25 03:27 AM
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Only you lol.
/r/seduction11/07/25 03:19 AM
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They are just projecting their insecurities on you under their viel of "high status-ness." Just like all beginners they think that status/money/looks alone can bring them to the promiseland. As to whether your egos get hurt, of course. Approaching with commitment/vulnarability is one of the principles of a good apprpach. I still get burnt time to time. An alternative would be online, social circle or fame. See my post called different ways to meet and attract women, the title is something like t…
/r/seduction11/07/25 03:16 AM
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Then do whatever you wish and do what you believe in. If you disagree with my methodology, find or create your own elsewhere.
/r/seduction10/07/25 05:58 PM
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Approaching is always a numbers game. There is no such system which produces 100% success rate. You should be blessed to even get a 1% return for your approaches as a beginner. (1% meaning approach to relationship). Worry not, since you only need one to win and retire. So don't concern yourself on "the numbers game" Thanks for the summary. That's a system I've taught to many people and it works just fine.
/r/seduction10/07/25 05:32 PM
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You're so ignorant to even understand what a profound thing he just highlighted. Maybe the presentation of the information is not good for understanding, but it's at the core of how pickup works!
/r/seduction09/07/25 02:41 PM
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Good take, I think people underappreciate the structure of the dating market system. I mean if you want to date successfully, you gotta have to understand how the dating market works. Dating is an auction based market. You can't be the "best" or the "most attractive" in an auction based market, but in a winner takes all system you can. Dating is similar to accountants and lawyers whereby you cannot be the best accountant, or the best lawyer. To be the "best lawyer" or the best accountant you'll …
/r/seduction09/07/25 02:38 PM
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See my post "nightclub guide", it has A-Z repeatable system on how to pull at the club. This "have fun stuff" is nonsense when you're learning. You can't have fun when you dont know what you're doing, learning new skills require conscious effort, which means that you'll be knocked out of the having fun mode. Have fun only when you build up a good variety of skills you can rely upon to get results. You'll slowly transition into inner game once you get the hang of the outer game, thats when you sh…
/r/seduction09/07/25 11:58 AM
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Infield. Clubs are a great way to meet others. Start by yourself first, and observe the types of characters around.
/r/seduction09/07/25 07:37 AM
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Man to woman communication = she clearly understands that you are there as a dating opportunity. You have to turn the interaction to M2W first, before you can do any sort of kino/logsitical escalation. See my post the principles of escalation. This is not a flirting problem but an approaching one. You're not following the principles of approaching, which includes making it M2W in the first 15 minutes.
/r/seduction09/07/25 07:37 AM
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Creating tension usually means witholding escalation. You build up your attraction but choose not to escalate. This is explained in my post "how to make women chase - frames 101" This is quite advanced, and you'll need to learn the trifecta first (approaching, escalation and flirting) The creation of tension is in her imagination of your future and hers. So things like innuendoes and incidental kino build up this tension, but is lost when escalation occurs, because the future becomes more certai…
/r/seduction09/07/25 07:32 AM
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/r/seduction08/07/25 07:02 AM
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Masculinity and femininity is a yin and yang type of situation. To be a balanced person we need to have both, being overly masculine or feminine tends to lead to problems, because you're neglecting the other parts of sexuality. Perhaps the question you should ask yourself is "what should I do re regain balance in my sexualiaty? Do I need to cultivate more masculinity or femininity into my life?" See my post, masculinity and femininity explained, and how to cultivate both.
/r/seduction08/07/25 07:01 AM
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It depends on the situation and your personality. If you are a beginner forget all of that and just begin approaching direct for your first 500 approaches practicing the 11 principles of approaching. See my post "how to progress and learn in pickup"
/r/seduction08/07/25 06:59 AM
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Women will decide whether you might be a compatible partner within 15 minutes. That is called "hook point". Hook point means that you can clearly tell that she is attracted to you. See my post on "outer game principles" to see a list of that indicators. That being said, if you do not achieve hook point within 15 minutes, it will never occur, and you're wasting your time. Regarding friend groups, you have to build attraction within the group, get her number and then isolate her after the fact in …
/r/seduction08/07/25 06:57 AM
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She mentioned her baby at the end because she was building comfort with you. Many men will find an issue with that, so after vetting that you're an attractive man, she started sharing about her personal life to see if you were compatible. Judging by your reaction, she already knew that you had a problem with it and therefore disqualified you. Because she was sharing about her life.
/r/seduction08/07/25 06:53 AM
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Sorry your comment slipped my inbox. You get dates by expanding on all your "lead getters", which is cold approach, social circle, online and fame. Currently you only have one working, which is online. Regarding how you can get more dates, you focus on one vertical, master it and then only move on to the next. Because each "method" requires a lot of effort and new knowledge to get it working. Fastest way is to go to nightclubs. See my post on that. Nightclub guide or something like that.
/r/seduction08/07/25 06:50 AM
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Anywhere with hot women. I have a post called the principles of approaching, you just practice that until you nail it down.
/r/seduction08/07/25 05:52 AM
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Around 300
/r/seduction08/07/25 02:19 AM
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Haha i tell people, to get your first result in cold approach will take 450 apporaches. A dedicated and courageous man can bang out 100 approaches a month. Most people can't. So instead of 4 months to a result they must take one year. How sad. By result I mean sex.
/r/seduction07/07/25 07:15 PM
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Hook point = you can clearly tell that the girl is interested in you. See my post outer game principles.
/r/seduction07/07/25 04:41 PM
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One grand? Wow haha, I must be too cheap! Haha yeah, I get them as well, and I'm a coach haha. I think they send it indiscriminately. Eitherway, coaches tend to be a mixed bag. I tend to avoid coaches who do big transformational packages for a few thousand dollars preying on your mokey mind promising lots of money and sex. This kind of offer is directly targeted towards noobs who don't know any better. That's how they get away with it. I prefer to do session/hourly sessions like how you would pa…
/r/seduction07/07/25 06:25 AM
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Just say you're looking for a relationship, why are you trying to dodge the question? This aint even a shit test.
/r/seduction07/07/25 06:10 AM
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It means that the girl is not really interested in the conversation and that you did not achieve "hook point." I only invest into sets where the girl is clearly attracted to me. No matter what you say or do, if you didn't attract her within the first 15 minutes, you'll never attract her ever. If you feel like you have to "force it" usually this just means that you two are incompatible, and really you're just entertaining yourself without any buy-in from the girl.
/r/seduction07/07/25 06:07 AM
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In clubs you'll have to pull on the same day. If you want to go on dates etc, do daygame instead.
/r/seduction07/07/25 06:02 AM
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The "creepy" part is all in your mind. See my post the top 10 approaching excuses debunked. For the "signals" part you just approach without any signals. The outcome of the approach is determined whether if you followed the 11 principles of approaching. If you follow those principles, you'll never be a creepy, even if you get rejected. Do not approach a woman from behind. Walk faster, and past her, check her out and slow down to open.
/r/seduction05/07/25 11:29 AM
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Indeed, but remember that confidence is built in specific exlerience. Meaning that you're currently a very confident reseller, but that confidence might not translate to other aspects of life. Self efficacy is a important part of self worth, if we keep failing in the world that does not make us an effective operator. Never focus on your weaknessess and only focus on your strengths - i forgot to put that in (oops)
/r/seduction05/07/25 01:22 AM
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Thank you. Implement it today!
/r/seduction05/07/25 01:19 AM
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No problem. Thank you and goodluck on your journey!!
/r/seduction04/07/25 03:12 PM
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I'm pretty happy with this article. I'd figured that "short articles" written within an hour or two weren't my thing, so I've moved back to writing my works of art. Sorry if you've read some crap from me over the past month, I'll commit to being a custodian of high quality thought.
/r/seduction04/07/25 02:38 PM
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No worries. Thanks for asking an intelligent question. I enjoy answering them. Go to my library and see my post called "how to learn pickup" - that will give you an idea on whats stage you are at.
/r/seduction04/07/25 10:37 AM
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Value means attraction. That's all. Building value = building attraction = building buy in. The reason why we have different terms is because it refers to the different properties of attraction. Value = baseline attraction Building value = use attraction building techniques Building buy in = building attraction for compliance
/r/seduction04/07/25 10:29 AM
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My content is holistic in nature, meaning that it will bring you from A-Z, think of it like bringing and mentoring someone from $0 to one million dollars. Some articles might make zero sense to you right now, but they will start to make sense when you reach around that skill level. I'vs dedicated 8 articles to fundamental attraction issues listed under "beginner advice" - the reason why I did not spend much time here is because a beginner just needs to take action. There is not much to be discus…
/r/seduction04/07/25 10:28 AM
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Do you build comfort after escalation? This is likely the issue. Women don't feel comfortable leaving with men they have just met. I mean, if you're a woman, what will you do? See my post on "nightclubs" and follow that flow exactly from A-Z. That will fix your problems.
/r/seduction04/07/25 05:32 AM
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? How can you be so confident in making that statement when you dont even know how to flirt?
/r/seduction03/07/25 02:23 AM
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Flirting is spiking someone's emotions, for example when you make jokes with your friends. I think what you're asking is how to turn a conversation into man to woman and showing intent. A simple compliment saying she's cute (usually a direct opener) or asking "are you single" during the approach can easily let her know that you clearly there as a dating opportunity. You can only make the conversation sexual after M2W, because you both are in the right frame of mind when talking. You practice you…
/r/seduction02/07/25 04:24 PM
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No, disqualification is a good habit. But your packaging is wrong in the way you communicate your honesty. By setting the frame (underlying meaning) to be unemployed and dropping out of college, you look like you're DLVing yourself. Instead, just build attraction using flirting and then only reveal these facts during stages of comfort/out on a date. Present them within DHVs. What this just means is to flirt (build attraction), have fun, and mention your life status quickly without putting much e…
/r/seduction02/07/25 04:20 PM
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By pull, I mean going home with you.
/r/seduction02/07/25 03:52 AM
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Yes, you increase attraction (tension).
/r/seduction02/07/25 03:52 AM
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Haha awesome. I also started out with the mystery method. Frankly you'd quickly outgrow your teacher and have to find a new one when you've hit the limits of what your mentor teaches. There is a teacher for the starting. There is a teacher for the middle There is a teacher for the end. You may not even understand what a teacher is saying until you reach his "zone" of where it starts to make sense using prior expeirience.
/r/seduction01/07/25 03:54 PM
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What went wrong is that you didn't want to build comfort. She wanted to go home with you that day but she needed comfort in order to do so. What you should have done is to stop doing the attraction stuff and switch to the comfort building stuff and answered her questions on life goals etc. If you are unaware of how you should build comfort, see my post "principles of building comfort" Wasted opportunity.
/r/seduction01/07/25 03:34 PM
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I have a unique perspective on this. I think that every coach caters to people on their level of development. How you should take advice is to find a teacher that resonateswith you the most and try to rely on that one person to guide most of your decision making. I call that person the anchor. You then use the anchor to rate other peoples advice againts the anchor. When doing so, you should try to distinguish is the principles vs content of a teacher. All mentors teach from the same core princip…
/r/seduction01/07/25 03:29 PM
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The answer lies within your words "I'm afriad of looking like a loser to others." Ask yourself the question, why do you feel the need to look great? Usually it's related to something in the past. Occassionally doing and saying stupid things makes us relatable. I look like a stupid idiot all the time. You'd have to be willing to look stupid so that you can push past your mistakes to succeed.
/r/seduction01/07/25 03:11 PM
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Happens to everyone. There's a concept where it says that humans only have 4 hours of creativity a day. When you deplete this creativity doing other creative tasks, you won't be able to pick up women effectively. (Because pickup is a creative task.) Haha I should even observe my own rule more. My writing and advice giving tends to be shitty after I've exhausted the 4 hours of creativity. Guard your 4 hours, and use it when it matters. Not having enough sleep reduces these hours to zero.
/r/seduction01/07/25 03:07 PM
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You break the touch barrier immediately when you meet her via holding hands etc (kino 1). You work your way up the kino ladder into a kiss. For beginners, kissing on the first date is unrealistic, because kissing is usually used as a green light for the pull. If you don't pull after making out, she might go home feeling like a slut, and you won't see her again. See my post, the principles of escalation. As to the question of when to kino, you do it when it feels "right." You just can't allow you…
/r/seduction01/07/25 03:04 PM
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If a woman is being ambigious that means that you just have enough buy in to peak her interest, but not enough for her to commit to anything (like dates). Focus on attraction building techniques during times of ambiguity.
/r/seduction29/06/25 01:14 PM
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It's alright. Everything is a learning experience. You broke up for a reason, don't get back togteher again.
/r/seduction29/06/25 01:13 PM
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Hinge (dating apps) are superficial by nature. To get more matches you'd have to upgrade your photos. This is one of the downsides of online, and its why we diversify the way we meet women via cold approach (pickup), social circle, online and fame. See my post on all the ways you could meet women. Texting better is an extension of your verbal skills. You really only get better at verbal skills the more you practice flirting with women. See my post the principles of flirting and I recommend start…
/r/seduction29/06/25 01:10 PM
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You don't ask people out in SC. In social circle you build attraction within the group while following the 5 core principles. The attraction within the group will cause the girls in the core to chase, leading to pre-selection. Use then use the pre-selection to get referrals to orbiters. Attraction > Referrals > Isolation (texting) > Date (escalation) See my post on social circle. It explains how I do it from A-Z, around 1,500 words long.
/r/seduction28/06/25 04:33 PM
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For the principles of approaching I have them listed in my "principles of approaching post" - ideally you do about 450 approaches total practicing them, cycling 5 approaches each principle as you practice. Once you get competent at that you should be getting dates from the approaches, quite a sizeable amount as well. That's when you learn escalation and comfort to get experience or find the ideal person you want to have a relationship with. I wrote a detailed outline called "how to learn pickup"…
/r/seduction28/06/25 11:01 AM
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Thank you, that was really helpful.
/r/seduction28/06/25 10:58 AM
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You'd probably have to give more context for a solution. I have no idea what the problem is.
/r/seduction28/06/25 08:12 AM
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I think you're getting confused with the extra intrepretations when it comes to PUA. Attraction is a science, and PUA is a study of this science from the male perspective. The nature of science is that it is neutral, and the people who understands the science can use it to whatever means they wish. For example, if an anti-feminist gets a hold of this science, he will twist the science in a way that causes the presentation of the science to seem anti-feminist. But really, the science itself is no…
/r/seduction28/06/25 06:15 AM
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Get the science of approaching down. Follow the 11 principles. Get the science of closing well. Insta-date or "time bridging" Get the science of logistical escalation Daygame is mostly approaching, comfort and logistical escalation.
/r/seduction28/06/25 06:01 AM
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All feminine traits are masculine, and all masculine traits are feminine. They can't function without one another, you need femininity to become more masculine and vice versa for women. See my post, masculinity and femininity.
/r/seduction27/06/25 09:00 AM
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This is not "disrespect." After 4 dates you should have went for the pull, she lost tension and therefore lost interest in you. See my post, "how to transition into a relationship" - there will explain what you did wrong in detail and how you can avoid it next time by maintaining the player frame for a bit longer.
/r/seduction27/06/25 08:58 AM
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You have too much comfort but you lack attraction. You cannot lead with comfort in hopes of attraction. Attraction comes first. See my post on "the principles of comfort" - it will explain that you need attraction first before you can start building comfort. What you've been bascally doing is the opposite. So do more value building techniques like DHVs, storytelling, disqualification, teasing and being "fun and lighthearted."
/r/seduction27/06/25 08:54 AM
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Nobody will be bothered to post AI in Reddit.
/r/seduction27/06/25 08:42 AM
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If it was easy, nobody would need me to explain it, and certainly nobody would need to learn it.
/r/seduction27/06/25 07:58 AM
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Asking if shes single makes it M2W immediately. (2) I'm trying to cover all transitional scenarios, if you lack attraction making it M2W is not going to be helpful, especially when it comes to indirect approaches when you need to know when to transition between platonic to sexual via hook point. Its understanding that the relationship of her avaliability is tied to the M2W frame. Theres a time component to this as well, being when you garner enough attraction. Many of my direct approaches have n…
/r/seduction27/06/25 07:02 AM
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Okay I've edited it.
/r/seduction27/06/25 05:47 AM
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Haha oops. My bad haha. They are taken*
/r/seduction27/06/25 05:46 AM
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You're missing the point. People come into pickup or whatever venture with personalized needs and wants. So you'd have to identify them for yourselves. What are your motivations? Thise are just examples I provided so that it can get your mind jogging in the right direction
/r/seduction26/06/25 04:48 AM
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He came in and said he has a friend who did public speaking but didn't translate to getting better with women. Which disproves your point. I agree with this sentiment. Sure that helps with your personal growth, but it has little to do with becoming better with women. Might not even be cheaper as well. Most of my clients only see me once a month, surmounting to $175/mo. Pretty good and they probably earn back 10 ~ 20 hours each time. Maybe even more. You'll roughly break even even if you make min…
/r/seduction26/06/25 02:52 AM
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You have much to learn.
/r/seduction25/06/25 02:03 PM
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For people asking about how to solve the people's initial conditions, here it is: - The lonley guy solves his problem when he relinquishes his need to be around others - The entreprenuer relinquishes his need for security - The PUA relinquishes his need for love - The peoples pleaser relinquishes the need to be approved. This can only be done by burning through hedonistic wants. If you have sex with beautiful women everyday, you'll get sick of it and then your reward will be bestowed upon you. T…
/r/seduction25/06/25 12:13 PM
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Around 2,000 is when people usually lose interest. This is normal, dont force yourself. Its just time to do and focus on other things. Your jouney is over, you've developed the skill. Also realize that this is your new comfort zone, you have to find the next fontier and challenge yourself on the next new thing
/r/seduction25/06/25 02:05 AM
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The philosphy behind daygame and nightgame has some differences. The main difference being that nightgame requires you to be a lot more intense, relying more on your state, mindset and boy language. For a long time I was also a pure daygamer, but over time I got accustomed to the nightgame way. In daygame often you open indriect, coutninue the interaction to hook point and make it M2W. Unfortunately, this approach is less effective in the nightclub. You have to do a strong direct approach, somet…
/r/seduction24/06/25 01:12 PM
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If this happens that's because your presence is somewhere else. Maybe to the outsider you don't look like you're together. Look like a strong couple (hold hands etc), and these people wont approach. Maybe you look like a friend to the on-looker. Basically always maintain some sort of non sexual touch. It's okay to be a bit possessive when you've established rapport with the girl. When I was in the nightclubs my mentor always told me to be possessive and allow the girl everywhere to not lose her …
/r/seduction24/06/25 10:29 AM
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Just tease like how you would make fun of your friends. Usually joking around at someone's expense. Just try to lean away from teasing landmine topics, where maybe the girl has a particularly sensitivity to.
/r/seduction24/06/25 10:23 AM
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My extension comment under this post has long existed before this comment was posted and it has already addressed how to adjust your polarization with the full contexts mostly described. The reason why i ask people to read furthur is because it is already addressed comprehensively. What is the point of repeating myself potentially paraphrasing it in a worse way when you can just access the original, high quality explanation? Plus my indexed comment is a comment under this post itself. Its easier…
/r/seduction24/06/25 08:59 AM
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Anxiety is caused by negative thoughts. You have too many negative thoughts. Yes, meditation helps with becoming aware of your negative thoughts. I've written a post called "optimism" which teaches how I reframe negative thinking into positive empowering ones. There's also pretty good books written that I've used to help me with negative emotions like taming your gremlin by rick carson and the sedona method by hale dwoskin. You should read those as well.
/r/seduction23/06/25 12:20 PM
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You need to view this as qualification on her end. For example, when we do this we will disqualify an answer we don't like, and shoot IOIs on answers that impress and attracts us. I would answer with honesty. If you have trouble replying with honesty, then the qualfiication on her end is doing what it is supposed to do and is guarding her interests. Her interest is keeping fakers, low value and incongruents out -> disqualification.
/r/seduction23/06/25 11:44 AM
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Yes, eitherway, what other choice do you have? You'd probably need to implement all of the stratergies aggressively.
/r/seduction23/06/25 11:36 AM
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Hey thanks, always happy to see people enjoy the read. I'm tailoring more towards beginners, and I've put the advanced articles into the backburners for now, since evryone is complaining my stuff is "not relatable". haha
/r/seduction23/06/25 11:35 AM
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Thanks
/r/seduction23/06/25 11:35 AM
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Well, notice that you said it in a limiting belief structure. How I would start is by building a social circle around my hobbies. I have a post written about how to do this called "a guide to social circle" - just follow the steps in there and you should be able to achieve said outcome. That was written for the cold approacher trying to transition into cold approach. You're right. You must be extremely skilled or an expert at some topic to gain fame. Certainly you don't want fame for acting like…
/r/seduction23/06/25 11:34 AM
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Learn the core four. Disqualification, cold reading, qualification and storytelling. Practice until you can do it naturally without any mental effort.
/r/seduction22/06/25 01:40 PM
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Haha that's awesome! You're doing nothing wrong. Just keep going and do more approaches
/r/seduction21/06/25 03:02 PM
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Usually passion in my relationships is only possible when we can allign our passions in our personal life. Somehow your partner must contribute to your purpose and goals. Sounds a bit selfish, but thats hoe passion works. That's why its important to find people who have similar values, since people with the same values will tend to have the same passions and enjoy the same things. Thats quite aspirational, but sometimes its the opposite. The opposite is that maybe you have operational drag in yo…
/r/seduction20/06/25 02:16 AM
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My IG is a pretty strong tool for DHVs. If you craft your profile right like those influencers it can work very well. Especially in social circle settings.
/r/seduction19/06/25 02:47 PM
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This is very sweet. I would probably lead with your shared passion for mental health, and then mention your road trip. If she was secrelty attracted to you before (it has happened to me) she will agree to join you. But the chances of that is very low. So don't get your hopes up. Refer to my post on "texting" and then use the "buy in indicators" to know when to mention the road trip. (your date)
/r/seduction19/06/25 02:45 PM
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I think you poorly articulated your point but I understand what you're trying to say. Love with the capital L is something people have to find out for themselves unformatunately. After death you become Love, because you are love. You've already noticed this for yourself.
/r/seduction19/06/25 02:39 PM
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The three second rule helps you do a better approach via the principle of commitment, see my post on the principles of approaching. So what that means is that you decide whether you want to approach or not within 3 seconds, and if that answer is yes, you cannot have any excuses after that.
/r/seduction19/06/25 02:35 PM
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Women don't get an ego boost from nice guys. They get an ego boost when attractive men are in her orbit. It might seem like an ego boost to nice guys because she is just too kind hearted to reject you outright. Pleasee do not be confused. Haha did you get the pun there? I thought it was pretty smart.
/r/seduction19/06/25 04:19 AM
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"I don't" is a limiting belief. Please refer to my post on how you can change your beliefs That post is on reddit, not on my website. Scroll down my page.
/r/seduction19/06/25 02:52 AM
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Yes i say this because people who are unable to express themselves in real life have some pent up anger, and unjustly release it on me for being the messenger. Screw you!
/r/seduction19/06/25 02:51 AM
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Please read my indexed comment for more context. I've addressed this by explaining that peoples pleasing or polarization is not a concrete personality trait.
/r/seduction19/06/25 02:21 AM
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Thank you!
/r/seduction18/06/25 06:04 PM
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My instrument is my voice. To charm and attract. Jokes aside, just use your strengths as a musican for interesting dates. It's a DHV
/r/seduction18/06/25 05:03 PM
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Yes, a tiny blue cock.
/r/seduction18/06/25 04:58 PM
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Yes, comfort to value ratio some call it.
/r/seduction18/06/25 04:48 PM
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Indeed. I think it's because of the lack of education and understanding of social dynamics as a whole. But it's good that we had this discussion. I hope more people upvote this so that it can put into peoples awareness.
/r/seduction18/06/25 04:38 PM
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Yes haha. If you are already appropriately polarizing, then don't implement this advice! You need to have the ability to be a peoples pleaser and be polarizing. Only being able to be a one trick pony is not healthy.
/r/seduction18/06/25 04:33 PM
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Yes, but once that spark is established reduce your polarization. Polarization destroys comfort.
/r/seduction18/06/25 04:27 PM
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To increase the nuance of my post: Think of peoples-pleasing and polarization as something you can control. It is not a "personality trait" During the times when we are building comfort, then be less polarizing. When we are building attraction, be more polarizing. Depending on who we are talking to, we can iincrease that slider up and down appropriately. Also peoples pleaser like to fancy themselves as a "good and nice person", this attachment to your self image is counterproductive to flirting.…
/r/seduction18/06/25 04:13 PM
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Yes exactly, you want to be "that guy" in his own world. Remember, we want to pull the girl into our world. Grounding herself in a stable guy, and that stable-ness is your authenticity. Yes emotions in general. But more positive instead of negative. Remmeber, we are just simply being ourselves by talking freely. how positive or negative we will be depends on her. Improving yourself with self-help tends to help attract more high quality women.
/r/seduction18/06/25 04:09 PM
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No of course not. I'm not telling you to be unpleasant. This is the misconception of all peoples pleasers. They are afriad that this mindset will turn them into a hooligan. Grounding yourself in your authenticity makes you shine better. If your authenthic self leans more towards being pleasant, kind and loving, then by not worrying how you will be perceived will lead to you being more kind, lovng and pleasant. And drive away those that do not reflect your values. If I value freedom, by grounding…
/r/seduction18/06/25 04:01 PM
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Cheers
/r/seduction18/06/25 03:31 PM
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Hello. I've done over 3 thousand approaches at clubs. First is that you do not talk at clubs, use invitational openers which invites her to dance or just a straight up phsycial opener (high energy) on the dancefloor. Please refer to my post" nightclub guide" for the A-Z breakdown step by step on how you can win at nightclubs. Follow it exactly.
/r/seduction18/06/25 03:27 PM
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Tricky situation you have. Let me share with you what I know. First is that you have to take full responsibility of these problems you have. From your writing, you blame your father, mother and therapist. Sure, you mom is totally nuts or your dad is spineless, but you don't have to be. You can transcend these emotional responses you have by turning inwards instead of outsourcing the decision making and the solution to external people. Once you have done so, you have to heal the relationships you…
/r/seduction18/06/25 03:23 PM
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Overthinking is caused by worry. Worry is caused by your visualization of the future, and that is caused by your negative thoughts. Maybe these negative thoughts come from your lack of skill? Thinking that you'll "never be able to recreate that good interaction again" thinking it was a "stroke of luck" This has a great deal to do with your self image. Change this by thinking when things go well, it will countinue to do well, look, I'm already having success. What is there to worry about. When yo…
/r/seduction18/06/25 03:15 PM
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Usually the problem faced by interviewers is that they are afriad to impose themselves unto the other person. When we speak we have to speak confidently, and that means a potential to offend others. Interviewers like to: Ank questions before so that they can guage the recptivemness of his audience Giving a socially acceptable reply. What you should do is the opposite: Say what you think immediately with no filters Deal with the social backlash or approval later. This mindset is the foundation of…
/r/seduction18/06/25 03:10 PM
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Get in field of vision Walk directly to her in a straight line Get her attention Say direct opener Cold read to countinue the conversation. Sit or stand next to her in a way where she can "escape" while talking. *on her perspective, safety her end is important. self eject if she seems uncomfortable (not smiling)
/r/seduction17/06/25 04:06 PM
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Interesting. Thanks! Quite hard to validate in-field however haha...
/r/seduction17/06/25 04:04 PM
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In regards to if whether smell helps with attraction, I have no idea. But I would say its not very important but gives you extra brownie points. If you do a shitty approach not following any of the principles I laid out in "the principles of approaching women", you will still get rejected no matter how good you smell. There is other more high impact things you should be worrying about. But if smelling nice helps with your self-confidence, disregard what I said and countinue using cologne.
/r/seduction17/06/25 04:01 PM
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I think it is ASD. When you didn't pull her home on the dinner when she wanted to, she went home and started viewing herself as a slut for doing that (because you spiked her emotions in the moment). Unsalvageable. Unless you're not leaving any details out, next time go for the pull when you get this kind of buy in.
/r/seduction17/06/25 03:55 PM
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It means don't have a result you want in mind (expectation of others), but focus on developing your skills (intention for yourself).
/r/seduction17/06/25 03:50 PM
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You broke your own frame. For 30 minutes, you disqualified her advances pretending to not like her, suddenly you flip the script and start showing interest. It would have been better if you recpriocated the kino so that you maintain congruence instead of disqualifying if you wanted to lead escalation. Regardless, this is the club, get physical fast. That would have been my preference. If you want to act disinterested, you need to keep acting disinterested and force her to escalate. You were basc…
/r/seduction16/06/25 03:02 PM
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It means nothing.
/r/seduction16/06/25 02:56 PM
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The reason why you're struggling is because you're trying to talk. Stop talking and use a direct invitation opener to dance. It's much more physical. If you see that she is receptive and shooting IOIs, directly open with a physical opener with kino. See my post on nightclubs, that will clarify your problems from A to Z.
/r/seduction16/06/25 02:56 PM
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What is self-love, acceptance, confidence all about? It's about finding your authenticity. These things can't exist without it. To be alligned with the truth.
/r/seduction15/06/25 06:25 PM
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Well said! Authenticity is at the core of all my articles.
/r/seduction15/06/25 04:30 PM
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What does this have to do with anything? It doesn't mean anything.
/r/seduction15/06/25 04:17 PM
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Hey, this is social anxiety, it's okay. This takes some practice. As you build up your self-esteem and confidence this problem will slowly go away. The fastest way to make it go away is through approaching women, that will change you real quick. See my post on "the principles of approaching women"
/r/seduction15/06/25 04:16 PM
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Start by having an interesting and awesome life, then document it and carefully shape your public image. My instagram is a massive DHV to the girls who share my values. But you have to carefully shape what you stand for and not start positing pictures of you at the gym or whatever else that looks "staged" or "show off"
/r/seduction15/06/25 04:15 PM
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The first approach is always the hardest. What I always do is that I just force myself to do it no matter how hard it is. As you do more and more approaches, it will get easier and easier. Maybe you have a perfectionistic mindset, let it go and allow yourself to fail the first 1 ~ 10 sets. I fail those sets even to this day. The first 1 to 10 opens are just warm up and to get you into the zone "state." Regarding on what to do, see my post on the principles of approaching women, that might overwh…
/r/seduction15/06/25 04:07 PM
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Steps I use to make this work: I can't upload files to what I mean by the mantra, but if you read my article on "finding you highest authenticity", in the middle of it I made a affirmation just like how I described. https://elevenlabs.io/ (choose the meditative female voice, and change it to "robust) Stich it in with this video. Convert wth https://ezmp3.to/ https://youtu.be/B7nkVhC10Gw?si=5SzE0AOuPA4lj86G Then use some sort of editor to pluck it in together. Add a fade at the end of the meditat…
/r/seduction15/06/25 11:44 AM
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Just because you don't like it doesn't mean that everyone dosen't like it. I meet women on public transport all the time and it turns into dates. That is your limiting belief, and your personal biases.
/r/seduction15/06/25 02:56 AM
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See my post "how to transition into a relationship" that will teach you how you can slowly ease into a relationship without breaking her attraction OR causing her to walk away. Women makes it hard for themselves and it took me some time to get it right. So don't beat yourself up and try again.
/r/seduction14/06/25 11:59 AM
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I think bars can be really intimidating for beginners, you shot your own foot by going to a bar haha. Do daygame or niightclubs next time, I have a post up as a guide for both of them. Regarding your approaching anxieties, I have a post called "debunking the top 10 approaching excuses and limiting beliefs". That would help. Pair that along with "principles of approaching women" and that you will give you plenty of things to practice. Dont beat yourself up. At the end of the day you need to rmeme…
/r/seduction14/06/25 11:58 AM
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No. Just stop drooling over her and find someone else. Why do you want a gf who don't like you? Read my article so that you won't do it again.
/r/seduction14/06/25 11:55 AM
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You can't. You got needy and lost attraction. Read my post on "how to transition into a relationship" and follow that progression next time to avoid this mistake again.
/r/seduction14/06/25 11:53 AM
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I've heard from my students from the UK, "the tube" is a great place for daygame. Regarding nightgame, I have no idea, they all have their preferences when it comes to the age of crowd, music etc.
/r/seduction14/06/25 11:51 AM
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"Are you single?" A woman is going to lie if their current relationship is failing. So beware.
/r/seduction13/06/25 12:26 AM
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I think you shouldn't be so hard on yourself. When you do so, it fuels this perpetual thing where your confidence goes down, and then your results go down which becomes a cycle until it gets so bad that you manage to snap yourself out of it. (which is what I'm trying to do now). What is really happening is just that you're getting into a rut. See my post "how to get out of a rut", implement the techniques and you'll be out in no time. Then you can resume your normal practice regimen. Getting int…
/r/seduction12/06/25 02:41 PM
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Very good! Urgently read my post on social circle and countinue to prop up the circle. In the post it will teach you the proper way to get a girlfriend in social circle without blowing and messing the whole thing up. (ie. the group explodes)
/r/seduction12/06/25 02:38 PM
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No, this is terrible advice from a social circle perspective. You should build so much attraction so that she asks you out. See my post on social circle.
/r/seduction12/06/25 02:37 PM
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Awesome. Enjoy.
/r/seduction11/06/25 03:13 PM
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It's on my profile. Serach for it. It's exactly that title I believe,
/r/seduction11/06/25 03:07 PM
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The reason why is because you're not escalating and losing tension. Refer to my post "principles of esclaation - how to pull a girl home in a day"
/r/seduction11/06/25 01:48 PM
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Comments, no. Innuendoes yes. Women like it when you make them imagine it, not when you make it explicit. Innuendoes also need a lot of practice, requiring you to read between the lines.
/r/seduction11/06/25 01:47 PM
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Very good! Your solution here is to draw upon life coaching principles, not from pickup. There is an idea within life coaching that growth happens in quick spurts. So we prep and prep and prep the student until he makes "a breakthrough" and quickly improves all at once. Once he reaches that new plateau, the process repeats itself all over again. Problem with this is that usually, clients burn out, and they take a break or become lazy. You are in this period. It is crucial that you take it easy, …
/r/seduction11/06/25 01:40 PM
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I see, sorry for the confusion. I think in this case you should not have approached Z in the first place. Wait for X to come back and open her instead. Don't be too afraid to open groups, it's actually the same as solo just with two bots at the side.
/r/seduction10/06/25 08:41 AM
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Thanks for posting. Great to see old school still around. My mentor was old school. Glad he showed me the way. Thanks again. I think pickup is still heavily mentorship based if you want any sort of success.
/r/seduction10/06/25 07:28 AM
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Extreme peoples pleasing. Just train yourself to say no and you'll be fine.
/r/seduction10/06/25 07:18 AM
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I'd say don't entetrain the friends too much next time. What you'll notice is that the friends will just leave you guys be if they know whats going on. What bascially happened is that she has a boyfriend but found you attractive, (but concealed the fact she has a boyfriend). When the friends came back and you asked her number, she was forced to reject you because it would make her look like a slut in front of her friends. Eitherway, having a boyfriend is a no go for me. But thats bascially what …
/r/seduction10/06/25 07:17 AM
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Any post under my library indexed under "relationship skills."
/r/seduction09/06/25 03:48 PM
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Disqualify her attempts to make a date next time and wait for higher buy in. You can see the signals I have laid out in my "texting" post, wait for the indicators lower down the ladder (higher buy in). What is most likely happening here is that you're talking and spiking emotions, then it comes to setting up the date. After awhile when the time of the date actually comes, she hesistates and backs out because you're not there spiking her emotions. + a little needy for the date What I would do wit…
/r/seduction09/06/25 03:33 PM
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Charisma is a combination of social awareness, confidence and likeability. I would probably start through cold approach, since this is the lowest impact way to learn how to be charismatic. If you can't charm one person, you can;t charm a dozen hah! Under my library indexed "verbal skills", read those posts and that will give you some good dircetion on what to practice and make progress. Over 8k words in that section alone packed withouter game skills on how to have good verbal skills.
/r/seduction09/06/25 03:30 PM
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That number is taken from my direct experience and from the people I coach. This is a very realistic number for most people to become comfortable with CA. It's not some random number I plucked out from the sky. The reason why so many approaches is needed is just mostly, you focus on volume at the beginning. Get used to it, clear out all the approach anxiety, get some practice in and learn some fundamentals and then only reduce volume and focus on quality.
/r/seduction09/06/25 02:23 PM
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It's on my Reddit profile. Just scroll through.
/r/seduction09/06/25 06:00 AM
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Make natural movements, and dont care what other people are thinking about you. Let them look how attractive you are.
/r/seduction09/06/25 05:56 AM
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It's quite the intuitive thing. When things are going well you want to escalate. Ironically the longer you wait the more akward it becomes. So escalate fast and smoothly, which also translates to have a lot of good times. You can refer to my post "principles of escalation" for the outer game specifics.
/r/seduction09/06/25 05:33 AM
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Sure blog away. Might want to write on your own website since the people on Reddit can be quite harsh. Don't want to ruin your motivation especially when you're late to the party. I have a lot of resources from A-Z depending on what you want to learn. You can just skim through the library and it will teach you a lot of outer game techniques you can go out and practice.
/r/seduction09/06/25 05:29 AM
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Lighting is the most important part of a photo. Really, you're learning photography. How to edit in lightroom, take pictures that can be edited. ISO, apeture, shutter sp and composition.
/r/seduction09/06/25 05:26 AM
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If I were you I wont get involved, because shes already seeing someone else. Dont want to get into any sort of drama. The world is plentifyul anwyays, open up your perspective and you'll realize you didn't lose anything at all.
/r/seduction09/06/25 05:26 AM
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Depending on if its worth it or not, cold approach has a very steep learning curve. From a newbie to competent takes around 450 approaches. You can do thisin five months if you heavily invest in the skill doing 100/month. Problem with this is that your city might be too small. By the end of your little experiment you might have ruined your reputation to no end haha. Your alternative is social circle, just participate in activities you find meaningful and people of the same value system will be t…
/r/seduction09/06/25 05:22 AM
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Haha the interaction reflects their attention spans.
/r/seduction08/06/25 04:46 PM
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I think especially when you're so early on, you really only need to spend more time trying things. Although our content can seem like its easy. Telling you to do this and that, we might be condensing our 3 years experience into a 2,000 word article. Read something, learn things but don't use them as a crutch. Education steers you only in the right direction but you still need experience to diffrenciate between nuance. That's just the difference between a beginner and an expert. We can make finer…
/r/seduction08/06/25 11:54 AM
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You can lump that in with #1. It's bascially the same meaning. For you to believe she/he is out of your league bascially means that you feel bad for inconviniencing her because you view yourself as lower value/trying to extract something out from her.
/r/seduction08/06/25 11:49 AM
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This is a hard question to answer. Beliefs are very personalized. Even though many people share commanalitiies between the beliefs I have mentioned here, often they will present them in their own forms and explanations linked to quite personal experiences. I think the best way on what you can do for yourself is to open your mind and find contradictory experiences OR, get someone who have went through those beliefs to help you navigate through the same thing. I duscussed beliefs briefly in my "th…
/r/seduction08/06/25 11:47 AM
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This tends to be peoples pleasing. You're trying to guage all their reactions at once in a group. A recommended public speaking skill I learnt is only focus on one person at a time in a crowd/group. Talk to him/her and guage their reaction only. After talking to one person for a minute or two, I switch to another. You're still only talking to one person, but you just switch among the group members so everyone feels heard.
/r/seduction08/06/25 04:35 AM
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Yes, I had a discussion a few months back with a totally disabled man who is stuck inside his house. He can't cold approach, he can't run social circle. So fame was the only choice left that would open him up to opportunities. By no means I am a expert at social media and personal branding, I mean look at my IG, it has a pityful 16 followers. But fame is the easiest way to open you up with a lot of opportunities with no effort at all long term. Unfortunately, fame is also the hardest, especially…
/r/seduction08/06/25 04:25 AM
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I'd say go get more experience. Or if you have already a lot of experience, just reflect on them and make them into your stories. You can see my post on the principles on comfort. Either you can go the "fun" route spiking emotions or you can go the comfort route through stories and future projection.
/r/seduction08/06/25 03:51 AM
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You're already a multimillionaire, so that means you were able to overcome the odds despite your starting circumstnces. Similar thinking applies to meeting and attracting women. You can see my post on "how attraction works", the only two things you need is confidence and verbal skills.
/r/seduction08/06/25 03:46 AM
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Verbal skills will be learnt over time as your approach more women or interact with more people - perhaps in a social circle. Good that you notice that attrction is in confidence and verbal skills, not looks and height. I have a post on the principles of flirting and a list of all verbal skills you can practice. I think that can be helpful in your mission.
/r/seduction07/06/25 06:32 AM
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What that quote means is that escalation on your end will feel smooth and easy, and she will help with the escalation process. But you, still need to know how to escalate without losing her interest, and she will mke it "easy" if you know how to do so.
/r/seduction07/06/25 06:25 AM
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Regarding cold approach, you have to learn the principles. See my post on the principles of approaching women. For your psychology, maybe you can read my post on "how attraction works." so that you can build the right skills and beliefs. Regarding your situation, don't think that it's easy! You have a strong start regarding results (maybe a bit too strong) but you shouldn't expect it too be too easy or else your expectations will be too high and give it prematurely.
/r/seduction07/06/25 06:23 AM
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The city centre
/r/seduction07/06/25 06:20 AM
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Great job!
/r/seduction06/06/25 11:16 AM
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Walk up to them Say excuse me Say direct opener Cold read to countinue convo. See my post on the principles of approaching women.
/r/seduction06/06/25 08:33 AM
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What pickup really just is, is finding your authenticity. "Getting the women" is just the "training ground" in your way to find who you are and how you want express yourself. You will niche down into your own style just naturally, just pick a teacher who resonates with your personality and it's likely that your style will mostly match. See my post on "how to learn pickup."
/r/seduction06/06/25 08:32 AM
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If a woman disqualifies herself first, you already put yourself in a tricky situation. Because most likely you'll have to respond in a way where it appears needy (qualifying) or that you have to fake another disqualification which is similar to the comments below, the fake DQ will appear gamey and incongruent, because you approached her, the frame doesn't match up. The best thing to do is that you disqualify her first instead of the other way around. This is discussed in my "how to make girls ch…
/r/seduction05/06/25 06:44 AM
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Haha you're not trying to detach emotionally. Having no thoughts and "no nothing" just means to be at peace and live in the present moment. Meditation is particularly good at achieving that. Another good way is to reprogram your thoughts, that's discussed on my "how to be optimistic post." That dicussess where your emotions comes from and how to deal with worry. All the best.
/r/seduction04/06/25 12:17 PM
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Seems like you have a nice guy problem. See my post on "Why Women Hate Nice Guys." That's just a really basic post, after that learn some psychology and read my artciles on "how attraction works" and "masculinity and femininity." You could also read "how to be more optimistic" After that I would do your first 30 approaches. Don't need to think so much on how to do them, just wing it, do them and then only learn some theory when it comes to it.
/r/seduction04/06/25 12:13 PM
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The outer game stuff is only a facilitation to help you build the inner game beliefs. Think of them like training wheels, you need some sort of manual to learn how to do certain things if you're totally clueless. In your case, you don't sound like you're totally clueless. For you, you might want to ditch the outer game stuff alltogether and focus more on your mindset and "doing things naturally." This is kinda where you transition into the natural route. See my post on the "top 10 inner game bel…
/r/seduction04/06/25 06:08 AM
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I schedule dates whenever it feels right. Meaning, I feel that she has enough attraction for me, wants to move things forward, consenting etc. On the big picture view, I go on as many dates as possible so that I can build attraction and comfort. For asking for a date over text specifically, see my post on texting. It gives five good indicators on when you should schedule a date.
/r/seduction04/06/25 06:01 AM
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Lol. Did you even build comfort for at least an hour before initiating the pull? That's most likely the issue. See my post on "principles of building comfort" and "the guide to nightclubs."
/r/seduction04/06/25 05:58 AM
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The reluctance of coming off as too forward or akward is the problem itself! Good flirting usually means that you're congruent and authenthic, so speak your mind freely and have no filters. See my post on the principles of flirting and verbal skills.
/r/seduction03/06/25 04:15 AM
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Hi, I dont think thats what frame means. What you are saying is beliefs, not frames. Frames is the underlying meaning or subtexts behind what you say or do. You can believe you're an attractive guy but frame yourself as an unattractive one. If you see my post "how to make a girl chase - frames101" it doesn't mention beliefs. Beliefs are covered seperately in my "top 10 beliefs" post. These two are different things.
/r/seduction03/06/25 04:13 AM
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Yes what you're going through is normal and it's what most people experience when they get good at attracting women. Your problem is basically "The Wanting Mind", once you have something, you'd just want more and more. It just becomes a never ending cycle as you mentioned. The key is to conclude that materialustic success will never bring you happiness. There is a good post on my IG called "why success didnt make you happy", that explains it really well. I wont say that your values changed but y…
/r/seduction03/06/25 04:10 AM
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You can read my nightclub post. It teaches you from A - Z, step by step on how to win in nightclubs solo. You won't be able to do everything, but you'll have a nice framework in mind without needing to doubt yourself. Doing the thing is already hard enough haha.
/r/seduction03/06/25 04:04 AM
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Flirting is just charismatic speech and spiking emotions. See any post under my library indexed "verbal skills" and practice those and you'll slowly improve. What I recommend is doing the "principles of flirting" one first, that will build the right foundations for the other stuff. Especially when you mention that you're a serious person, you need to learn how to speak without any filters first and "be fun."
/r/seduction03/06/25 04:02 AM
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For genuine relationships, you can learn the principles of love. You can see my post on that. The four posts under "relationship skills" will generally move you towards the right direction. I'd also suggest that you move away from the nightclub scene and practice more social circle. My whole library is dedicated towards achieving your mission. You can start with those articles, it will give you a nice framework on how to move away from transactional relationships.
/r/seduction02/06/25 07:10 AM
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Not too bad. If you have good verbal skills logistics shouldn't be an issue. Sure, it's less "smooth" and more of a pain in the ass but if the girl likes you she wont have a problem with it.
/r/seduction02/06/25 07:01 AM
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No worries. I've taken down the post in the light of your news. I'll rewrite a varient of that post called "how to get out of a rut." instead. I think I tried to expand the scope of that post too broadly using words like "depression." There's just no way to save it haha, I'll just rewrite another one and use more accurate words. Is there any other post I've written that is bad or offers unhelpful advice for you?
/r/seduction02/06/25 04:15 AM
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That's true. I'll go fix up the post later today. Thanks for letting me know. My scope for that post was to help others break out of depression when things are not going well in pickup. Also, I don't appreciate the aggresiveness in your tone of speech. I'm trying to make changes that helps the most people. In doing so, I need to get high quality feedback.
/r/seduction02/06/25 03:35 AM
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Awesome! Hope the framework will be helpful enough to help you find success.
/r/seduction02/06/25 02:28 AM
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No worries. The title is rather misleading because the word "depression" can mean many things. Especially now when the word is popularized to mean any depeessive moods. I think there will always be a degree of self bias in everything. We can only speak for what has happened in our lives and how we understand the world. The best thing you can do is to translate the lessons and see how you can apply it in your own life. "Depression is self inflincted" is probably not elaborated enough in the artic…
/r/seduction02/06/25 02:15 AM
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Thanks for the feedback. I'll review it, thats a recovery method on mild depression I've used successfully to bring myself back into an empowered state of action. In what ways is that article not helpful? I understand that depression is may more complex than what I have described in my short article. The depression described in that article is more like a "rut" rather than full on depression that lasts for years
/r/seduction02/06/25 01:12 AM
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Yeah, don't have to limit the definition to clothes as well. By becoming really authenthic, you can peacock via your personality and your style will naturally follow suit.
/r/seduction01/06/25 03:47 PM
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Limiting beliefs mostly come from victimhood thinking. You can see my post on that, I would suggest reading it with my "how to break out of depression" post and my next one will be on how to become more optimistic. These will help you break out of it and take action. If there is a trauma component to your problems, read the post called "self love." Those will give you technqiues like forgiveness, letting go etc. These problems are a combination of many factors, so you will need to take time to d…
/r/seduction01/06/25 03:40 PM
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Becoming a natural is just tuning your inner beliefs in a way where it becomes a tool to help you seduce women. It will take some time to change becuase the mind doesn't really like changing beliefs. You have to make the effort to act despire your resistance to "program in" the new and desired behaviours. I have a good post on this called "top 10 inner beliefs" something like that. That'll help you out.
/r/seduction01/06/25 03:38 PM
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Yep.
/r/seduction31/05/25 02:05 AM
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We dont. We figured it out and moved on in life. After you learn it, its a skill that will follow you.
/r/seduction31/05/25 01:26 AM
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Haha you're right on the patience. I've blown up many social circles because I was too direct. You'd just get one girl and the whole thing dissolves. Its flying over their heads becaise social circle is very difficult. You just cant make it work if you dont have the fundamentals down. For example, this post assumes that you're attractive. It assumes that you know how to manage frames It assumes you wont get your balls itchy and settle with the first woman that likes you Naturally right, other ar…
/r/seduction31/05/25 01:14 AM
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Good. The library hosts about 40+ articles over 80 thousand words. Probably 80% of answers can be found there. Cheers.
/r/seduction30/05/25 03:36 PM
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Because a mind that cannot differntiate what is AI and what is not, will fail the Turing test and get himself replaced by a robot smarter than him and go broke, begging for social security and crying to the government to regulate AI.
/r/seduction30/05/25 03:34 PM
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Think of infectious presence as how you carry yourself. You look, personality and vibe all contribute. So great that you made the link! Awesome that you can switch between the sexual polarities. You could read my post on masculinity and femininity to deepen those skills even furthur. It's indexed under inner game I believe. Awesome, have fun!
/r/seduction30/05/25 03:09 PM
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No, incorrect. Infectious presence must be a combination of your personality and visual look. It is because of your personality that people take note of you AND THEN, people remember you because of your visuals. Not the other way around. If people comments on your outfit, you are standing out visually, which is good. Any appearance that stands out will do. Yes, people interested in you will engage and will conviniently use your distinctive look as a cold read opener. What you should really aim t…
/r/seduction30/05/25 02:27 PM
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Hi, I'm made aware that it is harder to read on Mobile. Either view this article on your PC or read it from my website. I can do nothing about it, it's on Reddits side.
/r/seduction30/05/25 11:31 AM
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Honestly I have no idea who is right or wrong.
/r/seduction29/05/25 02:53 PM
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No you can't. You need focus in your life to obtain an extraordinary result. If you split your focus, then you'll be average at best on both domains. It's better to just focus on one thing and get it done with. Sure, you can do both, but the results will be lackluster due to the split attention. You have to factor in the time to educate yourself by reading books and finding the right materials to learn, thn you have to go out there and do it. Even after that you probably need to think about what…
/r/seduction29/05/25 04:49 AM
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Like for any other reason. It's hard and takes years of consistent effort. Instead of fighting on one front, he needs to fight on both health and dating. Not easy. At most if you really want to transform that area of your life, you need to focus down on one domain at a time. I've dicussed this in my "principles of success" post. Not a well known one, but the principles will always stand true. What he is looking for is assurance that his subgroub (fat and obsese) can begin the journey of pickup. …
/r/seduction29/05/25 04:34 AM
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I did some asking around and it seems like why there is a divide in the experiemce is because of the style of game. People who perfers direct (like me) will struggle more with texting because texting relies on subtexts and innuendoes, you can only do this well if you're someone who prefers indirect. So eveyone who came out in a revolt in the comments are more likely to do their pickup which leans more indirect, while the people who agreed with me will lean direct.
/r/seduction29/05/25 03:17 AM
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The purple dinasour?
/r/seduction28/05/25 03:40 PM
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Its pinned on my profile, under "quickly find your posts here."
/r/seduction28/05/25 10:25 AM
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Haha awesome! I'm from KL. Mostly bouncing around South East Asia nowdays, exploring the world. Yeah defentely agree that an open mind is the most important thing to success. Sometimes the truth can sound ridiculous. Awesome. Yeah it's important to innovate, but I don't think AI is in a position to transform coaching just yet. Maybe simple stuff like meal plans helping the personal trainers would be useful but not pickup or any deep self help field. I still coach from my own experience and what …
/r/seduction28/05/25 07:21 AM
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Wow! Haha, that's interesting. Now it even sounds like I am totally wrong in this matter. But again, I lack the nuance, I think all beliefs have a little truth to them. Perhaps my personality and my verbal tendenciies makes it so that I suck at texting. I see, I think a partial reason of why I lack texting skills sets is because I am not on the apps. All my experience came from cold approach and social circle, I'm quite a high profile marketeer in Malaysia, so I can afford to do so using my care…
/r/seduction28/05/25 04:53 AM
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You might think this is very cool to share about. To a group of pickup artists you sound like a total nonce. Please practice some discretion and stop sharing about your sexual conquests.
/r/seduction28/05/25 04:46 AM
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You do so by being authenthic and not being ashamed for being a attracted to someone. Society has kind of programmed you to be akward in expressing your sexuality. It's addressed under point #4 in my "top 10 inner game beliefs" post. Technique wise, you do so in the first 5 minutes. Or whenever you feel attracted, and make it man to woman. See my post on the principles of a good approach, under M2W.
/r/seduction28/05/25 04:43 AM
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I have experience with this problem first hand. In fact, it was so traumatizing that I adapted my whole style of pickup so that I maintained my ability to find and maintain healthy relationships. What this meant for me was that I had to pull ideas from philosophy, the mainstream, pickup and spirituality together to form a holistic view of what pickup can offer. Ofc, in this tramutation, I am not really sure that I am still teaching pickup. My style is not geared towards quick sex and hookups. Pr…
/r/seduction28/05/25 04:41 AM
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Great! Only can improve by reflecting on the past. Very good self awareness.
/r/seduction28/05/25 04:29 AM
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You don't know how to countinue a conversation and spike attraction. A nice framework to learn this is in my "how to never run out of things to say - verbal techniques", it would teach you cold reading and all the other tools you can learn. Those are like training wheels, after you learn them you can use them smoothly without thinking about it. On the regards on when you set up the insta date, you do that after hook point. When you can tell she is clearly attracted to you, you use a logistical q…
/r/seduction28/05/25 04:26 AM
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There might be two sides to your problem. it might be so that the way you tease presents itself as insults rather than teasing. Teasing is not the same as criticizing, criticizing is a problem in the mind where you're unhappy with the present moment. So when you are unable to accept whats going on in the present moment, you find something to complain about. This is exaplined in my "major pitfalls of life" post. It might be also the case that you're unable to flirt and tease properly due to your …
/r/seduction28/05/25 04:22 AM
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Thanks for such a detailed reply. You have certainly been able to change my mind. I think what you've highlighted really well is that texting relies a lot on the subtext and what is being subcommunicated. My position is a bit too polarized in one direction. There is certainly a lot more nuance I missed out. I still think that its not possible to generate that initial burst of attraction needed to get her invested into texting. I think it needs to be done via irl or though your pictures online. W…
/r/seduction27/05/25 03:48 AM
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Yeah a lot of people are not getting the nuance of what im saying. If you "can" generate attraction through texting, then the IG spammers would be winning, which is not the case. The real life interaction was always needed before any substantial attraction was built up for a woman to even care about your existence and text you in the first place!
/r/seduction27/05/25 01:25 AM
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For the practical tips on getting to her house, ask logistical questions, "where are you going after this", when she says "back home", just say "can I come with you." Or, schedule a cooking date. If you feel nervous physically escalating, remember that if you do not do so, tension will be lost and she will lost interest in you. If you don't escalate, your chances of meeting again goes to 0%. Second date is already somewhat in the danger zone, pull for sex by the third or she might lose tension b…
/r/seduction26/05/25 03:43 PM
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Well the suggestion is to not give up! See my post on "how to break out of depression", ironically enough, someone under the post said "this is not related to pickup" haha! How ironic.
/r/seduction26/05/25 03:37 PM
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Sounds tough. Where I would start is to just begin doing your first 30 approaches. Just wing them and try your best, after that learn some theory on how to do things and practice them. Maybe you can refer to my post "how to learn pickup" and read the basic inner game/psychology posts. For your past, you need some self love techniques. It's all listed in my self love post, forgiveness, letting go, acceptance, etc, the whole shebang.
/r/seduction26/05/25 03:35 PM
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It is gimmicks. All texting is, is just verbal skills. You can learn flirting and verbal skills in real life. I find the people who have an appeal to "online game" are just lazy people who don't want to put in the work and are looking for a shortcut.
/r/seduction26/05/25 12:51 PM
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Yeah, exactly. You put it into words better than I can. Awesome, really precise distinctions you drew with clarity. My post has more noise.
/r/seduction26/05/25 12:48 PM
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I dont want to argue with you. This is my experience. Simple as that. Texting gimmicks dont work. The tried and true verbal skills like disqualification, push pulls and cold reading still rein supreme. If you found success in texting, good for you. Just share what you do and the community will learn. Dont argue with me, its pointlesss. At this point i think you didnt read what I said. You just read the title and started talking. Never have I said in the post that you cannot escalate in texting, …
/r/seduction26/05/25 09:48 AM
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I think a lot of people mistake their texting success to different factors. The only reason why texting gimmicks work is not because the gimmick work, but because it was some other factor you did that you mistakenly attributed to the gimmick. That's how I see it when I say "you can't build attraction via texting" For texting as a means to an end, we are coming from the same worldview.
/r/seduction26/05/25 08:16 AM
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No, from my experience this is not possible. I build attraction primarily in cold approach (irl) or within the social circle (irl) and take my winnings into the phone to isolate. While I agree its not a universal rule, i highly doubt that high value women will be dating online. There will always be a small portion of lonely people dating online. They just got lucky to meet one another.
/r/seduction26/05/25 08:03 AM
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Hmm thanks for the perspective. Perhaps my texting just sucks and I heavily rely on my cold approach. I will try what you mentioned.
/r/seduction26/05/25 07:58 AM
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Hook point was already achieved when you met at the bar. Eitherway you had to build some attraction first before you went to the phone. If you just texted her out of the blue, it wont work.
/r/seduction26/05/25 07:37 AM
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The message still stands that attraction cannot be built through texting. If that works, then cold approach will go extinct and the Instagram DMers will take all the women. Good texting only maintains whatever attraction you had. It cannot create new found attraction. I'm not saying that texting is a useless tool, you need to learn it but you cannot confuse what function it serves.
/r/seduction26/05/25 07:26 AM
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If I am a really hot woman, would you care where I approached you? You would just be greateful that I approached you right? Same thing. Anywhere where you say "it's okay for an attractive woman to talk to me" is anythwere you can approach women. Please refer to my post on the "top 10 approach anxiety excuses", that will solve your problem.
/r/seduction26/05/25 06:48 AM
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Ahh okay. Why I say asshole creates attraction because they are more authentic and less filtered. When they are less filtered, their flirting is better. The flirting and the verbal skills are the things that create attraction. Learn from the assholes but dont become one is what I'm saying haha. Click on my profile and it's pinned at the top.
/r/seduction26/05/25 06:46 AM
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I dont drink either, I do well at the club just fine. See my guide on nightclubs, inside it's the A-Z on how to win in nightclubs without drinking nor smoking. Clubs are more so for practice, if you're already quite decent and can attract women without much effort, then social circle is the route you want to go. Pickup a few hobbies where you think fitness types will be doing. Rock climbing is a good example, see my post on social circle to see how thats done.
/r/seduction26/05/25 03:16 AM
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Yeah it will take some work. In fact, social circle takes more work compared to cold approach. CA is much more strsightforward and simple.
/r/seduction25/05/25 11:31 AM
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You want to schedule the second date fast. If you have made out, ASD becomes a huge risk. See my post on "how to transition into a relationship" for the logic behind that. No more than 1 week. Keep the texting strong and spike emotions as a bridge into the second date. You did well but you're in the middle of the fire.
/r/seduction25/05/25 09:57 AM
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I think resonably to be a pickup coach you need a masters degree (5 years). To "just be good" enough to get girls is a diploma (2 years). You can refer to my post "how to learn pickup." It structures the progression nicely in a big timeline format. These years and timelines assumes that you are going at it hardcore, and not messing around.
/r/seduction25/05/25 02:27 AM
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See my post on the principles of flirting. Most likely what is happening here is that you are not allowing yourself to feel and expressing emotions fully. Only one post on my library addressess this called "the principles of flirting", frankly I have to go back and rewrite it because when I wrote it back then my writing skills were not too good yet. There are better infographics that presents the info better on my Instagram booklets.
/r/seduction24/05/25 04:16 PM
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If you read the post the answer is already adddressed within that post. I'm not telling you to read that post to inconvinience you, but because that post is over 1.5 thousand words. Inside is already the best understanding I have and the its not practical for me to type it over and over again to the same degree of quality which will be useful to you
/r/seduction24/05/25 03:50 PM
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The brutal truth about this whole situation is that your problem is that you ONLY want to meet women on apps. You're circumventing learning the whole process alltogether. No pain no gain. If you countinue down with this mindset you will countinue to be a virgin. I have like 8 articles under "beginner mindset" and 6 articles under "value" if that will help.
/r/seduction24/05/25 12:02 PM
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Social circle have very different principles and mindset when it comes to it. If you import over your cold approach antics it will implode the group. Read my post on social circle, only the "lead generation part" needs to change, but after you isolate the girl its pretty much the same on what you do in cold approach.
/r/seduction24/05/25 02:21 AM
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Haha you're valuing the time of the coach literally. By paying the coach $100 he might have just saved you hundreds of hours of pain and suffering in the future. This will be very hard to quantify. Just like anything in self development. Eitherway, if you earn a pityful wage its going to be very hard for you to justify a coach. Because hiring one would mean to take a hit on your standard of living. Coaches are for rich people with a surplus of cash with a fixed amount set aside to self improveme…
/r/seduction23/05/25 05:01 PM
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I have like 6 articles under "verbal skills", all of those will benefit your greatly.
/r/seduction23/05/25 03:47 PM
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The only way to induce emotions is through authentcity anyways via the law of state transference. You can't fake emotions, making authenticity a vital component to creating emotions. Authneticity itself is not the thing that mkaes you attractive, but its one of the principles of good flirting. The flirting will create the attraction.
/r/seduction23/05/25 03:04 PM
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Awesome. Enjoy. Put in the numbers you will see the results.
/r/seduction23/05/25 03:02 PM
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Eitherway, you will pay with other currencies. Like your time. Realistically, coaching is for rich people. Even Mark Zuckerberg have a business coach.
/r/seduction23/05/25 02:52 PM
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Nothing has became outdated. It has changed with the times and new standards of society. Fundementally what the techniques aims to achieve is still the same. For example, negging became disqualification. (both wants to create value differential) You'd just have to find what is the most up to date and suitable for you. Even for me, some of the techniques I use are still in the stone age, but thats how I learnt it. So that is how I will teach it. I think my library of articles strikes a good balan…
/r/seduction23/05/25 02:41 PM
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Individuals who are not developed enough to see the value of coaching are not ready for any serious personal development yet. For these people, yes, the money will be better put to improve their lifestyle because they have not gotten the basic self improvement down yet. Once they reach to a point where they develop themselves to a topic like spirituality, it will be almost impossible to go at it alone without a life coach. The most valued resource has not became time yet. They are still at a sta…
/r/seduction23/05/25 02:34 PM
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I think you're jumping the gun when it comes to date setting, trying to force it. See my post on texting, it gives 5 indicators on when is the perfect time to set up the date and the texting philosophy in general. For your situation, the girl is not comfortable coming out with you yet. You spiked her emotions in the moment (which made her say yes), after some time, emotions cooled down and she reconsidered her position (and flaked on you). The only solution you can do is wait for a time for high…
/r/seduction23/05/25 02:28 PM
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I think coaching is worth it, not because I am biased but because I use coaches for everything. From entreprenuership, to fitness, life coaching and therapy. The best coaches go for an hourly rate, and will have a long term mindset with you. He might be your coach for the next few years, so naturally you will cycle through a few before you find one that is right for you. I changed 6 therapists before finding the one I liked for example. The best coaches charge a hourly rate. This way your intere…
/r/seduction23/05/25 02:17 PM
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You must not confuse what I say with being an asshole. Attraction has nothing with being asshole or not. You say this because you msunderstand attraction at its core. Attraction is about spiking emotions. That is the only way for a beginner to generate attraction. I have like a library of over 80 thousand words, I'm sure if you read half of them it will solve your mindset pretty quick. Try the articles "how attraction works", "masculinity and femininity", "top 10 beliefs" and any article indexed…
/r/seduction23/05/25 11:26 AM
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Refer to my post "how to transition into a relationship." That will help.
/r/seduction23/05/25 03:25 AM
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The best places would be places with low consequences. So big public busy areas (city centre) or the club I have a post called "top 10 approach anxiety excuses" or something like that, in there it addressess "bothering others" and how to fix it Good first step on working on yourself. I would say get the pictures long term for your IG, not your dating profile. Especially as a beginner handing our your IG to your cold approaches and then letting them see your interesting life is a DHV. How you can…
/r/seduction23/05/25 12:44 AM
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This has nothing to do with weakness. You just added your own intrepretation. In fact, women find weakness hot via vulnerability. See my post on "how to make women fall in love with you - principles of comfort"
/r/seduction22/05/25 06:12 AM
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I would say this is more of a lack of leadership rather than "niceness as a dating stratergy." It's a little different, although it can certainly be thrown into the "nice guy" bucket.
/r/seduction22/05/25 06:11 AM
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Haha glad you found this short article useful. Thanks for not striking me down.
/r/seduction22/05/25 06:10 AM
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Thats right. It's similar with mwne who try to use their materialistic possessions to get women. Attarction dont work that way. Attarction works based on emotions and the value differential.
/r/seduction22/05/25 06:10 AM
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Try not to be too smart and ignoring the "gist of the message." The only one who benefits from this information is you, not me. I understand this problem to perfect detail.
/r/seduction22/05/25 06:09 AM
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Yeah, most men think they are very smart by being incongruent. Women see through you like glass. It's just that the beginner is so socially oblivious that its even happening to them!
/r/seduction22/05/25 06:07 AM
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Its just called social circle guide on my library. Find it under "domains of pickup." I dont know why the format looks so horrible on mobile, on PC the layout looks fine. Eitherway you can find it there. Squint your eyes for it
/r/seduction22/05/25 05:26 AM
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Yes what a great article. Too bad its not popular
/r/seduction22/05/25 04:20 AM
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A lot of my stidents started in their 30s. What you should be gunning for is the LTR, because you're running out of time. Your high quality selection of women are dwindling fast. So if you'd ask me, yes, quickly start today and get it over with. I have a librayr of over 80 thousnad words and 40 posts. You can slowly skim through them and get a good idea on where to start. In fact there is a post called "how to learn pickup." But I recommend reading the "mindset" posts first like "how attraction …
/r/seduction22/05/25 03:11 AM
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Nobody can give you a good answer. Because what you're asking is a loaded question. It's like walking up to a millionaire and asking him "what made you successful." What is he going to say? You need to ask something more specific to get better feedback. I ahve a library of over 40 posts, 80 thousand words on solving this exact problem. You can slowly read through them and come back with a more precise question.
/r/seduction22/05/25 03:08 AM
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If I were you, I won't make a move. That's great pre-selection right there. See my post on social circle, you just got one going. Don't waste this opportunity by trying to seduce her, what a waste.
/r/seduction22/05/25 03:05 AM
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Sounds like you're in a lot of pain, so I've organized my thoughts carefully to give you a serious reply. I think you have an addiction to approval and validation. When we create a persona around being " a good person" we constantly seek in the world to affirm this identity. So you're really sensitive to praise and criticism at the same time. Just look at the comments on my posts. Opinions and thoughts are truly random. Some people disgaree and some people agree. Realize that you're not actually…
/r/seduction21/05/25 02:51 PM
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Yeah exaclty, you got the gist. You have the real TLDR.
/r/seduction21/05/25 08:00 AM
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Good to point out. Realistically this is just a short article on man to woman communication. I'll do a post on authenticity in the future. Authenticity is a deep topic, so I'll release it as a proper article.
/r/seduction21/05/25 07:55 AM
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This is more peoples pleasing rather than "niceness as a dating stratergy." I have a post on how to reinforce your boundaries if you're a nice guy who struggles with that. It's indexed under "relationship skills"
/r/seduction21/05/25 07:49 AM
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Correct. Humans are just naturally repulsed by fakeness. I'm also not telling you to be a "bad guy." All I'm telling you is to be upfront, genuine and authenthic about you and your intentions. That's why one of the principles of approaching is to make it man to woman in the first 5 minutes. You can be nice, chill and friendly. Just that you have to be authenthic. That's it. (see my post on the principles of approachng)
/r/seduction21/05/25 07:29 AM
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You can replace sex to whatever intention you may have. What women dislike is the secret agenda of the nice guy, to her perspective, it doesn't matter what that agenda is. It will just feel inauthenthic to her and thats all the justification she needs to reject you.
/r/seduction21/05/25 07:16 AM
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I cold read when I run out of things to say. Read my post on verbal techniques, you will literally never run out of things to say after you learn all those techniques. Also sometimes, you just have to vibe and click with the girl you're talking to. If there is too big of a difference between your values, the convo wont flow very well.
/r/seduction21/05/25 04:07 AM
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Bringing value is anything that increases attraction and buy in. Taking value is anything that is the opposite, so think more of comfort. There is a literal term for this called value to comfort ratio. There is a nice infographic called "making girls chase" on my IG, its exaplained visually how it works. You can also read by post on "frames 101 how to make girls chase" but that is more technical and harder to understand unless you have some previous experience.
/r/seduction21/05/25 02:42 AM
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The statements "leave her" and "move on" is used more because most begineers have oneitis. If you're more of an intermediate, then you would be doing the opposite and trying your best to secure the set. Of course, the middle way is to understand when to leave and when to game on. It's not black and white. Beginners is a bigger sample size here, so "move on" helped them more, which then they parrot to other people. "Moving on" is also more so the advice given in PUA by everyone who is still in th…
/r/seduction21/05/25 02:36 AM
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All flirting is is to induce a wide variety of emotions and intensity of those emotions via the law of state transference. Read my post on flirting and verbal techniques to get a good idea. Tjose two posts alone should give you a good map of the entire playground. My IG have some nice visual explanations if you're more of a visual person and like graphs and stuff.
/r/seduction21/05/25 02:33 AM
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Everything is impermanent. There can be no progress without decline. There can be no decline without progress.
/r/seduction21/05/25 02:31 AM
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Logistically escalate. Do a logistical question followed by "can I come with you" or "come with me." Remember, women hate meekness, so better to just shoot your shot rather than fumbling around when she perfectly understands what you're trying to do.
/r/seduction21/05/25 02:29 AM
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This post is singlehandedly one of my best work I have ever produced. This will skyrocket your "value" and will massively help with your pickup. Combined with my outer game posts, you'll be unstoppable!
/r/seduction18/05/25 05:36 PM
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You're not used to sex. You have performance anxiety. Stop using chemical erection enhancers and solve the real problem.
/r/seduction18/05/25 05:11 PM
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Some women just have a hard boundary around age. I have a hard boundary around age, so sometimes this is out of your control. I like to stay within plus minus 4.
/r/seduction18/05/25 03:45 PM
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This is a really terrible position to be in. I don't think pickup alone will be able to help you. You need to take massive action regarding basic self help, PUA is only relaistic for people who graduated from basic self help and put their life together. I do have articles around basic self help. I have a list of 42 best habits and routines to implement into your life which is 4,000 words long. Another one you might find helpful is the depression and anxiety post I posted up a few weeks back. For…
/r/seduction18/05/25 03:41 PM
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Sounds like you struggle with escalation and have limiting beliefs surrounding it. I recommend reading my nightclub guide, escalation and "top 10 inner game beliefs." That would be very comprehensive to solve your problem. Nightgame will become really easy one you get the skills to develop your little framework around it.
/r/seduction18/05/25 03:35 PM
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Sorry I forgot to reply. I was reading your comment before while I was eating. I am a little hesitatant to believe that she will stay purely because of my value. If you'd say it's out third date or second, then yeah. But if you just met at the club, the other guy, skilled enough can easily spike her emotions and take her away. I've certainly done that to others. Sorry! Is there a patch you think can solve this problem? Usually what I do is that I am involved in the DLV process. I don't sit there…
/r/seduction17/05/25 01:44 PM
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Haha dont read all of them, combined it's almost 80 thousand words. I think it leaves people rather confused and overwhealmed. Just read whatever is relavant to you.
/r/seduction17/05/25 01:38 PM
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My big ass is my best feature. I make sure I wear skinny jeans to show them off. Refer to my post on "how attraction works", it will teach you how I came to this conclusion. Jokes aside, you'll find the best part of you in your natural strengths. Just observe what you're good at.
/r/seduction17/05/25 01:26 PM
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I think you're asking a loaded question. Becoming more confident and self assured takes hundreds of approaches before you build all the micro skills to appear that way. I recommend you read my post on the principles of approaching women. Follow that and you'll get better in no time. Recently I made an Instagram as well, and there is a nice little infographic to snap you out of approach anxiety. That could be helpful for you as well.
/r/seduction17/05/25 01:23 PM
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if you had real abundance, this wont be a problem. Externally it might feel like a lot of coming in and "results" are happening, but internally you're just using this as a cope for something else. As long as you cope and try to use materialism to fill the abyss which cannot be filled, you will be in scarcity. The problem with abundance is that you don't really get it until you complete your pickup "journey." Don't want to ruin the surprise for you, but I think most will think it's rather dissapp…
/r/seduction17/05/25 01:21 PM
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Awesome that you tried something new. The gimmicks and routines in MM is outdated. I'd suggest you learn how to do a simple cold read opener and stack a few cold reads after that to countinue the conversation. You can see my post "top 13 approaching blunders." Keep adjusting, do more sets and you'll get there in no time.
/r/seduction17/05/25 01:17 PM
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When this happens I tend to just put away the PUA agenda and switch to more of a no expectations kind of mindset. Just enjoy myself and my own company, eventually my mood will pick up or an opportunity arises and I am able to switch back into the groove again. If thats not possible and you're unable to come to the present moment, then just remember that your next approach can go really well, and that you build state by getting rejected. So the night can only be better hereon forward.
/r/seduction16/05/25 03:10 PM
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You're missing the outer game skills to capture opportunities. Becoming high value is only one part of the equation. My library has 40 articles with 2k words per article on average. Value only gets talked about in 4 of them. General self development is NOT pickup. Pivkup is a niche within self help. Just like entreprenuership, spirituality etc. Frankly just putting your life together is very very basic forms of self help. It's great that you're starting to niche down and practice more specialize…
/r/seduction16/05/25 07:49 AM
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Its okay, just leave them be if they don't want to.
/r/seduction15/05/25 02:18 PM
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Me? Bot? Haha you must be joking. See my profile. Aplogize!
/r/seduction15/05/25 05:26 AM
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Very nice! Thank for sharing. Do you mind if I steal your framework? You have a better one than I have! Question: If the AMOG is good enough he can totally silence and isolate you out if you just chill and let him do this thing in step indefferent. What makes her come back to you? This framework assumes that he will DLV himself.
/r/seduction15/05/25 12:35 AM
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Haha you never know. This could be your next new relavation. I'm not being sarcastic, and I genuinely don't know what this is about. But I like to keep an open mind to new ideas and concepts. That's how you learn.
/r/seduction15/05/25 12:00 AM
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That is one mature woman you just plundered. I always keep in touch with women that I have slept with. Women are not objects you have sex with. They are people and connections you can build. Seems like you took the first intrepretation.
/r/seduction14/05/25 11:58 PM
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Yes I agree that he got himself into a sticky situation. But as a coach, I try to help others think for themselves so they don't make the same mistakes again. I do him no good by creating the answers for him.
/r/seduction13/05/25 02:31 PM
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Everyone standards for what is a red flag is different. You cannot ask me if you have appropriate standards. You have to create these standards yourself and enforce them as boundaries. Take some time to analyse what makes you happy and read my post on boundaries, indexed under relationship skills. No copy and paste solution here unfortunately.
/r/seduction13/05/25 01:42 PM
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My journey to become unabashedly sexual is not a clear cut A to Z roadmap. It's a collection of beliefs that you will have to unravel. I examined the beliefs that I installed from society and my immediate circle, deconstructed those, and installed new beliefs in my "top 10 inner game belief" post. Problem solved.
/r/seduction13/05/25 01:38 PM
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I'm not sure what a durag style turban looks like, but if it's unique that will help with your peacocking, then I suggest you keep it for your style. I wear a construction grade, yellow noise cancelling headphones. Talk about obnoxious! In the club you don't start a convo. You use invitational or physical openers, which means you're going to get rejected a lot. I aim to do about 25 approaches give or take to sink myself into a set with around 3 to 6 receptive women. If that's not your fancy, the…
/r/seduction13/05/25 01:17 PM
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"Me and my friends at the table doing shots drinking fast and then we talk slow"
/r/seduction13/05/25 01:12 PM
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Assess*
/r/seduction13/05/25 12:01 PM
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A lot of my students are 30+, you can still overcome and fix your dating life quickly over the next two years if you really dedicate yourself to it. I have plenty of in depth posts going over the details one by one, you should read through them. I think more so you have to fix your psychology. Your current psychology is counterproductive to dating and relationships, which is reflected in your results.
/r/seduction13/05/25 06:57 AM
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Sounds more like you are more in victimhood than anything else. I cant access your skill level based on what you said, but it also sounds like you have a "Wanting Mind" problem. If you chase materialistic success, your mind just wants more and more. Once you get x, noe you'll move the goalpost and get y. Problem with that is that its never ending and that you'll never be happy. Perhaps take some time for reflection and access what you want for your life. This moving the goalpost thing is more so…
/r/seduction13/05/25 05:48 AM
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Thanks, glad you're finding my stuff useful.
/r/seduction12/05/25 02:40 PM
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Direct openers on the dancefloor are polarizing. Girls cannot judge you other than your "vibe" and looks. In a night I can go up to 15 ~ 25 approaches to sink myself in a set. Perhaps you're just not doing enough approaches in a night. See my post on nightclubs and follow that flow. It describes the process from A - Z, most likely you're doing a mistake within that you didn't notice.
/r/seduction11/05/25 01:13 PM
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To me, the "hot" you've described is rather cold to me 😆 Perhaps you wanna reconsider if you have oneitis intead. See my post why you cant laid (II)
/r/seduction11/05/25 01:07 PM
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Give him the opportunity to escalate. How I would do it as a girl is that I would do incidental kino and let the guy do the overt.
/r/seduction11/05/25 03:18 AM
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Yes, dont chicken out next time. Its the same for both men and women, so you can read my post on the fundamentals fo escalation. That will explain why you chickened out (tension), which you mistaked as flirting - from the womens perspective it's "giving hints" for the man to lead For the question of when and how, you just do it once you feel tension, because tension will defuse once the escalation is sucessful, and the guy have to build more of it (tension) before you can escalate again. For the…
/r/seduction10/05/25 11:45 PM
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Thanks. Glad you enjoyed.
/r/seduction10/05/25 08:09 AM
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Do so with your future projections and include the girl you are talking to in those future projections if you want to signal a LTR. Do less future projections and side towards value based techniques such as disqualification and "making her chase frames 101" if you want to signal something casual.
/r/seduction10/05/25 02:50 AM
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Well, often when motivation burns out and when you are at your wits end with pickup you would want to quit. That's why I defined depression as 3 weeks of consistent sadness and lack of motivation, you usually do little to zero approaches in these periods. You are not experiencing depression, you're just bummed out that an approach didn't work out. I'm sure you got over it the next day. Happens to the best of us. If you are in the game long enough you'll experience these down periods multiple tim…
/r/seduction09/05/25 03:47 PM
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Haha you wont say so when you're about to give up. And you will need this advice when things get tough.
/r/seduction09/05/25 02:38 PM
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If you're doing pickup right, you'll naturally get the player label. No worry, it doesn't mean much. More so a lack of comfort complaint, usually when I hear this I balance out the attraction with comfort. Easy peasy
/r/seduction09/05/25 08:20 AM
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You need to read my post "how to transition into a relationship", it contains the magic tips you want to hear, or in that case read haha. Your problem is that you don't know how to make the transition (the changing of the player frame to the boyfriend frame) so that women will want to stick around.
/r/seduction07/05/25 06:54 AM
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I have your problem first hand. What you do is that you bounce them closer to your home first. Don't immediately pull. Easy peasy.
/r/seduction07/05/25 06:48 AM
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Sounds like a texting blunder. If you drastically cool down the amount of texting you do after the date the girl will assume that you lost interest in her. You need to maintain the level of texting you did pre-date. See my post on texting for the theory. Potentially another problem you could have made is that you've overescalated. Keep the physical escalation light until you actually arrive at the location of sex. See my post on how to transition into a relationship, if you force her into the bo…
/r/seduction07/05/25 06:42 AM
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Bravo. Welcome to the light.
/r/seduction07/05/25 01:38 AM
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My recommendation is that you dont have sex with these serious type girls unless you are serious about her. If you are, more comfort helps and prevents LMR. Even if you do escalate fast on the first date, ASD will happen and you lose the girl eitherway. See my post on how to transition into a relationship. Delay escalation if you need more time to build more comfort. 7 hours is the rule of thumb, but I will air on the side of 9 hours. See my post on how to build comfort and follow the principles…
/r/seduction07/05/25 01:31 AM
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How I would approach her is to say "hey do you wanna read something?" After that I whip out the article "why you can't get laid (II)" and read with her together. After we finish reading, I would turn to her and ask "do you think what he said is true?" You can grab her number and discuss more about it after the fact. Jokes aside, how I would approach the situaton is to not approach her at all, and find somewhere else where there is no consequences to me practicing how to approach women. Please re…
/r/seduction06/05/25 06:16 AM
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Anti slut defense. Please refer to my post on "calibration", jump to #4.
/r/seduction06/05/25 05:37 AM
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Second this. I've also experienced something similar. I just explained it that pre-selection carries on to the next day haha. Unfortunately I dont think many people can carry through with this advice because most people are not socially competent enough to generate this kind of result. Building up a reputation at the club is defentely something for the "matured or retired PUA" From my experience this can be unbelieveably quick. Especially with my spammer approach method doing 40+ approaches per …
/r/seduction06/05/25 02:27 AM
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Well first you hve to regulate your own emotions. If you have to come here to vent, it already indicates very low emotionl regulation skills. See my post on victimhood and overcoming depression. After you deal with that, then you can learn pickup. See my post "how to learn pickup" and follow its advice.
/r/seduction06/05/25 02:21 AM
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Escalation depends on how much kino you have done, but also the logistical context. You cannot do a big makeout in the middle of bowling. Well you can, but you wont see her on the next date because of ASD. I like to escalate to the location of sex before I do any kissing. This is in the daygame context of course, for nightgame this is different. I dont have a pre-established post that talks about this. So you just have to go off the words I explain here.
/r/seduction06/05/25 02:18 AM
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Haha only you. This can be learnt. I'm not cooked, in fact I'm in an amazing position to capture the opportunities in todays world. Rewards is only reaped by people who walk the trodden path
/r/seduction06/05/25 02:05 AM
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Haha, dont fall into the toxic masculinity trap. Sometimes a girl is worth chasing and having some patience for. You can perfectly "chase a girl" and retain your self respect. Self respect is not something that is happening in the external world, but its something internal. Read the book by nathiniel brandon - six pillars of self esteem When you reach a high level of pickup, the problem will no longer become getting girls. It becomes about sourcing for high quality girls. When you do find a high…
/r/seduction06/05/25 02:03 AM
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There is no such thing as "the one piece of advice." This topic is huge and have distinct skill gaps depending on where you are. It's like walking up to a millionaire and asking him "what is the one piece of advice that can make me a millionaire." What he is going to say will not be very helpful. What you should do instead is to go out in field, just wing it and come back to ask really specific questions. This way people can offer concrete help and offer proper advice. People don't know how to h…
/r/seduction05/05/25 12:34 PM
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That's great. You can rephrase that to "why you can't get a girlfriend." You're still making the same blunders.
/r/seduction05/05/25 12:27 PM
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Hey, I think you should desperately read my post "why you cant get laid"
/r/seduction05/05/25 07:52 AM
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Haha thanks. Personally my favorite post I've written is "how to invest in your partner." Its indexed under "relationship skills" under my library. I managed to totally transform my girlfriend using that post. Unfortunately, not a very popular post, but defenetely the most impactful.
/r/seduction05/05/25 07:50 AM
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What? Who say?
/r/seduction05/05/25 07:44 AM
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I managed to reconcile the two and now I use pickup as a means to find connection. I think I'm the only coach who can teach both pickup and relationship skills at a high level. Unfortunately, my relationship content performs way way way poorer compared to my PUA content. Most people are just simply not interested in long term meaningful relationships. It takes a more mature mind to understand that pickup is not used to increase your lay count. So theres the answer to your question. Its not a PUA…
/r/seduction05/05/25 07:30 AM
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Haha! Nice one.
/r/seduction05/05/25 07:26 AM
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I think a lot of men are projecting their resentment of women unto you in the comment haha. Dont entertain them, they are not the ones who are successful. How i teach my students how to approach women is to let the girl evaluate you for herself. We try to seek for consent indicators so that we know we can countinue the interaction. Being shy is no problem. On your end what you need to do is just give consent indicators next time. Smiling, and trying to extend the conversation is good enough. Sho…
/r/seduction05/05/25 07:21 AM
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Please refer to my post "principles on approaching" It will lay out 11 principles you have to follow for women to find your approach "attractive"
/r/seduction05/05/25 07:08 AM
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You're not supposed to be talking to girls when the music is loud. Focus on physical/invitational openers and rely of escalation rather than verbals. See my post on nightclubs. It gives you the full flow A-Z on what to do and how to do it. For your hearing protection, I use two earplugs. The small one and layer another earmuffs on the outside, the type construction workers use. Good for peacocking as well.
/r/seduction05/05/25 07:04 AM
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Whats happening is that you're able to get hook point because you can do a strong approach. Good, acknowledge that. You lose the attraction after the fact because your verbals are poor. Read my articles on the principles of flirting and verbal techniques. The most important is the core four. Cold reads, Q/DQs and storytelling. You HAVE attraction, but you're losing it after the fact.
/r/seduction05/05/25 07:01 AM
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This is a two set. In a two set you have to entertain both girls at the same time. What you should have done is to take this group and merged it into a bigger mixed set. The bigger mixed set will be welcoming you with open arms since that you are bringing in two girls. This way the sister won't be left out and you can game the one you want in peace. You can't escalate in front of the sister anyways, that will trigger ASD. I don't have a post for you to refer on this one, maybe I should write one…
/r/seduction04/05/25 04:16 PM
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Thank you. I'm always hot. To humans, animals, plants and machines.
/r/seduction04/05/25 03:51 PM
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Haha that's why it's called the three deadly sins. Once you're in you can't get out. Bascially what is happening is that she is now confused about you. Sorry to say but there is no recovery sequence that I know of. This situation is unfortunately over, I was never able to recover once I was in it. If you do find a way to recover, please let me know. I too am also looking for a solution. Best advice is the prevention method I highlighted in the post. It does require some pre-requisite skills like…
/r/seduction04/05/25 01:37 PM
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The answer to this is really easy if you think of it critically. Just evaluate someone based on their incentives and needs, it will get you out of trouble in any domain of life, not just pickup. I'll explain using the pickup perspective. The person who needs help wants good advice and guaidance. The person who is providing the advice wants your business. These are the incentives. Now lets think of it critically: (1) If you are really good at pickup, you wont be here to give free advice. (2) If t…
/r/seduction04/05/25 01:31 PM
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Even so, for you to know that it is an "informed opinion" requires you to know something about the subject, you are still evaluating based on what you know. The challenge comes when you don't know. I have dentists A, B, C in front of me with different opinions. Well, who should I listen to? Even if A and C agree, I can't discount B because sometimes the minority is right. You're right that expertise is valuable, because that is a reflection of experience. But, who is "more likely to be correct" …
/r/seduction04/05/25 12:48 PM
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What he means is that you should evaluate how good the advice is for yourself. So when you are a neutral/original thinker, you dont have to rely on credentials and experience. Problem with advice epistemologically is that advice is written from a singular perspective and how the writer understands the world. This results in fragmented truths that may not be complete for you. The challenge becomes which perspectives are the most signal/noise and how to combine it in a way where it becomes clear. …
/r/seduction04/05/25 12:19 PM
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Goodjob on doing your first couple of approaches. Mostly in these beginning phases you're just battling your own emotions and insecurities. Limiting beliefs will pop up and you will slowly have to eradicate those as well. On what you should practice cold approaching, you should practice the principles of approaching. See my post on that. Inside there is 11 principles that you must get right for women to consider your approach "good." Also, don't approach people who are working.
/r/seduction04/05/25 03:11 AM
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Nothing wrong with this. When someone steps on your boundaries you have the right to offend. Usually I don't even offend, because it ruins my mood. I just smile and move on. It's a waste of time to be thinking about these kind of people. What you should notice that you feel better for enforcing your boundaries. This is not so much "disrespect" per say, but its more so on the standards on how you want others to treat you. Refer and see my post on boundaries, maybe you can implement some of the te…
/r/seduction04/05/25 03:07 AM
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The three second rule is a thing to help combat approach anxiety. It doesn't literally mean that you have to close the diatnce with the girl in under three seconds. What it means is that you should take 3 seconds between noticing the girl and taking some sort of action, in your case, that would be running up and taking to the girl. See my post on the principles of approaching.
/r/seduction04/05/25 03:04 AM
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index* Primarily this problem is posed as a side effect of overescalation or underecsalation. Overescalation meaning that if you do something that she normally won't do with her boyfriend, she will prematurely put you into the boyfriend frame. You prevent this by purposefully delaying escalation, build sufficient comfort for the pull and escalate all the way all at once when you are at the location of sex. Underescalation also puts you in the same position because if you don't escalate, emotions…
/r/seduction03/05/25 03:40 PM
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Please refer to my post "social circle guide." Also, the post "top reasons why you cant get laid"
/r/seduction03/05/25 12:35 AM
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If its the unreactive type of trauma sharing, like just sharing about past history and what happened is okay. Its part of their life story, in which I will just respond with the principles of building comfort (see my post for that) If its the reactive type of trauma sharing, such as calling you to be her therapist because she potentially wants to cut herself, you need to repond with the principles of love (see my post for that) If its the reactive type of truama sharing, usually I'll stop the pi…
/r/seduction03/05/25 12:32 AM
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Talking about your day is comfort building. You respond with comfort building techniques. See my post on "how to make a woman fall in love with you - comfort" All the comments on how you should ignore this type of messages, or send any sort of asshole sounding messages dont get laid. Comfort is an essential process of any set. Probaly girls that do this is a little more clingy. Make sure to countinue to escalate for this kind of emotional access. The boundary is escalation for comfort, however s…
/r/seduction03/05/25 12:14 AM
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You fell into one of the three deadly sins. Basically what is happening is that it is an ASD reaction because you have improperly set up the boyfriend frame. To avoid this next time, please refer to my "how to correctly transition into a relationship" post. For this situation, there is little to nothing you can do. She have conflicted feelings about you and you will need to let her resolve it on her own. What I will probably do is to double down on comfort and intimacy (see my post on comfort) a…
/r/seduction02/05/25 12:24 PM
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You can follow the principles of love and follow my guide on how to deeply invest in your partner. Create the future you want together and work as a team to get it. Develop great communication skills and experience new things together. There is plenty of things you can do after you make her your girlfriend. You can basically more or less fade all these pickup knowledge into the background, and stop "gaming" her.
/r/seduction02/05/25 12:14 PM
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Thank you!
/r/seduction02/05/25 12:48 AM
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Masculinity and femininity has nothing to do with changing your persona. In fact, becoming more feminine make you more masculine. You cant force yourself to become more "masculine" on the spot, you just come in with what you have. Even if she says it as a shit test, just be unreactive. Masculinity and femininity is something you develop to become stronger and stronger over time. They are like gravitational fields, its not something you can calibrate infield.
/r/seduction02/05/25 12:09 AM
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When a woman says you look gay, she is not actually saying that you look gay. What she is saying that you FEEL gay. Meaning you're too feminine. See my post "masculinity and femininity explained." Just integrate more masculinity into your character. There is nothing wrong with being more feminine, just that you need to balance it out with some masculinity. Best to place youself in the middle and be equally masculine and feminine at the same time. Skew in which ever way you need depending on the …
/r/seduction01/05/25 02:45 PM
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Oneitis. Please refer to my post "why you cant get laid (II)"
/r/seduction01/05/25 01:34 AM
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You ran out of emotional steam, and she automatically transitioned and forced you into the boyfriend frame. This is basically the second deadly sin in my "how to transition into a relationship post." Not a dead end but it requires a lot of skill to reengage, double down on your comfort and intimacy but you need to bring back the tension.
/r/seduction30/04/25 02:05 PM
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You got it the other way around. See my post "how attraction works" so you get clear before starting. I think people pay way too less attention to understanding the correct female psychology and then they wonder why they keep banging their heads over and over again. Just get it right the first time no matter how bizzare or unbelieveable it may seem to you and just reap the results faster. That's what the begineer wants eitherway, so why waste your time debating with experienced people when you h…
/r/seduction30/04/25 01:58 PM
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I don't think this is true. If this is true, 80% of the world will be out of luck. Everyone thinks that they are really good in bed until they hear feedback from their partners. Sure, having great sex is helpful to keep her around, but she cares way more of your relationship skills rather than your sexual abilities. A bonus, but not a must.
/r/seduction30/04/25 05:05 AM
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Defentely, that's what I've disliked about all the other texting posts. It seems a bit too robotic for me, and it's very hard to create "outer game techniques" for texting. Texting defentely seems to be more of an inner game skill. Congruence is the best way to go.
/r/seduction30/04/25 05:02 AM
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Thanks
/r/seduction30/04/25 05:02 AM
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Glad you enjoyed. It's effective anywhere, but you need a lot of practice to get the principles right. So this is defentely not a quick fix. I recommend that you check back into this post once in awhile as you do more and more approaches. This is the best way to use my guides.
/r/seduction30/04/25 04:59 AM
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Do social circle then. Spend more time at university. But the mentality is different, so be careful to not develop a bad reputation.
/r/seduction30/04/25 04:56 AM
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You do the same thing as what you did in the opener. You want to stack cold reads to countinue the conversation. When you notice that she reaches hook point, you want to do a round of Q/DQ. See my post "never run out of things to say every again - list of verbal skills." You mostly have a verbal skills problem. It's common after people learn approaching. It's just logical right, now you've figured out how to not get blown out you need to figure out what to say. Combine the verbal skills post wit…
/r/seduction30/04/25 04:54 AM
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Just read my approaching principles post and put it to work. That's really how you get started. Combine it with the nightclub post for more effectiveness. Since you're free most of the days, this will be fastest way to get what you want.
/r/seduction30/04/25 04:51 AM
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Harder. You want to find a long term girl around your age. The pool will shrink dramatically, in fact it already has. The goal of pickup is to find a long lasting partner anyways, so success should mean that you find a partner that you can respect and grow together for the rest of your life. Do not get mistaken that success is having sex. At your age thats the last thing you should be concerned about. Get the long term girl and have sex all day and everyday if thats all you want. But you are not…
/r/seduction29/04/25 04:43 PM
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Nightgame is the capital to meet your age group. Learn how to hit clubs solo and meet women, go to a college club and you'll be likely to score a high quality girl. You can't really tell the trajectory of these women when they are so young. See my nightclub post. It lists from A - Z of what you need to do. The pre-requisite of that is that you need to learn the principles of approaching. I've written a post on that too. This ensures that you do the approaches properly. You wont have time to be b…
/r/seduction29/04/25 04:40 PM
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To create a real abundance mindset, you have to increase your value and know for a fact that you would regret rejecting yourself. To be in a position to give so much value that it would be stupid for anyone to reject you. Easier said than done. It has nothing to do with your SMV, pure value or your material possessions. Its all about how you treat your girlfriend in a relationship. Your ability to completely transform a persons life in such an amazing way. See my post on how to invest in your pa…
/r/seduction29/04/25 11:17 AM
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Your words pass through too many filters before you speak them. Start just saying things as you think of it, that will help you move towards emotional conversation. It doesn;t have to make any sense whatsoever, as long as it induces the correct emotions such as humour or fun. See my post on the fundamentals to flirting, and follow the principles within.
/r/seduction29/04/25 07:03 AM
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There is some universal beliefs that is helpful to pickup, those are listed in my "top 10 beliefs" post. Most people however have a big list of limiting beliefs as well that are specific to them, so you either have to unwind those yourself or get someone to help you to do that, like a therapist or coach. Beleifs eitherway are just something you build infield, as you get results, subconciously your beliefs will reflect that to some degree.
/r/seduction29/04/25 01:01 AM
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See my post on "how to make girls chase - frames 101." Inside are a list of detailed techniques to build the frames you need to make women chase. With a few months of practicing you can start implemnting the frames subconciously in your approaches.
/r/seduction28/04/25 04:15 PM
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It doesn't matter if you look sharp or rough. The predictor to a successful approach is by following the principles of approaching. On average I will have more successful approaches looking like a beggar compared to the beginner in a suit. See my post on the principles of approaching women. Regardless, the only way to set up your apperance is when you are consciously going out to do sets. Sometimes an opportunity will appear out of nowhere and it doesn't care if you're looking good or looking li…
/r/seduction28/04/25 04:13 PM
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It got easier when I figured out the principles of approaching women. It also got easier as I succeeded more.
/r/seduction28/04/25 04:41 AM
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Notice that she is not as special as she seems. See my post on why you cant get laid (II), oneitis is the first thing I talk about.
/r/seduction28/04/25 04:38 AM
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For women to open up to you you have to make her feel emotionally safe. Most women don't feel totally emotionally safe unless you have a boyfriend frame up. So the real answer is that she wont fully open up to you unless she sees you as someone who have long term potential potentially 2 ~ 3 months after your in a relationship. You have to kickstart this process by following my comfort principles. See my post on that. After there is signs that she will open up emotionally, you can transition towa…
/r/seduction28/04/25 04:35 AM
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Haha thanks for the kind words. I hope you can implement the advice shared in the post.
/r/seduction27/04/25 01:29 PM
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I think the real question is why 90% of the women you slept with ended badly? You are asking the cure for the symptom not the cause
/r/seduction27/04/25 01:27 PM
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If you like your job why sacrifice it? You can do cold approach in the daygame or nightgame setting, and I'm sure you can find way more pretty girls compared to in hostels. Its not that difficult to learn cold approach, after like 50 approaches or so approach anxiety will fade. Just read my posts as you encounter different problems along the way.
/r/seduction27/04/25 01:26 PM
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Yours, of course.
/r/seduction27/04/25 01:01 PM
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You need to logistically escalate in your situation. That is what you should focus on. Pickup automatically sets you into the player frame. Usually girls who are looking for something serious needs a little bit of comfort and sometimes reassurance by building a bit of a boyfriend frame.
/r/seduction27/04/25 12:58 PM
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Amen.
/r/seduction26/04/25 09:50 AM
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Inexperience makes them more voliatile and insecure. Sometimes younger women can do irratic things that you will not be able to explain - caused by insecurities that you will only be able to know through the use of comfort. But you can avoid these landmines easily if you follow the principles in my comfort post, learn to "dig" these insecurities out and generally avoid them. But you must not confuse age with experience. They can be 20 years old and have more experience picking up guys than exper…
/r/seduction26/04/25 09:24 AM
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All my students are above 30. Some even 40. As long as you put in the hours and invest the time into it, you'll be quite successful within 2 years. Some students even start to see success within the first month or second. You can see my post "how to learn pickup" and follow that progression. You should probably take the process more seriously and get it done within 2 years or less. Maybe invest in some books, your health, a coach and any other thing thats relavant because time is running out for…
/r/seduction26/04/25 09:13 AM
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In a niightgame scenario, direct approaches are more effective. This also means that you will need to approach a lot because the direct manner of approaching will cause you to increase your rejection rate. Try to aim about 25 approaches per session, this guarentees that you will hook at least 2 to 6 women. Hook point is a another thing, you need to be able to identify which women are attracted to you and which ones are not. So you can move on quickly and try to stick into a set by 1am. If you do…
/r/seduction26/04/25 09:05 AM
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Real coaches dont sell a course. People are too different to generalize things. The best coaches are the ones that do it like therapy or if its more hands on, bootcamps.
/r/seduction25/04/25 05:07 PM
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The purchasing power of the pickup community is not big. So coaches leave once their passion runs out, mostly because if they were to do it for the money, they can easily use their skillsets into more scaleable business models. This is especially true after they get worn out by the community. Either by the fustration of dealing with limiting beliefs and begineers or being generally unappreciated for the value and expertise they bring to the table. Think about it, coaches have like 5 to 10 years …
/r/seduction25/04/25 04:58 PM
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Correct. All the better reason to stop wasting time collecting numbers.
/r/seduction25/04/25 08:53 AM
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See my post on escalation. It describes tension and the basics of kino.
/r/seduction25/04/25 05:45 AM
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Check out my post "why you cant get laid (II)", inside are the 10 guarenteed reasons why people struggle with dating. Read that and implement the solutions, that will give you the mindset shift you need. Stop suffering!
/r/seduction25/04/25 05:43 AM
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I think those detials are irrelavant. The facts are that she left another guy to dance with you after you did a strong confident approach and achieved hook point with her. Stop wasting your time with getting numbers. You clearly missed out on an opportunity. If you have escalated and built comfort in that night you would be the one walking out with her. See my post on nightclubs and dont make the same blunder again.
/r/seduction25/04/25 05:41 AM
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Sometimes people tend to overexxagerate the abundance mentaility. "Dont want to text girls and act busy." I find that to be counterproductive. Text her so long as you are free and have nothing to do. This keeps the frequency of texts the same until the date. Women assume you become uninterested after you ignore them for 3 days. You'd also want to schedule dates as quickly as possible so that emotions dont wear off. See my post on texting if that will help.
/r/seduction24/04/25 02:30 PM
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Possible diagnostics I will try is: Making them horny and withold sex until the 2nd date. Build more value and let her initiate. You just logistically escalate. Can be done with a lot of tension. After sex, transition more into a boyfriend frame. I find that this tends to reassure the girl somewhat. Especially those that are emotionally vulnerable, they would rather self eject than let their hearts broken. Try those. I had your problem before, but I solved it with comfort. Not sure if this will …
/r/seduction24/04/25 02:24 PM
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Usually you are the one to make it fun. See my post on flirting. It dont really matter where you go as long as you can logistically escalate. If your verbals are weak, you can do more distracting dates like the arcade, rock climbing, bowling. I've even brought girls rooftopping, but thats dangerous and you should know what you are doing.
/r/seduction24/04/25 02:13 PM
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Good job. Sometimes you'll just have to keep going to see the results. We often expect it too quickly and change too many things. I read a paper once that when we change something, it instantly causes a 25% decrease in performance. Dont change things unless you really need to. Be patient, practice the principles and the results will come.
/r/seduction24/04/25 02:08 PM
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This is just inexperience, you have no idea what to expect next. Next time your monkey brain tells you that, ignore it and do it anyway. After a few reps you will calm down and at least have some expectation of what may happen, good or bad.
/r/seduction23/04/25 02:01 PM
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Haha yes, I'll post a few short series on mindset when it comes to mind.
/r/seduction23/04/25 04:20 AM
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Awesome.
/r/seduction23/04/25 04:19 AM
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I think the context of which you speak is nightgame. usually for nightgame you pull within the same night, see my post on nightclubs. You don't go for numbers and women at clubs and bars hand out their numbers freely, that doesn't meant that they are attracted to you. Most likely what is happening is that your approaches suck, or if they dont, then your verbal skills suck. Read a combination of my approaching, flirting and verbal skills guide. This should sufficiently solve your problem.
/r/seduction23/04/25 04:15 AM
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You need to learn hook point IOIs. You get better by approaching more and making distinctions between girls that havee achieved hook point and girls that did not. Simple as that
/r/seduction23/04/25 04:12 AM
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Follow my approaching post and practice the principles inside. That will keep you afloat for the first 15 minutes of the interaction.
/r/seduction22/04/25 05:21 AM
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See my post "how to learn pickup." Your question is too vague. Read that and ask another one.
/r/seduction22/04/25 03:22 AM
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I dont think women are very picky. They just have a lack of opportunities which make it seem like they are picky. Not so good for those who are defined as "the lack of opportunity"
/r/seduction22/04/25 03:13 AM
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See my escalation post. It has the answers you seek. Just follow the flow inside, pretty straightforward.
/r/seduction22/04/25 03:10 AM
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This is a difficult question to answer but certainly an interesting one because it tackles two conflicting problems at the same time. When the AFC get rejected over and over again, this certainly does not feel very fun for the AFC and might worsen his mental afflictions. Unless the cause for his mental health problems are due to the lack of abundance in the AFCs dating life, in which case the AFC should then proceed learning pickup since that will kill two birds in one stone. If the paragraph wr…
/r/seduction21/04/25 02:06 PM
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Welp, you said it for yourself. Just enjoy your life then and dont worry about women, because I dont think anything can be done. Try your luck in your small city and hope for the best.
/r/seduction21/04/25 01:35 PM
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Oneitis. Nothing to do with pickup. Pickup can't help you, well it can but not in the way YOU think. Refer to my post "why you cant get laid (II)"
/r/seduction21/04/25 12:55 PM
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What I make my students do is to carry a notebook and write down the reason on why they didn't approach. Usually after awhile they will gather like 30 answers, then I will address their limiting beliefs one by one until the problem is resolved.
/r/seduction21/04/25 04:19 AM
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If you've managed to walk for 5 miles without boring her out, your problem is not flirting. You lost her because you didn't escalate and she got bored. Please refer to my post "how to pull girls in one day - principles of escalation"
/r/seduction21/04/25 04:17 AM
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Go get another one.
/r/seduction21/04/25 04:14 AM
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You will never fill that gap in your soul with someone else. You need to fill that hole up yourself. To do that, refer to my post on self love and do the techniques inside. You will forever be needy and require to compensate through the enviorement if you allow this to fester.
/r/seduction21/04/25 04:14 AM
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Now do it again and prcatice my list of approaching principles. Refer to my post "Step by step on how to approach women well"
/r/seduction21/04/25 04:11 AM
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Aggressively cockblock the refridgerator. At that point you can have some level of entitlement. Dont be afriad to look needy and protect your girl. See my post on nightgame under the section "AMOGs" The prevention is to become friends and make them like you before this happens.
/r/seduction21/04/25 01:05 AM
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Well this is capitalism. Everything is pay to play. If ypu cant afford it increase your earning potential or get a life coach who can help you in this domain.
/r/seduction21/04/25 12:56 AM
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I will amend the post for reason #11 - unwilling to move
/r/seduction20/04/25 04:22 PM
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Could be because of your geography. Move to a bigger city for 1 or 2 years if you have to and really focus on improving. Because once you're good, you don't have to do the hard work anymore.
/r/seduction20/04/25 03:29 PM
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I already have a free guide that is more superior and informative than any paid products. That post is called verbal techniques.
/r/seduction20/04/25 03:28 PM
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I've already done so. One of my first posts is about the principles of approaching. Follow that and practice everything said inside.
/r/seduction20/04/25 03:27 PM
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Awesome. Thanks.
/r/seduction20/04/25 03:26 PM
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You need to move to a bigger city.
/r/seduction20/04/25 03:26 PM
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Yes, get to work! I've highlighted your problems perfectly. You'd be surprised that this "begineers" post still apply for me today. Fundemental concepts you just simply have to do.
/r/seduction20/04/25 03:26 PM
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Very good! This is an amazing first step. Your city is just not a good enviorement to practice, and a trip can really open you up to possibilities that you might be unaware of. Although I would say that you would not be able to achieve much, just try approaching as much as you can. It will suck. This is a tricky problem because once you get home you will not be able to practice anymore. Usually, pickup is done as a bonus side quest when travelling. I would say the best use of your time is to fig…
/r/seduction20/04/25 03:17 PM
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This is true for all counter-intuitive truths. I spend a lot of time trying to convey my ideas concisely in my posts and its a real challenge. Personally I think the most powerful concepts cannot be written down or communicated. I've tried. People have to learn this through experience, and i can only guide them close to it the best I can.
/r/seduction20/04/25 12:33 PM
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Personally, I this article is a work of art.
/r/seduction20/04/25 05:16 AM
1

Routines? How do you mean?
/r/seduction20/04/25 03:32 AM
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If you're just going about your day you can just make the set go for as long as possible. It takes about 8 to 15 minutes to make a number solid with a girl that achieved hook point. You can quickly tell if a girl doesnt reach hook point in 2 to 5 minutes. Just self eject if that happens. If going to the gym and making yourself look better made you better with women, it likely helped eith your confidence. So maybe thats what you lacked before. Haha its alright. You'll figure it out slowly. Proble…
/r/seduction20/04/25 01:03 AM
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The solution to this is that you'll have to be a better judge of character. Make a list of the similarities between guys who will just use you compared to guys who signals commitment before sex. I guarentee that the latter list is a list of men who display less attractive traits, and thats why you sabotage yourself. You can check my post on boundaries if that will help you stop. You'd have to go for the counter intuitive move if you want to break your cycle. Clearly it is some pattern of things …
/r/seduction19/04/25 03:45 PM
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Flirting is defined as the delta of emotions you can spike + the amount of emotions you can induce. That is the objective. See my post on the principles of flirting
/r/seduction19/04/25 12:33 PM
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That doesn't take any effort at all. I can just tell if a girl reaches hook point with her eye contact. This is an essential concept, if you dont learn hook point all your cold approaches will suffer
/r/seduction19/04/25 11:39 AM
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True. But the key point is that you need to identify it, if it doesn't happen then you dont even ask for their number and politely eject yourself.
/r/seduction19/04/25 09:44 AM
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No no, i am not talking about attraction. I am talkimg about hook point, there is a difference.
/r/seduction19/04/25 09:09 AM
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🙌
/r/seduction19/04/25 07:54 AM
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No worries
/r/seduction19/04/25 07:54 AM
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I have a student currently in the UK, its a great place to game, especially london. One of the best. London constantly refreshes itself with new people due to it being a major entreprenuership/financial hub, and plenty of people walking around especially in the Tube.
/r/seduction19/04/25 07:12 AM
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See my post on how to learn pickup and follow the progression levels. It tells you exactly what to do step by step.
/r/seduction19/04/25 07:11 AM
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Its common if you consistently can't manage to achieve hook point. See my post on outer game for the list of indicators. The solution is to spend more time in the approach, roughly 15 minutes to make it solid. See my post on daygame for that.
/r/seduction19/04/25 07:10 AM
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27 is still okay. Conirmation bias. You need to start cold approaching more, some girls give that as an excuse to reject you softly.
/r/seduction19/04/25 06:58 AM
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Walk outside and you walk past hundreds of people everyday.
/r/seduction19/04/25 06:57 AM
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Yes indeed. Will answer 80% of this subs questions.
/r/seduction19/04/25 06:57 AM
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Could be your age. If you're older you tend to meet more married women on average. I'd say you need to mix between social circle and cold approach when you're 30+
/r/seduction19/04/25 03:03 AM
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Goodjob
/r/seduction19/04/25 02:52 AM
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Thank you for your help
/r/seduction19/04/25 02:51 AM
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You most likely lack a few of them.
/r/seduction19/04/25 02:50 AM
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Thanks
/r/seduction19/04/25 02:50 AM
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They dont see you as someone who they can be with long term. We as men are forced to escalate for women to even give us a chance, so we spark attraction and etc to even get a chance to know the girl but if we discover we don't like them we just disengage and stop escalating. The mature ones will let you know hes not interested.
/r/seduction18/04/25 04:32 PM
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If solely using money? I would use the money to get access to certain social circles, particularly those that are entreprenuers as well, I find those girls to be very high quality. Run standard social circle game. Another way is that I would buy education, courses, books, mentors or a coach. Whatever you can get your hands on, similar process to learning entreprneuership. Other than that, not much. As long as you approach and practice your skills, money will be irrelavant to how much success you…
/r/seduction17/04/25 04:02 PM
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Doing cocky funny or "swagger" is an inner game thing. Its the belief that everyone wants you to some degree and having a sense of entitlement mixed in with good verbal techniques. See my post on the top 10 inner game beliefs,
/r/seduction16/04/25 07:44 AM
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In regards to your deep fustration and anger, thats because you have unresolved trauma. See my post on self love and practice the techniques inside to get a solution. In regards to your comparison of "progress" with others reagrding your dating progress, dont bother. Everyone has their own timeline, and you similarly, have achieved in certain things that others wish that they have done earlier. You just started late, but start today. You can see my post on "how to learn pickup" The reason why an…
/r/seduction16/04/25 07:41 AM
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Thats because you dont know the outer game techniques when it comes to building comfort. You can see my post on comfort and practice the principles inside.
/r/seduction16/04/25 07:32 AM
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Very good! Start with approaching and combine it into the nightgame enviorement. See my post on approaching and nightclubs and practice them while you get fit.
/r/seduction16/04/25 07:31 AM
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Its difficult anywhere if you suck. The easiest will always be the country that culturally alligns with you. That is the real answer
/r/seduction16/04/25 07:30 AM
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Openers lie on a spectrum from direct to indirect. Yours is really really direct, unsuitable for daygame situations. Daygame openes see the most success in the cold read direct to situational opener ranges. However, iyour opener will work for nightgame.
/r/seduction16/04/25 07:28 AM
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This kind of girl requires you to use the technqiues I laid out in my frames 101 post. If you cant do them just cold approach a different girl.
/r/seduction16/04/25 07:26 AM
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Awesome. You've peaked my curiosity, I will check it out. Thanks
/r/seduction15/04/25 03:13 PM
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No worries. Get someone to keep you accountable
/r/seduction15/04/25 08:15 AM
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No. I said to observe buy in signals before you set up the date.
/r/seduction15/04/25 04:49 AM
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No no, we never judge. Only encourage.
/r/seduction15/04/25 03:03 AM
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It is fucking over with your brain. Escalation is taught in nightclubs, getting better at escalation is just the number of reps you get at the nightclub and this skill will transfer over to the other domains like daygame or social circle etc. See my post on nightclubs to learn the full flow and go practice it. Letting her win you over or going after the chase is a microcalibration issue. It depends on the girl and her psychological profile, this is not feasible for you to do at your skill level,…
/r/seduction15/04/25 02:58 AM
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Hahaha, a new one. From cashier to dentist.
/r/seduction15/04/25 02:54 AM
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Hello I'd hate to say it to you but that girl probably doesn't like you if you need to wait 4 years. In 4 years, people can go from zero to a millionaire if they worked hard enough. So just through your own direct experience, you have all the proof you need to et this go and move on. Even if she is reengaging with you since last year, as you said she don't find you attractive anymore, flaking on your etc, Pity the time you lost and dont do this again. Learn some female psychology and the beginni…
/r/seduction15/04/25 02:53 AM
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Hello You are posing a very difficult question to answer, mostly because you dont know exactly what is your own problmes. Where I would start is to learn what attracts women, and why you put yourself innto this position. See my post on "how attraction works" and "top reasons why you cant get laid" After you have some rudimentary psychology, you most likely want to pick social circle or cold approach. I teach cold approach and if you choose CA, you should read by on "the princiiples of approachin…
/r/seduction15/04/25 02:47 AM
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See my post on step by step on how to approach women, that lists out all the principles. Do those and you will succeed
/r/seduction15/04/25 02:42 AM
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You're doing something that intimidates women, you behave OR look dangerous in some way. Feminize your apperance or behaviour. The best style is the one you like the most, law of state transference.
/r/seduction15/04/25 02:41 AM
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Next time approach and find out.
/r/seduction15/04/25 02:39 AM
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I've never read that book before, but if you're just a noob trying to learn just get started approaching women. No theory needed and do like 30 approaches winging it.
/r/seduction15/04/25 02:38 AM
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What a great idea! Goodluck! Make sure to peacock as well to make sure everyone knows who you are.
/r/seduction15/04/25 02:35 AM
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It sounds like you have problems with escalation. Usually how escalation is taught is using nightgame, because when you're at the club you cant talk, so people get physical quickly. You could use the club the cure yourself, use my nightclub guide and follow the steps. Another potential problem you might have is that you might lack to necessary escalation education and experience needed to escalate smoothly. See my "how to pull a girl home in a day" post for that. Another potential problem is tha…
/r/seduction15/04/25 02:33 AM
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Haha indeed!
/r/seduction15/04/25 02:29 AM
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Then you're just lazy and not looking to improve. Great results only come from training. Social circle is the alternative but that has the same workload, pick your poison.
/r/seduction14/04/25 11:02 AM
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Game immedately stops after you get into a relationship. Are you out of your mind to game your girl 24/7? This mindset is exactly why you cant get into a stable relationship. I can't believe this can get 100+ upvotes. A simple example will illustrate this point: Disqualification in pickup leads to attraction Disqualification in a relationship will lead to a breakup Kindly read the 7 principles of making marriage work by John Gottman if you have any confusion.
/r/seduction14/04/25 10:54 AM
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In regards to the apporach anxiety, you just have to power through it. The way to cure fear is to face it head on. There are techniques to make it less prevalent, but the fear will still be present. See my post on approach anxiety and managing your emotions infield, those are mindfulness techniques to help you better execute. In regards to nightgame, the first approach will always be the hardest. After about 10 approaches or so you will start to enter state and your approaches will be better. Se…
/r/seduction14/04/25 07:02 AM
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I think its just an insecurity making you think too much, cause the poor projection of voice. See my post on self love and maybe you can practice some techniques like letting go.
/r/seduction14/04/25 06:58 AM
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You dont have to seperate it, I've managed to integrate the positive aspects of traditional PUA and the natural style. The reason why this might be difficult for you is because you've havent developed your own unique style of pickup yet, which happens around 4,000 approaches. See my post on how to learn pickup. What I think of frame control is in my frames 101 post.
/r/seduction14/04/25 06:56 AM
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It doesn't mean shes not interested, it means that you are uninterested and just had a ONS with them by leaving them hanging for a long time. Invest into a relationship only when once everything stabilize and its clear that you two are good together long term, how are you going to do that with just a few dates? It's going to take 3 months at least. See my post on investing into a girl for that.
/r/seduction14/04/25 06:50 AM
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The best way is to look for high buy in signals before you set up the date. Also set up the date through the phone. See my post on texting.
/r/seduction14/04/25 06:25 AM
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Ask her why.
/r/seduction14/04/25 06:24 AM
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She texted you back saying she didn't felt a connection because you failed to build any comfort, perhaps you were focusing too much on ecsalation and flirting. Resonable since you were just learning it. You need about 1~2 hours of comfort before the pull and 6 ~7 hours of comfort OVERALL throughout from the beginning to that point. See my post on comfort and learn to sprinkle the principles of comfort into your set. You minimize the chances of this happening again by following the right sequence…
/r/seduction14/04/25 06:17 AM
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You usually package these hoobies and interest in the storytelling format from my verbal techniques post. in way that you can freely share what you do without needed to drag or anything like that killing attraction. The ratio of how much you talk vs how much she talks is irrelavant. More importantly is to know what you need to do in the set and to use the proper techniques needed to move the interaction forward. See my post on calibration for that.
/r/seduction14/04/25 06:12 AM
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The solution and technique to conquering fear is to face it head on and defeat it. There are methods to soften the fear you feel but thats about it. You can see my post on approach anxiety and dealing with your difficult emotions infield, inside there are the "softening" techniques. Basically just mindfulness. But eitherway, you'd still have to face your fear head on, the fear will just become muted once you are more mindful.
/r/seduction14/04/25 06:06 AM
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The reason you are pushing girls away is because you are needy. Neediness is caused by you lacking something in your own life. A good solution would be to give that to yourself, oftentimes we use external situations to fix a hole within ourselves. Most relationships are just a distraction from turning inwards and facing loneliness for example. You'd just have to identify what you are lacking and seeking in the world, and give that to yourself through self-love. See my post on how to love yoursel…
/r/seduction14/04/25 06:02 AM
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If you are in a relationship with a girl you truly love, you should be studying relationship skills, not dating skills. These are distinct categories of advice. The main categories are usually how to love your partner, build a future together, conflict resolution and boundaries. See my post on "how to deeply love others," that's a good introduction to relationship skills. There is nothing wrong with being closed off and shy, maybe that's just who you are. Think of it more like a switch, you can …
/r/seduction14/04/25 05:57 AM
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See my post "how to learn pickup, a roadmap that illuminates the road ahead" and follow it.
/r/seduction14/04/25 05:50 AM
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You're not following the principles of approaching. There is a lot of body language stuff you might not be doing, refer to my post "how to approach women" and practice the principles inside. That will fix things.
/r/seduction14/04/25 05:48 AM
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There is this old concept called gunwitch, basically, you feel all the attraction and sexual energy within you and project it outwards. That's projecting your sexual state onto women. You reinforce it into your value system when you can do it successfully over and over again, making you feel comfortable projecting your "sexual energy."
/r/seduction14/04/25 05:41 AM
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In you can do overt kino 3, you can certainly go for the kiss. No signs needed.
/r/seduction13/04/25 02:19 AM
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She was building comfort with you and you didn't recripriocate. Usually that leaves a bad taste for most girls. See my post on comfort and follow the principles inside when this happens again. You could also use the principles of how to deeply love others but only for situations where the girl is emotionally distressed. What I would do with her is just apologize for your robotic responce when you see her again and tell her what you told us here, maybe upon up a bit and recrippricate the vulnerab…
/r/seduction13/04/25 02:16 AM
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The question you are asking is a complex one, because what to do relies on the context of the situation and what you want as a PUA. Escalation can be controlled, you set the speed for escalation. So there is no right or wrong way. Just see what suits you better and decide for yourself. The best alternative is to calbrate the speed of escalation depending on the type of the girl, this topic is called microcalibration. You can see my post on that if you want to implement some of the skills inside,…
/r/seduction13/04/25 02:10 AM
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You just fear rejection and making up excuses in your mind as a responce to that fear, its normal. The only real solution is to face your fear head on. See my post on the principles of approaching, the first pricniple is to approach without any excuses.
/r/seduction13/04/25 02:05 AM
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Thats because you have poor verbal skills. You need to practice flirting, usually a skill that people primarily meeting women online lack. See my post on flirting, that will teach you the principles. After you learn the principles, see my post on verbal skills, that will teach you the outer game techniques. It will take you awhile to learn, so take your time and focus on one principles/technique at a time.
/r/seduction13/04/25 02:02 AM
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I only enjoyed when I got good at it. I dont like to suck at things.
/r/seduction13/04/25 01:59 AM
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To get strong relationships, you do everything the same way just slower. Instead of having sex on the first date, you delay it to the 3rd, escalate slower and build more comfort. Have a little bit of the boyfriend frame but keep the player frame dominant. See my post on comfort. Like you said you have no flirting, so you have to start doing that again in order for them to come out on second dates. Regardless of what you do, doing pickup properly will still result in her thinking you're a player.…
/r/seduction13/04/25 01:58 AM
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You can't, you have to go there and find out. Ask "Are you single" at a emotional high.
/r/seduction12/04/25 04:20 PM
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Goodjob! Happy for you. You've asked the question in the right place.
/r/seduction12/04/25 11:33 AM
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Ooo interesting. Yes, NG is right. The mind is the source of everything. Glad to be compared to him haha, hope you've found my post insightful
/r/seduction12/04/25 11:30 AM
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Ive only ever posted here haha. No idea who is that.
/r/seduction12/04/25 10:55 AM
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NG subs? Whats that?
/r/seduction12/04/25 10:53 AM
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Everyday people ask the same questions. Its not promo if it solves your problem, and in fact, it does for anyone who reads it. The experienced people virtually gave up on all of you. They dont like answering the same things over and over again. These posts attract other begineers with the blind leading the blind. Dont complain when you receive real help, because nobody else will.
/r/seduction12/04/25 10:40 AM
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Sure
/r/seduction12/04/25 04:53 AM
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Refer to my post "top reasons why you can't get laid" Inside, it guarentees the mistakes you're making. I've boiled it down to a science. Fix those mistakes in that post, and you'll get laid.
/r/seduction12/04/25 02:48 AM
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Why can't you just escalate? Your escalation is long overdue. You might really be friendzoned if you countinue to not escalate. Refer to my post on escalation "how to pull girls home iin a day"
/r/seduction12/04/25 02:47 AM
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Short replies are signals of disinterest, especially since if they have already arrived at hook point when they've matched you. IODs after hook point should not happen and you're making a mistake. A lot of online gamers have problems with their flirting and verbal skills, I will look at that first. Please refer to my post on flirting and verbal skills "how to never run out of things to say"
/r/seduction12/04/25 02:45 AM
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Just go along with it, its not rocket science. "No worries, yeah thats good" Danger comes when they dont offer an alternative, if they flake without offering an alternative on when to meet you again, then the number is dead and you should move on. See my post on texting.
/r/seduction12/04/25 02:42 AM
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Great, does not sound like there is any pressing problems. Escalate and she will be your girlfriend. Please refer to my post, how to pull a girl home in a day.
/r/seduction12/04/25 02:40 AM
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Thanks
/r/seduction12/04/25 02:38 AM
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No worries.
/r/seduction12/04/25 02:37 AM
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Thanks! No worries. Congruence remains to be one of the biggest factors to success, so much so that it can be distilled down into a specific type of pickup Mark Manson style. But just like all nice things, it has its weaknessess and should be supplemented with some technical skills from traditional PUA. I recommend that, makes you more well rounded. Thanks for the kind words!
/r/seduction12/04/25 02:37 AM
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The "right one" will never come and doesn't exist. You'll be dragging your ballsack forever. This is clearly true with your direct experience. Because you have saluted a post of defeatism in this sub. The truth is, to make someone "the one" means that you have to invest and turn them into the best version of themselves. Infatuation fades. If you had the correct mindset when it comes to relationships, you would have already succeeded in your mission and will not ask this question. I would really …
/r/seduction11/04/25 01:04 PM
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You have an amazing girlfriend, and I hope you stay together forever. Read my post on self love, and do the "acceptance" part. That will solve your insecurity. As for the other men she has dated in the past, why do you care? She is with you NOW, that means she views you as equal calibre. If still dont believe me, you can make her consider you as #1 when you practice the principles of love with her. Check out my post how to deeply love others.
/r/seduction11/04/25 01:00 PM
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Please refer to my post, "how attraction works." Height is not a consideration for attraction when women are judging you.
/r/seduction11/04/25 12:57 PM
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Thats why you shouldn't approach at places where you frequent a lot. You ruin the positive associations you have for the place! Please learn the principles of approaching women from my approaching post and do a standard daygame approach to a low consequences enviorement.
/r/seduction11/04/25 12:57 PM
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Its easy because you understood how to do a good approach and followed the principles of a good approach. You went in with an opinion opener and made it M2W with your compliement. Well done! I would practice these principles more delibreately, see my post on the principles of approaching women. Since you are doing nightgame, stop gathering numbers. But if you do gather numbers, make sure to text them the next morning. Nightgame numbers can usually useless, but if you left a REALLY good impressio…
/r/seduction11/04/25 12:54 PM
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If a girl likes to talk, I automatically assume she is building comfort with me. Refer to my post, "how to make women fall in love with you" and practice the principles inside. She also sounds like a Tester, testers like to gloss over topics quickly and have shallow conversation. So when you apply those comfort principles, make sure to not go too deep.
/r/seduction11/04/25 12:46 PM
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Please refer to my post "how attraction works", referring to your height and whatnot means that you dont understand what is the real attraction triggers. Also refer to my post "why you cant get laid", this post outlines the real reasons why you cant get into relationships. After that, learn the principles of approaching women in my approaching post and do your first 30 approaches. Don't approach women in the gym.
/r/seduction11/04/25 12:41 PM
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When you get into relationships, drop all your PUA stuff. Especially when it comes to flirting, "disqualification, negs and of the sort" must all be dropped. These are all terrible verbal habits, and will slowly erode the self esteem of your partner. Replace them with honest, authentic and vulnerable communication. Refer to my post "how to deeply love others". Have a future you guys want to build together, and work on it everyday.
/r/seduction11/04/25 12:39 PM
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The real reason for this is because you don't know how to properly invest in women/your partner. Its one of the articles I'm working on atm, tldr, its just a wrong measuring stick when you come to measure attractiveness. Choose the women who REALLY like you and turn them into a superstar.
/r/seduction11/04/25 12:34 PM
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I've been here for awhile, that's just the way he writes and conveys his ideas. Just because good writers write in the APA format doesn't mean that its AI. If you dont like structured posts written by good writers you shouldn't be reading Reddit. People who use Reddit are readers. You can download TikTok instead. If you cant diffrenciate what is written by AI and what is written by a human, your experience is near zero. AI can REFINE writing, not create it from thin air.
/r/seduction10/04/25 12:16 PM
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"How I Properly Enforce Boundaries - Protecting Yourself From Manipulation, Gaslighting And Unhealthy People"
/r/seduction10/04/25 10:41 AM
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Just take it slow. As you gain more experience you will feel more comfortable going "faster." Learn how to enact your boundaires, refer to my post on that. Dating in your 30s will suck and you will have a sense of rushness, now where you're 21 you have the widest pool of people to choose from, just download an app and go on a few dates. Most of them will be horrible, but eventually ypu'll meet one you like. Regarding the trauma when it comes to getting physical, you have to resolve that using fo…
/r/seduction10/04/25 05:37 AM
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What I would have done is to keep the escalation light, kino 1/2. Hugging and holding hands but I wont go into making out/ grinding territory. This ensures that she wont be triggered by ASD at least in the terms of physical escalation. On the 2nd or 3rd date, what I would do is to logistcially escalate to a place where sex can actually happen. Like what you have done, but the problem with you is that you lacked the comfort to have sex. So ASD was guarenteed BECAUSE you didn't build enough comfor…
/r/seduction10/04/25 04:41 AM
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Haha plenty of women give numbers just to make you piss off. That's why I said to collect numbers after hook point, that guarentees that she is attracted to you. Awesome man, only read the relavant advice, I have posts on all skill levels, so if it sounds to difficult to do you shouldn't even try them.
/r/seduction10/04/25 04:38 AM
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Yes that is true that many aren't interested. But you can tell in the first 5 minutes via hook point. If the set doesn't hook just quickly move on. You can cycle a lot of sets like this, even if she just wants attention, just break off and ignore her. This is still a skill you can control.
/r/seduction10/04/25 04:36 AM
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Oh then my assessment is wrong. She is a Justifier then. Hmm yeah, you would need to be able to verbalize what went wrong in the first place to receive good advice. So maybe do a bit of reflection.
/r/seduction10/04/25 04:34 AM
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What a great compliment you have given me, thank you so much! I always present my techniques in the most actionable form, someone just have to do it and get results!
/r/seduction10/04/25 02:56 AM
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Staying in the present moment is very important, primarily for calibration and smoother flirting. See my post on the principles of approaching women. Do not try to get the number within the first few sentences, achieve hook point first before going for the number or any instadates. Running out of things to say is not a result from not staying in the moment, you need to practice concrete verbal techniques such as cold reads, Q/DQ and storytelling. You will never run out of things to say after tha…
/r/seduction10/04/25 02:53 AM
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There is no way to detect flakes. The best way to detect is is to know how bad your pickup skills is, the worse you are, the more girls after hook point will flake on you. Its not a problem with the girl, its a problem with you. Please refer to my new post, how to learn pickup.
/r/seduction10/04/25 02:49 AM
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Sounds like you have escalation problems. See my post on escalation. I've dated a girl from Kazakhstan before, and I experienced no difficulties when trying to seduce her. For your boring problem, thats because you've done the same thing over and over expecting a different result. I suggest that you take a break from pickup, go rest and return with fresh eyes. Possibly, you could have people pleasing tendencies. I would work on fixing that.
/r/seduction10/04/25 02:47 AM
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I use whatever the girl is using IG/Whatsapp with the default settings. What you said are all irrelavant details and a waste of time to set up. See my post on texting. Pro for IG is that I DHV myself Pro for Whatsapp is that I dont DLV myself. Simple as that
/r/seduction10/04/25 02:43 AM
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Congratulations. You can refer to my how to deal with difficult emotions infield if its of any help.
/r/seduction10/04/25 02:41 AM
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Yes you did mess up. The details are irrelavant, what you need is to learn the principles of a good approach. From there all the details will magically rearrange themselves. See my post on approaching and practice the principles inside for the next 450 approaches.
/r/seduction10/04/25 02:40 AM
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Girls are different and have different ecsalation profiles. A girl who is not receptive to escalation in public is called a Denier. With Deniers, we only escalate once we are at a logistical spot where we can have sex. I might be too advanced, but you can try to implement some of the calibrations I included in my microcalibration post. It would be helpful to learn and understand your situation.
/r/seduction10/04/25 02:38 AM
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She is your girlfriend. You don't need to "game" her and overthink. See my post on how to deeply love others, increase and better your communication with your gf, I think you have poor relationship skills.
/r/seduction10/04/25 02:35 AM
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Shit tests are just disqualifications on the receiving end. Women dont use disqualification like us, when they use disqualifications they genuinely mean it. Shit tests also only happen in the "approach" phase, the first 15 minutes., if you classify anything as a shit test after that its not a shit test. Best way to respond is just to be honest, its blown way out of propotion because if people are honest they would DLV themselves, so they have to make all other kinds of stupid excuses to deal wit…
/r/seduction10/04/25 02:33 AM
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The principle of no filter is the best way to increase your humour. Humour is not something you get overnight, as you can see comedians often practice on stage and bombing out for a few years before they get any good. See my post on flirting and practice the principles inside, once you can do so, use my verbal techniques post within that context.
/r/seduction10/04/25 02:26 AM
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You overescalated and triggered ASD. Refer to my calibration post and practice the principles inside. There is nothing for you to do now, but I've noticed that the more you try to "get exposure" through texting etc, the worse ASD gets.
/r/seduction10/04/25 02:23 AM
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I dont think you did anything wrong in the approach other than waiting till the next day to text her and closing before hook point. Usually once I end my session or whatever I'm doing, I'll text her. Somewhere 3 to 4 hours later. See my post on texting For hook point, "game" is only on once hook point occurs, anything before that is just a numbers game. You want to develop a spidey sense for hook point so you dont waste time on girls who dont even like you in the first place. See my post on oute…
/r/seduction10/04/25 02:20 AM
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Haha the community would really do anything to squirm out of their way to just do a standard approach. You guys deserve to fail miserably. What a waste of your time.
/r/seduction10/04/25 02:07 AM
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There comes a point where a woman thinks that it has gone too far, and if she still sees you after that she might consider herself a "slut", illiciting ASD. Because usually they think that they'll just entertain this guy just for fun, but then slowly she ends up in your bed. "Surely not that a woman like me is so easy. Now that I have caught feelings I must seriously consider this guy as a long term boyfriend" And then they go away to think about it. If they return, great. You have a new girlfri…
/r/seduction09/04/25 02:58 PM
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If your male friend cockblocks you, you have a shit wing. Wings uplift each other in sets giving each other DHVs. Anyway, I recommend learning alone.
/r/seduction09/04/25 02:53 PM
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Dont overescalate. Always be calibrated and be emotional. Flirting, calibrated escalation.
/r/seduction09/04/25 01:51 PM
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Women want to have sex But sex brings trauma and societal consequences. When you flirt and be emotion she goes from the logical state (2) to (1). But once you illicit ASD, she goes from (1) to (2). Making her become aware of the dangers of sex again. This paradox is a very real challenge women face. Like how you deal with approach anxiety. Simple as that.
/r/seduction09/04/25 01:42 PM
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Yes, that bit of detail I told you in the last post is very important. Too bad you didn't follow it, which is why she didn't resolve ASD in your favour. Overescalated on the date. Texting only inflamed the ASD problem.
/r/seduction09/04/25 01:31 PM
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ASD = anti slut defense. It's a stupid name but it is very real. It comes from 1. Women want to have sex 2. But sex brings trauma and societal consequences So this is a paradox as you can see. ASD happens when she goes from number 1 to number 2.
/r/seduction09/04/25 01:22 PM
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Its a result of Mark Mansons book. But there doesn't seem to be any updates after that, so everyone in the natural camp holds that as bible. For the traditional guys, Mystery Method is the foundation. But for the naturals, Mark Mansons book is the new foundation.
/r/seduction09/04/25 01:21 PM
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Yes, I agree. Hahaha, there is nothing to be said if the girl don't reach hook point.
/r/seduction09/04/25 01:19 PM
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Oh very sorry, That's a little embarrassing. A lot of newbies like to hit on girls at gym and supermarket cashiers and I automatically classified you into the group due to bias. I apologize. Doing a gym approach is just like any other daygame approach you would do, there is no difference. Although for a gym, I would much prefer using a social circle approach and mindset instead of cold approach.
/r/seduction09/04/25 02:46 AM
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At the beginning when you dont know what you want, yes. But if you have a clear understanding of what you want, if you manage to find that gem, you wont be interested in other girls for that moment being.
/r/seduction09/04/25 02:13 AM
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You need not to peak her interest because she is already interested in you when she agreed to go on a hike with you 1 on 1. No woman hangs out with a guy 1 on 1 unless she likes her. This is already M2W through the means of logistical escalation. Please read my post on escalation to understand the tension mechanism. What you need to do now is to build comfort, and logistically escalate back to your place. This need not to be done in the first date, but can be done in the second. After the hike i…
/r/seduction09/04/25 02:10 AM
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This is lost. She resolved her ASD and now she has decided that she does not want to be your girlfriend. Move on. The main problem is that you have overescalated with your previous post. There is nothing to do on your end once ASD is triggered.
/r/seduction09/04/25 02:06 AM
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Will take a look.
/r/seduction09/04/25 02:03 AM
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From your comment below, you're not escalating. See my post on escalation. They are basically getting bored.
/r/seduction09/04/25 02:01 AM
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You can read my post on approach anxiety and my post "how attraction works." Approaching is not rocket science, and approach anxiety is probably the easiest thing to conquer compared to all the different problems when it comes to pickup.
/r/seduction09/04/25 01:59 AM
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You get into state by getting rejected. That is the only way. Your first 10 approaches at the club will be shit, just accept that. See my post on nightclubs, it tells you how to do everything sober.
/r/seduction09/04/25 01:58 AM
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Please dont approach in the gym, or as a matter of fact, don't approach anywhere you frequent a lot at regular intervals. Approach at places where the people "refresh" See my post on approaching and practice the principles inside. You sound like you're just starting out with your first couple of approaches, in that case, I would just wing my approaches without any theory for the first 10.
/r/seduction09/04/25 01:55 AM
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Hahahaha, it was fustrating like hell. We've bascially been seperated by the traditional PUA and the natural camp. So if you were using any traditional methods, all the guys would pretty much stay silent because they would agree with what you were saying, but all the naturals will come out in criticism. Vice versa when its the other way.
/r/seduction09/04/25 01:52 AM
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This is a really tough question to answer, because nobody have ever cracked the principles of approaching well for women. Or not to my awareness. I'm a dating coach and I'm hesitatnt to give advice, so you probably want to take the advice from others with a grain of salt. What I've heard to do well across different women is to shoot a lot of IOIs. Maybe you should try that as a first step.
/r/seduction09/04/25 01:48 AM
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Oh really haha, I didn't know. But eitherway, the information in that book is correct derived from my direct experience. So we shouldn't discount it just because he did some other unethical things. Judge information based on merit, not the person.
/r/seduction08/04/25 01:11 PM
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Haha awesome thank you so much! Hope you can stay around the sub for longer without getting too irritated and therefore leaving. I really enjoy reading your perspectives
/r/seduction08/04/25 06:16 AM
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Yes that too
/r/seduction08/04/25 03:55 AM
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Generally the faster you see each other again the better, since emotions cool down over time. See my post on daygame, that highlights the general flow of things.
/r/seduction08/04/25 02:17 AM
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I always ask if she is single She is a priority. That's why I approached her in the first place. I schedule and get out on a date as qucikly as possible.
/r/seduction08/04/25 02:16 AM
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Peacocking is not about having a fashion style. If you have an amazing fashion style, you wont be peacocking at the club, you'll just look like everyone else. The function of peacocking is to build pre-selection. So that girls can remember you easier and hit on your later when you go around approaching and kissing women at the club - which is a DHV. How to peacock is to look drastically different from the people around you. If I enter a 5 star hotel with holes in my shirt, I would be peacocking.…
/r/seduction08/04/25 02:14 AM
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This is an amazing breakdown. Thanks for sharing, I always learn something when I see your username.
/r/seduction08/04/25 02:11 AM
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Go somewhere you can escalate logistically or physically. See my post on escalation "how to pull a girl home in a day"
/r/seduction08/04/25 02:06 AM
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You are thinking of pulling women when you can't even generate attraction first. Perhaps I would make generating attraction my goal instead of pulling anyone. See my post on flirting and escalation, that sounds like your general problem.
/r/seduction08/04/25 02:05 AM
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Well you've answered your own question, you get anxious when trying to flirt. One of the principles is to have no filter, so getting anxious and adding filters to your speech is killing your flirting. See my post on flirting and practice the principles inside, those should be the same for women. As for your femininity, read my post on masculinity and femininity and practice the principles for femininity. That should help you out.
/r/seduction08/04/25 02:00 AM
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Awesome. My post on managing your emotions infield might help you a lot.
/r/seduction08/04/25 01:57 AM
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Your sex might suck. That's why she dont want it. Read the book "the sex god method" by dan rose.
/r/seduction08/04/25 01:56 AM
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You approach a girl whn you see them. See my post on approaching and practice the principles inside, one of them being approaching with no excuses. Fishing for IOis is irelavant. Stop relying on them for your approaches.
/r/seduction08/04/25 01:51 AM
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Those books dont exist, because those are actually very simple problems to solve. Its not simple for you because you're not taking action. After like 30 approaches your approach anxiety pretty much fades into the background. See my post on approach anxiety and managing your emotions infield.
/r/seduction08/04/25 01:49 AM
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No need to ask anyone out. Just invite her to an activity with just the two of you, and it will be pretty clear that it is a date.
/r/seduction08/04/25 01:46 AM
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I would say that in that case, you might not be able to implement the knowledge in this post yet. You need to master the principles of good flirting, and only apply the context of these techniques into your general verbal skills. See my other post on flirting, what you need to do is to practice those principles inside. Only after you feel comfortable with spiking the emotions with others, and can consistently do so, you come back to this article.
/r/seduction07/04/25 02:33 PM
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Awesome. Goodluck
/r/seduction07/04/25 01:45 PM
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Escalation Calibration
/r/seduction07/04/25 01:44 PM
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Women are women. Pretty ignorant of you to judge the women outside your country without having any experience.
/r/seduction07/04/25 01:42 PM
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Running back to their mommies for a popsicle.
/r/seduction07/04/25 07:29 AM
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I have no idea what is wrong with you, I lack the context to give you good advice. But 3,000 approaches with only 6 lays is way to low. Someone with 2,000 learning properly will have around 20. Having your mission to have sex with a lot of women is a trap. I would say to find a better goal. All my content can help you become better, try reflecting upon your experiences and see where you need improvement. From there, read any relavant post I have to the problem you have identified.
/r/seduction07/04/25 07:28 AM
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I see, awesome. I say that because women dont respond well to men who brag, so if you seem to show offiish that will lead to a bad taste with women. Best to disqualify yourself.
/r/seduction07/04/25 07:25 AM
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Very well articulated. I always told people, so long as you maintain congruence, you can avoid shit tests.
/r/seduction07/04/25 06:46 AM
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Everything starts with kissing. Then do what the other people said.
/r/seduction07/04/25 06:43 AM
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IOIs are irrelavant for approaching. Most likely you are not practicing the principles of good approaching, see my post on that. After some prcatice, combine those principles within the nightgame context, see my post on nightclubs for that.
/r/seduction07/04/25 06:39 AM
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This number is dead on arrival. You should have escalated at that party, and your escalation was insufficient, meaning she got bored (walking off). See my post on escalation to fix your problem.
/r/seduction07/04/25 06:38 AM
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Numbers game only up to the point of hook point. See my post on nightclubs.
/r/seduction07/04/25 06:35 AM
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Those are horrible questions to ask. It seems like you have terrible verbal skills, something women will not forgive you for. See my post on flirting and verbal techniques. Those will cure your problem, after you have solved those, your next problem will be escalation, I also have a post on the basics of escalation. What I would do is implement the core four techniques, cold reading, disqualification, qualification and storytelling. Practice this going about your day doing these techniques on ob…
/r/seduction07/04/25 06:34 AM
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It's okay, you just came out of a relationship and give some time to grieve. See my post on self love. Where I would begin is to start learning how to approach women, you can see my post on approaching and you should start practicing the principles inside. There is nothing to "fix." The only thing to fix is your inability to approach and get dates out of them. See my post on "how attracton works" Overall no worries, I would just focus on the core three. Approaching flirting and escalation. With …
/r/seduction07/04/25 06:29 AM
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See my post on approaching women. Within are all the principles when it comes to approaching women, one of those principles is to not have canned openers. You seem like a newbie. Don't even bother overthinking it and wing it for your first 30 approaches. That will do you way better than learning any theory.
/r/seduction07/04/25 06:24 AM
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You have escalation problems. Fundementally caused because you dont approach girls irl, if you approached girls irl, you would have learned how to make it M2W quickly and stack various verbal techniques. See my post on ecalation and verbal skills. I would suggest paying for dating apps if you get a lot of matches for free. This leans into your strengths and can help you save time cold approaching. Height is not a trigger for attraction. See my post "how attraction works" for real triggers. If yo…
/r/seduction07/04/25 06:21 AM
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The music is too loud for a reason. It to let AFCs get girls. For us, its a hinderance, but that's good if you have poor verbal skills, just use physical or invitational openers. Such as extending your arm and inviting a girl to dance. You don't talk on the dancefloor, it's just pure escalation. See my post on nightclubs. I escalate to a kiss on the dancefloor and logistcailly escalate to a quiet place in the club to build comfort. That's it. The table/booth is a waste of money and pins you to a…
/r/seduction07/04/25 06:17 AM
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ASD. Shes figuring out her true feelings for you. This is caused by your inability to escalate for sex when you have overescalated. There is a point of escalation logistical or physical which is the point of no return, if you dont go for sex after that point ASD is guarenteed. See my post on calibration and the escalation. What you should do now is just to minimize contact and let her figure it out by herself. Give her some time, be pateint and let her come back to you. But if she does come back…
/r/seduction07/04/25 06:14 AM
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If you want to reach step 8, you would need around 450 approaches. Relistically I would only suggest you to focus on the first part, approaching and reaching hook point. Nobody can motivate you other than yourself, my daygame/nightclub post can give you a place to start. You will progress so long as you continuously practice and put effective advice into action. A lot of time is wasted trying to diagnose and figure out whats wrong, so in that sense high quality education can help you shortcut so…
/r/seduction07/04/25 06:10 AM
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He is married + he does this for a career. it's not unresoable for him to have those numbers. That doesn't mean you have to do the same thing. Untwist your panties in another post, this thread is a thesis that can be submitted for a PhD.
/r/seduction06/04/25 05:38 AM
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I've never told anyone to approach 8 thousand times. If you have read the article carefully, you would have seen that in the "peroid if enlightenment" I told everyone to consider stopping there and consider it quits. I disagree, you can have other things going on in your life and go to the club to relax once a week, that will still rack up your approaches quite quickly. Keep in mind the timeframe we are talking about, this is not 2 3 years. This could be 10 or 20. As said in the post. 1,500 ~ 2,…
/r/seduction06/04/25 05:34 AM
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Correct yeah awesome. Seems like you have found the solution and understand what to do now. Glad to be useful. You can use my posts again if you meet problems.
/r/seduction06/04/25 05:26 AM
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Sorry for the misunderstanding. I'm all for working on yourself, the approaches is simply just a metric to track how far along you've came. It doesn't mean that you spam approach and do your approaches recklessly and "burn through sets." You need not to do so. In fact to even accumulate so many approaches is unlikely and takes a long time (eg. 10 years.) I have a post on confidence I have a post on how attraction works I have a post on flirting and verbal skills I recommend reading the book 'the…
/r/seduction06/04/25 05:14 AM
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You've bascially highlighted yyour own problem with the second paragraph. No escalation Bad verbal skills Inner game issues where you fear looking like a creep. Just do the opposite. I have a post on escalation, verbal techniques and the "top 10 inner game beliefs to hold." That will help you out lots. I would work on escalation first and not fear it so much. Since you know that you wont be getting a date number 2 anyways, why not just shoot for the escalation? Thats a recontexualization I would…
/r/seduction06/04/25 04:10 AM
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Maybe you are giving a boasting/show off kind of vibe. I almost never dress up to go to the club, perhaps thats a handicap but my results are just fine. See my "how attraction works" post, and see if you're doing anything that repels women. IOIs are irrelavant if you did not even approach the girl yet, IOIs application are more so to judge how much consent a girl will give and where specifically you can escalate to.
/r/seduction06/04/25 03:32 AM
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Awesome yes. It sounds like you have resonable control over your skills, you could try implementing some of the framing principles which get women to chase. See my post on frames 101 and try those. This will give you more flexibility when it comes to making mistakes and preventing ASD.
/r/seduction06/04/25 02:44 AM
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This is because in the initial approach you're not generating enough attraction, the practical way to solve this is to make your interactions last longer. See my post on the principles of approaching women. The second problem is a texting blunder, you might be asking out girls into dates without looking or signals on when to do so (schduling for a date too fast/slow). See my texting post for a fix.
/r/seduction06/04/25 02:42 AM
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The best trainer is yourself. What I recommend is learning the free avalaible material first, get started and only hire a coach after that. A coach can specialize to your needs. If you want sex fast with girls you probably need to lower your expectations. My first lay was around 450 approaches, but I didn't have a coach back then, so I was a bumbling fool See my post on how to learn pickup to get a rough roadmap on what you should focus on and learn.
/r/seduction06/04/25 01:28 AM
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Learn the basics to approaching, see my post on approahing and practice the principles inside.
/r/seduction06/04/25 01:12 AM
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You are right. It is ASD, you've overescalated without sufficient tension. What you should have done instead is to logistically escalate where you're in a positon to have sex with her, and then only release tension by kissing. See my post on "how to pull a girl home in a day", that goes over escalation. For the ASD part, see my post on calibration.
/r/seduction06/04/25 01:11 AM
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A city that refreshes on itself a lot is good. So big tourist town for practice. After that, you then want to take these skills back to a small city or places where high quality women are abundant.
/r/seduction06/04/25 01:07 AM
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You have the ability to control how much you want to escalate so long as you possess enough buy-in and tension to do so. See my post on frames 101. How to approach the first date is really personal preference, there is no correct answer. Depends on how much you like the girl and your goals around dating.
/r/seduction06/04/25 01:00 AM
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Just spend time with your friend. You can approach another time, opportunities are not in a lack of short supply.
/r/seduction06/04/25 12:54 AM
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See my post "how attraction works", height as an attraction trigger is a myth.
/r/seduction06/04/25 12:53 AM
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It's just us using different progression metrics. I have a focus on developing skills which require many reps, you have a focus to get laid. The people who are attracted to my content are people in their 30s, looking to settle down and have a focus on self improvement. If you want to argue about the time and energy invested, the person who settles down is banking the most money for his future and his retirement. Not anyone who is active in the game. The best quality is a girl you have invested i…
/r/seduction06/04/25 12:51 AM
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Well of course this story is useful. I perfectly described you at "approach mastery", just read what you've typed for yourself haha.
/r/seduction05/04/25 03:40 PM
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Girls also remmeber me... that's why they come on dates with me. I don't see your point. You're using that argument on the wrong person. I dont enjoy casual sex and I exclusively do pickup for relationships. I'm unaware of my approach to sex ratio, but your ratio is one of begineers. Only begineers have such a high sex to approach ratio, everyone after thousands of approaches go down to double digits and even to single digits. Sure, you might think it's spammy but that just the nature of practic…
/r/seduction05/04/25 03:38 PM
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Haha maybe it is time for you to retire. I'm already retired, at 4k.
/r/seduction05/04/25 03:10 PM
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I do not know anyone who is an intermediate who has below 1,000 approaches, let alone being advanced to the point where microcalibration plays a role. My approach is technical heavy, with less reliance for "natural" and "fun." Those are just ways to enhance my style of pickup, but I do not rely on a specific internal state as what you read from Models. What I practice is to develop concrete skills, that are as reliable as the highest quality products made from German factories. In that case, we …
/r/seduction05/04/25 10:20 AM
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Escalation starts by making it man to woman. See my post on escalation to see the full flow to sex. However, that post only covers physical escalation. There is verbal and logistical escalations to consider as well. I will amend my post soon.
/r/seduction05/04/25 03:01 AM
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Shit tests are actually disqualifiers on the receiving end. They just dont understand whats a disqualifier.
/r/seduction05/04/25 01:27 AM
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No worries. Hope you find it helpful
/r/seduction05/04/25 01:03 AM
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I just say what type of music I like (pop, country and indie) This is comfort building, not a shit test. Shit test will be more of "you have a shit msuic taste" See my post on flirting, verbal skills and comfort.
/r/seduction05/04/25 12:29 AM
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If you love being a forester more than achieving your dating goals, then simply nothing can be done. It is a life decision you have made and it's just the natural consequences of making such a decision. Nobody can convince you of what you want to do with your life. In the context of this post, you havent even left the village.
/r/seduction05/04/25 12:24 AM
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Heheh yes its rather annoying but we should not give up on them. PUA is a welcoming communitiy, perhaps maybe too welcoming to the point of being exploited. In any difficult thing, it's a pyramid. There is a outsized number of begineers, some begineers are smart enough to be humble. Some just want to wallow in their misery. Theres all types of people with different personalities. But it's not my job to judge what you want to do. The information I post is there for any interested party. Wheter yo…
/r/seduction05/04/25 12:22 AM
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Then you gotta move and change cities. Thats the only way,
/r/seduction05/04/25 12:17 AM
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Oh I see, I've been doing it like a lightswitch HAHA! I will implement the progressive mindset. Hmm yes you're right, I'll find ways to replicate it through other means. Yes, I understand your point on being grounded while expressing vulnerability. Thanks for taking the time to help me out! Appreciate it.
/r/seduction04/04/25 11:32 PM
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You do not require IOIs to apporach someone. Although having IOIs will increase your chances of success. BUT, consider this, a girl who did not give any IOIs beforehand who IS attracted to you, simply never noticed you in the first place. How to give IOIs to an attractive man who she is not aware of? The top principle of approaching is to approach with no excuses. See my post on how to do a good approach.
/r/seduction04/04/25 11:28 PM
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Correct. Stop messing with cashiers. I know you're a regular in the sub, I swear I've seen like 10 posts regarding on how to apporach a cashier. Have you noticed this? Are the cashiers unbelieveably hot or something in a country I am not aware of?
/r/seduction04/04/25 11:25 PM
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I don't know whats up with everyone and their cashiers. It feels like its the 10th time I'm seeing a post on how to approach a cashier. Why can't you approach a normal girl on the street somewhere? Or is it that cashiers are unbeliveably hot in far distant lands? But to asnwer you question, you do this approach just like any other. See my post on approaching and practice the principles inside.
/r/seduction04/04/25 11:22 PM
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This is really good. Awesome! See my post on nightclubs to see the general flow of what you should do. Someone posted a field report on it last time after reading it. I was so happy. Anyway you should work on your approaching. See my post on that. Also, sounds like you have some escalation issues. Those 2 girls who approached you can easily take them home with you if you knew how to do it.
/r/seduction04/04/25 11:20 PM
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You're asking a deeply complex question in one sentence. Albeit I am no expert in womens dating advice. Flirting should be the same for both genders, you should check out my post on flirting and practice whats inside. But do keep in mind that was written for a male audience.
/r/seduction04/04/25 11:15 PM
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Because these men never approach women and leave comments on why they cant do so under my highly valuable and educational posts which is the exact thing that can bring them out of their predicament.
/r/seduction04/04/25 11:14 PM
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Awesome. No worries!
/r/seduction04/04/25 10:48 PM
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You're right. Most people are not taking their development in pickup seriously, treating life as a joke. Of course, this is reflecting in their laughable results. From my experience, a serious student of mine will acheive roughly 100 approaches a month. That's 1,200 a year. Easily you'll be competent at the core three, approaching flirting and escalation by the end of it. Very dissapppointed to see people wasting their time and not taking things seriously. Time is the only thing you have in your…
/r/seduction04/04/25 10:45 PM
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This is an excuse you have directly caused by your lack of skills. Realistically you'll do 20 approaches per nightgame session at the club. Nightgamers can rack up approaches and practice really quick. That's almost why all the best gurus does nightgame. Have you noticed? See my post, top reasons why you cant get laid and my victimhood post.
/r/seduction04/04/25 10:33 PM
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The best PUAs in the entire world have close to 10,000+. Most of them dont even exist online. Its after 10 or 20 years of accumulation. Suffice to say that most people wont reach that point, and will manage to find a girl and get tired of pickup before that.
/r/seduction04/04/25 04:05 PM
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Creepy is a inner state and belief, nothing to do with cold approach. If you want a 9 or a 10 you need to realistically learn to the point of framing. See my post how to get a woman to chase. See my post "how to learn pickup", to reliably get a 9 or a 10 consistently with cold approach, you would be required to reach "developing your own style". You'll be in your late 50s if you decide to do that. I just recommend you start approaching until you luck out with a girl you can settle down with. See…
/r/seduction04/04/25 03:42 PM
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Hmm okay haha, we've bascially came to the same conclusion. Unfortunate.
/r/seduction04/04/25 03:04 PM
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Thanks for the insight, I will implement your suggestion. When would you suggest to quickly tighten this emotional gap? During comfort or the hours before sex? Although I am worried because the emotional distance is a crucial aspect to a lot of the framing techniques which cause women to chase. Once this happen the dynamic will shift and I will become the chaser. Some girls might break off because of that. How would you mitigate that problem? Or is it a problem I have just imagined? Or is it so …
/r/seduction04/04/25 01:38 PM
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Greetings! Finding dates/potential partners is a problem of lead flow. The main ways to get more leads is social circle, cold approach, fame or online. See my post on "dating stratergies explained" and "top reasons why you cant get laid" In regards to your comment about age, 29 is still ok. But recognize that your time is running out. 40+ is the age where it gets significantly harder. For the timeline, you probably need 1 or 2 years learning seduction, find a woman and date her for 4 years befor…
/r/seduction04/04/25 06:35 AM
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Yes. Did you explore any other calibration techniques other than just building comfort? Or is comfort the only way this can be mitigated (not solved). Theres really no solution for this I think, but thinking theres no solution is victimhood style thinking haha.
/r/seduction04/04/25 04:52 AM
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Haha reminds me of the old "AFC" term the PUA community used to make fun of people starting out.
/r/seduction04/04/25 03:45 AM
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Knowing what to text is an extension of your ability to flirt, but it lacks the irl component. See my post on verbal technqiues, that should help with the "content" of texting. The best way to leanr flirting is through irl conversations resulting from cold approach. See my post on flirting for that. In reagrds on how you text her, use my three step texting sequence, an inner game technqiue. See my post on texting for that.
/r/seduction04/04/25 03:05 AM
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Triangle method? What is that?
/r/seduction04/04/25 03:00 AM
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Well, the problem is that you're trying to judge without even having the experience yet! How can you possibly know what is fulfilling for you until you experiment? I started thinking I want casual sex, and look at me now, I only exclusively use pickup to get relationships. The only way to know what is fulfilling for you is to go experiment to see what suits you. See my post on "why you can't get laid" - it has nothing to do with "not getting laid" but more so on why you're not acheiving your dat…
/r/seduction04/04/25 02:55 AM
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In the club? I say nothing. I just follow the kino ladder until we kiss, can be quite fast. Sometimes being seconds after the approach. But more resonably, kissing happens after I have isolated her away from the friends. Usually this means slowly dancing away from the friends. The only time I talk is when I logistically pull the girl to a quieter place of the bar, allowing me to build comfort. See my post on nightclubs to learn the flow.
/r/seduction04/04/25 02:49 AM
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Sent through DM
/r/seduction04/04/25 02:46 AM
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Your problem in poarticular is on verbal skills. You don't know how to peak a womans interest and achieve hook point consistently. Seems like you mastered the approaching, goodjob! See my post on flirting and practice the principles inside. After that, see my post on verbal skills to implement the outer game techniques within the fllirting principles. Also, check out my post on "how to learn pickup", that will give you a clear understanding of what you should learn and what's ahead of you.
/r/seduction04/04/25 02:44 AM
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Well, in terms of "how do I" then microcalibration is the topic that concerns this matter.
/r/seduction04/04/25 02:40 AM
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See my post on nightclubs or daygame, those give you a concrete structure you can follow and apply your skills into. It's just all about warming up, althought it might feel like you have "lost" your skills, with a bit of exposure you can "gain them back" relatively quickly. It's just like muscles - the bodybuilding kind, building them for the first time is slower, but if you lost them and built them again, the process is much quicker.
/r/seduction04/04/25 02:38 AM
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In regards to how to pull her, I would use the tester approach. See my post on microcalibration. But for my personal prefernce, I won't go for these typee of women.
/r/seduction04/04/25 02:35 AM
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As soon as possible.
/r/seduction04/04/25 02:33 AM
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The person who is "better" is the person who can use pickup to achieve his goals. If you are a person with a dire mission to get laid, then your skills should reflect your ability to do so. If you are a person who enjoys being out and having fun with people, then your skills should reflect your ability to do so.
/r/seduction04/04/25 02:32 AM
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If you're really good with women, a disease I have contracted is that almost all girls think you are a player and just ASSUME you want something casual, and are very afriad of committing to you. Even when I want a relationship, this virus follows me everywhere and I don't know how to cure myself of it. The workaround I have used is to delay sex and build comfort with time. Point being that these things need not to be said, because in your actions alone, and how "smooth" or "swagger" you are, wom…
/r/seduction04/04/25 02:29 AM
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Probably just DHVing about her transformation. You're just building comfort, and it doesn't really matter. See my post on comfort "how to make a woman fall in lov with you" to see which is your preferred option to recripriocate. Harsh judgement of a womans looks is not a good idea. A better metric is personality. Plus, why does it matter what she look like in the past? Whats more important is the now.
/r/seduction04/04/25 02:23 AM
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Wow what a lucky break for you. I literally just finished an article on the topic. Go see my post on femininity ans masculinity.
/r/seduction03/04/25 09:52 AM
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No worries haha. Not at all, your responce just seemed like it didn't relate to anything I've written about. Figure out job Beat addiction Learn pickup.
/r/seduction03/04/25 09:45 AM
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Please take a bit of time to understand and read what I've said. if you're asking for advice at the very least appreciate it when someone takes the time to respond.
/r/seduction03/04/25 09:31 AM
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Only for approaches which reach hook point. About 10% Boyfriend/not interested just leave.
/r/seduction03/04/25 02:32 AM
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Sounds like you dont have a seduction problem but an addiction problem. I'm writing an article on powerful general self help techniques. You can stay tune for that. One of the method i used to defeat my addiction is the do nothing method. It simply means everytime you have a craving, you stop everything you're doing and do nothing until it subsides. Do it enough and you will no longer have that craving. I used to have a weekly cravong to McDonalds and that led me to have high cholesterol. I used…
/r/seduction03/04/25 02:29 AM
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Aha. Highlighted your problem perfectly then. Work on that. If you can't get your apporaches longer than a few minutes, it's a verbal skills problem. See my post on flirting and verbal skills for that. Start stacking cold reads and use Q/DQ sequences. That's generally what I would teach first to my students struggling with verbal skills.
/r/seduction03/04/25 01:57 AM
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Well haha, it's true that dating apps can be rather superficial. In fact, it is. You're being held back because you're too afriad to go out and approach women irl. I never had any success online. In fact, I hate it due to how little success I get from it. All my success has came from irl approaches either through daygame and nightgame. That's why my content is so heavily revolved around that. See my post on victimhood and "top reasons why you cant get laid" for practical and real solutions.
/r/seduction03/04/25 01:52 AM
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Goodjob!
/r/seduction03/04/25 01:50 AM
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It's them knocking you out of "state". Just leanr to induce "state" again. I've experienced something similar, and it's usually a bummer on your mood. The best way is to remove the self identity around being a "f-boy player", because once you get blown out of set a few times and you get knocked out of state, it will contradict againts your identity and you will lose confidence in yourself. Obviously that leads to the loss of results and "swagger" Now I believe that I am a beginner at everything …
/r/seduction03/04/25 01:43 AM
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I've been saying to not use canned lines and routines for the longest time! Glad that you had this realization.
/r/seduction03/04/25 01:38 AM
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Might be too advanced, but this is a microcalibration problem. See my post on microcalibration, figure out her type and implement the verbal calibrations inside. If you don't have the skills to do what is in that post, you simply have to move on.
/r/seduction03/04/25 01:37 AM
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It's a self limiting belief. See my post on the top inner game beliefs to cultivate and hold. That will really help you out.
/r/seduction03/04/25 01:36 AM
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Sleeping with many men is not "values". Values are something like freedom, authenticity, courage etc. Sleeping with many people is a lifestyle choice. Can you change a persons values? No. But can you change theier lifestyle choices? Then yes, very much so.
/r/seduction03/04/25 01:34 AM
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Good observation. I've came to the same conclusion. Just like us we practice approaching women, and women that get approached a lot (the attaractive ones) have liked canned responces in the way they respond to guys they like/don't like. That's why attractive girls give better responces, simply because they had more practice. But either way both were rejecting you, it was just a matter of how pleasant. Asking them out usually means seeding the date in the approach. Maybe consider you have not hit…
/r/seduction03/04/25 01:31 AM
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Mystery still appears on "Game Global". Old dude still going strong haha, I love him.
/r/seduction02/04/25 01:35 PM
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No worries.
/r/seduction02/04/25 05:34 AM
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Height is irrelavant to attraction. See my post on "how attraction works" to see the real triggers for attraction. You probably have to start going to nightclubs so that you can achieve the goals you told us here. See my post on nightclubs and approaching to get started.
/r/seduction02/04/25 04:56 AM
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That's great goodluck. Seems like you're just breaking out of victimhood, see my post on that.
/r/seduction02/04/25 04:54 AM
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It does have some relavance, being in your 40s will make it a tad more difficult, mostly because you wont have enough leads around your age range. I would say approach women so as long you are comfortable. Clubs have their own cultures, you have to find a club that have women around your age. Going to a club thats in a college town wont be very useful for you. See my post on nightclubs to get started with that. Just start with the core three. Approaching, flirting and escalation. With these core…
/r/seduction02/04/25 04:53 AM
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I'm a big fan of technical books. I have a pet peeve when people share things and not tell others how to replicate the results they have achieved. If there is not replicatable techniques I can do, you might as well be irrelavant, that's a problem with a lot of the inner game and "natural" stuff.
/r/seduction02/04/25 04:48 AM
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The only way to know what you want is to have a lot of experience. That's the only way to know. Maybe try approaching all types of women, so that you can go on dates with different personalities. See my post on approaching and flirting to effectively do so. If you don't want to play anyone, just don't escalate to the point of sex. You still can go on dates to experiment.
/r/seduction02/04/25 04:44 AM
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To find these people you have to be like them so that you get exposure to their social circles. But, if you manage to reach that point, that'll just be your social circle.
/r/seduction02/04/25 04:42 AM
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I learnt from Todd V, Mystery, Swinggcat and Vin DiCarlo. A mix of others too, but those were by biggest influences.
/r/seduction02/04/25 04:40 AM
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Just drop the mysterious thing. It's just a front you put up and is not authenthically who you are. See my post on how to deeply love others to accurately practice what you should do in a relationship. Also sounds like a bit you're uncomfortable with vulnerability. See my post on self love for that.
/r/seduction02/04/25 04:37 AM
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See my post on flirting, that should keep you practicing for a month straight.
/r/seduction02/04/25 04:35 AM
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No worries.
/r/seduction01/04/25 07:58 AM
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Its a real thing. Anti slut defense is one of the first concepts laid out in Mystery Method and its one of the first calibration concepts ever conveyed which is one of the foundational reasons why PUA techniques work. Although its stupid name, its founded on two axioms. First is that women want to have sex, BUT (2) women have traumas and social pressures when it comes to sex and men. Therefore this leads to a paradox in a womans minds. In my post microcalibration we discuss this paradox through …
/r/seduction01/04/25 03:51 AM
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Getting a coach that reviews texting alone is a waste. I give access to my whatsapp and my students ask me whatever and whenever they want. Just see my texting and flirting posts. Its a verbal skills problem. Best practiced infield instead of online.
/r/seduction01/04/25 03:45 AM
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Yes. Usually its a bad ides to get the girls in your core group. Pretty girls know other pretty girls, seduce and get the orbiters that frequent that group. You already have the social proof. You're friends and hang out with your gang of pretty girls. That will attract other pretty girls. What a waste to damage your reputation like this.
/r/seduction01/04/25 03:34 AM
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Well the best location, time, day for pickup is places when and where theres a lot of foot traffic. Common sense. See my post on the pirnciples of approaching women and my daygame post. That should really help you out.
/r/seduction01/04/25 03:15 AM
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Wrong. The hotter the girl the easier it is to get her. Why? Because if you successfully implement the techniques I laid out in the "how to get women to chase - frames 101" post, you can stand out much quicker and much faster.
/r/seduction01/04/25 02:10 AM
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There is no need to make eye contact before you approach. While having IOIs is nice to have in an approach, it's not needed. See my post on how to approach women and practice the principles inside so that you can start consistently approaching women with success.
/r/seduction01/04/25 02:09 AM
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I don't advocate for anything that's canned, because good verbal skills often have a spontaneous aspect to it. See my post on how to approach women, one of the principles inside is to approach women with a blank mind.
/r/seduction01/04/25 02:08 AM
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Learn the core three. Approaching, flirting and escalation. I have a post on all three.
/r/seduction01/04/25 02:06 AM
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I love how open minded you are, but I wouldn't be pulling girls to the toilet, and I have never done so, so I dont have any intelligent insights I can share with you. It's just not personally enjoyable for me and I don't find the idea interesting. Maybe you can try it once to see if this is the kind of thing you want to do. Some people find public sex kinky and a turn on.
/r/seduction01/04/25 02:05 AM
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I don't understand your question.
/r/seduction01/04/25 02:02 AM
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As a beginner you want to be the one that is chasing, because that will the only skills which would be avaliable to you. See my post on how to get women to chase - frames 101, it's unlikely that you will be able to do the techniques in that post, because it builds upon the skills you leanr with your first 2,000 approaches. There is no line with being bold and needy. You can be bold without being needy. Be honest. A major part of game is about being congruent. As a begineer, you want to learn the…
/r/seduction01/04/25 01:59 AM
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Congratulations but sorry to be harsh this sounds like a lucky break to me. Learning real seduction involves approaching women irl. See my post on how to approach women.
/r/seduction01/04/25 01:56 AM
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You just have too many filters in your own mind. It's a kind of self censorship and being afriaid of what others will think of you and aware of how you might be perceived +how you come off. To fix this is just to stop worrying so much about what others think of you and reduce your amount of peoples pleasing tendencies. See my post on flirting and verbal techniques to learn concrete principles and outer game techniques on verbal skills. That will help you out a lot so long as you practice them.
/r/seduction01/04/25 01:53 AM
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Long distance is not a good idea and goes againts the principles of pickup as a whole. Just go find some new women to talk with through approaching instead of figuring out how to navigate this situation. See my post on "step by step on how to approach women"
/r/seduction01/04/25 01:51 AM
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Pickup is just a domain of self improvement like any other domains. The skills will be transferable to the other things you might want to persue in life.
/r/seduction01/04/25 01:50 AM
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As humans we are naturally afriad of new experiences, this is normal because you don't know what to expect. The best way to deal with this is to game in similar enviorements, repeatedly go to the same clubs and your usual daygame spots so that there is more familiarity. See my post on approach anxiety and how to deal with your difficult emotions infield for a fix. Dealing with this is more so about mindfullness techniques.
/r/seduction01/04/25 01:48 AM
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I think you came off as a braggart, showing off your new girlfriend as some sort of material prize, so the women in your social circle now don't want to be your next conquest. You've basically illicited ASD. See my post on calibration (general not microcalibration).
/r/seduction31/03/25 01:57 PM
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To practice? Sure. Especially as a begineer you want to increase your volume. Take these skills to seduce a girl you really like to settle down with long term. You don't want to drag it out until your 40s, it will become increasingly difficult to find a partner then. See my post on how to do a good approach.
/r/seduction31/03/25 02:24 AM
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Lack of comfort. See my post on comfort - "how to make a woman fall in love with you".
/r/seduction31/03/25 02:19 AM
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If it's 10 quality approaches then it's near 80%. But most of the time it's closer to 1 in 4 - 25%. (approach to date) I grab instagram, because my Instagram is full of DHVs.
/r/seduction31/03/25 02:17 AM
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Goodjob! Do it again. Your problem is escalation, see my post on escalation "how to pull a girl home in a day". That will teach you the basics of kino. As to the club itself, see my post on nightclubs, it's a step by step guide on what to do.
/r/seduction31/03/25 02:14 AM
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That's a wonderful reason to disqualify yourself. Make sure you tell that to every woman you meet, see my post on verbal techniques under "disqualification." As to the mindset of why you cannot succeed with women due to your unfovorable circumstances, everyone has unfavorable circumstances, but we still made it work. You are suffering from victimhood thinking, see my post on victimhood to break out of it.
/r/seduction31/03/25 02:12 AM
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Doesn't work. You must know them irl through an approach for any meaningful texting progression - see my post on texting. I receive plenty of follow request from random girls at the club I've never met before, they just saw me doing my thing inside the club and decided to stalk me down on Instagram. For most, I've texted an opener but seemingly get ghosted, no idea what's going on.
/r/seduction31/03/25 02:10 AM
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See my post "top reasons why you can't get laid". It's guarenteed you're making a mistake within that post.
/r/seduction31/03/25 02:05 AM
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Find some locations to approach. For daygame its usually malls, parks or the city center. For nighttime it's usually bars and nightclubs. You can see my post "step by step on how to do a good approach" and start [racticing the principles within. For daygame and nightclubs specifically I also have a post on a general flow you can follow.
/r/seduction31/03/25 02:04 AM
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There's really no real antidote to conquer approach anxiety. Just like any fear you defeat it by facing it head on instead of running away from it. Generally, what I teach to help with fear is mindfulness. See my post on approach anxiety and how to deal with difficult emotions infield.
/r/seduction31/03/25 02:02 AM
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Have good communications skills, be honest with him and tell him what you told us here. Say it when you're at an emotional high. I'm still writing a post on communication skills and it's admittedly tricky to write so that's not avaliable yet. Maybe you can see my post on boundaries to see if that brings you any new ideas.
/r/seduction31/03/25 01:59 AM
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Fears are generally caused by trauma. You're looking at the wrong places for a solution. See my post on self love for solutions.
/r/seduction31/03/25 01:55 AM
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{Logistical question} - ("can I come with you"/"come with me")
/r/seduction25/03/25 01:10 PM
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5 minutes. Not 5 seconds, this is called hook point. See my post on outer game for the list of indicators.
/r/seduction25/03/25 10:59 AM
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Because one of the key principles of flirting is having no filter. See my post on flirting and practice the principles inside.
/r/seduction25/03/25 07:47 AM
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Women have defentely flirted with you before. Flirting is defined as having or spiking emotional variance. See my post on flirting. For more concrete outer game techniques, ive written a post on a list of verbal techniques.
/r/seduction25/03/25 07:29 AM
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Kino teaches how to properly touch a woman in a way where they feel safe, sexy and turned on. Read my escalation post, it teaches you how to do that.
/r/seduction24/03/25 03:55 AM
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I'm not going to lie to you, but being in your 40s will make it tougher for you. I'm not sure what Zagreb has to offer but maybe you can consider moving to one of the supercities like New York or London. Hitting on girls in their 20s is a waste of time for you, mostly because they wont lead to anything long term. You can do it. Nothing is ever too late. There's plenty of business minded women in their mid 30s who are still single. Daygame will have the best likelihood of success for you, approac…
/r/seduction23/03/25 02:12 PM
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Don't kino at work but instead bring her out on a date first. See my post on escalation.
/r/seduction23/03/25 07:42 AM
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You do not require a "signal/IOI" to approach someone. The only signal you need is that you find her attractive and that you want to approach her. See my post on the principles of a good approach. What you're dealing with is approach anxiety. See my post on that and another one called how to deal with your difficult emotions infield.
/r/seduction23/03/25 07:40 AM
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He has to go get a sample size first. Adjust from there.
/r/seduction22/03/25 02:40 PM
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It's hard to confer conclusions and draw patterns between what other people do. It's better to do this analysis on your own interactions, because you have a clear understanding on the nuances and context of what you said and why you said it. When you make mistakes get someone who knows what they are doing to have a look and tell you what went wrong. That's the fastest way to learn.
/r/seduction22/03/25 02:34 PM
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No alchohol is my alchohol of my choice. You don't need advantages as a newbie, you need to learn. See my nightclub guide, it gives you a step by step process on how you can win the night.
/r/seduction22/03/25 12:34 PM
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Getting girls to chase you is something intermediates learn. The skillsets are not avaliable to begineers yet, this is because to get women to chase you have to learn frames. To build frames properly, you would be required to know how to escalate, flirt and approach with ease. See my post on frames to see if you can technically do what I outlined in there.
/r/seduction22/03/25 04:21 AM
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I dont believe that naturals exist. They learnt somehow. The "naturals" you speak of were born just as clueless as you are. Using a mentor to learn in general is a great investment. Because you're investing in your skills, nobody can take that away from you. Paid mentors are the best since you incentivize them for your success. But if you dont go the paid route, you just pay with other things, like time or effort and sacrifice.
/r/seduction22/03/25 04:04 AM
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Well you just said it yourself. You forgone your purpose for a comfy sales job sitting at home with your inheritance. Since you have so much security, why not try doing what you're passionate about for a year and see how that goes. Keep expenses low and make sure you dont waste that cushion so that you are given another opportunity when mistakes inevitably happen.
/r/seduction21/03/25 12:22 PM
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Not easy. Takes a lot of practice. If you overthink, you're most likely a newbie, so you need to lower your expectations if you dont want to get bummed out. My nightgame guide broke it down step by step on how to pull at the club. Goodluck
/r/seduction21/03/25 10:39 AM
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Talking conveys thoughts. Flirting conveys emotions. See my post on flirting.
/r/seduction21/03/25 04:39 AM
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See my post on nightclubs. It's a step by step process on how to win in nightgame. No alchohol required.
/r/seduction20/03/25 03:04 PM
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For one, you lowered your value and she defenetely lost some interest. Play it cool and act like nothing happened and escalate properly next time. See my post on esclation. If shes still responding to texts you still have a degree of buy in, so the situation is still salvageable if you make zero mistakes moving forward, which is unlikely.
/r/seduction20/03/25 02:53 PM
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Awesome. Goodluck, glad you found my stuff helpful. Also you might want to get rid of that palm reading thing, sounds a bit routine gameyish to me.
/r/seduction20/03/25 02:46 PM
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Start with apporaching and getting the first 15 minutes of conversation down. I alwasy teach approaching first because it builds the foundations for all other things. See my post on how to do a good approach and that will keep you busy for the next month or two. Also, you might have misunderstood attraction for rating yourself a 7/10. See my post on "how attraction works" and reevaluate yourself. You might be more of a 2/10.
/r/seduction20/03/25 02:43 PM
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Intuitively, I think you're gaming like a clown. You're just entertaining her and you're not getting her attracted to you. You should learn the hook point indicators from my outer game post.
/r/seduction20/03/25 07:43 AM
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Ultimately, confidence just boils down to experience. As you get older, your experiences compounds. You understand what is the likely outcomes of certain patterns and the reduced uncertainty allows you to be more decisive when taking action. See my post on confidence.
/r/seduction20/03/25 07:36 AM
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Generally, for nightgame the number is not useful. You have to close her on the same night. If you want to collect numbers and go on dates, do daygame instead. I have posts on both daygame and nightgame.
/r/seduction20/03/25 07:32 AM
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Just stack cold reads to keep the conversation going and make sure to qualify/disqualify her before she does it to you. See my post on verbal techniuqes, I listed out all the verbal techniques in that post.
/r/seduction20/03/25 07:28 AM
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See my post on daygame. You're on the right track when you try for the insta date, but learn he proper setup for it.
/r/seduction16/03/25 06:56 AM
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See my post on nightclubs. That guide is desgined to be done sober
/r/seduction16/03/25 06:52 AM
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See my post on how to manage your emotions infield + approach anxiety.
/r/seduction16/03/25 06:51 AM
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In regards to what she can do, giving someone your attention is a part of love. See my post on how to deeply love others. The problem here is not you're not receiving enough love from your partner. I'd suggest you voice your needs to your grilfriend, if shes a good girlfriend she will increase the amount of time she will spend with you temporaily. In regards to what you both can do, you also need to start figuring out what type of relationship you both want, everyone has prefrences. If you're th…
/r/seduction16/03/25 06:50 AM
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You're just doing this in the wrong context. If you want to collect numbers and go on dates, you have to do daygame. See my post on daygame for that. There is no day 2 on nightgame. You either pull that same night or you can forget it. See my post on nightgame on how to do that.
/r/seduction16/03/25 06:39 AM
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Haha I feel this too. You're just rusty. After you do your first approach your old skills will come online again.
/r/seduction16/03/25 06:35 AM
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No. I really hate winging with noobs since I'm self sufficient and it really ruins the night for me. Winging with another person around my skill level however is very fun and it makes the night a lot more easier.
/r/seduction16/03/25 06:32 AM
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Oh. Then that changes the explanation. You fell into the boyfriend frame and now potentially you might have illicited ASD. What you do dosent change. Let her resolve it, dont be needy and pushy and she'll come around. Limit exposure with her until she initiates with you again.
/r/seduction15/03/25 12:54 PM
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Disinterest means no IOIs. If she is shy, she will still give IOIs.
/r/seduction15/03/25 06:42 AM
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Send the same the frequency of texts pre-date, dont drastically increase or reduce your texting. Logistically set up the next date to be more intimate. Maybe cooking at your place. See my post on escalation + texting.
/r/seduction15/03/25 06:40 AM
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In my experience, shes just taking a step back to process her emotions about you. Just give her some space and she'll come back. This sudden withdrawl happens when shes really considering to be committed to you. If you've already slept together for 3 months then theres really no more PUA considerations to be made. Your focus now is more so transitioning from pickup to a more relationship mindset.
/r/seduction15/03/25 06:34 AM
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Calibration problem. See my post on calibration. You're escalating too fast (making it M2W too fast/intense). We escalate off the signals she give. See my post on escalation.
/r/seduction15/03/25 06:24 AM
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This is because the inefficient nature of pickup. You are starting from zero with every single girl. Your problem is that you are one of those obsessive types. They do one thing obsessively until they burn out, and then they are forced to rest. For me, i just go one by one. Quality over quantity. It ensures that I'm not wasting my time doing something inefficiently. Read the book mastery by george leonard.
/r/seduction15/03/25 06:20 AM
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Boring just means no emotional variance. See my post on flirting and how I defined it. Being boring is okay long term. Its exhausting getting your emotions spiked for a year straight. Stability matters more after you get into a relationship. See my post how to deeply love others for that
/r/seduction14/03/25 07:29 AM
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Although having a life that's put together is important, you are missing the point. Becoming good with women is mastering the core three. Approaching, flirting and escalation. I have a post on all three. Even if you are the worlds most attractive model, without these core skills you wont be able to attract women and see it through. For the tryhard thing, you have to be a massive tryhard at almost anything to become really good/skillful at it. If you're pretending not to be a tryhard, then how ar…
/r/seduction14/03/25 05:46 AM
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Well, if you don't like it and something feels off just get a new phone number haha. Intuition is usually right.
/r/seduction13/03/25 01:15 PM
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They dont want you going to their places for the exact same reason you dont want them coming to your place. Hmm, I never had that problem before so I don't know how to help you. Maybe just try and see how they react haha.
/r/seduction13/03/25 02:11 AM
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Do it in moderation, don't spam approach. Peacocking is extremely effective in college
/r/seduction13/03/25 02:09 AM
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You have the opposite problem. You have mindless execution without reflecting upon your experience. Usually how to improve is that you do the approach and then reflect what went wrong and change it for the next one. See my post on approaching women well, do you do everything in that list?
/r/seduction13/03/25 02:08 AM
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I think the main reason is ASD, see my post on general calibration. I also think you should smooth out your escalation, see my post on that as well.
/r/seduction13/03/25 01:03 AM
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Mature womens will see through your pickup bullshit quite quickly. If what you mean is people who are sexually experienced, then specifically go for those who are justifyers. See my post on microcalibration.
/r/seduction13/03/25 12:56 AM
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They want to come to your place for the same reasons why they don't want you to go to thier places. I don't think theres a good solution here only than to bit the bullet and bring them back to your place.
/r/seduction13/03/25 12:53 AM
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I have your problem before, you're stuck in the materialist paradigm. The truth is, most people get into relationships for egoic desires - mainly sex. Real connection is difficult and if you want connection, then you have to forget about all of the shallow reasons you want a girl. See my post, how to deeply love others to solve this problem. And yes, it is counterproductive to pickup practices and will tank your "results". Its the price to pay if you want connection.
/r/seduction12/03/25 06:20 AM
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This is mostly trauma related. You need to go back into the past and forgive yourself, see my post on self love. That's the easiest. A more difficult option is that you can learn how to generate buy in so girls escalate on you instead. See my post on how to make women chase. You can also use consent based escalation where you do it 80% and let the girl initiate the last 20%. Or you can just ask. All three are good options for your psychological profile.
/r/seduction12/03/25 02:46 AM
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The next time this happens dont walk away, just take a deep breath and close your eyes in front of the girl. Calm yourself before you're about to speak and say "sorry was just a bit nervous {opener}"
/r/seduction12/03/25 02:40 AM
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You've tried to close too quickly without judging her interest levels before doing so. See my post on texting to know when you should close for a date.
/r/seduction12/03/25 02:38 AM
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I often teach the core three first. Approaching, flirting and escalation. If what you mean by "success" is sex then mastering those three alone can make you rather successful. I have post for all three and one coming out soon on how to learn pickup.
/r/seduction11/03/25 11:29 AM
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You can read my nightclub guide. The whole flow from at home to pull.
/r/seduction11/03/25 08:27 AM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction11/03/25 01:57 AM
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Yes it is normal. Breaking eye contact in the approach signifies what type of girl she is and you can actually modify your opener to suit her type, see my post on microcalibration.
/r/seduction11/03/25 01:54 AM
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I have a post on texting that reflects your situation quite well, maybe you can give the techniques in that post a try.
/r/seduction11/03/25 01:52 AM
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I have plenty of resources on my profile, you can go through them.
/r/seduction11/03/25 01:48 AM
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You can read my approach anxiety and "how to deal with your difficult emotions" infield post. Those basically teach you how to manage your emotions infield. It's good that you're honest with yourself. I enjoy teaching you kind of people.
/r/seduction11/03/25 01:47 AM
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I have a lot of resources on my profile. Start with the beginner posts.
/r/seduction11/03/25 01:43 AM
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Confess your love loudly by singing a song in front of the whole class and get suspended.
/r/seduction09/03/25 04:58 AM
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The problem is not in the texting, it's in the approach. If you've talked for a solid 15 minutes, you can easily recall something that was said in the interaction and countinue it through texting. Often we seed the date in the approach. See my daygame post.
/r/seduction09/03/25 04:57 AM
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"step by step on how to do a good approach." All the way at the bottom
/r/seduction09/03/25 04:55 AM
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