I've had decent success with the times I've hit on waitstaff. Once it was immediate, the others it took some time; going back, getting to know the girl better. I wouldn't say I'm into "seduction," I'm generally just myself, and if it works, it works, if it doesn't, it doesn't.

But one thing I've noticed is that I never, ever have asked for a waitstaff's number. I also give. I've noticed a trend here that this is generally a big no-no, always get, get, get. Make her want you. I understand this philosophy plenty, and generally speaking, I usually go for the number. But I was wondering if the philosophy should be different with girls who get hit on constantly by guys who are shitfaced. Maybe I'm striking too big a difference here, but I am imagine there is one, no? They must have higher guards up, especially because they are there working? Does this make a difference?

Last Tuesday, I brought a friend to a nice bar. I BSed with the bartender for a bit. Months prior I had (while semi-buzzed) gotten a drink from her, casually told her that I thought she was one of top 5 most beautiful girls I had ever seen, and just left with my friend. I wasn't really even hitting on her. Fast forward to last Tuesday, I have no clue if she remembers this. I ask her a couple questions when she swings by, get her involved in our conversation a bit, then on my way out ask her what nights she works. She tells me, and asks my name, and I leave.

I come back this Tuesday with a friend. I spend most of my time talking to my friend because it was the first time I'd seen her in about half a year, and we had to migrate to a table. But I got to BS with the bartender, for no more than a minute.

At the end of the night, I just go up to the bar (it was pretty dead), and wait for her. When she comes by, I simply say:

"Hey, my friend is in from Vegas and I haven't seen her in about 5 months. I really wanted to talk to you for a bit, but I had some catching up to do. But here's my number if you want to grab a coffee sometime this week."

She looks at me and says she will (this was only two days ago, so not really sweating anything).

My question is...too soon? Come back in a week make sure there's more conversation under my belt? Make sure to try to get her number?

I have an attractive who bartended for a while, and when I inquired she told me that she used to get numbers constantly. She added the caveat that she worked at a pick-up bar, which my the place in question is certainly not. I have the benefit of being good looking, in shape, and articulate, so I don't come off as just "trying to pick up," which generally works in my favor. Yet, I was still wondering if there was a better way of approaching this.

More of a lurker here, but I was interested in hearing other people's opinions.