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[–]Dodechaedron 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
You have oneitis and been friendzoned.
[–]STD_Tyler 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The first sentence when you read "I have a situation with ONE GIRL", it is already fucked up. The title is self explanatory.
[–]Pringles__ 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I see
[–]Pringles__ 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Ok I get it and I know that you are right. But what do you suggest me to do? I don't need critics, I need answers/solutions. I'm trying to improve myself, I'm reading books, but I'm not there yet. I don't want anything with her and I already know that, I just want to know what to do with this situation that got me a bit confused.
[–]Dodechaedron 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You can keep her (girl A) as a friend, if you want, as long as the friendship is genuine, from both sides but I would look around for a girl (B) that is willing to have a relationship with you. Then you'll observe how A will react.
Okay thanks! I just asked a girl (B) for a drink and I'm trying to schedule things with 3 more girls. But it's a bit harder right now because I can't meet girls outside of the ones I have already sent a message to for some reason (because of COVID and being at my parent's)
[–]STD_Tyler 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
These guys who she fucked, are not obsessed about her. They see other girls and don't make it a big deal. Unlike you, who have been obsessed about her for 1 year. That's what they do better than you, they have options.
Thanks but I don't rely solely on her, I scheduled things with 2 other girls before seeing her. She is part of my friend group and since my the rest of the group wasn't available, we decided to do things together.
But you are right. I don't have other sexual partners and I know that unconsciously, I'm giving her the feeling that I'm interested in her.
What would be the best solution?
She can smell that you are not dating other girls from a mile away. The solution is to always pursue other girls and you will become a more attractive male in general.
I think that I understand what's happening. When I saw her the first time these holidays (bar), I had seen other girls so I went there in "I don't need you" mode (I really meant it) and I was perceived as more attractive than now. I just proposed to do sth with her to include one more girl in my list. However, since that day (2 weeks ago), I haven't seen any other girl (the coronavirus situation and the fact that I'm at my parent's is complicating things a bit). So I'm gradually being considered as less attractive as I'm relying more on her. You are right that I should continuously pursue other girls. I'll try to schedule things with other girls because my main objective was and is to schedule things with as many different people as possible. Let me know if my mindset is right.
[–]yoma_mafat 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You became Stanky Pete.
Elaborate?
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