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| 1 | She's been replying less, she says she's busy, but is it worth holding on?I agree with you. I never double texted her though, I ignore her until she responds back. I will see whether I will respond to her next time or not but I'm more leaning towards not. I should have already not done that after the almost 3 weeks she took the last time. She is from the same country where I currently am but she is temporarily abroad, I'm seeking a partner and it was one of her friends who set us up. | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 07:29 PM |
| 2 | She's been replying less, she says she's busy, but is it worth holding on?She is from the same country where I am from, she is temporarily abroad. | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 06:31 PM |
| 1 | She's been replying less, she says she's busy, but is it worth holding on?I entirely agree with you and I thank you for this very well written reply. It's in fact a more complicated situation than scarcity (which may be a bit present, not going to lie), it's someone I know through someone and that person set us up so I gave her the benefit of the doubt. In general, I do not keep pursuing such women. | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 04:02 PM |
| 3 | She's been replying less, she says she's busy, but is it worth holding on?I also thought it was disinterest but when she came back the two times, she apologized, owned it, and explained the situation, which left me confused. There is really nothing in particular that could have made her disinterested, we were really talking very regularly and actively, we never hit a boring part in the convo or anything, she just dipped and came back. The first time she even asked me on news regarding a job interview I had applied for, she did remember and care enough to do it. To me,… | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 01:23 PM |
| 5 | She's been replying less, she says she's busy, but is it worth holding on?I agree with you, even the first 5 days were crazy, no message to warn me beforehand or anything, complete disrespect. What I don't get is why does she keep coming back, apologising, etc. Does she think I'll just stick there waiting for her to talk once a month? | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 01:19 PM |
| 14 | How do you know if a woman is looking at you because she is interested?You approaching women means that you are not scared to approach women so you have a certain confidence regarding approaches but you are still not having self-confidence. So when you approach women, you still don't want to disturb them, you are trying to do things "right". In fact, a confident man doesn't try to do things right and doesn't care about what a woman may think of him if he approaches her. Of course, he still has to respect her and her decision/boundaries. | /r/seduction | 06/09/22 11:55 AM |
| – | How do you know if a woman is looking at you because she is interested?I'm going to be harsh but you are not attractive because you have no confidence in yourself and you have social anxiety. Girls sense that when you approach them. You even let your self-esteem be determined by your outcome in online dating and social events. No wonder your approaches are not working with that mindset. Anyway, a simple stare is not enough to judge anything. Now, if she stares at you multiple times, smiles at you, or even does the flirtatious look, it's a good indication she is int… | /r/seduction | 06/09/22 11:14 AM |
| 2 | Yesterday I wrote a post about being super sad/depressed about consecutive bad dates. I just had sex for 2 hours with a 8/10 girl from bumble. Took me less than 7 messages to get her to my house.If he is happy with that outcome and he is satisfied from the situation then I'm all happy for him. If getting laid with random is a win for him then let it be. The perception of success is relative to everyone I guess. However, I find sex to be mediocre if there is no intimacy. I would rather have OP learning how to approach women, creating his own occasions, and being picky. That's a bigger win than getting laid with a random stranger he matched on an online dating platform. | /r/seduction | 06/09/22 10:04 AM |
| 45 | Yesterday I wrote a post about being super sad/depressed about consecutive bad dates. I just had sex for 2 hours with a 8/10 girl from bumble. Took me less than 7 messages to get her to my house.You had her the moment she sent that message, it's not a bad thing but please, acknowledge it. You haven't won anything. Also, your mindset dude. "sex for 2 hours" "8/10 girl" "took me less than 7 messages". What are you trying to achieve? Were you happy? Do you feel less of a loser now? Did you enjoy spending the evening with HER? Did you enjoy getting laid with HER specifically? | /r/seduction | 05/09/22 06:45 AM |
| 12 | Give gym advice to gym crush? Yay or nay?You want to start the conversation by giving unsolicited advice? Even if she doesn't find it annoying, it implies what she does is wrong, it's a negative conversation starter. Instead, congratulate her for something she does correctly, if you mean it. | /r/seduction | 01/09/22 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Advice for Single Guys Who Are StrugglingAt the gym, in the grocery store... | /r/seduction | 22/08/22 08:52 PM |
| 5 | Advice for Single Guys Who Are StrugglingThere is confidence in approaching and self-confidence. OP is talking about the latter. You can have the balls to approach women but if you are a pussy inside and rely on PUA bullshit, they will sense it. Self-confidence is knowing you are better than most men while acknowledging that some men are better than you. Self-confidence is when you want to lead your life and start owning everything you do. You are not afraid of anything you say or do and own every part of your character. When I fucking… | /r/seduction | 22/08/22 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Good looking boys are having sex with most of the girls secretly. MASSPeople who don't give a fuck about all of this shit and who are confident with themselves regardless of their looks get more laid than people who cry about girls getting laid with anyone but them | /r/seduction | 22/08/22 08:02 PM |
| 3 | Good looking boys are having sex with most of the girls secretly. MASSOk loser. | /r/seduction | 22/08/22 09:17 AM |
| 5 | Dating is always summarised to looks, no matter whatPeople who have no knowledge about seduction and women should refrain themselves from making posts in a seduction subreddit. | /r/seduction | 22/08/22 09:11 AM |
| 6 | In Mark Manson's "Models" he explains one way to attract the women you want is to become a leader in your interests/demographic. Who here has done something along those lines?That doesn't show you're confident | /r/seduction | 19/08/22 08:51 PM |
| 14 | Lost my virginity last night, here's some takeaways / after-thoughtsinstructions unclear, dick stuck in fan | /r/seduction | 19/08/22 09:42 AM |
| 16 | Girl at Gymnot a man | /r/seduction | 19/08/22 09:41 AM |
| 27 | Girl at GymDon't put attractive women on a pedestal. A woman is a woman. | /r/seduction | 19/08/22 09:32 AM |
| 2 | How do you know someone is trying to make you jealous?Attraction isn't a choice. She is attracted to him but not to you. Just next her and get yourself someone who is actually interested by you. | /r/seduction | 10/08/22 12:11 AM |
| 5 | Nothing else mattersMeditate. Be grateful for the things you have. Thank life for having a cushy job, thank life for having hobbies, thank life for being alive, thank life for being able to write this on a computer and complain about your situation instead of starving to death. The things you don't have are irrelevant. Happiness comes from the simple things :-) | /r/seduction | 10/08/22 12:07 AM |
| 21 | Where to meet women in early 20s? Should I give up?Rule 1. Be attractive Rule 2. Don't be unattractive | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 07:01 PM |
| 7 | Where to meet women in early 20s? Should I give up?He scrolls on Reddit and asks people how to meet women instead of looking around him. | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 07:00 PM |
| 4 | Anyone else get almost no results despites being attractive?OP, I've gone through the same shit than you so I can relate. All of this is GOOD but it's not enough. It's literally the same problem with "nice guys" or "incels". You believe that because you have certain qualities, women should automatically follow you. You attach your worth on irrelevant shit. You think that because you are handsome, have a decent watch, decent clothes, and decent career, you should attract women. In other words, you think that you need these things to attract women because … | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 06:50 PM |
| 3 | Anyone else get almost no results despites being attractive?"My car is 50,000 km, in good shape, brings me to work, has good fuel consumption and it is not dusty. It brings me to a lot of places...yet no results, it hasn't brought me to an island yet. It has everything or almost everything on paper and my car has been told by men and women that it looks good." You realize what is the problem? Your car can have everything to be a good car, it still won't lead you to an island. You need a boat or plane for that. Apply this logic to yourself. You can be the… | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 02:45 PM |
| 2 | I am not desired sexually by womenFinally some good fucking advice over here. | /r/seduction | 17/07/22 11:58 PM |
| 3 | Discussion about beautiful girls and not looking good guys in the clubMaybe you are the weird guy | /r/seduction | 30/06/22 11:27 AM |
| 12 | How much money do I need to get a gfYou know what girls love before money and status? Confidence. You may not be the most handsome man out there but you can improve your looks. Plus not all women care about that. Stop with this loser mentality and start working on yourself. | /r/seduction | 30/06/22 08:08 AM |
| 3 | Stop thinking and start actingI would definitely text her but only for logistics. I wouldn't chat by message before the first date, it's a waste of time. For your situations, it all depends on the context. Can you start the conversation genuinely? Sunbathing girls are just difficult to approach as they are trying to relax and may be topless. Girl who would be swimming and having fun with their friends, you could probably invite yourself in and have fun with the people. Try to include yourself first then you can approach the … | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 10:07 PM |
| 1 | Stop thinking and start actingIn your head. | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 09:54 PM |
| 2 | Stop thinking and start actingThis is what you want to believe. I see couples of ugly guys with hot women all the time as much as I see couples of hot guys with hot women and couples of hot guys with ugly women. When I was balding and considered myself ugly, I was in a relationship with a 9/10 (I don't rate women but just so you have an idea). I wasn't owning the bald look, shaving my head and hitting the gym yet. I'm not saying I attract everyone but I'm pretty sure that some of these girls you are talking about would defin… | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Stop thinking and start actingThe concept of "league" is bullshit in the first place. Some women use that as an excuse but there ain't such a thing as "league" in seduction. I attract girls I find hot easier than some less attractive ones. There are girls out there who are at the moment trying to fuck with me (or tried) who are hotter than some girls I'm actually interested in. Also what tells you that I'm not hot or funny or even interesting in the first place? I'm hotter, funnier and more interesting than most men out ther… | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 07:25 PM |
| 3 | Stop thinking and start actingYou have to find a context and say something genuinely. This is very dependent on the situation and what you want to say. Even if I told you what I would have said, this is how I would have done it but you wouldn't do it the same way as me. Personally, I would have said to the girl looking for shells something like: "hey, that's my favorite activity, what have you gotten so far?" because I mean it, I have always looked for shells when I went to the beach and my grandma (dead) gave me a giant she… | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 07:09 PM |
| 6 | Stop thinking and start actingYes it would get you some girls though that kind of approach has its risks and may get you into some issues. If you genuinely approach them to fuck them then you are at least being honest with them. However, I personally don't approach to fuck girls, I approach to find a girl who I want to be with or fuck and get at least 1 date before taking the decision. | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 11:59 AM |
| 14 | I’m descending into the woman hating madness. I don’t want to believe red pill but it’s too convincing. Help me.If I just told you that your perception of women is wrong, would it make a difference? Instead, let me say that your perception only applies to some women. There are women out there who are of course disgusting and would hurt any guy. However, these women are not the majority at all and don't represent the whole community. I have tons of women in my social circle and at work and literally none of them fits into your description. None of the women in my social circle has ever hurt or cheated on a… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/06/22 10:16 AM |
| 35 | [deleted by user]Working out. 6 months hitting the gym has changed my life drastically: I look in shape and very muscular: https://i.imgur.com/gefi5HS.jpg. I'm way stronger, I can carry very easily things that I couldn't even lift before. Need some help for your move? You can count on me. I learned what discipline was about and how our brain tries its best to prevent us from doing things that are essential for our lives. You want to approach that girl? Just do it, don't listen to your brain. I feel energetic and… | /r/seduction | 26/12/21 06:25 PM |
| 9 | What do I do when a woman is ranting about her ex's on first date?Ejaculate and evacuate | /r/seduction | 31/10/21 04:06 PM |
| 6 | How do I avoid boyfriend vibes?That's what she said | /r/seduction | 26/10/21 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Seduction should never be the #1 priority in your lifeApproach seduction as another hobby/objective, not as your only one, not as the most important one. | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 04:21 PM |
| 1 | How to make girls fall in love and chase you?Rule # 3 ? | /r/seduction | 28/08/21 03:16 PM |
| 2 | How to make girls fall in love and chase you?I know that what you posted is how anyone should behave with women, I agree with you on that. Though I'm doing it naturally, because I know I should not be invested too much on anyone and I back off when necessary. I'm confident enough to do that. I can easily find another woman if she ghosts me as I see a world of abundance. The problem is when someone does it out of neediness, because he wants to get a woman's attention so he ignores her on purpose. I'm not talking about the acts but their int… | /r/seduction | 27/08/21 03:19 PM |
| 4 | How to make girls fall in love and chase you?Not if you got your shit figured out. People should work on themselves, not apply this non-sense advice. | /r/seduction | 27/08/21 03:11 PM |
| 12 | How to make girls fall in love and chase you?What is this PUA bs? Just be authentic. If you are confident in yourself, you'll realize that you'll be doing that unconsciously. | /r/seduction | 27/08/21 10:58 AM |
| 1 | Keep it simple. Being attractive boils down to having solid general people skills, maintaining your appearance, and having your shit together. The rest is fine-tuning.Authenticity is the key. | /r/seduction | 26/08/21 08:54 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I see, though that does not make them successful in dating or "alpha". Plus, that doesn't mean they are a worthy partner. Being fit and making money does not make you a better human being. Shit happens! Though I'm pretty sure you can talk to anyone without an issue :-) They still hooked up with you so what's their point? Are they any better than you? Don't think about them, think about you, what is it that you want? | /r/seduction | 26/08/21 11:58 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]You are not ugly. Of course there are always hotter people out there but that's the case for everyone. That's partially true. I don't want someone to disturb me during my set, though if I'm taking a break and you talk to me, then how is that a problem? There is no such thing as an alpha male , I don't know what you mean by that. If you are talking about a guy who is muscular, that's not alpha, that's just a guy who works out. Some of these "muscular guys" are very nice and even more respectful t… | /r/seduction | 26/08/21 11:23 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]If you say so mate. Just one thing, my lock opens with a code, not a key. | /r/seduction | 26/08/21 11:12 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Let's say that the lockers in our gyms require you to bring a lock with you, which is indeed stupid! I once forgot the key of my lock inside the locker.. They had to buy pliers to break it. Lesson learned, never bring a locker with a key in a gym, take one with a code instead. Isn't it easier the other way around? I'm pretty sure most guys would respect and enjoy a girl approaching them, at least not the socially awkward dudes. Though I don't really find the gym to be the place for that :-) | /r/seduction | 26/08/21 11:00 AM |
| 5 | [deleted by user]Exactly bro. I'm just into my workout. I initially did not want to approach her but as she was struggling, I instantly went to her after finishing my set. Priority remains the workout | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 06:26 PM |
| 6 | [deleted by user]All people named Mark from this subreddit: ): | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 04:23 PM |
| 29 | [deleted by user]🎵 I'm a flame, you are a fire 🎵 🎵I'm the key in need of lock 🎵 | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 02:57 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Yeah that's exactly what I wanted to do but just wanted to get her number instead. Will keep you up to date! | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 02:47 PM |
| 2 | gonna try my first cold approach ever , wish me luckYou shouldn't even see it as practice. Anyone can approach a girl if they stop caring about the outcome and start caring about the girl. | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 02:38 PM |
| 1 | If someone won't date you because of your ethnicity, looks, or any other unalterable externality, don't consider it a problem.So many girls find you attractive, don't focus on the ones who don't. | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 02:27 PM |
| 1 | I gave her my number updateBuena suerte! | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 02:25 PM |
| 1 | I gave her my number updateDon't worry man, I've also been there and learned this the hard way. I can guarantee you that having a direct approach has only been beneficial so far. | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 02:23 PM |
| 1 | I gave her my number updateThat's how I'd do it. Of course if you can propose her a place that she'd be interested by, that's a plus. Now, do as you feel it. I'm just saying that I wouldn't waste time on texting and would just prefer seeing her to have a real conversation that can potentially lead to something. | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 02:22 PM |
| 2 | I gave her my number updateYou don't have to wait for the flow of convo or whatsoever. Just schedule something so you can talk to her in front of her. This is diluting the interest she has for you. That's how I do it. | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 02:17 PM |
| 3 | I gave her my number updateLess talking and more scheduling. Ask her to do something with you, like going to a latino bar so you can dance together. Texting should mainly be for scheduling something and logistics at this stage. | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 02:08 PM |
| 27 | [deleted by user]There are lockers that are within the gym (near where I was working out), not in the changing room, and that's where she was. | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 01:53 PM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]To eyeball: to look at someone or something directly and carefully | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 01:52 PM |
| 52 | [deleted by user]Me neither. There was also another cute girl who was eyeballing me during my whole workout session yesterday but I did not talk to her. I just don't want to hit on women at the gym. | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 01:40 PM |
| 15 | [deleted by user]I'm not afraid of asking for a number and I'm not going to beat around the bush. | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 01:36 PM |
| 14 | [deleted by user]Exactly plus I'm going to the gym solely for working out, not to approach women. I do already well outside of the gym. The need to build report is more important here. I did not want to make her believe that I approached her to get her number, which was not my intention. I preferred to just let her be. I was not expecting anything. Though as everything was positive afterwards (smiling, eyeballing) I know I can approach her again and take it further. | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 10:56 AM |
| 26 | [deleted by user]I know but I just didn't want to do it in the gym. I'll prolly see her tomorrow and it's going to be okay, she'll definitely smile at me again and I'll talk to her. | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 10:42 AM |
| 18 | Woman’s perspective: how can men have an abundance mentality when online dating puts so much abundance and power in a woman’s hands?Exactly. So what if some women think (online) dating is in their hands? Having a date or basically being with someone is very irrelevant in my life. Can't get a date? No problem, my life is going on, I'm going to the gym 3 times a week, I'm pursuing my scientific research career, I'm seeing friends and colleagues, I'm learning the piano, etc. I have a lot of abundance in my life, at no point I need a woman in it. Yet, I'm still human, I'm still a man. I'm still having dates and meeting women to … | /r/seduction | 24/08/21 11:51 AM |
| 4 | Woman’s perspective: how can men have an abundance mentality when online dating puts so much abundance and power in a woman’s hands?This is wrong. Tinder still biases online dating towards women and makes it "pay for win" for men, regardless of the ratio. The reason why more women are using it. | /r/seduction | 24/08/21 11:40 AM |
| 5 | Woman’s perspective: how can men have an abundance mentality when online dating puts so much abundance and power in a woman’s hands?Tinder is the fast food version of dating, in a nutshell. You pretty much summed it up. | /r/seduction | 24/08/21 11:34 AM |
| 2 | Woman’s perspective: how can men have an abundance mentality when online dating puts so much abundance and power in a woman’s hands?So what if some women think (online) dating is in their hands? Having a date or basically being with someone is very irrelevant in my life. Can't get a date? No problem, my life is going on, I'm going to the gym 3 times a week, I'm pursuing my scientific research career, I'm seeing friends and colleagues, I'm learning the piano, etc. I have a lot of abundance in my life, at no point I need a woman in it. Yet, I'm still human, I'm still a man. I'm still having dates and meeting women to find some… | /r/seduction | 24/08/21 11:25 AM |
| 5 | What got me farExactly, it's the lifestyle that is attractive, not the simple fact that you go to the gym. | /r/seduction | 24/08/21 11:13 AM |
| 12 | If you are friend zoned, but still have feelings, it’s always better to distance yourself until the feelings fade—or accept the friendship is over if the feelings don’t fadeFor those who are in this situation, read No More Mr Nice Guy (Robert A. Glover) & Models (Mark Manson) | /r/seduction | 20/08/21 09:02 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]±175cm & caucasian (hispanic) | /r/seduction | 18/08/21 11:12 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]A full-body program (3x a week) is what I'm currently following. The benefits is that you work the whole body consistently and you just go to the gym 3 times a week (I can't afford going one more day as my schedule is pretty tight). I'm currently using the Pro Gym Workout app (Android), "fitness for beginners". https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.workout.workout Though I don't need it anymore as I see the bigger picture now, it's good because it guides you at the beginning. | /r/seduction | 18/08/21 11:06 AM |
| 0 | Masturbation addiction is a serious libido killer. It leaves me unmotivated to approach.Do you know what is a serious libido killer? Feeling guilty. | /r/seduction | 12/08/21 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Lifting....Changed everythingYeah I think so though you can find something similar on iOS. You should just go for a full body workout. | /r/seduction | 12/08/21 08:38 PM |
| 3 | Lifting....Changed everythingI just went for it, did not think twice. There was a period in my life (last year) where I questioned myself and was like "what are you doing man?". Started dating tons of women out of nowhere and started hitting the gym in September (then closed). My program comes from an app that is called "Pro Gym Workout", that's what suited me best. It consists in the following exercises, that are split in 3 days (7-8-7). 4x10 reps minimum, though I do 4x20 reps for incline crunches. Close grip bench press … | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 10:41 PM |
| 32 | Lifting....Changed everythingMan, you don't believe me but I was about to write something similar but just didn't take the time to do it. I'm so happy to see you went through something similar. Going to the gym is so much worth it. You work out to become a better version of yourself for yourself but in parallel, you become proud of yourself. You are not just there lifting weights for the sole purpose of getting a better body, you are consistently improving and achieving things. It boosts your morale and your body. Then, let… | /r/seduction | 09/08/21 09:17 AM |
| 1 | Don’t fool yourself— being in shape and having a masculine physical presence is extremely important to consistently attract the most beautiful womenI'm not slim, I'm more toned. The abs are clearly visible but I don't have a 6-pack, that's purely aesthetic anyway and it's a matter of body fat percentage (mine's at 14% atm). However, my abs are insanely strong and big for someone who started working out at the beginning of June (that's prolly the most visible improvement I noticed so far). That's what she was impressed by. I'm currently following a full body routine (3x/week). My program includes various exercises for abdominals: 2x incline … | /r/seduction | 26/07/21 09:26 PM |
| 9 | Don’t fool yourself— being in shape and having a masculine physical presence is extremely important to consistently attract the most beautiful womenThat's wrong. I started lifting weights because I wanted to look better for me. I already consider myself fit and attractive enough for dating (I was already successful with dating), there's no motive that is pushing me to do it for others. Now, since I started lifting weights (beginning of June, day where gyms reopened here), I have had a female colleague caress my abdomen (out of nowhere) and be impressed by my abs. I also had another woman tell me that my shoulders were looking dope. Of cours… | /r/seduction | 26/07/21 05:36 PM |
| 7 | I accidentally simped EXTREMELY hard."That'll cost you" | /r/seduction | 24/07/21 04:11 PM |
| 53 | I accidentally simped EXTREMELY hard.She's not going down that road either without a new battery in her car | /r/seduction | 24/07/21 04:11 PM |
| 9 | I accidentally simped EXTREMELY hard.Soudain, il fut chargé d'émotions et lui acheta une batterie. | /r/seduction | 24/07/21 04:05 PM |
| 3 | How to not be a nice guy online?What? | /r/seduction | 13/07/21 10:53 PM |
| 18 | How to not be a nice guy online?You mention in your post that you discuss and laugh, before asking girls out. My question is why? Why are you discussing and laughing before asking them out? You don't have to get anybody's approval before asking for a date, you can just tell them directly that you are interested in seeing them. I did this several times on social media, without chit chatting before, and it worked. Of course, I often start things with "hey, it's been some time, how are you doing?" "..." "would you like to go for … | /r/seduction | 13/07/21 08:37 PM |
| 7 | How to not be a nice guy online?This guy knows what being a nice guy is about. Yet let me clear this out. It's not just the last sentence, it's the whole post. OP is justifying himself so massively. OP is also talking about seduction as if it was something that you have to master. Finally, OP prefers discussing and laughing, before asking girls out. You don't have to get their approval before asking for a date, you can just tell them directly that you are interested in seeing them. I did this several times on social media, wit… | /r/seduction | 13/07/21 08:30 PM |
| 3 | How to not be a nice guy online?Emojis are pointless, they often reflect the need of several men to get approval. The reason you are preventing misunderstanding reflects that you are thinking more about them than yourself, this is nice guy behavior. Reddit per se is a kind of approval-seeking platform, a paradise for nice guys. | /r/seduction | 13/07/21 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Sex won’t make you happyAgreed, though the same thing applies to certain women. I think that most people in this sub should stop seeing women and men as different creatures, there's a bit of everything in both genders. | /r/seduction | 06/07/21 01:07 PM |
| 4 | You can literally improve your game by 50% overnightI'm providing myself within the snacks | /r/seduction | 04/07/21 09:05 AM |
| 2 | How do i (26M) make a move on former colleague (28F)https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ip011c/stop\_developing\_oneitis\_and\_start\_being\_authentic/ | /r/seduction | 30/06/21 02:55 PM |
| 2 | Is it bad I'm only learning game to get laidIt doesn't matter what your intentions are, as long as your words and actions follow your intentions, you are fine. Be honest with yourself and with your intentions and you'll be fine. I'm also 25, although I'm not a virgin anymore, I haven't been with a girl for a while. I understand your frustration. Though, keep in mind that your life is not determined by sex. You can put that energy on other stuff like hitting the gym, pursuing a career, etc. Sex is completely irrelevant, it's just something… | /r/seduction | 30/06/21 09:11 AM |
| 9 | Ugh. Girl curious about my size.Don't listen to this guy | /r/seduction | 30/06/21 09:05 AM |
| 22 | Ugh. Girl curious about my size.Was about to answer the same thing. Well done! Don't overdo it though, you need a perfectly well balanced answer. One that makes you gain your leadership but doesn't make you come off as a jerk. u/double_prong's answer is well balanced. "I'll let you find out, my place or yours?" | /r/seduction | 30/06/21 09:00 AM |
| 3 | Stop victimizing and start working on yourselfI also do these, you can check my post history on this subreddit :-) | /r/seduction | 22/06/21 02:08 PM |
| 2 | What does it mean?I once asked a girl out and I dated her. Things went very well and I told her after the date that we should do this again, she was really up for it. A few days after, I texted her to schedule the date and we got it settled up. So, I added the event in my agenda and moved on. After this, I didn't have anything to text her. The day comes and I go to the place where we were supposed to meet. However, she basically didn't show up. I waited 30 minutes, thinking that she was probably late. I was worki… | /r/seduction | 04/06/21 02:22 PM |
| 1 | Stop chasingI made the post to make people realize that life is not about women but about you. Talking about the piano because it's a hobby, not a tool I use to chase women. Read my post again because you didn't get any of it. I'm mainly concerned about me, I don't care about girls. Does it mean that I'm not seeing girls? I can contact a girl right now and do what it takes, I have many in my social circle. Though, life is not about girls but about me. I have a career, a hobby, sports, I don't have time to f… | /r/seduction | 27/05/21 01:06 PM |
| 2 | A argument for the next time someone says "looks is all that matter"There are homemade cakes that look amazing, even better than yours. So, if someone brings his homemade cake that looks and tastes way better than yours, how are you going to behave? Does that mean you have no chance of someone eating your cake? Nah, some people will probably eat your cake and will even prefer it over the other one. The point is that there is a bit of everything out there. Cakes that look and taste beautiful are rare. Cakes that either look beautiful or taste beautiful are howeve… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/03/21 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Stop Putting Sex On A PetastalTried to be polite | /r/seduction | 25/02/21 07:49 PM |
| 1 | A non-needy man gives without expecting in returnDon't mind the reason, she is a friend of mine not a total stranger. Just there was some sexual tension during the date, although I didn't want to go further. | /r/seduction | 25/02/21 01:54 PM |
| 3 | Stop Putting Sex On A PetastalExactly. Plus, without even thinking about orgasm, your brain will seek for sex. Our purpose is to reproduce to maintain our species. I have gone weeks without masturbating and watching porn but I'd ejaculate during the night or my brain would find a way to get me horny. | /r/seduction | 25/02/21 10:55 AM |
| 2 | Stop Putting Sex On A PetastalLook, just compare this with food. The healthier option is having a good ratio of protein:fat:sugar. Ideally, you want to eat 5 fruits/vegetables a day, enough protein, not too much sugar/fat. However, we all eat junk food from time to time, we have all eaten candy, chips. It's okay as long as it does not become your life habits. My point is that it's okay to get casual sex from time to time. Just, don't let this govern your life. You are worth more than that. But it's totally fine imho. | /r/seduction | 25/02/21 10:50 AM |
| 21 | Stop Putting Sex On A PetastalIt's not called discipline, it's called stupidity. You can go days without eating food, you can go days without getting sex. You can't go days without being hungry. You can't go days without feeling the desire to have sex. Now, this doesn't mean that I'll just eat anything I can or that I'll fuck the first woman I see. I want to have a good meal, with a lot of vegetables, enough protein. I don't want to feel full, I want to have as many nutrients as possible. The same goes for sex. I don't want … | /r/seduction | 24/02/21 10:12 PM |
| 22 | Stop Putting Sex On A Petastal1/ These ain't my own personal issues, I'm talking in general. I don't need to pretend I don't want/need sex to live a better life. 2/ I'm a biomedical scientist, this ain't an argument, it is a scientific fact. Sex is a biological need, our brains are wired to achieve that. Pretending you don't want sex is like pretending you don't need to eat. It is stupid and that's not how we work. You can choose what sex you want to get but you shouldn't in any case choose not to get sex. Most dietitians wi… | /r/seduction | 24/02/21 10:02 PM |
| 54 | Stop Putting Sex On A PetastalYour post is just air. It's a good read but it doesn't change anything for those who see sex as a priority. You are just yelling at them and making them feel even worse than they actually are. Instead of making them feel bad for wanting sex, which we all are seeking for btw, it's a biological process, not a hobby (scientist here in case I gotta say that), you should encourage them. Don't feel bad for wanting sex, sex is cool. But don't fall for sex, don't prioritize sex. You should be seeking fo… | /r/seduction | 24/02/21 08:58 PM |
| – | A non-needy man gives without expecting in returnIf I wanted her ass, I would have gone further. I didn't want anything with her. | /r/seduction | 24/02/21 03:36 PM |
| – | A non-needy man gives without expecting in returnOf course. That's what I emphasized in my post. I used the word non-neediness, but I should have talked about authenticity. I also talked about escalation, but didn't mention calibration. I personally will give unconditionally only if I want to. If a girl makes no effort and doesn't make me want to give her, I won't, simple as that. The key is authenticity and non-neediness. I caressed a girl's hair during a Netflix & Chill date for like 20 minutes. Although the girl enjoyed it, she made no effo… | /r/seduction | 24/02/21 12:53 PM |
| 2 | A non-needy man gives without expecting in returnExactly. Non-neediness must be authentic, like everything you say/do. Should have said authenticity instead of non-neediness. | /r/seduction | 24/02/21 08:35 AM |
| 1 | Seduction requires nothing but showing vulnerabilityWhat tells you that I'm not high value? That's the thing, I ain't got nothing to prove. I let things come by themselves. If the girl is not interested by me because I didn't prove her I was worth it, it's okay. I will of course provide confort and I'm very friendly. I'll also escalate accordingly. Something I won't do is try to show her that I'm worth it. Vulnerability is taking the balls not to care about all that. It means that you take the risk 1/ to escalate, 2/ not to try to pursue her, 3/ … | /r/seduction | 23/02/21 07:46 AM |
| 1 | Seduction requires nothing but showing vulnerabilityYou don't do it unknowingly, you do it by showing vulnerability and escalating. The point of my post is that you don't need to do anything, things come naturally depending on your state. | /r/seduction | 22/02/21 08:14 PM |
| – | Time between planning and first date; how to keep someone interested when you have to wait some weeks for the first date?The reason you are asking this question reflects that you have a bit of insecurities. Look, I made the experience once. Scheduled a date with a girl, she agreed, then I didn't text her anymore. I waited till the actual date and didn't even bother sending her a text to remind her. We had already scheduled a hour and knew where we were going. Of course, she forgot the date and didn't come. You'll probably tell me "but you should have reminded her". Indeed, if I wanted to see her, I should have tex… | /r/seduction | 22/02/21 08:03 PM |
| 1 | 1 girl is a anomaly. 10 girls is a trend. 100 girls is your reality.Let me share you my own experience then. I used to be very needy back then and I somehow managed to get a girlfriend being that way (the proof that anyone can get a girlfriend). However, this relationship was literally a chaos. She disrespected me on a daily basis, she still talked to her ex boyfriend, etc. My problem is that I wasn't thinking about my needs before hers back then, so I just let things slip. Then, I started being more and more egoistic. Which basically switched things off, I was … | /r/seduction | 22/02/21 06:10 PM |
| 30 | Is it ok to not want casual sex as a guy?This is your life, you can do whatever you want man. Stop overthinking. In more simplistic words, you want an emotional connection before doing anything. This is normal, I'm also that way and I'm a man. I prioritize my comfort with the person over my libido. This doesn't mean I'm against casual sex, I'm just against shallow sex, with no emotions. I wouldn't get laid with someone just to get laid with her. A girl already asked me to fuck her without me initiating anything but I was not emotionall… | /r/seduction | 22/02/21 05:54 PM |
| 1 | 1 girl is a anomaly. 10 girls is a trend. 100 girls is your reality.I don't think so. I think that you are just not meeting the right partners. You shouldn't be overthinking this too much. | /r/seduction | 22/02/21 12:33 PM |
| 4 | 1 girl is a anomaly. 10 girls is a trend. 100 girls is your reality.Exactly, so go tell that to OP, not me. | /r/seduction | 21/02/21 10:48 PM |
| 8 | 1 girl is a anomaly. 10 girls is a trend. 100 girls is your reality.This isn't an approach, this is how I want to live my life: by taking care of my needs first. I'm selfish but that doesn't mean that I don't care about others. I'm very friendly and I can give without expecting something in return, because I'm confident I can take care of my needs. | /r/seduction | 21/02/21 10:47 PM |
| 12 | 1 girl is a anomaly. 10 girls is a trend. 100 girls is your reality.Cringey post. So you go through 100 girls to realize what seduction is about? Good for you mate but I cba, seriously I don't have the time or the energy for that. Instead, I just approach life how I want to approach it: by caring about my needs first. I'm the priority of my life. I'll do and say whatever I want, by respecting others of course. I want to ask someone out? I'll do it. I want to ask a girl's number? I'll do it. That's how I want to approach life. Now, this isn't perfect. I make mist… | /r/seduction | 21/02/21 09:18 PM |
| 2 | I wonder how many guys in the seduction community are actually high value vs how many of them are trying to create the illusion of high value.I succeeded my studies with Magna cum laude, I'm pursuing a PhD thesis, I play the piano, I started going to the gym (now closed because of COVID), I read books and listen to audiobooks, I speak 6 languages, and so on. The list is endless. Yet, I can assure you that none of this matters if you have no game. If you don't know what seduction is about, it doesn't matter what value you hold, it'll be difficult for you. And what I mean by seduction is being real, vulnerable with girls and not pretend… | /r/seduction | 16/02/21 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Confidence is necessary but not sufficientAh yes, excuse me Mr. Know-It-All for offending your wisdom. Multiple messages were made in my post. Too blind to see them right? 1/ You are not perfect but there are people out there who will find you perfect. Acknowledging that is having self-confidence. "I'm not as handsome as other men but I'm more handsome than others. I know I can enter a room and leave with someone else's girlfriend." 2/ Having self-confidence is cool but it's not sufficient. Your value doesn't change because you are more… | /r/seduction | 15/02/21 04:49 PM |
| – | Confidence is necessary but not sufficientEverything requires practice. You want to be better at playing an instrument? Practice it. You want to be better at lifting weights? Practice it. You want to be better at communicating? Practice it. | /r/seduction | 15/02/21 03:27 PM |
| – | Confidence is necessary but not sufficientI'm glad you find this simple, yet I can assure you a lot of people here still don't understand it. Look at this very recent post for instance: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ljw2aj/a_once_in_a_lifetime_reminder_confidence_attracts/ | /r/seduction | 15/02/21 03:22 PM |
| 1 | A once in a lifetime reminder: Confidence attracts beauty.It's important to be confident, it allows you to be real and that's the most important asset in seduction. However, girls are not attracted by confidence per se. Let me explain this with an example. Let's say you are trying to sell a Renault Clio (a car). - If you sell it by saying that you just want to get rid of it, you may get a seller but you won't get a lot for it. - Now, if you sell it as it being a very reliable car, that it never failed you and that you love it, you may attract more sell… | /r/seduction | 15/02/21 01:58 PM |
| – | Become the king of your worldIndeed, you are not free but not for the reasons you think. You are not free because you think more about the girl than you. You don't have a lot of time, it's understandable. However, instead of blaming yourself for it, own it. It's your life and you want someone who adheres to it. "Instead of trying to seek to conquer all of the girls, you should seek to be the freest man you could ever be." Your purpose is not to accomodate yourself to all of the girls but to be free to do whatever you want a… | /r/seduction | 05/01/21 10:54 AM |
| 6 | Become the king of your worldIt doesn't mean you don't have to change, it means that you don't have to change for others. You are not doing it for someone, you are not doing it to get attention. You are doing it for the sole purpose of changing. If you are already in the spirit of changing for becoming a better man, you are already doing what most men don't. "Just be yourself" means that you should remain yourself. You are not changing for others, you are changing for yourself, hence you are being yourself. So in a sense, y… | /r/seduction | 05/01/21 10:44 AM |
| 2 | Become the king of your worldand an electrician, and an astronaut, and a doctor | /r/seduction | 05/01/21 08:55 AM |
| 1 | I am aware that this whole subreddit is made for men by men but I was wondering if a young woman looking for advice counts. I am young as in I am a student but I am also an adult. How can a woman be seductive?I second this. This is the best advice anyone could give you. | /r/seduction | 04/01/21 06:13 PM |
| – | What “Just be yourself” actually meansThere is your contradiction. "Just be yourself" implies that people should keep their flaws and remain what they are. That's why it's bad advice. The fact that many people find this advice shitty just shows how useless and inefficient it is for some people. I'm not talking about being nice, I'm talking about being a nice guy. There is a difference, you can google that out. | /r/seduction | 04/01/21 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Here is what I did to stop developing crushesExactly. There is a difference between a healthy crush and a toxic crush (obsession -> oneitis). A healthy crush is when you are genuinely interested into a girl because you like her for what she is. You know her well and the more you see her, the more you fall for her. A toxic crush is when you don't carry your balls and don't dare to approach / ask a girl out. You just see her from time to time (school, work) and imagine scenarios that will never happen. I made a post regarding this a while ag… | /r/seduction | 04/01/21 05:28 PM |
| 1 | Here is what I did to stop developing crushesThis is just you evading the problem instead of tackling it. You develop that kind of crush (oneitis) because you don't have the balls to approach her and ask her out, so you start imaging scenarios that will never happen. I advise you to read this post I made a few months ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ip011c/stop_developing_oneitis_and_start_being_authentic/ | /r/seduction | 04/01/21 05:22 PM |
| – | What “Just be yourself” actually means"Just be yourself" is very bad advice, we are all currently being ourselves. When someone says "I'm not good with girls, that's how I am", this is just a shitty excuse. We should rather use "free yourself" (from people's judgement) which translates into "stop being needy" or "stop giving a fuck". You should not seek to be what you currently are, freeing yourself requires a lot of self-work. A nice guy who tries to get into girls' pants by being nice to them and not telling them he wants to fuck … | /r/seduction | 04/01/21 03:46 PM |
| 1 | I thought this would be helpful or smthnWhen a guy remains in a friendship with a girl he didn't want to be friends with but get laid or get into a LTR, he's the only one to blame. | /r/seduction | 25/10/20 06:29 PM |
| 2 | I thought this would be helpful or smthnNah. The friendzone occurs when a girl considers, as a friend, a guy who had only been nice to her and did/said nothing to communicate his intentions. The guy doesn't want to take a risk and as a result, he acts as a "friend" with a girl he is interested in, in the hope of getting into her pants. | /r/seduction | 25/10/20 06:14 PM |
| 2 | How to not seem needy when you kind of areFYI. I go to the gym 3 days a week and I'm currently dating multiple girls. What I don't like is that you are telling him to let his self-worth be defined by his fitness. He doesn't have to go to the gym to acknowledge his worth and start dating. I checked your posts and you are of very bad advice. You shouldn't be posting in this subreddit. Talking about "hoeeess" instead of "girls" perfectly reflects your mindset. | /r/seduction | 25/10/20 12:05 PM |
| 1 | How to not seem needy when you kind of areVery bad advice, don't listen to this guy. | /r/seduction | 25/10/20 11:52 AM |
| 3 | How to not seem needy when you kind of areI won't give you a vague idea of what neediness is. Instead, I'll clearly demonstrate you via your own post what neediness is about so you can realise this and work on yourself. "I've never had any success with women". You let your worth be defined by women, which makes you needy. You depend on others. It's not that you've never had any success with women, it's that 1/ you haven't found someone that is worth your attention, 2/ you haven't searched or tried anything to achieve that. So no, you'… | /r/seduction | 25/10/20 11:48 AM |
| 1 | We often associate taking action with risk, however inaction is often the much riskier decision.Approaching girls and trying to set roots are not incompatible if you are authentic with everybody. You shouldn't even be considering any outcome. You approach people because they interest you, because you want to hang out with them, because you want to spend a good time with them. Depending on the situation, you'll date them, befriend them, or nothing will happen at all. It depends on what you are looking for and what the person is looking for. | /r/seduction | 25/10/20 11:24 AM |
| 13 | We often associate taking action with risk, however inaction is often the much riskier decision.Of course, but a self-centered man wouldn't let himself be defined by what people think of his actions and he wouldn't even need to ask every hot girl he sees out, that's also neediness and attachment to the outcome. He'd know what girls to approach and how to escalate accordingly. You don't approach a girl and ask her out randomly. You communicate with people normally, like you do with your friends, and you see if it's worth taking the risk to ask her out. But everyone approaches differently. R… | /r/seduction | 24/10/20 06:27 PM |
| 21 | We often associate taking action with risk, however inaction is often the much riskier decision.Yet that means shit, because if you let yourself be defined by others, you are being needy. A man who asks girls out and doesn't care about rejection, will not be affected by it, neither his reputation. I for instance ask girls out and I don't care about what people think about it. I clearly tell my friends about it, including female friends, and it doesn't make my reputation any lower. I own it and I know that most girls want to hang out with me so it's okay. My reputation is not lower because … | /r/seduction | 24/10/20 06:13 PM |
| 1 | How do I learn to put 100% of my personality on the line from the very beginning?What forum are you talking about? | /r/seduction | 11/10/20 09:52 AM |
| 1 | How do I learn to put 100% of my personality on the line from the very beginning?r/Seduction ? Yes probably | /r/seduction | 11/10/20 08:00 AM |
| 1 | How do I learn to put 100% of my personality on the line from the very beginning?What's RSDN? | /r/seduction | 10/10/20 05:48 PM |
| 9 | How do I learn to put 100% of my personality on the line from the very beginning?Think more about what you think of her than what she thinks of you. She is bored and doesn't like you? Good, you don't want to be with someone like that. | /r/seduction | 10/10/20 09:47 AM |
| 9 | Anyone else here deleted Instagram?I hid everything on my Facebook account and just use it to chat with friends. I don't use it as an "attention whoring" platform. I don't check what happens on Facebook, only my notifications because there are groups that are important there. I also use Messenger to keep in touch with friends. I deleted Snapchat and Instagram recently. I never used Twitter. On my phone, I only have Messenger and Whatsapp installed. Facebook and Reddit I only check them on my computer. I don't know if I should get… | /r/seduction | 09/10/20 08:35 AM |
| 23 | I don't want 100's of girls. I just want to feel loved by one."I’m going to enjoy my life with or without em" That's the spirit! | /r/seduction | 08/10/20 07:55 PM |
| 7 | Just a little thank youVery good job! I'm proud of you. I see that you are doing it because you mean it. You are improving yourself because you want to be a better version of yourself and for yourself. Don't do it to impress anyone. Do things because you mean them, that's how you'll be authentic. Also one more thing, don't consider this as if you had achieved something, otherwise you'll fall into a comfort zone. You can be grateful of yourself for reaching this point but you must keep working to achieve your objective… | /r/seduction | 07/10/20 08:20 AM |
| 1 | How to attract a woman( and not a shallow girl) and maintain a good relationshipYes you are right. Probably the difference shouldn't be put between men and women but between certain people and other people. There are guys who put women on a pedestal, like there are women who think they must always be put on a pedestal. A lot of guys crave for sex, while a lot of girls crave for attention. My objective is to find someone who has the same mindset than mine. We surely share the same mindset. What I don't like in the post is that there is advice that comes from the typical fema… | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 03:32 PM |
| 15 | Want to know one of the best ways to get a good woman (and keep her)? Respect her boundaries! :)Bullshit. Respect your boundaries before hers. Have respect for yourself, and you'll find someone who respects you. If you don't want to get with someone who isn't always "in the mood to be touched", next her. | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 09:10 AM |
| 1 | Do woman almost always come crawling back when you walk away?Df is this garbage post. It's okay to walk away, it's okay to remove yourself from the situation. What is not okay is to do it to make her "crawl back". This is manipulation and you better post that on TRP. | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 08:34 AM |
| 1 | How to attract a woman( and not a shallow girl) and maintain a good relationshipDon't waste your time texting. I made a post weeks ago about "oneitis and authenticity" and addressed the texting issue. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ip011c/stop_developing_oneitis_and_start_being_authentic/ | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 08:29 AM |
| – | How to attract a woman( and not a shallow girl) and maintain a good relationshipYou don't ask a fish how to fish, you ask the fisherman. I'm not implying that your opinion is irrelevant. The problem is that we have a different point of view, we are in a different situation and society affects us differently. I have a lot of female friends, I respect them a lot but I'd never ask them dating advice. They are not in the same situation. Also, it's not about you being a woman. It's your advice that makes me cringe, as if seduction was a list of steps to follow to chase/attract s… | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 08:06 AM |
| 2 | How to attract a woman( and not a shallow girl) and maintain a good relationshipYou don't ask a fish how to fish, you ask the fisherman. I'm not implying that your opinion is irrelevant. The problem is that we have a different point of view, we are in a different situation and society affects us differently. I have a lot of female friends, I respect them a lot but I'd never ask them dating advice. They are not in the same situation. | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 08:02 AM |
| 2 | How to attract a woman( and not a shallow girl) and maintain a good relationshipI made my opinion before knowing you were a girl. Accept that some people find that your advice is shit, instead of victimising yourself for being a girl. | /r/seduction | 05/10/20 11:41 PM |
| 2 | How to attract a woman( and not a shallow girl) and maintain a good relationshipIt's just about being honest/bold, showing your vulnerable side, and moving things forward. All of these points are useless and give the impression that attracting women requires a set of steps. This post is shit. | /r/seduction | 05/10/20 11:05 PM |
| 0 | How to attract a woman( and not a shallow girl) and maintain a good relationshipExactly my thoughts | /r/seduction | 05/10/20 11:00 PM |
| 7 | How to attract a woman( and not a shallow girl) and maintain a good relationshipShitty advice, a list of things to "attract women", the first thing any guy should be avoiding. Also, never listen to a girl's advice about seduction. Just approach people and don't be afraid to be honest/bold with them jeez. If she interests you and you interest her, it will work out. Otherwise, just next her. | /r/seduction | 05/10/20 10:59 PM |
| 2 | 10 basic yet unorthodox tipsDon't worry, you'll get there. I was a nice guy as well but I managed to get out of this toxic mindset. I dated a 9-10/10 girl, instead of thinking whether I deserved her or not, I was thinking whether I wanted her in my life or not. Turns out she was very insecure and she didn't know her worth, which turned me off. | /r/seduction | 04/10/20 10:38 AM |
| 2 | 10 basic yet unorthodox tipsI haven't read "the way of the superior man" so I don't know. All I can do is advise you to read "Models". I made a post after reading No More Mr Nice Guy (here) and a post after reading Models (here). You can read the latter if you want to know what you can expect by reading Models. It's also important for you not to fall on narcissism. You must of course put your needs before others' but you also give unconditionally and you must calibrate as much as you escalate. It's not about being selfish,… | /r/seduction | 04/10/20 10:27 AM |
| 1 | 10 basic yet unorthodox tipsI see that you read "No More Mr Nice Guy" and that you understood its main points but this advice is a bit meh. It basically tells people to "wait" before doing anything, which isn't what you should be doing here: "read this book", "take a week", "no sex monotorium". Plus, the book doesn't tell you what seduction is about. It just allows you to become more selfish and to put your needs before others', which is of course beneficial by itself. Read Models by Mark Manson if you want to complete you… | /r/seduction | 04/10/20 10:16 AM |
| 3 | “Focus on you and the women will too”This is bullcrap. You can't drop a sentence like that and expect everyone to understand it. | /r/seduction | 02/10/20 08:30 PM |
| 3 | Start acting confident and you’ll get what you wantCreate your luck | /r/seduction | 02/10/20 08:15 PM |
| 2 | There is no seduction techniquesSeduction is not something that you learn. You are just yourself with people and with the girls you approach. By being yourself and honest/bold with people, you'll show intent, you'll have an emotional impact, you'll put pressure whenever you want and you'll dare to ask out. Be honest with people and move things forward. Seduction is what comes out of it. I personally wondered for years how to seduce girls. Everything changed when I started being honest with people and started moving things forw… | /r/seduction | 30/09/20 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Is there an "ultimate" reason for a girl to stop being interested in a guy she was really interested in?I know how hard it is for your brain to find a reason, been there done that. Just meditate if you want to be in peace with yourself. She has a part of responsibility: she gave you excuses, she ghosted you, she is not interested by you anymore, she disrespected you. You have a part of responsibility: you don't interest her, you kept chasing her which turned her off, you probably put her on a pedestal and are idealising the situation based on her initial interest. Should you blame her? Should you … | /r/seduction | 30/09/20 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Is there an "ultimate" reason for a girl to stop being interested in a guy she was really interested in?Her initial interest doesn't mean anything. What matters is that you tried to reschedule something with her and she gave you excuses. This clearly shows that she is either not interested (or busy). So, don't chase her, you don't deserve someone who doesn't try her best to see you. You want someone who chases you as much as you chase her, no? Don't think about the situation, think about yourself. There is one girl that I wanted to hang out with but she gave me twice an excuse, although it was a v… | /r/seduction | 30/09/20 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Is there an "ultimate" reason for a girl to stop being interested in a guy she was really interested in?Don't overthink this. Don't find a reason to blame her or to blame yourself. She did not want to see you and she ghosted you, which shows a clear lack of interest from her. I personally would have nexter her since the first excuse. You don't want to deal with someone who is not interested. You deserve somebody who is attracted by you. | /r/seduction | 30/09/20 10:13 PM |
| 81 | How idealism and daydreams can destroy your dating gameVery spot on, I'd gild this if I had money. I wanted to convey this message ages ago, I attempted several topics, I conveyed some messages but I couldn't convey your message. I'm very satisfied with this post, you put everything I had in mind into words. | /r/seduction | 30/09/20 10:03 PM |
| 3 | Don't ever think a girl will reject you before hand"You don't know what a particular girl finds attractive in guys. Or will find attractive in getting to know you. She may not even know. So don't make any assumptions about leageas and that you aren't good enough. Don't enforce your insecurities because you got rejected. Approach, get rejected. Blame it on the randomness of the universe. And move foward." I wouldn't have said it better, very spot on. | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 08:07 PM |
| 3 | Something your should definitely do, throughout the time you’re building the relationship, to make sure you’re not wasting your time.Step 1. Find someone | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 07:55 PM |
| 27 | Question about usa womans behaviour(did i red pilled myself against them?)The simple fact you felt the need to put the blame on these girls screams that you are still on the red pill. Instead of blaming them, just next them. They are not what you are seeking for and you are not what they are seeking for, period. Change your behaviour and your beliefs. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/09/20 08:14 AM |
| 2 | I've seen a lot of posts explaining everything about how to improve yourself in general which also makes you appealing to girls, and I agree with them. What about how to be appealing to guys?1/ Have a clear objective of what partner you want to find. Looks? Hobbies? Good communicator? Qualities? Keep in mind that we attract what we are. 2/ Be upfront and be brave enough to be honest and show your vulnerable side. This will make you confident and attract the right people. By being yourself (honest) and showing your vulnerable side, you will polarise people and make them either love you or hate you. E.g. I saw 2 girls 2-3 weeks ago. The first one wasn't upfront and was retreating a lo… | /r/seduction | 20/09/20 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceExactly dude, hit me up if you want to chat | /r/seduction | 20/09/20 12:08 PM |
| 7 | Don't worry about other guys that are interested in your girlYou don't have to see it as a threat nor as an ego boost. You are with her because you chose each other, period. If she decides to cheat on you, she will, whether you control it or not. Having other guys hitting on your girl is irrelevant and you shouldn't be affected by that. If you see that she needs their attention and you are not okay with that, you must clearly tell her. | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 04:02 PM |
| 4 | Flowers on a first date, yes or no?The question is not if you should buy flowers or not. The question is why. It's not the act that you should judge but your intention. Why are you doing it? Are you trying to impress her? If yes, this is neediness. If you just wanted to buy her a flower, without expecting anything in return, you wouldn't be asking the question in this subreddit. "When in doubt, check your intentions." | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 12:08 PM |
| 9 | Finally breaking the approach anxiety barrierThat's the spirit man, very good job! | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 12:06 PM |
| 3 | This just hurts so bad. Why are women so cruel?Dating, working out, working for your career and making your life enjoyable are things that you do to achieve objectives. Define your objectives first. What do you want in life? Do you want to become stronger? If yes, work out. Do you want to find an ideal partner? Approach, ask out, and date. Do you want to have a great career? Study and work for it. Do you want to have an enjoyable life? Make it enjoyable. What is wrong is having no objectives and just falling for girls who come to your life. … | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 11:00 AM |
| 1 | This just hurts so bad. Why are women so cruel?Df is this garbage post. You are blaming her for a situation that you accepted and you have oneitis. You gotta read this post I made 10 days ago. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ip011c/stop_developing_oneitis_and_start_being_authentic/ | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 10:56 AM |
| 2 | What is easiest way to get a girlfriend ?From what I can see in this post, I can assume that you are being needy and narcissist (fundamentally, this is the same thing) -> "struggling to get a girlfriend", "getting rejected", "have social anxiety so it's not my fault", "I don't have relationships but they have", "I've seen fat guys with hot chicks". Your objectives are also very badly defined. Your objective is to get a girlfriend, not to find an ideal partner. So, you are putting girls on a pedestal, because you want to achieve your ou… | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 10:24 AM |
| 0 | I asked out my Crush and I don’t know how to interpret what she saidI have the feeling that you are being needy. You are paying more attention to what she feels and not to what you feel. How do you feel about the situation? Do you find this ok to pursue somebody who has something difficult with somebody else at the moment? Do you really want to get with her or are you doing it because she is your only option atm? | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 10:16 AM |
| 3 | Why she is not texting me anymore...Oneitis. | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 10:13 AM |
| 1 | Here’s a perspective that changed the game for meI see what you mean and I kinda agree, but I don't like the analogy. I don't like the comparison of value with an amount of money ($500,000), as if there were people who had more value than others. That's not how I see things. The way I see it is that you have your value, a precious gem that has no amount attached to it. There are some people who seek that precious gem and others who don't, period. Imagine you are an edgy diamond gem. Some people will probably like that you are a diamond but wil… | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 10:10 AM |
| 1 | Oneitis in the time of corona?It doesn't matter how many options you have right now. You can see abundance regardless of that. I personally am on a kind of break because I'm very busy with my career, although I still schedule dates. Yet, I don't feel the need to develop feelings over a certain girl. I had the occasion to get laid twice 2 weeks ago. Yet, I didn't because I put my needs before hers. I had no date scheduled after that, but this didn't prevent me from seeing abundance. | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 09:53 AM |
| 2 | How should a guy text a girl for the first time?I wouldn't text her anyway, I'd just call her and be upfront, to give her the chance to ask the question if she is not aware of the situation. | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 09:51 AM |
| 2 | How should a guy text a girl for the first time?He can word it out like this if he wants to own the situation. "Hey, (I know this is random but) I have heard about you and I want to meet you. Care to join me in the park tomorrow?" If she wants to know how you heard about her, then she'll ask. | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 09:48 AM |
| 2 | How should a guy text a girl for the first time?I sometimes forget that being honest was a bad thing for some people. | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 09:25 AM |
| 7 | I hate this pandemic.Remember, you don't need to date people to be happy. You are doing it to achieve an objective. It's okay if you can't work for your objective right now, you will work for it at another moment. | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 08:25 AM |
| 1 | Exchanged numbers with an older girl. Trying to get her to meet up with me. What should I do?You care too much about what she thinks dude. You are being needy. I for instance wouldn't care about why she is not responding. It's normal for her not to be attracted, you haven't seen her yet. Instead, I'd try to text her just to schedule something with her. If she doesn't respond, I won't pursue the conversation, period. I don't want to see someone who can't be arsed to respond me or who is not interested enough to text me back. I don't blame her but I don't want to meet such people. | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 09:01 PM |
| 0 | How should a guy text a girl for the first time?"Hey, my aunt told me that you were cool and I want to meet you. I'm going to the park tomorrow, do you want to join me?" That's an example | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 08:57 PM |
| 2 | What should I text this girl after making out with her last night at a party?Exactly. Just schedule something or clearly tell her that you want to see her. Don't flirt over text, you don't need to send her that for her to be interested in you. If she doesn't want to see you, it's okay. | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 08:47 PM |
| 2 | What should I text this girl after making out with her last night at a party?I wouldn't escalate by message. I'd schedule something with her and escalate when I see her. "I'm watching a movie at 8 PM in my dorm, you are welcome to join me" "We should go for a drink this evening" | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 08:45 PM |
| 9 | Mens' biggest advantageI don't like the way you worded this out, it reflects a mindset that I don't adhere to. 1/ Imho, a successful date involves 2 partners being honest, bold, and vulnerable with each other. This leads to an emotional connection, escalation, and good sex. 2/ I personally ain't here to play games. I don't want a girl to subtly give me hints. If she wants something, she better tell me or get physical with me. I can of course figure out if she is interested and escalate accordingly if I'm interested as… | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 04:19 PM |
| 7 | 𝕿𝖍𝖊 #1 𝕿𝖍𝖎𝖓𝖌 𝕿𝖍𝖆𝖙 𝕶𝖎𝖑𝖑𝖘 𝕬𝖙𝖙𝖗𝖆𝖈𝖙𝖎𝖔𝖓.You got me at "I used to bombard those girls with memes" | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 04:11 PM |
| 3 | How often do scenarios like the movie "She's Out of My League" happen in real life?This is bullcrap. The described nerdy awkward guy is needy (BP), the Chad is narcissistic (RP). Both mindsets are wrong and if a girl is attracted by one of them, it means she has her own issues too. Some girls have so little self-respect that they get with a Chad because they think it will make them better (needy). I have a friend who is like this. Other girls feel the need to get with a needy guy because they are needy themselves and need a needy guy. That was the relationship I had with my ex… | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 11:21 AM |
| 3 | Are we basically trying to get girls to simp for us?This is RP bullcrap. The key of seduction is to basically not try anything. You don't try to impress her but you don't try to manipulate her into falling for you. Your purpose should be to find an ideal partner. You approach girls and ask them out to find someone who interests you and vice versa. If you don't find her interesting, it's ok, you can stop seeing her. If she doesn't find you interesting, it's ok, you got an answer and can move on. Being outcome-dependent is a very bad mindset. Your … | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 11:09 AM |
| 4 | Thoughts on when your date is glued to their phone?You can't change her. She is overly attached to her phone because she needs it to be happy. If you talk to her about it and she stops being on her phone, she'll get bored and the situation will become messed up. If that bothers you that much, you should stop seeing her. During my previous relationship, back then when I was very needy (and her too), I always told her what bothered me and of course. I made her stop doing some things that "made her happy" (needy girl), because I required her attent… | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 11:04 AM |
| 12 | About telling someone your true feelingsThis is bullcrap. You don't tell a girl that you'd like to be her partner. This is needy and you are being insecure. You feel the need to put a tag on the relationship. Reality is that being with her won't change what she feels for you or what you feel for her. Instead, you date the girl and you schedule things with her. You must escalate at some point if you are interested, kiss her, and fuck her. If you achieve this, at some point she'll start wondering if you are together or not. And that's w… | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 10:10 AM |
| 4 | Guys, do you like a flirty girl?You are being needy and you are attracting needy guys. The simple fact that you are asking if it's "okay to be flirty over text" screams needy. You need our validation, our approval, to pursue your actions. If you weren't needy, you wouldn't care about what people think at all, you'd do things because you mean them. Here, you are looking for the guy's approval and you are overtexting, which makes guys who need attention and don't dare to approach girls "fall for you". This guy says he's looking … | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 09:59 AM |
| 15 | 𝕿𝖍𝖊 #1 𝕿𝖍𝖎𝖓𝖌 𝕿𝖍𝖆𝖙 𝕶𝖎𝖑𝖑𝖘 𝕬𝖙𝖙𝖗𝖆𝖈𝖙𝖎𝖔𝖓.Very spot on. Stop caring about what she thinks and start caring about what you think. Instead of trying to impress her, see if you are interested by her and assess if she's interested. By doing this, you'll be able to escalate genuinely. | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 08:20 AM |
| 1 | You can't make someone love you."You can't make yourself love someone" either. I personally wouldn't invest time in someone who is not interested in me. I want to give people unconditionally if they are willing to reciprocate. That doesn't mean I'd do it to get something in return, that means that if they don't show any sign of interest, I ain't going to force myself into the relationship. | /r/seduction | 15/09/20 07:42 AM |
| 19 | You can't make someone love you.TL;DR. There are unreceptive, receptive and neutral women. | /r/seduction | 15/09/20 07:42 AM |
| 1 | Finally tried a cold approach, I'm very pleased with the result.You don't get it, it's not subjective. You don't approach a girl and give your number to her. You approach her and take the lead until the date is scheduled genuinely, because you are confident that she will say yes if she is interested. Giving your number to her and waiting for her approval is needy. You can literally tell her "listen, I don't usually do this, but can I have your number?" if you don't feel comfortable. It's okay not to feel comfortable, just be honest. | /r/seduction | 14/09/20 09:56 PM |
| 1 | She is not replying to your texts? MOVE ON instantly.I agree with the post, you did a very good job and you understand what attraction and seduction is about. Yet, blocking her was a bad idea. This shows that you cared too much about her that you bothered to block her. Instead, I would have just ignored her message if she ever sent me one. If she didn't, it's okay, her loss. I don't feel the need to manipulate her by blocking her and show her how butthurt I am because I can date another girl who will be more interested than her. | /r/seduction | 14/09/20 02:46 PM |
| 1 | Finally tried a cold approach, I'm very pleased with the result.It's not a powerplay, it's genuine. I prefer taking the lead and being honest, bold, and vulnerable to schedule the date, if I'm interested. If the girl does not interest me, I'll stop my investment as soon as possible but at least, I would have given me the occasion to approach and date her. I don't do it out of neediness. I do it because I want to take the lead and be in control of my dating life. The problem with guys treating dates as interviews is that they talk to be logical, not to be emo… | /r/seduction | 14/09/20 09:09 AM |
| 2 | Finally tried a cold approach, I'm very pleased with the result.I disagree. Let's compare this with a hiring situation. 1/ If you give her your number and you ask her to contact you, you are being the employee and she is being the employer. She must hire you, although she has no interest in you at the moment. So why would she even call you? This is needy. 2/ Now, if you ask for her number and you tell her that you'll contact her, this shows that you are the employer and she is the employee. You are the one who is hiring her. You are the one who is interested… | /r/seduction | 14/09/20 07:55 AM |
| 2 | If I can picture the girl being with me its easier to be authentic when I approachYou are being outcome-dependent and are already seeing yourself with her. Instead, you should interact with her like you'd be interacting with an unattractive person or if she was your girlfriend. This doesn't mean that you should already see yourself with her, this means that you should be acting as if there was no outcome to achieve. You take the lead by your acts, not by your words. You approach her, ask her out, ask for her number. You don't try to impress her when you speak, you are just ho… | /r/seduction | 13/09/20 03:58 PM |
| 3 | What's frame controlThanks for defining what frame control is. I hadn't realised that there was such a thing. I realise now that my frame control improved drastically when I started being more honest, bold, and vulnerable with people. | /r/seduction | 13/09/20 03:52 PM |
| 25 | Finally tried a cold approach, I'm very pleased with the result.Good job for doing it. I just wanted to point something out. You shouldn't be offering your number to girls, you are making them lead something that was your decision and this is a huge turn off. They become the ones who must ask you out. You are the one who approached, it's your responsibility to take the lead until the end. Instead, you should be asking their number and letting them know you'll contact them. You can even be more assertive and say "We should go for a drink tomorrow, are you ava… | /r/seduction | 13/09/20 03:45 PM |
| 1 | Groups/Blogs Similar to Red Pill (But Healthier)?Read Models by Mark Manson | /r/ExRedPill | 13/09/20 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceI have the feeling that the purpose of your reply was to contradict everything I wrote in my post with RP bullcrap. It's your choice, but I won't bother answering to that. I can't be arsed. | /r/seduction | 12/09/20 07:23 PM |
| 2 | Girl said I’m so cute, I’m probably in the friend zone but could this mean more?Yes, it's a very good book and it's a mindset one. I highly recommend you to read it. | /r/seduction | 12/09/20 06:39 PM |
| 3 | Girl said I’m so cute, I’m probably in the friend zone but could this mean more?Yes, that's what made me improve myself | /r/seduction | 12/09/20 05:39 PM |
| 2 | Playing the long game with a 10We have different mindsets I guess but if it works for you, then it's fine. | /r/seduction | 12/09/20 12:38 PM |
| 1 | Flirting and dating is extremely difficult and complicatedFlirting and dating is extremely difficult and complicated... ...and other lies you can tell yourself | /r/seduction | 12/09/20 12:21 PM |
| 3 | Playing the long game with a 10Looks means shit dude. The reason you are successful in dating is because you dare to approach some girls and see abundance in the girls that you are approaching. This is fine, it's your choice. You also manage to be non-needy I guess. Yet, you could approach prettier girls and still be successful with them. Don't put beauty on a pedestal. "This girl is hot and I want to approach her to figure out if she interests me" and not "This girl is too hot for me to approach her, she'll reject me". | /r/seduction | 12/09/20 12:13 PM |
| 2 | Tinder date walked out on me, whole conversation prior was that she was just looking to make new friends. was this my fault or what? [Pictures of messages included. Full details in text]Her bio has more red flags than a communist parade. | /r/seduction | 12/09/20 11:48 AM |
| 9 | Conflicting ideas on two of the most renowned books: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie and Models by Mark Manson1/ Mark teaches you to be non-needy. You must focus on yourself, on what you want before others -> non-neediness, authenticity. 2/ Dale teaches you to focus on others' needs before yours -> give unconditionally. These are not opposing philosophies nor contradicting statements. You must focus on yourself before others. This means that you must be honest, bold, and vulnerable with people in general. If someone says "omg I find Justin Bieber really amazing", you have the right to say "duh, I find h… | /r/seduction | 12/09/20 11:40 AM |
| 1 | 𝐁𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐈𝐬 𝐀𝐥𝐥 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐍𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐓𝐨 𝐆𝐞𝐭 𝐋𝐚𝐢𝐝I like how you made "boringness" special. Very spot on, upvoted. | /r/seduction | 12/09/20 11:29 AM |
| 2 | Out of nowhere she stopped respondingWhat he said. Just don't invest in her and stop wondering. You did nothing wrong, she is the one who is not responding, it is her responsibility. | /r/seduction | 12/09/20 11:28 AM |
| 14 | This is why I struggle to talk to attractive womenYou are being needy. You are focusing too much on her physical attributes. What tells you that she'll be interesting? What tells you that she'll be your ideal partner? There is nothing but her physical attributes that you can judge at the moment. So please, stop focusing on that and just approach her to see if she is interesting. | /r/seduction | 12/09/20 11:22 AM |
| 3 | You don't have to love yourself.This is bullcrap. 1/ Stop having a toxic shame. You are perfectly imperfect, like everybody else. 2/ You don't learn seduction techniques, you improve yourself and you start being honest with yourself and with people (including girls). By doing this, you start being more assertive and are not afraid to approach, date and escalate with women. That's what makes you seductive. 3/ Do not be outcome dependent. Focus more on initiating convos with girls and how to do it than figuring out if she's in t… | /r/seduction | 12/09/20 11:17 AM |
| 34 | Playing the long game with a 10This is bullcrap. Just be honest with yourself and with girls and approach what you want to approach. No "I don't deserve her", but "does she deserve me?" before. | /r/seduction | 12/09/20 11:07 AM |
| 1 | Why is it hard to be yourself around girls?In short, you care too much (neediness). Because you care, you start shaping your words and acts to impress her. Reality is that you shouldn't, you should just be yourself and don't feel the need to do something that is not you just to impress her. For this, you must see abundance and have multiple dating options. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ip011c/stop_developing_oneitis_and_start_being_authentic/ | /r/seduction | 12/09/20 11:05 AM |
| 3 | Girl said I’m so cute, I’m probably in the friend zone but could this mean more?That's definitely not what you should be doing here. If you want to go further, you must be honest with her and ask her out. Be clear with your intentions and be assertive. Don't ask her if she wants to go further, make it clear to her that you want to go further and invite her on a date. "Hey listen, I find you very interesting/cute and I want to see you, do you want to meet me in the park tomorrow at 7 PM?" This is an example of what you should say. Don't use it as a "tactic" to manipulate her… | /r/seduction | 12/09/20 10:58 AM |
| 36 | Girl said I’m so cute, I’m probably in the friend zone but could this mean more?r/askseddit, you are in the wrong subreddit. This means shit, you are just focusing on what she said. You focus on her approval more than on what you want so you are being needy. What you should be asking instead is "do I like her?" "do I want to go further with her?" "is she my type?", if you can answer yes to these questions, then ask her out. Be assertive please, and be honest with your intentions and with her. I saw a girl last week (she is a 9-10/10) and I told her clearly that I was here t… | /r/seduction | 12/09/20 10:53 AM |
| 3 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceI find this pathetic how some men think they must manipulate and lie to women to get into their pants, while they must just be authentic. | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 08:06 PM |
| 2 | Honest question, is purusing intimacy with women worth destroying my relationships with them?You have oneitis and are being needy. I posted this yesterday, read it if you haven't yet. | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 02:13 PM |
| 1 | How can I keep being confident?Can you please tell me how you did it? I'm trying to cold approach but I just can't rn. I'd like to do it progressively. I have dating options atm and I am dating girls, yet I want to be able to cold approach. | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 01:22 PM |
| 1 | Looking for innocent/ subtle conversation topics for sexting.This is manipulation. Stop please, you are being pathetic. Go bold or go home. | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 01:20 PM |
| 1 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceExactly, I see what you meant in your reply now. | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 01:16 PM |
| 1 | I suck at texting. What should I say?I'd just reply "Winona Ryder" if you mean it and want to tease her a bit. There is no need to reply to her question. Now, you are overthinking this. Just say what you want to say. Be authentic please. | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 12:19 PM |
| 4 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceThat's because your objective is not well defined. Look, I have seen 2 girls last week, and I wanted to kiss/fuck both of them. The first one, we were at the point of just doing it, yet I didn't because my objective was to get an emotional connection before getting laid. The second one, we got the emotional connection but she was too stressed that day (because of her life) to do anything, I couldn't even pat her shoulder or caress her hair. The difference between both girls is that the first one… | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 12:11 PM |
| 3 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceI am not asking you to approach 24/7. If you find a girl and there is a match, you start giving her unconditionally and you stop approaching. Yet, you must still see abundance and be honest/bold/authentic. If you don't like something she says and does, you must tell her. If she does something you are not okay with, you must tell her and probably break up with her. That's the kind of mindset you need. I want a partner who is going to communicate everything because that's what I am looking for in … | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 12:08 PM |
| 3 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceExactly, you got this. I also have lots of life objectives. I am taking cold showers every day (I don't take hot showers anymore), I am learning the piano, I am doing a PhD thesis, I see my friends, I will start working out (when I move to my dorm). I don't even feel the need to date, get sex or get a gf to be honest. I just do it because my objective is to find an ideal partner so I want to see what's out there. If I get laid or get a gf in the process, it's ok. I have female friends too. The p… | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 12:04 PM |
| 2 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceFirst, you can't know if you want to fuck her if you haven't established physical contact and can't assess if she is up for it. You don't want to fuck someone who doesn't want to fuck you. So you are right that calibration is important. That's why you must escalate progressively. The girl I had a Netflix date with last week, I started by touching her knee genuinely (it was an authentic act, I was not doing it to escalate). Then, I touched her hair and started caressing it because I wanted to do … | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 11:56 AM |
| 9 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceA girl can't reject you. She is either interested or not interested and you don't want to date people who are not interested. It doesn't matter why she is not interested, what matters is that you find people who are interested. | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 08:39 AM |
| 4 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceI am not comfortable with cold approaching yet. I know I am a good communicator, I can talk to anyone in the street. The problem is that when I tell myself to "cold approach", I accord importance to the outcome so I get afraid. It's something I must work on but I will get there. I have already cold approached someone and got her number but I want to do it more naturally. Rn, I'm asking girls out on social media / texting. My approach is honest, bold, and vulnerable but it is not as "bold" as it … | /r/seduction | 08/09/20 09:39 PM |
| 8 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceThey approach and manipulate women to get sex. That's what TRP teaches you. The simple fact they approach makes them more successful than many guys. It can work to get sex and prob shitty relationships. It doesn't work to get real relationships and good sex. I know guys who are like this. They are miserable and they can't find LTR because they are doomed with their shitty mentality. | /r/seduction | 08/09/20 09:35 PM |
| 3 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceDefine "successful". | /r/seduction | 08/09/20 09:30 PM |
| 5 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceGood riddance, you deserve someone who suits you better. | /r/seduction | 08/09/20 09:29 PM |
| 7 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceExactly, you can tell her "yes, I want to fuck you" if you mean it. It will be weird if you think it's weird, because you are overthinking and being needy. | /r/seduction | 08/09/20 09:20 PM |
| 6 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceYou can of course make an observation that will help you to be honest and authentic. | /r/seduction | 08/09/20 09:17 PM |
| 13 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceLook, I won't tell you what you should do because it's up to you. It is more important that you are honest with yourself and with her than to figure out what to do. If I was in your place, with my current mentality, I wouldn't bother to ask her out again. If she hit me up by texting again, I would just keep it brief and short. I wouldn't feel the need to ignore her like I wouldn't feel the need to impress her. She doesn't matter anymore. | /r/seduction | 08/09/20 09:13 PM |
| 20 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceStop trying at all. You achieve an objective by working for it, not by trying to achieve it. You work for that objective by approaching and dating girls, not by thinking what girls would like in a potential partner. | /r/seduction | 08/09/20 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Turned 30 as a virgin. Now 1 year later after a few lays and my first relationshipSelf-esteem is what we think and feel and believe about ourselves. It is an observation. Self-worth is recognising “I am greater than all of those things”. It is an evaluation. E.g. a guy can be a great pianist (self-esteem) yet think he is not worth that much because he can never perform (low self-worth). | /r/seduction | 08/09/20 08:43 PM |
| 1 | Turned 30 as a virgin. Now 1 year later after a few lays and my first relationshipIt's not a story but an example. I expressed things the wrong way. I am confident in myself. I am confident I can wear decent clothes and be the best version of myself for me, not to get anybody's approval (non-neediness). By doing this, I know what I am worth (self-esteem). I know that my looks are not shit since I take care of them because I am confident that I can put any clothes on me to make myself look good. Self-confidence -> I can be a better version of myself -> self-esteem. This does n… | /r/seduction | 08/09/20 01:20 PM |
| 1 | Trying to go on a date but she's always busyWill do that asap | /r/seduction | 07/09/20 08:44 PM |
| 21 | Trying to go on a date but she's always busyI'm afraid you have oneitis. You flirt over text. You text her faster than she responds. You try to plan dates but she's always busy. You asked a friend of yours. This shows that you: Put her on a pedestal and you try to get her attention by texting (neediness). See a world of scarcity and not abundance. Abundance. To see a world of abundance you must: 1/ set a non-strict list of criteria you want to find in a potential partner, 2/ approach other girls and ask them out. Pedestal and neediness. T… | /r/seduction | 07/09/20 08:30 AM |
| 12 | If you're nervous to approach certain girls are those the ones you should approach the most?Girls are attracted to men who carry their balls. It doesn't matter if they reject you, you will make them feel something if you carry your balls and approach them. If you are bold and honest, you'll make them polarise. That's the key of seduction. Not being that meh guy who just stares at them and expects something in return. | /r/seduction | 07/09/20 08:24 AM |
| 7 | Just my 2 centsA relationship shouldn't be a source of happiness at all imho. You are in a relationship because you give unconditionally to someone you really like, because you are already happy with your life and confident to do it. Not because you need to do it to feel happy. The moment you expect something from someone, you start being needy. That's why you must approach women, to find that someone that you really like and you want to give unconditionally. If a woman does not respect your boundaries, has a … | /r/seduction | 07/09/20 08:19 AM |
| 2 | how to stop the thought of "I have to get this or that ,I have to win this or that ,I have to be alpha" and just be happy for knowing that I'm alive and healthy?By redefining your objectives and seeing abundance in your world. 1/ Abundance. You don't need sex in your life. You don't need to win anything. You don't need to be alpha. You are happy like you are. Not getting sex has not made you sad, what made you sad is thinking about getting sex. You don't need sex to be happy, you don't need a girlfriend to be happy. What you need to be happy is to actually be happy. If you are happy with yourself, you will naturally attract people in your life. 2/ Redef… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/09/20 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Netflix but no chillYou get laid with a girl if you know her, if you can connect with her. She started getting more intimate and she was being much more talkative when I was caressing her head but she was boring girl outside this. | /r/seduction | 04/09/20 04:27 PM |
| 12 | Turned 30 as a virgin. Now 1 year later after a few lays and my first relationshipSelf-esteem is as important as self-confidence. You have the right to wear decent clothes, have a 6-pack, like you have the right not to do it. What is important is that you feel good about yourself. A man who takes care of himself and is convinced he looks good by doing it will be perceived as a better man than a man who doesn't and is just lazy. It's not about the looks themselves, it's about the confidence and esteem that the man portrays. I for instance started wearing much better clothes re… | /r/seduction | 04/09/20 03:09 PM |
| 8 | Turned 30 as a virgin. Now 1 year later after a few lays and my first relationshipGood fucking job man, you got "it". I don't have coins to give you gold. | /r/seduction | 04/09/20 11:57 AM |
| 1 | People like it when others have interesting hobbies. What do you think of mineExactly, you don't have to do thinks that don't make you happy just to impress girls. Work out if you want to be stronger. Read books if you are curious and interested. You don't read books because they make you more interesting. You read books if you have things to read. You work out because you want to be stronger, you read books because you want to learn more about a certain subject or because you enjoy reading novels. I for instance love watching videos on YouTube that basically teach you ra… | /r/seduction | 02/09/20 11:59 AM |
| 1 | Is Redpill really bullshit?Very spot on! | /r/ExRedPill | 02/09/20 11:33 AM |
| 1 | Is Redpill really bullshit?Read Models by Mark Manson. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/09/20 07:33 PM |
| 8 | Is Redpill really bullshit?That is one big pile of shit. 1/ "Red Pill is the acceptance of gynocentrism in western society." -> The western society is not gynocentric. It is both androcentric and gynocentric. If you put women on a pedestal, you will of course see it as "gynocentric" but it is your point of view, not mine. 2/ "If a woman does not like a man, there is nothing he can say to get her to sleep with him." -> So what if a woman does not like you? There are tons of other women out there that would like you. That's… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/09/20 07:31 PM |
| 3 | Is Redpill really bullshit?The difference between you and me are not the acts but the intentions. Whatever I do, I do it because I genuinely mean it. I want to be honest with myself and with girls. I don't want to put anyone on a pedestal and I don't want to try to impress anyone. By being like that, you stop being needy and you become more honest and vulnerable. You stop being a nice guy that doesn't get the pussy and you start being a man who gets out of his comfort zone and dares to approach and ask girls out. You dare… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/09/20 07:14 PM |
| 4 | Is Redpill really bullshit?I'm not blaming you for it, it's your choice and I respect it. I'm just pitying you for having to go through that to get laid. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/09/20 05:52 PM |
| 7 | Is Redpill really bullshit?I think the mindset is more problematic than the reputation. Getting laid with women doesn't make a guy less attractive, it's the mindset that makes a guy more or less attractive. Let me give you an example. 1/ Bryan is unemployed and he doesn't know how to have fun. He thinks that getting laid will make him happy. His "hobbies" revolve around impressing women and getting in their pants. He also read the RedPill to learn how to manipulate them. As a result, he got laid with 20 women. Yet, the se… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/09/20 04:59 PM |
| 5 | Is Redpill really bullshit?No, you didn't ask too quick. In fact, you don't ask these questions. The simple fact you had to ask her shows that you were insecure and that you needed her approval to progress into the relationship. When you stumble across the right partner, you won't need to ask her, you won't need to put a tag on the relationship. The mutual attraction, honesty, and vulnerability will make things progress. Your purpose as a man is to find that girl and to be honest and vulnerable with her, without trying to… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/09/20 03:54 PM |
| 20 | Is Redpill really bullshit?Although you believe you are being successful with women, in reality you aren't. You learned how to approach and date women in a way that allows you to get laid with them, but you haven't learned the fundamentals. The Redpill allows you to manipulate women to get into their pants. If your purpose is to just get laid, it can be effective. Yet, this mentality won't allow you to get good sex nor good relationships. I'm sure that most of the sex you had was pretty shallow and void. I advise you to r… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/09/20 03:43 PM |
| 24 | Is Redpill really bullshit?If you have nothing in your life but women, don't be surprised if girls don't want a LTR with you. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/09/20 03:34 PM |
| 2 | Overcome Your Fear of Beautiful WomenYou don't get my point either. You are blaming the situation. Reality is that if you really didn't care, you wouldn't blame it in the first place and you wouldn't even be talking about it. Your intent was to make a negative comment about it. I don't care about what you said, I don't care about the reply before yours. What I care about is the intent. It's not what you said that matters, it's the intent. The simple fact that you bothered to reply, with this comment, shows how beta you are. Moreove… | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 02:39 PM |
| 2 | People like it when others have interesting hobbies. What do you think of mineThat's exactly what I meant in my comment u/Sunlitstream264. You bring a hobby in the conversation if you genuinely mean it (authenticity), you don't use a hobby to get her validation/approval/attraction (this is neediness). Stop trying to impress girls, be genuine, and you'll see how easy it is to talk with them and to attract them, regardless of what your hobbies are. Examples: her: "what happened to your arm?" -> you: "I climbed a cliff yesterday and I fell" -> show her your arm -> see if she… | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 02:06 PM |
| 3 | If you haven't done anything sexual or romantic with her, refusing to be friends with a girl who friendzones you is incredibly immatureThis. Before telling my story, I'd like to let you know that until now, I've been living my life passively and never asked a girl out. Last year, there was that girl who would ask me to hang with her because she was and is always bored. I not being used to this, I thought she was into me and developed feelings for her. A month later (we both had lots of things meanwhile), we went to a party with other friends and I told her what I felt and I kissed her (she reciprocated). She rejected me and tol… | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Learned something valuable for myself.That's the spirit man ! | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 01:45 PM |
| 1 | Need Help Moving on From Snap With a GirlTalk about a movie and ask her to watch it with you. | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 01:41 PM |
| 1 | I Really Want To Get With an Old Friend, but I’m not sure what to say to make that happen. [M 16] and [F 16]This is a random crush on a girl you have been hanging out more than others. She is your only option and you are portraying relationship scenarios into her. Don't overthink it and don't let yourself be driven by this. Ask her out, if she's not interested, next her. | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 01:39 PM |
| 2 | Overcome Your Fear of Beautiful WomenYou blame 4-5/10 women for having a huge ego, that by itself shows that you are beta. I don't care if you tell me that you don't care. The acts and sub-communication betray your words. You are being narcissistic. I have a female friend that fits your description: 4-5/10 and huge ego. Yet, there is no reason to blame her. I am not attracted to a girl like that and would never chase such a girl, that ends here. Her current boyfriend took 1 year to convince her to get into a relationship with him. … | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 01:20 PM |
| 2 | People like it when others have interesting hobbies. What do you think of mineThe hobbies you have don't mean anything. If you really need to know what others do, I for instance play the piano, I am very curious (I know lots of random facts), I am funny, I am a good communicator, I enjoy watching movies, I play chess, I do photography, I work out, etc. Yet, I will never make the effort to give a "list of hobbies" to a girl. Instead, I'd just tell her what I enjoy doing the most and ask her "what about you?". I don't want her to know all of me, especially at the beginning.… | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Too late to ask out girl from class halfway through the semester?This is neediness and you are beating around the bush, that's what's going to creep her out. "Hey, are you free tomorrow? I'm going to x place so you are welcome if you want to join me." "Hey, I know that this is random but you interest me. Are you free tomorrow?" Don't be afraid to be honest and bold. Carry your balls and be vulnerable with her. | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 01:07 PM |
| 3 | People like it when others have interesting hobbies. What do you think of mineWhat the fuck is this post? This list means shit. You could have the best hobbies in the world, if your purpose is to impress girls, they'll see right through you. Instead, you should have hobbies that make you happy, things that you do because you like them, not because you want to impress a girl. Look, I was once in a date and I never had to tell her my hobbies (bs question). However, at some point, we started talking about movies, and I really like watching them. Did I tell her "oh I'm a huge… | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 12:57 PM |
| 3 | Overcome Your Fear of Beautiful WomenSince you use these absurd alpha/beta terms, I hope you realise that you are a beta yourself. You are blaming women for something, this only screams beta. An alpha male doesn't give a fuck about what women think of him and how women behave. He approaches and asks them out. If they don't reciprocate or if they cross his boundaries ("huge ego inflated"), he lets them go, without blaming them (narcissism) and without blaming himself (neediness). | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 12:42 PM |
| 9 | Overcome Your Fear of Beautiful WomenThere are more guys who suffer from self-confidence and self-esteem issues than guys who suffer from overconfidence/narcissism, at least in this subreddit. This comment is just making the 1st category of guys overthink even more, while they shouldn't. Be the best version of yourself, for you, not to impress girls. Wear decent clothes, work out. In other words, make yourself valuable in your eyes, not only in terms of looks but in every part of your life. By making yourself valuable in your eyes,… | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 12:33 PM |
| 14 | Work On Yourself Until They Regret Why They Rejected YouThank you. I was about to say something similar. Trying to prove girls that you are more worth it than they think and believing they will regret rejecting you is the perfect combination between neediness and narcissism. 1/ Neediness: you blame yourself when a girl rejects you -> "I'm not fit enough so I must work out to impress her". 2/ Narcissism: you blame the girl when she rejects you -> "Now that I'm fit, she definitely regrets rejecting me". 3/ Non-neediness: you don't blame anyone and acce… | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 12:18 PM |
| 3 | How can I avoid becoming a girls best friend ?There is a difference between trying to please a girl by talking about her problems and expecting sex in return, which is a covert contract made by nice guys, and comforting a girl unconditionally, without expecting something in return by giving her unconditionally and making things easier for her. 3 case scenarios. 1/ She talks about her problems and you try to provide a solution to get her approval -> neediness. Her: "I can't believe my boyfriend just left me"; you: "I'm so sorry, I don't unde… | /r/seduction | 31/08/20 10:15 PM |
| 1 | Be confident and you'll attract womenI agree that self-esteem and self-confidence are not the same concepts and that my reply used these terms in the wrong way. Although I still don't agree with you about the importance of looks, I always make my best to be the best version of myself for me. I trim my beard and shave my head every day and my plan is to get into a work out routine to get stronger (although I'm already muscular). I think that we are both on the right and we are just looking at things differently. Did you read Models … | /r/seduction | 28/08/20 08:23 AM |
| 1 | Be confident and you'll attract womenConfidence is accepting yourself for what you are. I'm not telling you to pretend to be something you are not. I'm just an average looking guy and I accept it. I'm bald but tanned and muscular, I'm confident in my looks and I accept my baldness. Also, I'm much more than my looks. I'm perfectly imperfect, like everybody else. I have my imperfections but also tons of good qualities and I love myself for who I am, with my imperfections. That's where you are being delusional. You think that a woman … | /r/seduction | 27/08/20 02:13 PM |
| 2 | Be confident and you'll attract womenThank god you are here, I have never agreed so hard with someone. I cba to reply to all these losers who QQ on their comforting lies a.k.a self-limiting beliefs. They think women are some evil creatures who are looking for some sort of very handsome guy. Reality is most women don't even know what they are looking for. Women are more indecisive than men. What they are looking for is a decisive man who'll do the thinking for her, that's what seduces them. A man who is confident in his looks, a man… | /r/seduction | 25/08/20 10:05 PM |
| 4 | Be confident and you'll attract womenI am glad you asked. 1. Getting past self-limiting beliefs Do the opposite. Don't listen to your brain, just do it. 2. Cultivating an abundance mindset Every night, meditate and be grateful of every moment and everything life has given to you. By doing this, you'll realise that you don't need that much to be happy and that you just need to realise it. You'll realise that you don't need a woman to be happy, you don't need sex to be happy, you don't need to date to be happy. Then, take a paper and… | /r/seduction | 25/08/20 09:41 PM |
| 5 | Be confident and you'll attract womenVery spot on | /r/seduction | 24/08/20 05:21 PM |
| 7 | Be confident and you'll attract womenIt's easy to let your life be limited by your self-limiting beliefs. | /r/seduction | 24/08/20 03:50 PM |
| 5 | Be confident and you'll attract womenGo ahead | /r/seduction | 24/08/20 01:28 PM |
| 2 | Be confident and you'll attract womenJust move things forward, without hesitation, without being stopped by your self-limiting beliefs. Everybody experiences self-limiting beliefs. It's okay to feel weird, it's okay to be stressed, it's okay to be afraid. But confident men will still embrace that and do it, they don't want to be stopped by that. | /r/seduction | 24/08/20 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Be confident and you'll attract womenIf you still need "actionable advice" and a "practical guide" after reading this book, then I highly advise you to reread it again. | /r/seduction | 24/08/20 12:41 PM |
| 23 | Be confident and you'll attract womenLooks only matter at the very beginning, when you approach. If she's not physically attracted by you and is limited by that, she'll be unreceptive. Some girls won't just allow you in their life if they are not physically attracted, although you could have seduced them. It's their choice and it must be respected. It happens when you approach a complete stranger who has no idea of who you are and no idea of your social status. The only think she can judge is your looks and your confidence. Next to… | /r/seduction | 24/08/20 12:00 PM |
| 7 | Be confident and you'll attract womenThe book will teach you that there are 3 patterns that we use to ignore our fears: Blame game: a man blames someone or something else for his fear, e.g. blames women for being picky, blames the human nature for requiring men to move things forward, etc. Apathy and avoidance: a man convinces himself that he doesn’t care or that it’s not important to him. "I don't need to approach women, my life is okay like this". Intellectualizing: instead of actually doing something about it, some men get onlin… | /r/seduction | 24/08/20 10:34 AM |
| 12 | Be confident and you'll attract womenIt's a book that teaches you how to be a man. It gives you the Model of a male that you lacked during your childhood/life. It won't change your life, it'll make you realise how men must actually be in a progressive way. I consider this book a very beneficial read. No matter your current mentality, it'll benefit you. I was exactly like you a few months ago. I thought I was not capable of it and that I wasn't like that. Our brain hates taking risks, it hates challenges. It'll always give us a reas… | /r/seduction | 24/08/20 10:06 AM |
| 6 | Be confident and you'll attract womenI suggest you to read Models by Mark Manson | /r/seduction | 24/08/20 09:58 AM |
| 2 | How do you escalate?I know that you are right. The last time I kissed a girl, it happened because I was establishing strong eye contact with her, she was blushing, and I just went for it. But I was a bit drunk so I did it unconsciously. If I don't have the occasion to do it during the date, I'll do it when we leave. I can still hug her and establish strong eye contact (with silence) and go for the kiss, this will create sexual tension. | /r/seduction | 23/08/20 08:28 PM |
| 2 | How do you escalate?I said I could confidently do it in the next date if I want to, not that I did it. | /r/seduction | 23/08/20 08:24 PM |
| 1 | How do you escalate?What if we go for a drink and she's in front of me? I haven't told her yet what would we be doing. I will of course try to sit next to her but I don't know if it'll be possible. Now, I can clearly tell her "I want you to come next to me" if I feel like to. This won't be a problem, I'll start with her hair and compliment her by being honest and bold, without expecting something in return. I am capable of establishing eye contact, I just have to remember to do it more frequently. I am capable of c… | /r/seduction | 23/08/20 08:14 PM |
| 1 | How do you escalate?Do I have to try this at a specific moment? Because I never know when, I only realise later I could have tried. | /r/seduction | 23/08/20 06:06 PM |
| 1 | How do you escalate?I don't want to get laid with her on Wednesday, I just want to kiss her if she interests me to clearly communicate my intentions. I will be honest and confident, I won't do it to get in her pants, I'll do it if I mean it. | /r/seduction | 23/08/20 05:21 PM |
| 2 | My current self developmentGood luck mate. No More Mr Nice Guy is excellent for realising how to become an integrate male, Models puts this in the context of seduction. Challenge your self-limiting beliefs, continuously. What really motivated me is "do the opposite". If you have been doing things that haven't lead to anything, doing the opposite should work. If you don't dare to ask her out, do it. If you don't dare to touch her hair, do it. If you don't dare to kiss her, do it. That's how I want to approach my next date.… | /r/seduction | 23/08/20 12:38 AM |
| 1 | My current self developmentI suggest you to apply the changes in real life asap. It doesn't need to be perfect, you just have to do it. The book Models is just a plus. | /r/seduction | 22/08/20 01:51 PM |
| 1 | Grow a fucking pair and just do itYou don't get it. Do you mean it when you touch it? Are you confident in yourself? It's not the acts that matter but their intentions. Girls don't give a fuck about what you say or do, they give a fuck about the honesty/confidence behind it. If you touch a girl's hair but you are not confident or don't portray it, she'll creep out because your act doesn't follow your intentions. If you touch a girl's hair but you are confident and honest, she'll be responsive. If she's not, it means she's not re… | /r/seduction | 17/08/20 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Grow a fucking pair and just do itAre you confident when you do that? If you are confident you'll achieve it. Don't beat around the bush. You find her hair smooth? Touch it and tell her "woah your hair is so smooth". If you mean it, she'll blush. It's about being honest in what you do, not about doing it. She won't show discomfort signs if your acts are honest because this shows non-neediness and non-creepiness. If you touch her hair and she has the feeling you are not comfortable or not honest in your act, she'll creep out and … | /r/seduction | 17/08/20 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Grow a fucking pair and just do itThen you are unlucky, all the girls you approach are either unreceptive or they become unreceptive because of you. Seduction is not just being honest in what you say. It's being honest with yourself, being honest in what you say and being honest in what you do. Honest with yourself. You must be honest with yourself and do things that make you happy. If you don't, the foundations are already messed up. Honest in what you say. You must say everything you have in mind, without hesitation, without t… | /r/seduction | 17/08/20 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Grow a fucking pair and just do itWhere do you live? Have you gotten laid so far? | /r/seduction | 17/08/20 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Grow a fucking pair and just do itHow can you be so sure? Are you honest with girls when you talk to them? | /r/seduction | 17/08/20 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Grow a fucking pair and just do itWhat are these "social skills" you are talking about? I am not someone shy, I have been the delegate of my uni class for 5 years, I have tons of friends, I have no problem talking to people, I am in shape, I have hobbies, I am confident in some parts of my life. And guess what? I have been in a relationship only once in my life. Why? Because I didn't give myself the opportunity to meet girls outside of my comfort zone. Instead of being the actor of my life, I have been living passively until now… | /r/seduction | 17/08/20 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Grow a fucking pair and just do itWhat do you mean? Confidence is sexier than looks. If you take care of yourself, no matter what you look like, you will succeed with girls if you are confident, period. | /r/seduction | 17/08/20 04:46 PM |
| 1 | Grow a fucking pair and just do itYes but these "more handsome guys" (relative because she may consider you more handsome if you are more confident), they are not necessarily more daring than you, they don't have the same values than you, etc. I have a female friend who is not turned on by the male body by itself and doesn't care about looks. If she doesn't get seduced, she doesn't get turned on, period. | /r/seduction | 17/08/20 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Grow a fucking pair and just do itSexual arousal doesn't come from looks but from seduction. You are talking about non-sense here. For a girl to be seduced, she must be either receptive or neutral. If the girl is receptive, no matter what you'll say, she'll be seduced. If a girl is neutral, you'll have to be blunt and honest (you must always be honest) for her to polarise. Some girls will be unreceptive, either because they put beauty on a pedestal and you don't match their looks or for another reason. What you are aiming for is… | /r/seduction | 17/08/20 04:36 PM |
| 0 | Grow a fucking pair and just do itSeduction has nothing to do with looks. | /r/seduction | 17/08/20 04:10 PM |
| 4 | Grow a fucking pair and just do itJust man up for fuck's sake. Accept that it hasn't been easy for us and embrace the fact that you are aware of it, instead of victimising yourself and crying about it. | /r/seduction | 17/08/20 09:24 AM |
| 5 | Grow a fucking pair and just do itSo what? I don't give a fuck if people don't find it easy. I am here to make them question themselves, like the book "Models" did on me. I have been very shy in the past, never took initiative, I have had my own insecurities. You can't say that it's easy for me while you don't even know what I have been through. We are all on the same boat. If you can't carry your balls and approach girls then the problem is you, not your look, not your status, but your confidence. | /r/seduction | 17/08/20 09:21 AM |
| 1 | After first date, she said we're going to the movies "as friends"You put her opinion before yours, this is neediness. Just let her know you are not interested in a friendship. | /r/seduction | 16/08/20 09:09 PM |
| 1 | What should I do? (Check comment)You are being needy and beating around the bush. Just ask her out. | /r/seduction | 16/08/20 08:56 PM |
| 3 | Women ask why there are no “good men”. The reason is because the good men listened when women told them not to be men.Nice guys are bad listeners actually. Because of what they are, they continuously try to please others and get their approval/validation. This is often motivated by the expectation of getting sex (non-consented contract). Real men listen, without feeling the need to please you. They will actually listen and just hear you out, without judging, without saying useless irrelevant stuff. So no, men who stop being nice guys don't stop listening, they actually listen better than before. I noticed I bec… | /r/seduction | 16/08/20 08:45 PM |
| 2 | Women don't friendzone you. You friendzone yourself.Go get them man! I have just scheduled, with a bold and direct approach, a date with a girl (among others) that I had been putting on a pedestal for years and involuntarily put myself in the friendzone with her because I never dared before. She said yes. People think it's hard but it's easier than they think. Stop overthinking, be yourself, be honest, be happy and be confident. | /r/seduction | 11/08/20 06:49 PM |
| 0 | Women and sex are not the solutionI disagree. Let's say that your 35-year-old guy who hasn't get laid in the past 6 years suffers from it. Do you think that he'll start getting laid if he doesn't change his life? He can try to get laid like he has been trying to (if he has) but this will get him nowhere. Trying to figure out how to get laid won't get you anywhere. However, changing your life, being happy and confident, and getting your needs met will make you get what you want to get. | /r/seduction | 11/08/20 06:41 PM |
| 2 | Women don't friendzone you. You friendzone yourself.https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/0762415339 https://www.amazon.com/Models-Attract-Women-Through-Honesty/dp/1463750358/ref=pd_lpo_14_t_2/142-8109446-6308331?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1463750358&pd_rd_r=580ac75d-2a80-407c-a0eb-e31681b858eb&pd_rd_w=GMSV0&pd_rd_wg=Rdls7&pf_rd_p=7b36d496-f366-4631-94d3-61b87b52511b&pf_rd_r=4FCYG79SN8H56H8NVBVG&psc=1&refRID=4FCYG79SN8H56H8NVBVG | /r/seduction | 11/08/20 05:12 PM |
| 0 | Women don't friendzone you. You friendzone yourself.Yes, if you read a book that uses them the right way. Reading examples without understanding the context will make you apply them the wrong way. I haven't read a protocol to become more confident. I read a book and I realised I was scared for no reason (yes I have been a pussy). So I stopped being afraid in general, including of asking girls out. Turns out it works pretty well, I have scheduled dates with girls I had never dared to ask out. The same thing applies to getting sexual. You can read … | /r/seduction | 11/08/20 04:27 PM |
| 3 | Women don't friendzone you. You friendzone yourself.Very well said. It is important to make the difference between a male having (sexual) needs and who does what it takes to meet them but does not rely on these needs to be happy a guy putting a woman on a pedestal to meet his needs, who does not communicate clearly what he wants, and thinks getting laid or being in a relationship will solve his problems | /r/seduction | 11/08/20 03:49 PM |
| 12 | Women don't friendzone you. You friendzone yourself.Friendzone is not about girls deliberately viewing guys who want more than friendship as friends. Friendzone is an issue that originates from guys who are not confident in themselves and their needs (sexuality) and can't communicate what they want the right way. Such guys are often conditioned to believe that having needs and being a male is a negative thing. As a result, these guys put girls on a pedestal and are nice to them, by expecting sex in return. Reality is that they act like a friend w… | /r/seduction | 11/08/20 03:43 PM |
| -7 | Women don't friendzone you. You friendzone yourself.Read books if you want to realise what you must change, act in real life if you want to apply these changes. | /r/seduction | 11/08/20 03:36 PM |
| 8 | You are responsible for your own happinessReading books will change the perspective on your life. Improving it depends on what you do. You become confident only by overcoming your fears. | /r/seduction | 08/08/20 09:53 AM |
| 7 | You are responsible for your own happinessFilling talks is something I have been doing for a long time as well, as a defense mechanism to decrease boredom and not piss off the person in front of me. I also used to have a nervous laugh and see myself laugh on purpose just to please someone. Let's not forget the jokes I used to tell all the time for validation and attention. Nowadays, I don't force myself to talk, laugh and tell jokes. I let things come naturally and it works much better. My laughing is more sincere and I am funnier. Coun… | /r/seduction | 08/08/20 06:13 AM |
| 14 | You are responsible for your own happinessI will definitely read other books but I want them to accompany my journey and not be an obstacle. The way I see it is that you should read books in parallel to your journey and not wait until you finish all the books before changing things in your life. | /r/seduction | 08/08/20 06:02 AM |
| 1 | Weird scenarioOkay thanks! I just asked a girl (B) for a drink and I'm trying to schedule things with 3 more girls. But it's a bit harder right now because I can't meet girls outside of the ones I have already sent a message to for some reason (because of COVID and being at my parent's) | /r/seduction | 01/08/20 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Weird scenarioI think that I understand what's happening. When I saw her the first time these holidays (bar), I had seen other girls so I went there in "I don't need you" mode (I really meant it) and I was perceived as more attractive than now. I just proposed to do sth with her to include one more girl in my list. However, since that day (2 weeks ago), I haven't seen any other girl (the coronavirus situation and the fact that I'm at my parent's is complicating things a bit). So I'm gradually being considered… | /r/seduction | 01/08/20 02:00 PM |
| 1 | Weird scenarioI see | /r/seduction | 01/08/20 01:47 PM |
| 1 | Weird scenarioThanks but I don't rely solely on her, I scheduled things with 2 other girls before seeing her. She is part of my friend group and since my the rest of the group wasn't available, we decided to do things together. But you are right. I don't have other sexual partners and I know that unconsciously, I'm giving her the feeling that I'm interested in her. What would be the best solution? | /r/seduction | 01/08/20 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Weird scenarioOk I get it and I know that you are right. But what do you suggest me to do? I don't need critics, I need answers/solutions. I'm trying to improve myself, I'm reading books, but I'm not there yet. I don't want anything with her and I already know that, I just want to know what to do with this situation that got me a bit confused. | /r/seduction | 01/08/20 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Weird scenarioElaborate? | /r/seduction | 01/08/20 01:34 PM |
| 14 | 3 things that INSTANTLY skyrocketed my dating life.You killed him man | /r/seduction | 01/08/19 08:43 AM |
| 1 | Am I doing it right?Wouldn't that make me needy? | /r/seduction | 31/07/19 08:39 AM |
| 1 | Am I doing it right?I understood, you are lucky that I'm Spanish (living in Belgium though). "Women choose, men chase". It doesn't matter who talks first. I knew she was somehow interested when she replied to my compliment and added me on Facebook. Of course, I could have not sent her that compliment but I just did it because I meant it (I never compliment girls on Instagram), with no intention. | /r/seduction | 31/07/19 08:38 AM |
| 75 | Tinder likes skyrocketed through a few tweakssend boba pics and veguna | /r/seduction | 13/07/19 11:56 AM |
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