How do you escalate?

RealCarbonBased · 2020-08-23T21:20:42+00:00

So I had a same day lay with great chemistry and escalation. Basically, we met up at a fast food place after chatting for 20-30 mins, definitely lots of small talk. She brought up sex immediately once we got our food, saying things like "My family, has no idea about my sex life, I've been with like 10 guys, I let guys do anything to me." I had my hand on her knee and was caressing it as she said this.

To me, that is clearly a massive indication that she wants me to escalate. We got to talking about a movie, and I said, let's go to your place and watch said movie, I have my laptop, to which she said, "perfect, I have a TV in my room, it will be no problem." There's this whole idea that Adam Lyons preaches, which is that if a woman is really into you, she will make it easy for you to get the lay. How to be a 3% man also goes into that as well, and I couldn't believe what I was seeing as all of this was panning out before my eyes lol, she was clearly interested.

Here's where the escalation part comes in. Whenever I'm with someone, either friendly or romantically, I always try to be as real as possible, even vulnerable to some degree. In a sexual situation, as she warms up to me, I escalate like 1-2%. I never go leaps and bounds, I take my time. Once she kept leaning in, would let me lean into her, and so on, I knew it was time, so I said "I'm going to kiss you now." And she said "Okay!" So we kept talking and making out for no joke 3 hours. This is my second positive sexual experience ever, the first was on my 21st birthday. My whole goal with seduction, being a better man, and all of that, is to overcome my sexual trauma from when I was a kid.

I think a key component of escalation, is this desire to give your all with everything you do. Ever been around someone, who just delivers? Like, they know what they're about. The way they hold things, open doors, menial tasks that you and I would look over... They do those things differently. I believe that's what escalation is. It's this willingness to give, to unfold yourself fully into existence, so as to encourage someone you're with to do the same. I believe this is fundamental to a successful sexual experience. Every word, every kiss, every touch, has to have meaning behind it. You should be thinking, "how can I make this better for her," "what can I do."

She told me point blank that she's never felt more understood by a guy countless times during our encounter. I'm hoping to make it a regular thing. I also find that when you give it your all, women cum easier. I made her cum 4 times, twice in our first sesh, and twice more in our second sesh. I'm not much of a cummer due to my sexual abuse, still working through that, but the point still stands... If you give the entire interaction your all, it will show. She was disheartened that I didn't cum, but honestly after working through David Dieda's "The Way of the Superior Man," I'm kind of glad I have never cummed for a girl, makes me seem more like a man who is in control, allowing the woman to relax more into her feminine.

It is possible to overcome anything. All of you have what it takes to make a woman feel amazing. All the best.

-Magic-M · 2020-08-23T19:56:05+00:00

listen all the advice here is all stupid or creepy way to go for the kiss if she didn’t make her comfortable with you being in her personal space. if your going for the kiss or say i want to kiss you out of nowhere your not kissing her. btw it’s not about what you say it’s about what you do.

1 close the space between you

you need to get close to her make the space between you minimal at all times. if your walking shoulder to shoulder if your sitting sit next to her. make it that she gets comfortable with you being this close because for the kiss you have to be close.

2 start touching her be a touchy person.

if she got a tattoo or a necklace or a watch don’t just say oohw what a cool tattoo no grab her to look closer and then say it. if she looks hot with a red head don’t say ah you look hot put a hand on her hand and say you look hot. every observation you do by her try to make a move to touch her somehow. she wil get comfortable with your touch.

3 eye contact.

keep your eye contact really strong let her look away and almost don’t break your eye contact to make it really sexual. ofcourse don’t make it creepy and stare in to in her eyes like you eaten some weird pills. no just strong eye contact.

4 now comes in the things you say.

make it sexual don’t talk about what did you do yesterday your not her friend. throw in some push pulls some cold compliments mis interpret some things and make them sexual make it man to woman that she knows your a sexual individual.

5 the kiss.

now it must be soooooo easy for you to get the kiss maybe even she starts kissing you. you are already super close to her and touching and she is thinking about sexual things. you can feel now when you can kiss her and if you still don’t after this just go for it and see what happens if she pulls away apologize but it’s almost impossible if you follow these steps.

Bubble889 · 2020-08-23T18:45:27+00:00

In a pause of the conversation / during a gap in the conversation. Or after she says something complimentary of you. Or at the end of the date during the hug. Not while while she is trying to communicate. It really should be towards the middle or end of the date. It is only the second date. Don’t beat yourself up over this. It may or may not happen and that is ok.

Bubble889 · 2020-08-23T18:50:47+00:00

By the way. Thanks for your reply about not ‘getting laid on Wednesday’ and not doing this to get in her pants. You seem like a good guy and you obviously have a lot to offer her or someone else.

daniel_shalome · 2020-08-23T18:56:21+00:00

This is a classic. Smell her hair. Lock eyes and smile. Let her look away

Bubble889 · 2020-08-23T17:57:03+00:00

If no other opportunity presents itself, then go in for the hug at the end of the date. Normal for a date. Hold your arms open. Hug then hold and look at her and go in for the kiss. If she pulls away then apologize. Be kind. Take responsibility for misreading the situation. However, it is much more likely (based on a pre COVID world) she will want to kiss you.

akonuche · 2020-08-23T21:39:03+00:00

NEVER TAKE ADVICE FROM A FEMALE ON DATING!!

Paige_Pants · 2020-08-23T17:18:33+00:00

Be honest, be yourself. Compliment her on things you actually notice about her, when you notice it, but don’t force it.

But it takes time, it’s still early. And I think girls are more hesitant to kiss now because people are so quick to jump in bed.

Bubble889 · 2020-08-23T18:05:16+00:00

If you go the asking route. Do not flat out ask “can I kiss you?” Instead in a non-creepy way say “I really want to kiss you right now”. Then go in for the kiss. That way you are giving a little time for her to say no, but you are also progressing in a natural way.

Title	How do you escalate?
Author	Pringles__
Upvotes	11
Comments	24
Date	August 23, 2020 4:14 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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1 close the space between you

2 start touching her be a touchy person.

3 eye contact.

4 now comes in the things you say.

5 the kiss.