There is no miracle in seduction. You must just do it and be confident, whether you get a yes or a no.

Forget all of these "pick up lines". Forget the tutorials that tell you to be distant at the beginning of the date and gradually become more interested in her as long as the conversation goes.

Just be honest and confident in whatever you say and do. You want to have a drink with her because she is beautiful ? Simply telling her "Hey, I found you beautiful and was interested in having a drink with you" will be much more effective than finding a pick up line. Why? Because you will convey a feeling of honesty and confidence and won't beat around the bush. Pick up lines will just make her consider you as "needy" and "not confident" if you don't really mean them and there is no honesty behind them.

Also, the key of seduction is doing it. If all you do is QQ about not getting girls on Reddit, the problem is you, not the girls. It doesn't matter what you look like, you'll get girls if you are confident and approach them. You won't get girls if you don't have the balls to approach or ask them out, period.

Now, this doesn't guarantee that they'll say yes and that doesn't matter. I'd rather get a no than wonder for days "what if I had asked her out". Better an oops than a what if.

If you want to increase the probability of success, you must: 1) have a look that conveys what you feel like (the aim is to impress yourself, not others), 2) approaching the right girls.

1) Look. If you are a 20 year old, you must wear clothes that fit you, match and make you look like a 20 year old. Don't be lazy and afraid of the clothes you wear, be confident. If you are balding, shave your head asap.

2) Approach. It doesn't matter where you approach girls, it could be in the train, plane, in college, on Facebook, etc. What matters is that you approach them in the first place. If you want to increase your success rate, approach girls who will consider you as someone with a high status. Let's say you are a very good pianist, if you approach a girl who does a lot of sport but you don't, your success with her will be lower than if you approach a girl who is a pianist as well. This doesn't mean you won't get her number because what matters before anything else is honesty, confidence and doing it. But your success rate is lower.

In other words, stop finding excuses and just do it. You are an amazing creature, perfectly imperfect, and you have no reason to be ashamed or afraid of anything. You are a ginger? Fuck it, there are tons of girls out there who love ginger guys. You are a bit overweight? And so what? There are girls out there who love chubby guys. Nothing is stopping you but you. If a girl ever tells you "sorry but you are ugly" (which may occur on some rare instances), consider it a good thing. You got rid of superficial girl who puts beauty on a pedestal.

Stop thinking what girls think of you and start thinking what you think of these girls, give yourself the opportunities to figure that out. You are a man, grow a fucking pair and start approaching girls to find which ones interest you. Counterintuitively, that's how you'll start seducing and attracting girls, by being confident and honest with yourself and her.

Look, I was like that. I used to wonder why I wasn't as much successful as other guys. The irony is that I never asked a girl out but my ex, who was a super needy girl that I got attracted to when I was a "nice guy". You attract what you are. If you are insecure and needy, you'll eventually attract/seduce someone who is insecure and needy. If you are confident and honest (non-needy), you'll attract someone who is confident and honest (non-needy).

Think about yourself before thinking about others. You don't ask her out because you are afraid of what she may think if you do so? That's where the problem lies. You think about what she may think before what you think, which makes you needy.

  • Her opinion comes before yours: neediness.
  • Your opinion comes before hers but you respect it: non-neediness.
  • Only your opinion matters: narcissism.

A quote for the road: « What’s important is that you move things forward without hesitation, without that resistance that you’re obeying right now by doing nothing, by remaining in the status quo »

Voilà, I wrote that down to figure out where I am in my personal development. I highly suggest you to read Models by Mark Manson.