What am I doing wrong?

appmanga · 2024-08-25T21:18:13+00:00

I can’t figure out what I’m doing wrong.

You're being passive when action is required. Stop waiting for some kind of magical gaze to come from a woman. You can approach and say something as simple as "I was on the other side of the room, and I couldn't help but notice you. My name is...., and yours". While doing this you make the eye contact and give the warm smile. There's no "self-sabotage" going on here; there's just the reluctance to make something happen.

One of the ways to become more secure is to become capable of doing things. What do you know how to do? Can you cook? Speak another language? Play an instrument? Run marathons? Work on cars? Confidence comes from the ability and knowledge to do things. Being hyped on yourself for shallow reasons (how you look, what you own) isn't confidence.

Western-Month-3877 · 2024-08-25T22:24:39+00:00

Open your mouth and talk. We are no longer homo erectus. We now have a language to transmit messages correctly instead of relying on “eye contacts” as you had described. Use it to make your presence known to others. Introduce yourself, ask their names and how they are doing. This is not even about sex and relationship yet. This is just basic social interaction. We don’t stare at each other and telepathically send message “if you are interested in me, please look at me and smile”. No that’s not how it works.

And don’t worry about not having confidence. People are basically selfish. They care more about themselves than you. Just like you care more about yourself than them. I bet no one there even knew that you were nervous. So why bother. I had my zipper open the whole night at a party one time and no one knew. From that point i often wear socks with mismatched colors just to test it out. Maybe less than 1% of people I had interacted with told me about my socks. See, people don’t care.

DaygameCode · 2024-08-26T00:19:58+00:00

You keep looking for eye contact from women, but if you had confidence you would simply not need any eye contact at all to approach them and talk to them in a fun playful way.

You would not need any indicator that the woman wants you to approach, you would simply approach even if there is no signal at all and she never even noticed yoru existence.

Because you would simply know that the way to make women notice your existence is by approaching and starting conversations and you would know that when they start taking to you and see how much fun you are that's when they would start being interested in you even if they did not seem to be interested before the approach happened.

You don't need women to approach you, you just have to do it yourself. Walk up to them and say that you want to get to know them. Now you may feel scared of doing that because you may think they will reject you or react badly for approaching them, but that has to do with you doing the approach wrong, not because you are ugly.

The good news is that even if you do the approac wrong you can learn to do it right. Because it's all about learning the right social skills to prevent a bad reaction from women and to increase your chances that your approaches will be received better by ssaying the right thing.

But the reality is you don't need any signal to meet women, you just need to approach without signals like i do, without giving a fuck what the outcome of that ends up being.

Title	What am I doing wrong?
Author	Living-Knowledge-792
Upvotes	0
Comments	3
Date	August 25, 2024 8:21 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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