What are your ways to develop entitlement?

itsmevichet · 2013-03-12T15:26:29+00:00

Confidence. Work on your confidence.

Entitlement as an attitude can be similarly effective when you're successful, but if you don't get what you want, you have the unwanted side-effects of "bitching about unfairness" and how you didn't get what you "deserved."

Confidence, however, is just being about to go out and do what's necessary to get what you want. And, if you don't get it right away, confidence allows you to brush yourself off and move onto the next goal in life.

Confidence overwhelmingly comes from experience, combined with knowing and accepting who you are and who you aren't. So, if you're new at this, you might be at it for years before you really get your confidence wings.

The best thing I can tell you is that every failure you learn from brings you closer to success. The good news is that there is little monetary/material risk to going out and meeting people. All you risk is whatever you consider "embarrassment."

You gotta get all that embarrassment before you get confidence.

PlayfullTrickster · 2013-03-12T10:05:17+00:00

I can relate to this. When I listen to the RSD instructors they all tell you to get reference experience in order to feel entitled. What helps with me is just going in for a talk. This doesn't pressure you too much.

2013-03-12T15:13:58+00:00

The line you have to walk is very thin. If you get rejected, most people, whether studying seduction or not, will attempt to turn the rejection around to save face. They might say something like "wow, antisocial much?" or "what's wrong with you?" instead of just accepting their reaction and smiling and saying "nevermind. hope you have a great night!" and moving on.

I think something that might address your constant worry of living up to the standards of others (besides the generic "lol don't give a fuck" advice) is learning to laugh at yourself but not necessarily in a self deprecating manner. Don't take everything so seriously, but don't get into the habit of self deprecation for a laugh or two.

There's a Daniel Tosh bit where he tells a story/joke and gets a decent laugh, then continues to say something else which only elicits chuckles at best. I have no idea whether it was planned or not, but he just says "I'm aware I could have ended the joke at the good part." and the crowd laughs again. I've actually just started to listen to comedians on Pandora while I work. Keeps me in a great mood and I reference the routines in conversation now since I've heard so many multiple times. I do feel kind of weird repeating "oh, it's like so and so's bit about ______" but oh well, people still laugh pretty hard.

rikjames90 · 2013-03-20T03:24:19+00:00

no see check it out. you are never going to be successful in every approach. your not casanova. some chicks just don't dig you. people do have types. some girls don't like fat guys, some don't like skinny they all have preferences. as with you im sure. lets face it, shes wants the have sex as much as we do, probably even more so because they have an organ made specifically just for that. pretend like you didn't notice how hot she was. now the brilliance with openers. the direct ones if you ask me, work 50 percent of the time. going up to a girl saying shes cute, banter banter banter, works very well with insecure chicks, nerdy chicks and fat chicks. people who don't normally hear that on a day to day basis but then we got the hot girls in yoga pants with their nice asses and nice chest. they know they look good as soon as they step out the door. you wont tell the first bro you meet that he has a nice chest or ass so why do it to girl bros. thats why i prefer indirect openers. flying in other the radar like a conversation ninja open with their discussion about whether yoga or Pilates is a better exercise. or for practise, who would win in a fight, a watermelon or grilled cheese sandwich, old people and stoner like this but dont use it every time cause most upstanding quality chicks will answer the question or not but they will think you are weird. its good for AA but dont rely on it. find something interesting in the news or on tv, and open with it. but don't milk that opener. continue on with the conversation. you are going to have the obvious conversations about where shes from, what she does, her name. don't act like its a job interview. imagine how many times shes been asked that question. so mix it up. fuck with her. give her a nickname. tell her it doesn't matter what her name is, if you smell what the rock is cooking. make up your own name like the great gatsby. who cares, you may never see this chick again. if you do, down the line when your dating, she will look back and laugh about how you two met. imagine what shes going to tell her girlfriends because girls definetly gossip. don't think about the outcome of this conversation. don't think about sexing her up. think about the here and now. imagine all the guys who hook up or date girls just to find out shes a selfish bitch or a boring snob. if she can keep up with your banter then go for it cause shes a cool girl. if you want the number after the end of the conversation Ive considered using the line, "you are cute but don't let that go to your head. we should hang out. i want you to have my number you have to promise not to call me all the time and hit on me, cause i'm not a piece of meat" I used a variation of that and it works. but like I said, you are not every girls type. you can say I want you to have my number, at the very worst we will be just friends" she can say yes she can say no but lady luck has its ways. its all about the game and how you play it. triple h wwe style. so basically the girls you seem to attract that you don't really want to attract. and wont stop bugging you. that's the girl version of you and how much shit your giving girls by being clingy. before attraction sets in. in terms of two and half men. do you want to be the charlie harper/ sheen of getting girls or the alan harper of getting girls.

Title	What are your ways to develop entitlement?
Author	Kitad
Upvotes	7
Comments	4
Date	March 12, 2013 9:59 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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