What does seddit think about introversion vs extroversion?

razqel · 2011-05-20T20:11:23+00:00

They are psychological constructs. They don't exist per se, but they are convenient ways to categorize behaviors and personalities.
Do not equate extroversion with confidence. Extroverts tend to seek stimulation and are more outgoing. They are energized by the company of others. However, you can be a shy extrovert. By contrast, you can have a confident introvert.
Introversion and extroversion lie on a continuum, meaning it's not an either/or characteristic. These are natural tendencies, so your tendency is not likely to change overall or on average. However, your degree of introversion/extroversion is also situation specific (e.g., around friends vs. in an elevator with strangers). Furthermore, you can train yourself to act like one or the other.
Introverts tend to be more cerebral and internally stimulated. Focus that mental energy on analyzing your interactions, building a strong identify, understanding what makes you the prize. Just remember to balance this out with practice or action.
Absolutely, an introvert can be alpha. Alpha is not about being gregarious, outgoing, and sociable. Yes, someone who is alpha can exhibit these behaviors. But more importantly, being alpha is about having confidence in your abilities, pursuing your goals, and giving value.

gpua · 2011-05-21T03:40:38+00:00

Remove these labels from your identity. Thinking that you will never be good with women because you are introverted is a limiting belief. "I'm introverted" is just an excuse to be unsocial.

Don't categorize yourself under such black and white lines as introvert and extrovert. We are more dynamic creatures than that.

Comma20 · 2011-05-21T04:06:04+00:00

Yes. No.
No.
This is the main point. I'll explain below.
Yes.

You (and many others) probably have a narrow view of introversion vs extroversion, and that's fine. The stereotype applied is very true most of time, but the understanding for many is lacking.

I'm an introvert. I require 'alone time' to 'recharge' my social need, so that I can go out and socialise. So what do I do? I make sure I get that 'alone time' and use it to study/work/be self productive, then later on when I'm recharged I can go out and be sociable and not 'seem' introverted.

For extroverts. The opposite applies. They more often than not need to socialise to 'recharge' their ability to get through times when they're alone.

This is probably the best 'pop psych' way of explaining introversion against extroversion. Think about if you're an introvert and you're FORCED to interact socially when you're not charged for it. Or why is it that only certain types of people like to go on solo backpacks to 'discover' themselves as opposed to those who like to do Contiki tours. etc.

TheLongSlowTease · 2011-05-21T19:00:37+00:00

Check out a book called The Introvert Advantage. True introversion, as opposed to just shyness, is an innate characteristic. As such I don't believe it can be changed, but it can be managed (and there are many benefits as well).

GreenvillePUA · 2011-05-21T03:51:38+00:00

Jesus. Stop being a bitch. Of course you can change your shit.

DO IT.

Title	What does seddit think about introversion vs extroversion?
Author	leevs11
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Date	May 20, 2011 7:48 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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