A common trait I’ve noticed with guys who are good with women is that they are positive that a date / approach will go well. I’ve also read how you should be optimistic when meeting women. For the most part I meet all my women through online dating apps and while I’ve had plenty of first dates I’ve struggled to land second ones with the women I truly want to see again.

With that said my mindset these days is just fuck it and I have no expectations at all for a first date. As of right now I’m finding myself getting excited about the possibility of meeting a woman who I’m into and is really into me and I find myself chastising myself. I’m trying to kill the excitement and not get my hopes up and get back to my no expectations mind frame. I think being optimistic would make the actual dating process more fun but at the same time women these days can be incredibly unpredictable so instead of getting my hopes up I prefer to just go in with a whatever attitude. Also not sure if my indifference is causing me to put in less effort on dates because I’m trying to instill the mindset that there is always someone else out there so don’t get caught up on one girl. I’ve had problems in the past where I go into Mr. Nice Guy mode and put women on a pedestal combined with the fact that I was so focused on either getting a kiss, a second date, or sex which caused me to behave unnatural. Going to meditate now and let these thoughts float around but curious to read you alls thoughts on this matter.