OK so Ive been lurking seddit for a while now and have picked up some very valuable advice, so I'm pretty sure you guys can help me with my problem.

Starting with the basics, I consider myself a pretty attractive dude. I'm 20 with an athletic build, a great smile, and I'm tall (6'2). I consider myself a very relaxed and open-minded dude, but I also have pretty bad adhd and can be apathetic at times. Throughout my teen and high school years I was always considered the quite dude, always sticking with my small group of friends and never trying to get girls. Not that I wasn't able to, it's just that I never really cared enough to try. I was also very self-conscious, which contributed a lot I'm sure. This mindset unfortunately followed me to college.

Always the guy posted up on a couch or wall somewhere at parties and not really attempting to socialize with anyone but close friends. I basically let people come to me. I've even had a few girls pull some tricks on me to show interest. What really confuses me is that in my head, I'm super attracted to these girls, but when the moment actually arises in real life I couldn't care less.

At first I thought it was a confidence thing, so I started working on my inner game, which helped me a significant amount. However, I've begun to realize that this isn't a confidence problem as much as it is an effort problem. When I want to I can talk to mostly anyone, but when it comes to girls, I basically just do nothing, knowing that I might need to actually put a little effort into it.

I want a girlfriend but when it comes to actually interacting with girls that I KNOW I want to date, it's hard for me to actually show it and not just be the same apathetic idiot like always.

I would really like to know what I can do to stop this behavior, because I know that my life would be a hell of a lot more fun if I could.