What to do when you get cold feet

dreameater42 · 2021-10-19T17:54:50+00:00

put on some socks

3sBoards · 2021-10-19T18:50:12+00:00

I dont know how old you are... 80s ...We dated around in middle school ..giving a note to a girl was a big deal lordy...we worked up to holding sweaty hands...thats as far as i got with several girls. For a couple years . But..pretty soon it was making out..its a slow process at any age..if a girl is giving signals yes ...just keep your eye contact going a little too long..touch her arm...give her your signals of interest...get comfortable with that much...

3sBoards · 2021-10-19T18:50:30+00:00

I dont know how old you are... 80s ...We dated around in middle school ..giving a note to a girl was a big deal lordy...we worked up to holding sweaty hands...thats as far as i got with several girls. For a couple years . But..pretty soon it was making out..its a slow process at any age..if a girl is giving signals yes ...just keep your eye contact going a little too long..touch her arm...give her your signals of interest...get comfortable with that much...

Agreable_Actuator84 · 2021-10-20T00:28:20+00:00

Some random suggestions to maybe implement:

Maybe Try cognitive therapy - get books by Albert Ellis or david Burns and do the exercises. You will identify the negative thoughts you had right before cold feet and dispute them.

Maybe try visualization. Repeat the past scene in your mind but this time imagine going all the way and both of you feeling good about it. Also visualize an upcoming date this same way

Try affirmations - repeat positive phrases aloud multiple times a day like —I enjoy having sex with someone new —I love women and I won’t deny them the pleasure of my body. -women want me to seduce them. And so forth

Enjoy the process and reward self for going farther each date. Doesn’t matter if it leads to sex or not, but reward self mentally for taking risks.

Title	What to do when you get cold feet
Author	GalaCad2003
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	October 19, 2021 5:37 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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