What went wrong

thementaltyrant · 2018-06-04T11:00:57+00:00

Just because a person looks at you does not mean they are attracted. She could have been wondering why you had a flat brim hat on cuz guys look like a douche canoes that wear them? And so on. And same applies for her bushing off a terribly placed stale joke... It's easier to give a fake giggle than to just be rude.

Fact of the matter, she was not into you. Get used to it, such is life in the 0 sum game of dating.

obi1andkobe · 2018-06-04T12:56:32+00:00

OP she didn’t like you? That’s great. You didn’t waste your time. Move onto the next one.

Not everyone is going to like you, be lucky that she didn’t use you for entertainment and then shut you down after an hour was wasted.

For every 10 girls that I talk to, I get maybe 2-3 numbers. It’s just the game of life. Don’t take this as a situation that you could have controlled.

In my oppinion, learn how to bounce back from rejection in life, it’s not personal. There may be circumstances that are against your favor.

I.e. she had a bad day, has cramps, and just had a bad date the night prior. She would have a massive hate on men right now and shut you down. Has nothing to do with you.

You keep approaching and trying dammit. You’re going to smash 1-3 of 10 by effort alone. But you have to get out there.

WIA20XX · 2018-06-04T13:35:24+00:00

You sound young, she sounds young.

Assuming no other social factors, she's too young to understand her own feelings.

The other part of this is that just because you sat down next to her, doesn't means she's going to jump in your lap. You have to teach some of these chicks how to socialize and loosen up. You do that by talking to her, having her meet people, talking about things that she can talk about.

Most guys know what it's like to get weird around girls, this is the same thing. She doesn't know how to open up.

You're the man, you lead.

StanDando · 2018-06-04T18:44:15+00:00

With little information, its even harder to diagnose an event that one wasnt at. Hard originally because you dont know what you didnt do. Did you play a bit hard to get? Were you alpha? Were there bitches talking to her behind your back? Did you give her haptics (touch)? Are you even goodat communicating? Did you give away too much about yourself? Did you smell? Was your body language wrong? What did you do that (assumingshewas interested before) revealed an opposite to how you presented yourself to start with?

You dont describe how she 'shut you down' either.

Hopefully youre only aski g this to develop your game, and not because youre dwelling on a particular girl.

No guarantee you had any hook/intrigue established in the first place though.

Title	What went wrong
Author	ylmcc
Upvotes	1
Comments	10
Date	June 4, 2018 10:40 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/8oga15/what_went_wrong/
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