This has happened to me a few times now, and it's really starting to get irritating. I get close with a girl and then she gets cold feet. Always the reason she gives is along the lines of some sort of spiritual bullshit that she needs to find herself or be her own person. It's happened enough times now to where I can see a pattern, and I know if this kind of resistance is this consistent, I'm sure it's happening to more than just me. Here are some examples:

"I'm just not looking for anything at the moment"
"I really need to spend some time being single, so I can find out who I am"
"I need to do some soul searching"
"I just want to be single for a while"
"I need to figure out what I want out of life"

This is all after the girl and I had established some form of connection already. These lines have occurred at different points during the relationship, sometimes before sex, sometimes after. Often times we've agreed to meet up again, and then when I go to confirm plans, or escalate, I get hit with these lines.

These lines are typically used by more attractive women. Typically HB7 and up. The hotter the girl, the more likely she'll use this line.

So what's the deal? Am I not establishing enough comfort/rapport? I'm typically good at establishing rapport, so is there a difference between comfort and rapport, and I'm just not doing the former? I'd really like some advice on how to prevent this from happening in the future, or atleast some general way to respond when lines like this come up.

You'll have to excuse the tone of this post. I know I'm probably coming off cold. It's just so difficult to take these sort of responses from girls seriously when I've heard them so many times. That and the fact that it just blows being lead on, or worse, lied to, because I know for a fact that some of these girls are just gonna turn around and bang someone else despite her need to "find herself" or some bullshit.

Any feedback is appreciated.