This is a lament, I’m posting this looking for connection, maybe an idea and for people to relate.

Back in the day (2012-16ish) I was a pretty well-known face on the London daygame scene - I was a coach, spoke and led a few times at the Saturday Sarge, had a Telegraph article written about me (which was actually positive, can you believe it!) and witnessed my fair share of magical transformations [n.b. From here on I’ll use the word ‘magic’ instead of ‘inner transformation’ because the latter is boring.] First magic happened in myself over a few months, where my framing radically shifted, then I saw magic happening in students I was coaching.

In one case I remember a student who went from nervous anxious wreck, completely unable to ask women for the time or directions, resisting any push, getting more depressed after seeing my demos (instead of inspired), he transformed to running up to women and complimenting them, with confidence, all in about 10 minutes. Before all this I would’ve thought that claim belonged only to con artists or salesmen. But it happened. How? Really simple - I reframed the action from terrifying to fun. 

First I got him to stop me over and over again. Each time (still smiling) I adjusted something in him (posture, voice, pacing, gestures) and we did it again and again. Then I warned him I wasn’t going to smile anymore but put on a resting bitch face. So we did it again, the first few times he fell into my RBF frame but after coaching “keep smiling, don’t fall into my frame!” he got it, and something clicked suddenly. A girl passes and he runs after her instantly, a completely new man (“life-changing doesn’t even begin to describe it” he told me in an email later). Magic.

Why am I telling you this? I’m not selling anything (nothing to sell), but since all this COVID shit, where’s the magic? I used to have this kind of magic in my life pretty often - things that didn’t seem possible from the outside. I want this kind of magic back in my life (whether approaching or not). So where do you get it during this shitty time of staying indoors and interaction drought?