Why 'be yourself' hasn't been working out for you...

GargantuaBlarg29 · 2016-05-12T19:34:51+00:00

Be yourself. Live the life you want. Have your own goals. Interact with people according to your rules. This is all good. But the caveat is never stated:

Know that people may not like the real you.

You can be you, be the realest you there is and let it shine forth. But curb your expectations and know that if you open girls with your WoW stats a large percent of them may not give you a shot. Being you doesnt give you a free pass to make society like you.

Being you should be all about doing your thing for you and no one else. So when I see something like "being the "real" you isnt working because it's not the real you" I think...not working for who? If it's not working because "I am not partaking in life the things I can achieve on my own and I'm sacrificing for others" then yeah be the real you. If it's not working as in "my social life is floundering and girls wont date me" then you are expecting the real you to be compatable with society...and it just may not be so...and I think a lot of people take this meaning for it and not the former. Ultimately you shouldnt care what other people think, and this works well with people who's "real you" is compatable with enough of the population to still enjoy the social life they want. But for those cases where it isnt make peace that the real you wont result in that.

Ojayliving · 2016-05-12T13:29:00+00:00

Nice, I believe that people have trouble being themselves because they are trying to be themselves. Which does not make any sense since it is BEing yourself not DOing yourself :) As soon as you stop trying to be yourself as the phrase implies, you actually start being yourself since you are removing the doing part and are left with the being part. Same thing with finding out who you are... Stop looking and you will get closer to the truth ;)

Title	Why 'be yourself' hasn't been working out for you...
Author	SebastianCallow
Upvotes	3
Comments	2
Date	May 12, 2016 12:15 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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