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[–]STD_Tyler 3 points4 points5 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Formulate a plan, start small, like asking for directions, or saying hi and leave. Then build your way up to a real approach. This plan may take months, but every step of it changes you in a way that no amount of money you make can do...
[–]drcockpunch91 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
There is no plan you can formulate lol if you’re got you don’t even need to put in effort but if you’re ugly nothing you do to trick her will work. Money will always give you more changes than you saying hi (which isn’t attractive in the slightest). Even my dog knows how to greet people and you think that’s magically gonna make women view you as more attractive? Lmao you ask for directions and women will just tell you to google it. Your plan would make a guy take years just to see hardly any improvement.
[–]STD_Tyler 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I am not telling him to pickup women by asking for directions. I am talking about "graded exposure" or building a "fear ladder' so he doesn't overwhelm himself by approaching attractive girls straight away, then give up because how hard it is. But starting with easy missions that give him confidence and momentum.
Graded exposure works in field, their are many fear ladder programs to follow, and they work. Not to mention that they are scientifically proven in research, so your opinion means exactly jack shit.
[–]StephenDawg 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You say you've taken zero action but if you've started dressing better and working out then that isn't true. Sure you could do more, but if this board inspired you to do that then you're already on your way.
[–]Warm_Ad826[S] -1 points0 points1 point 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The thing is these things don't really matter unless I put the effort on the actual goal of bettering my dating life.
[–]Mhotdemnot 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Have you tried online dating?
[–]Warm_Ad826[S] -3 points-2 points-1 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I don't bother. I don't have any good pictures and I am not really photogenic anyways. I usually look 15 in pictures lol
[–]Mhotdemnot 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like you want success without even trying buddy. That's not going to work
[–]LiquidSouldierz 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
"You miss 100% of the shots you dont take" In the words of some country song I remember growing up wit. "Lifes a dance, you learn as you go. Some time you lead sometimes you follow but dont worry about what you dont know, lifes a dance you learn as you go"
Take a chance and when you and beautiful stranger lock eyes and share a smile, ask how she is, what's her name and what it is she's does for work,fun and pleasure. Allways listen and be sure to ask follow up questions, shows your actively listening and invested in the conversation. Simple game plan man, just take the shot, you'll miss until you dont.
[–]Warm_Ad826[S] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't know man, this is great advice and I apply it to every aspect of my life except dating. But on the occasion that I see an attractive woman I always have these vicious looming thoughts which usually translate to "what's the point?" and I always back out.
[–]drcockpunch91 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You seem to be skipping over the part where women don’t smile at you, they don’t make eye contact and they tell you to fuck off for asking them personal questions. Life/dating is completely different for ugly men.
[–]germasiano 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
What if you start smaller? Instead of going in with the mentality of approaching a gorgeous woman to pick her up or get her details, what if you just set the goal to something a lot closer to your comfort zone?
Find a woman who is doing something that you can talk about, and focus on the object, not her. Maybe she has a rad bike or is eating something that smells amazing. Approach her with the goal of finding more about the thing she is doing. And then say thanks and walk away. If you do this more often, you’ll start getting more comfortable and take the pressure off.
You trying to flirt with a chick that you have absolutely no interest in is wrong in two ways. 1. Women are not stepping stones for you insecurities and 2. Just because you approached a ugly chick and she was nice doesn’t mean if you do that same approach on a hot chick that she will reciprocate your interest. Ugly guys come back here because they realize the truth that none of this bullshit matters if you’re not hot to begin with. A woman doesn’t care about a nice personality when it belongs to a guy that she will never care to be with. These are facts and just the reality of the situation.
[–]germasiano 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No one said anything about flirting or “ugly chicks”. It’s just about speaking to a stranger of the opposite sex and becoming comfortable with that. No one gets hurt here.
I disagree with you. I think it does help to be attractive, but personality can make a fairly average man become much more attractive than what he visually is. Working out and having a healthy lifestyle with ambitions are also all attractive. Plenty of my girl friends are with average-looking guys with GREAT personalities. Cynicism like yours is very unattractive and will turn off any woman who has self respect.
[–]LiquidSouldierz 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nailed it, start at a point where your comfortable. Every girl isn't gunna vibe with you but you will start to notice small talk and some light hearted banter will start to come naturally with practice.
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