Why I hate them?

CoffeeInferno · 2019-12-21T15:53:24+00:00

What you describe sounds more like you're freaking yourself out. Yes of course they might not be comfortable talking with you at first because a) it's always strange and awkward when you approach a stranger and state your romantic interest in that person and b) you already assume the worst and might just be in prevention mode and are trying desperately to not screw up. But it's your job here to make things easier and more relaxed for her so she feels comfortable to talk with that stranger. How can you do that when you're feeling out yourself?

I also think it's not about your location or the girls being difficult there or whatever but you. I've been with girls from several countries in my life, since I use to travel a lot, and the Spanish girls are definitely not more difficult than the girls from other countries. In fact I experienced Spanish girls and Latinas as some of the most passionate lovers, maybe not that easy to crack, but once they're into you they make it fairly easy for you. But to be fair just from my experience I felt like having to be way more dominant from the start than I could be with Asian girls.

That being said, I think that you should try to relax, don't put too high expectations on you and the women and just start small. If necessary "Baby Step" your way from saying 'hello" and "have a nice evening" to the elder cashier lady at your local grocery store, to asking strangers (any) for simple things like directions until you're ready to approach girls you like. You'll see that most people aren't that hostile but oftentimes just a bit overwhelmed when approached by strangers. My sister for example rejected a few guys just because she was freaking out in that moment and later she regretted it. Maybe take that into consideration as well.

And don't frame it as hate or blame them for your own flaws here. It's just you needing some more practice. IMHO. Beautiful girls get approached so many times they simply have had way more opportunities to practice than you. So it might seem like an uphill battle but with time and practice you get better results. Just my thoughts on that.

smoothmax · 2019-12-21T17:40:14+00:00

I'm only guessing and I apologize for being presumptuous. You probably have issues with your mother because the way she raised you. Or some other females from your childhood possibly with sisters or aunts. Or maybe it was the attitude and behavior of your father and other male relatives.

You can overcome these issues if you analyze your past life in an honest way. In the end when you have understanding and forgiveness you can move on and have good relationships with women.

Title	Why I hate them?
Author	M4ddChristian
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	December 21, 2019 2:58 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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