Why isnt cheating the answer?

Lambdal7 · 2018-07-17T10:15:17+00:00

If you are a man, you tell her that you need a break.

2018-07-17T11:54:56+00:00

So the man you want to be is based on how many women you can get? That's where your value is? Is the man you want to be a liar and a deceiver? That is sad.... very sad.

Cheating is never the answer. I don't care whether you want to be with other girls or not, you simply don't cheat. You break with your girlfriend and then go for other women. You want to have the cake and eat it too.

It doesn't matter that she will never know if you cheated, it's about integrity and being a decent human being. There's many times in life when you have to choose between one thing or another, or be a total piece of shit and try to get both.

Do as you please, it's your life, you're gonna do whatever you want, but you will never become a man if you follow that path.

Xanarxses · 2018-07-17T10:37:03+00:00

My neighbor is actually a good example. Dude has probably never committed to one piece of ass in his life. His pregnant girlfriend is in the UK. He's banged like 3 or 4 girls in a month or so since she left.

It's up to you. It is morally wrong. But if you want to have your cake and eat it too, then go ahead. In your place I'd be honest. You rushed into a relationship and didn't give yourself time to man yourself harder.

2018-07-17T12:54:30+00:00

Exact same situation as you. Literally 100%. Either commit to her 100% and stay loyal, let her know you're going to try and get side pussy or be a man and break it off. There is no problem with wanting to fuck other women, but don't string her along while you get some side pussy while she thinks she's in a monogamous relationship. That's unfair to her. How would you feel if she was fucking other men behind your back. Even if you fucked 1000 women before you current girlfriend, you're still going to want to fuck other women in a monogamous relationship, it's just the way men are wired.

ConfusedJonSnow · 2018-07-17T17:39:04+00:00

You want to cheat for your own reasons. Trying to rationalize your behavior as something beneficial to her is pretty fucking weak. Break things off with your girl and go have fun, but don't go telling yourself this is "the only way".

DimitriT · 2018-07-17T11:24:10+00:00

It depends on who you want to be! I'm the kind of man who hates cheating so I would never cheat. I was in a similar situation once. As in: I went to another city to study. We could only see eachother couple of times a month and it took a big strain on us. The options I had in front of me was to break up or to cheat. I choose to break up because I'm not a low level scum. Even if she didn't find out, I would know and I would not like myself. And I think that it was the correct decition to leave her!Now, couple of years later I'm in a relationship that is completelly on a different level. If I had to make the same decition now, I would probably stay instead of moving or take her with me. I would not even consider cheating or leaving as an option.

jagged_edge_21 · 2018-07-17T13:25:07+00:00

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2018-07-17T14:31:33+00:00

I mean, there isn't anything wrong with it because it's your life but don't be surprised if karma bites you in some way. Also, I guarantee you it won't be as easy as you think to just get laid.

Chamizo4 · 2018-07-17T18:27:03+00:00

It's better that you stop the relationship with her before moving.

Do it as a signal of respect for the relationship.

If you don't feel realized as a person, as a man, now is the time to do it, before the years pass and you grow up being a frustrated man.

Is for the best.

Hmmkey · 2018-07-17T11:30:14+00:00

Sounds familiar, i was really growing with the pick up when i met my ex, Who was the love of my life and even though i wanted to grow old with her in the back of my mind i kept feeling i should have continued my pua journey of Getting out of my comfort zone and growing as a person. After 8 years we ended it and i am back on my journey again and feel great to be on a Path going up again. That being Said i would never cheat, just make the tough decision if You feel the need to chase other girls and end it with her.

TheMidnighter · 2018-07-17T11:46:14+00:00

It's called an open relationship. Let her have some fun too.

Title	Why isnt cheating the answer?
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Date	July 17, 2018 10:12 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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