Why so serious?

Psychocist · 2015-07-20T22:22:29+00:00

You can't function to your full mental potential while you're metathinking - thinking about thinking. You have to stop thinking about it. That's why people are generally more charismatic after a beer. For a long-term solution, try meditation.

Either way, you're goal should not be to be funny, but to stop over-thinking. Once you achieve that, you'll stop worrying and hesitating and you'll become more relaxed and funnier and wittier.

I'm a chronic over-thinker. Mainly obsessed about validation and my self-worth and my lack of success with women. The other week I had a 4th date planned with a girl who was coming round to my house. We'd already been bed together (but not had sex). I was excited to the say the least. For a good couple of days I felt genuinely happy because I wasn't worrying about anything. The second I stopped worrying about being funny.. I was joking around having a laugh, being wittier than I've been in months.

The girl flaked and I was devastated, but that's beside the point haha. You see the reality didn't matter - it was my perception of it.

owtheburn · 2015-07-20T20:22:42+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3dtti4/cold_approached_10_girls_in_7_days_thank_you/ct8pyrs

added onto that, make funny mental comments about people as your about. "he looks like Ron Burgundy let himself go." for example. Point is to make yourself laugh, not just to be mean. (but some of it might be mean)

Another one is to make up what conversations you can't hear are about. Like you see a little boy talking to his mom and make up "He's been explaining to her for 45 minutes how jet fuel can't melt steel beams".

Little mental games like that get you "quicker" and wittier over time

TBBTEL · 2015-07-20T20:44:33+00:00

Laugh. A lot.

Laugh at yourself, at mistakes you make, at funny names you see on signs, at the weird things you think about when you are daydreaming.

Don't take yourself(or life actually) that serious, have fun with whatever you do, watch comedy shows, read some jokes.

Also, be thankful. You'll find out that being thankful and being happy are closely connected, and when you are happy and at ease with yourself you'll be funny from within because you don't have any negativity in you.

P.S. Don't ever get mad at yourself for not being happy/funny, sometimes you just aren't in the mood and it's really self-destructive.

recyclablebantha · 2015-07-21T02:38:06+00:00

I'm generally a pretty serious person.. how can I learn to lighten up and be a funnier person?

A lot might depend on your mindset. If you place a high priority on absolutes, like being absolutely correct or pinning down the absolute truth, then you're going to be more serious.

If you place a high priority on being comfortable in those grey areas instead of having things black and white, it'll be easier. If you're more flexible instead of rigid-minded, it'll be easier. If you're okay with the idea of correctness and truth being journeys rather than a destinations, you'll have a better time.

Getting back to that attitude kids have, of exploring and not taking things for granted, is also helpful.

sunday_silence · 2015-07-21T17:40:01+00:00

there are a lot of good comments especially about making up comments about people. You feel like you cant do this.

Have you ever heard of the power of positive thinking? YOu can change your personality just a bit by keeping positive thoughts in your head. I actually did this when I was 20 because I had gotten so terribly sarcastic it was turning off people. I consciously worked on it.

After some time (at least months) I found I was still in that mindset of not hurting so many people but it was coming to me automatically w/o having to consciously work at it.

This can work. you have to work at it.

Title	Why so serious?
Author	owtheburn
Upvotes	7
Comments	7
Date	July 20, 2015 8:15 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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