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Link to full video: https://youtu.be/7a80Cqfa3eM

Sup my brothers!

I know what you’re thinking. What exactly are we thanking her for? Why the hell should I ever thank someone who rejected me?

In this post I will explain how learning to show gratitude by thanking any girl who has ever rejected you and how continuing to do so will benefit your mental and physical health and lead to more confidence and less anxiety with women. Plus it will help to no longer fear rejection.

I’ll also explain how to create a two-minute gratitude practice that can change your life, and why most gratitude practices are ineffective

So why should we be grateful?

The thing is, I see too many guys that are resentful of women. The guys that are a little too red or black pill. They have struggled with women, been rejected, and spent a lot of time sitting in a victim mentality. They blame society and women for all their problems instead of taking their power back, taking responsibility into their own hands, improving their lives, and having positive interactions and relationships with women. And I don’t want that to be you, or anyone for that matter.

When you start your journey to getting better with women, there is a huge barrier to success. And that barrier is rejection. It can be a shitty demoralizing feeling. That feeling when you finally build up the courage to go speak to a girl at the bar, or you think fuck it, I’m going to ask her out and you get resounding and heart-shattering “no.” But like with any skill, you will face some failures at the start of your learning curve.

But it’s not just about not turning into a resentful black pill guy who decides being celibate is the only alternative. It’s about improving your learning curve and being more confident around women. And I’m going to show you how.

I developed a practice around gratitude and positive thinking when I went through the many rejections when I started out. Every single time a girl told me she wasn’t interested, or that I wasn’t her type, or that I was creepy and to go away, I took on a unique approach.

Instead of calling her a bitch or thinking all women are entitled and evil, I shifted my mindset. I would tell her to have an amazing day (and genuinely mean it!) I would then monitor my self-talk and narrative. The thing is, you also don’t want to hate on yourself by saying that you are too stupid, too short, not good-looking enough, or that no girl is into you. The truth is this girl doesn’t know who you are, she didn't reject you, she can’t. She simply doesn’t know you. What she rejected was a small set behaviors that you demonstrated.
So, instead, just look at your behaviors and see what you can improve. Perhaps you were standing too close, you weren’t loud enough, you spoke too quickly or whatever else you noticed. And then take a minute to thank the girl for her feedback. Thank her for the opportunity to improve, meet someone new, and take a second to hear you out.

This idea of gratitude has evidence and science to back it up. I recently listened to Dr. Andrew Huberman’s podcast; ‘The Science Of Gratitude & How To Build Gratitude Practice’

He describes how the practice can increase pro-social behaviors, which allows us to be more effective in interactions with ourselves and others. It also creates a reduction of stress and fear. When applied to meeting women, you will be more likely to perceive attraction, increase your confidence and reduce anxiety when speaking to women, and less of an emotional reaction to rejection.

Unlike other practices (such as mediation or breathwork), the positive effects of gratitude practice are felt almost instantly making it sustainable to incorporate regularly

The podcast describes a gratitude practice that associates experiencing empathy or sympathy for someone who received help. It’s less about making a list of things you are grateful for, which is still helpful but is more about actually connecting with the feeling that has the best results.

The steps are as follows:
1) Think about (or find from podcast, movie, etc.) a story in which someone received help or you received thanks

(2) Write a few notes about the story, such as what the struggle was, what the help was, and how it made you feel;

(3) Repeatedly reflect on the story, really connecting with it for a few minutes, and repeat this 3x per week.

The more you practice gratitude, the more you start to associate the concept of rejection with learning and shift your mindset from identifying with failure to seeing it as a result of a subset of behaviors. It will give you the power and drive to improve.

You will start to notice your fear around rejection dissolving and your inner confidence grow.

To show my gratitude for you watching and following our videos we will continue to make content to help you improve yourself as a man. To show your gratitude please like the video, and if you haven’t already subscribed to the channel, it really helps us out and is the motivation we need to continue putting out this content.

Peace!

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