Over the past year, I've become much much better at Seduction (thanks seddit). I've been engaging with women a whole lot more than the past. As my friend puts it and I quote "You're fucking drowning in pussy".

But here's the catch. The improvement in seduction skills has come at a big compromise. I had to give up my old hobbies/habits. I used to spend a lot of time reading research papers, trying side-projects and being a focused man in general. I used to write tech articles, get into the depth of various techniques etc. I want to say that I had excellent value-producing habits already to some extent (yes, I was a textbook nerd. But, I still feel like I have a lot of runway to cover before takeoff)

These habits also translate to money. The more skillful I get, the more I can get paid, the more job security I have, the more satisfied I feel.

However, the hunt for women has made me more emotional and less focused. It leaves me with no time for productive work. I spend too much time trying to set up dates, make myself more socially visible, improve my general social skills/body language, wasting time courting women etc.

Ideally, I'd love to improve myself as a "person" and not just become an "attractive man" for women. I want to explore things beyond seduction. I want to fucking be able to talk to badass researchers eye-to-eye on concepts that only a handful of people know. I want to be able to drive my company forward. I want to be able to understand various cultures and use my skills for monetary and social enhancement. I want to be able to understand where space research stands, what quantum computing does and what's the latest in semiconductor research. I want to be able to have a political and religious views to share with folks (with authority and citations, not just opinionated/drunk discussions).

This requires time investment in research, reading and practice in isolation....which woman-hunting (tm) does not leave me with.

Anybody else feel the same? What are some ways to manage this? Am I asking for too much from life?

P.S.: As a background, I'm a 26 yr old software engineer. My job requires (promptly encourages) me to be fully invested in the world of programming and computer science. This world is very different and far separated from the real world. Really, you can completely get consumed by the amount of learning you have to do and feel fulfilled.

Honestly, I love doing my work. Working efficiently to deliver results at work, reading up computer-related articles/papers, trying new projects on the side etc. is something I WANT TO and feel happy about doing.