So a couple of years ago I got into seduction and pickup, back then, I really wasn't that great of a person. I simply wasn't a very attractive guy, I was unhealthy, had no drive or ambition, no passion for life or anything to offer the women I was hitting on.

Pickup became a way for me to fill a void in myself through the pursuit of women, I somehow believed that if I got girls this void would be filled and my problems would be fixed. This couldn't be farther from the truth and I went on to fail miserably with girls for a while because of this flawed belief.

Then COVID hit and turned my world upside down, I was out of work, forced indoors and forced to reflect on myself. Bars in the UK have been closed for a long time now and I was no longer able to fill that void with chasing girls. I took a long hard look at myself and decided to change, I decided that since I wasn't able to get girls during COVID, I'd find out how I can fulfill my own life without women. If I truly wanted to get girls in the future I needed to be a guy who didn't need them, a guy who wouldn't worry about rejection because he know's his own value, a guy who would pursue women as a complement to his life and not the center of it, a guy who could attract high value women without defining himself by his success with them. A guy who was out in the world following his passion and purpose without even thinking about women.

Recently I've been watching the Formula 1 series on Netflix, all the drivers have their girlfriends in the pit's watching the race passionately cheering for them on each over take. This is what you will never have if you put women first in your life, if you are defined by your success with them, if your only passion is pursuit of pussy.

She needs to be able to look at you in the same way Max Verstappen's girlfriend looks at him as he risks it all for a podium finish. She needs to look at you as a man who is out to win in life. All of the stuff that pickup tries to correct will melt away when you start really working on yourself, you will be confident as hell because you will have actual progress towards tough goals etched into your past, you will have proven your mettel and those achievements will speak louder than any anxious voice in your head.

You will surprise yourself with how far you get towards your tough goals and you will take that attitude to other areas of your life as well, you will start to wonder. Where else have I been lying to myself? where else will I go further than my expectations, should I simply choose to take action?

What if I go chat to this girl and it goes way better than I could have ever predicted?

You start to learn that your mind can't really be trusted when it comes to what you can achieve, there are lots of limiting beliefs that hold us back and entrap us in a certain way of living. You simply can't trust that part of yourself, you need to be like Max Verstappen with 9 laps and 9 seconds to make up and have faith that it might just be possible. Even if you don't believe it yourself.