Had a second date with an HB9 (short Asian dancer with nice curves), ordered takeout and watched a TV show before f-closing in her bed. I've read the Sex God Method and incorporated some of the tips into my lovemaking repertoire (choking, dirty talk, spanking, forcing arms behind her head etc). I also went down on her with that Nina Hartley cunnilingus technique video in mind. She definitely enjoyed it and afterwards she said, "Your girlfriends must be very happy." Then she added, "You're different in bed..."

I didn't need to ask what she meant by that. In normal conversation I'm pretty relaxed, and I tend to listen more than I speak. "Stoic" or "reserved" would probably be the word to describe my default personality. But this girl is obviously turned on by dominance and physicality in bed. My question is, how important is it to convey that kind of dominance outside the bedroom, and if so how is it best expressed? I'm a recovering "nice guy" who didn't get laid until I was 21 but since then I've slept with lots of women, though I still catch myself being "nice" at times out of habit.

On the other hand, maybe some girls like a guy who is a gentleman but also knows how to gorilla-fuck her in bed? The contrast could be a turn-on but I do not have that level of insight into the mind of a female. Maybe I should ask one?