FDS standards for FWB

circescircus · 2019-12-28T00:14:32+00:00

Bar raising standards for what? FWB is for nothing but sex. If he is not good at sex and you need to raise the bar for that, then why are you sleeping with him? I'd say that the only FDS standards for FWB is that he should give you multiple toe curling orgasms in a night and cook you breakfast naked while you admire his muscles and his symmetrical face. Then you kick him out and go on with your day, not thinking about him again, unless you want to have NSA sex again . Which is what FWB are for-- NSA sex.

What I'm writing might sound absurd, because FWB arrangements are beneficial only to men 99% of the time. In theory, they could be beneficial for women, if most men didn't look like slobs and could perform sexually.

wowthispostissad · 2019-12-27T22:08:14+00:00

I would assume you two are not going on dates or doing much more than hooking up. I would still expect to be treated with respect as a human, but I wouldn’t expect to be courted.

Signs of respect for fwb:

Doesn’t expect sex on demand or gets upset if you’re not available. Think of it like an acquaintance or friend you want to meet up for lunch with - you pay for yourself, but you still need to reach out politely to the friend, make sure it works with both of your schedules, and not constantly flake on each other or be late or etc. Same for fwb.

Doesn’t make you do anything in bed you’re uncomfortable with or tries to force you or negotiate with you. Instead, he is open and honest in an actual discussion where both parties are respectful of each other’s desires.

Doesn’t manipulate, lie, cheat, or hide things. He doesn’t need to share every detail of his dating life, but he needs to let you know if he’s having sex with others and what kind of protection they’re using.

Practices safe sex without you nagging. Doesn’t get offended when you ask him to show you his std testing.

Actually interested in pleasuring you in bed. Unfortunately this is hard to find even for committed relationships.

gcthrowaway2019 · 2019-12-27T22:13:49+00:00

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Title	FDS standards for FWB
Author	miramathebeatqueen
Upvotes	19
Comments	6
Date	December 27, 2019 9:40 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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