In 2020 we start recognizing men’s manipulation tactics and start living for ourselves!

2340000 · 2020-03-04T23:52:38+00:00

They also know that you know they can kill or cripple you if they put their mind to it, and have no reservations about exploiting that fear by threatening you in milder ways.

Sewud · 2020-03-05T13:36:27+00:00

I've noticed they manipulate me by overstepping boundaries, refusing to admit their mistake, and playing the victim. It's like a three step game.

One time a guy told me something like "woe is me, I bet you traveled to see your ex because he was hot, you would do the same for me if I was as hot as him". He had not seen my ex, but that comment would always be unacceptable anyway. I told him that the comment was offensive, then I told him goodbye. He started saying that it was just a joke, that I was being unfair, that he said nothing wrong, that his intentions were innocent, that he didn't like being told his comment was offensive because that was as if I had the pretense to read his mind. Suddenly I was in the wrong for attacking a poor guy's fun flirty comment and I had to apologize to him.

At another time a guy who was my boyfriend kicked my dog (!). The way it happened is that my boyfriend was mad at me for the upteenth dumb reason of the weekend. I defused as usual by smiling and offering supportive words, then I turned away to let him cool off. When I turned, my dog barked at him and I heard him kick my dog. My dog was 5 lbs and sweet to all humans. In this situation my dog was probably scared that my boyfriend would attack me when I turned my back due to the boyfriend's body language. I turned in disbelief and said "you kicked my dog, that's not okay!". He just said "I did nothing, your dog was being annoying". I was like "no really, hitting a dog is not okay". I was expecting him to concede that he went too far, but instead he was just like "I do what I want, dumb dog can stay away".

I'm starting to believe men never apologize. They just use various manipulation techniques to distract me. In the first case he argues that me being hurt by his comment is actually hurting him because he can't take that I'm criticizing his comment. How do you even? In the second case I'm just so dumbfounded that I don't know what to do. There's no one to support me in my claim that hitting a dog is not okay. If I tried to ask him to leave he might have hit my dog more on the way out? My instinct was again to defuse and try to calm him down.

2020-03-05T03:47:44+00:00

Oh my god

Title	In 2020 we start recognizing men’s manipulation tactics and start living for ourselves!
Author	AspenGoddess
Upvotes	173
Comments	16
Date	March 4, 2020 11:43 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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