Journalists - Please Write About AWDTSG

While originally intended to help keep women safe from harmful men (although that's not what the title implies), these AWDTSG Facebook groups (app soon to come) have devolved into toxic environments where women shame men for being bald, short, overweight, having a small penis, being a "two minute man" in bed, having a sexual preference or a kink, or even for the clothes they wear. Even worse, the man's profile picture and full name is shared, without his consent, along with every secret he ever told the woman, again without his consent. Men who did nothing to harm or deceive the woman are called everything from lazy and cheap to being an abusive cheater with narcissistic personality disorder.

These things are read by the mens' family, friends, neighbors and coworkers. It's there for any woman to see, but men are not allowed to defend themselves in the group, even if they have hard proof, such as screenshots, showing that the person is lying. And if woman who knows this man tries to stick up for him, they are often banned. They are banned if they even tell the man that he's on there.

Many woman are starting to see the cult-like misandry, petty vindictiveness and outright terrible advice on display in these groups, and are leaving them, even starting groups like "After AWDTSG" https://www.reddit.com/r/afterAWDTSG/ .

Meanwhile, you can read the many stories from traumatized men at "AWDTSG is Toxic" https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/ .

This story needs to be told. The story of the group's founder, Paola Sanchez, needs to be told. Read what other women have to say about her and what it's like to be a moderator on these groups.

If it hasn't happened already, the day may soon come when a man commits suicide over this. Men have lost their jobs over it. The posts stay up where every new match on a dating app can find it, and the man's dating life and reputation have now been ruined because he chose to break up with a woman, or reject a woman, or piss off a woman, or God-forbid, emotionally hurt a woman -- because we all know that never happens the other way around in relationships.

Men are becoming afraid to be on dating apps. I am afraid to use them now because I don't want my name and picture posted by any random woman who happens to see it and wants some "tea" about me. Any time someone wants tea every woman I've ever dated is invited to comment, or even strangers who want to shame me for not looking the way they want me to look. They say there's nothing to worry about if you aren't doing anything wrong. But go read the posts in those groups for yourself. How many of them are actually protecting women from violence and abuse, or even cheaters (in a mutually agreed upon, exclusive ,monogamous relationship)? And how many are just mean and spiteful?

How many are full of dangerous relationship and mental health advice? I think a qualified psychologist or therapist would have something to say about this topic. Please consider writing about this. There has to be a better way to protect women than AWDTSG.

I will leave with this question. What would you do if a person you had been on two dates with started contacting your exes on Facebook, asking for dirt about you? How violated would you feel? How quickly would you block that person's number?

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