From a letter published in feminist current:

My partner is a man who identifies as a radical feminist, but he has run into a lot of trouble with some of the radical feminist community who say that because he is a man, he is an abuser and an oppressor. He does not watch porn, although did when he was younger, and is now so distressed and disturbed by porn that he feels physically sick thinking about it. He feels shame for being a man, and has issues with having sex and being intimate with me because of his inability to conceive of sex being truly equal. He is afraid that he is pornifying me. He feels filthy for finding me attractive and for thinking of me in a sexual way. He now thinks he is bad and believes he is doing all the things radical feminists say that men do.

Any advice for this enlightened man?