i found this https://www.irishtimes.com/opinion/women-can-t-be-told-anything-anymore-for-fear-of-offence-1.3252456 , written by a woman in annoyance with the way our world has gone.

"If we chose to say, stay at home with children, doing what many would reasonably regard as the most important job in the world, raising and influencing the next generation, that didn’t mean we were lesser than the man racing up the corporate ladder. The key word was: choice.

We didn’t need patronising quotas, effectively a leg-up in a modern world where we can do it on our own. We wanted an equal playing field, not an advantage. There are so many quotas now, for everything from politics to the arts, you could be forgiven for thinking that being a woman was a disability.

At this stage, we’ve come so far, we should be doing victory parades in the street, in the same way the gay community celebrate their progress with Pride.

But winning was not enough. Seemingly for want of a crusade, today’s feminists regularly pick fights with men, reopening old (anachronistic) wounds. Feminism was never meant to be about emasculation"

its a great article with many points to consider, i wish i could fnd a woman who understands this kind of sense, they seem to be so few and far between....