Feeling really desperate

ransay3277 · 2020-06-20T14:55:34+00:00

I normally don't butt in, however, You may want to see some professional help. It's nothing to be ashamed of. We are with you and behind you. We also want you to be happy. You are not weak. But there is only so many times you can get kicked in the balls. You have support from all of us. But we cannot give you the assistance you need. We want you to get past this and you will. Were with you my man.

LongTimeOn · 2020-06-20T14:49:26+00:00

Don't know what to say other than make sure you have someone to talk to and confide in for help. If no-one is around pls contact a support line. Don't feel like you have nowhere to turn, there are always people willing to listen. It's obvious that you are in a lot of pain, so try and disconnect from social media so as not to see things that will set you off and also keep yourself busy to keep your mind occupied. Good luck brother.

mr_c97 · 2020-06-20T16:32:05+00:00

Fuck this is hard. Stay strong brother.

Maybe if you can demonstrate to the courts that your ex and the druggie partner you ex is dating are unfit to be parents and are creating an unhealthy and toxic relationship for your daughter to grow into, then the courts will award you custody.

In the future, your daughter will see the truth about everything. Be patient, stay strong and justice will be served, maybe not by you, but by your daughter herself.

The MGTOW community is here to support you.

DefNotAnthony · 2020-06-20T15:08:16+00:00

Of course you still love them why wouldn't you? I mean nothing I say to be harsh so if you perceive it as such understand that is not my intention. Your ex is your ex for a reason whatever it may be(this is true of any relationship), going backwards is almost never good for anyone involved. The only thing that matters anymore is you and your daughter

Unfortunately we live in a society where the family courts favor women, we live in the age of believe all women. It seems in my personal experience every girl I have talked to on the topic has had an "abusive ex" yet I know very few abusers (can't say I don't know any). If she goes around spreading lies then chances are people are going to buy it at face value, your real friends will know the type of guy you are and stand by you let the fakes filter themselves out.

The best thing you can do is make the most of your time with your daughter, take some time to improve yourself (lift, run, read, learn to code, learn spanish, whatever you get it) and consider having a lawyer try to restructure custody if you come across proof of an unfit environment. But always prepare for the worst, no matter what happens remember with time anything can be overcome.

If you feel yourself in a low down place there are places you can call to talk to someone, you are always worth fighting for. If you need those numbers lmk.

Have a great day brother one minute at a time

ProcedurallyCreated · 2020-06-20T15:12:28+00:00

You are better than this.

crityouallday · 2020-06-20T16:33:01+00:00

You do the crime of dating - marriage- kids you get to do the time. Alimony/child support to 18. Can't stick your dick in crazy if you don't stick it in anything 2D > 3D.

The pillars of MGTOW are don't get married, don't have kids, don't cohabitate.

Weakness means theres room for improvement. Willpower is there and you aren't alone. There are lots of resources to tap into, stay away from substances.

someevilwhitemen · 2020-06-20T15:53:02+00:00

pain is a long process you have to keep believing there is a light at the end of the tunnel

find a way to elelvate yourself never let anyone told you what you should think about her

but learn how not to feel anymore

believe in your best ally time and make sure by the time you will be there your life wont be

completely destroy so keep performing the basic task to keep your life going during the process

horizontaldesire · 2020-06-20T14:46:27+00:00

Thanks for sharing bro, ran into my ex at a party last night, and really started missing her. This was the kick in the nuts I needed to wake me up.

JustVenci · 2020-06-20T14:48:29+00:00

I'm so sorry that you are in such a pain. I wish I could help you somehow. But we are helpless in the hands of women.

bax3333 · 2020-06-20T15:44:54+00:00

I am sorry for what you are going through. I have been there and it was the worst time of my life. I am still trying to get over it. Modern women have every incentive to destroy their families. They keep the children, get your money and convince themselves and everyone else they are the victims. They have been given the freedom to destroy and do it with no consequences. They win the short game as Terrence Popp says.

What you need to do is first of all realize you need to be in this for the long run. It took me months before I could stop crying. How could the woman I loved destroy our family and my life like this. What you need to do right now is realize you can only control yourself at this time. For the first time in your life you need to put yourself first. If you need to get some professional help it is not a sign of weakness. We are only human. Men are very resilient. If you are a man of faith I suggest you try to grow in your faith. Believe it or not the struggles we go through in this life is how we grow as men. I won't say it doesn't suck but I am much stronger mentally and spiritually than I was before this happened to me.

You will win the long game. Men always do. It happened to me, others I know and it will happen for you. If you are working please continue to do so. Don't drown yourself in alcohol/drugs. Seen this many times. It never helps. Work out when you can. If you feel better physically it will help your mental well being.

Your daughter will grow older. She will eventually realize the truth. I have seen it in my own life and the lives of many of my divorced friends. The children eventually realize their mother is the one who destroyed the family. My relationship with my children has never been better than it is today. It will happen for you also.

v0lvic · 2020-06-20T20:58:03+00:00

speaking from experience...please don't neglect yourself because of this sorrow. Pm me if anything.

2020-06-20T22:16:06+00:00

I wish I still had the ability to love like you do. I can’t love women even though I still try sometimes. (Against my own judgement) I have a girlfriend who I don’t have even a slight attachment to and I keep that part of me under wraps. She can never know.

xre-awakenedx · 2020-06-20T23:31:09+00:00

Stay strong, brother.

Prototype_Grendel · 2020-06-20T23:56:48+00:00

Holy shit dude, i thought i had troubles.

That must suck on levels i cant even begin to comprehend. What sort of stuff do you do for fun? Are you working?

It sucks, but distracting yourself from your pain when its real bad is how i get through those days. Work on your hobbies. Maybe study law, see what you can do to win custody of your daughter back, although, the ex may have poisoned her against you.

If you need to talk, vent, whatever, feel free to pm me. I probably won't answer right away, but dont take it personally, i live off the grid, so i dont always have internet or cell service.

Im rooting for you. The dark days will pass, i promise. Just keep going. :)

droidrookie · 2020-06-21T02:26:51+00:00

I would say you are lucky to have gotten rid of your ex. You have a chance to be who you truly want to be. Limitless possibilities. Women will gladly replace a man with a better or worse partner without a bit of remorse. Now stop feeling like a victim, let that bitch go because she's not gonna appreciate your value anyway. It's time to build yourself into a stronger force, be more selfish. Excel in your passion, earn more money and sooner or later your daughter will be with you. You don't want to be a loser when your daughter finally chooses to be with you. You can have as many women in your life as you want just with money.

Batman_MGTOW · 2020-06-21T07:19:42+00:00

Fight for custody, just keep fighting, I have read many stories where men had to fight for many years in family court to be able to see their children.

dday_throwaway3 · 2020-06-21T12:51:43+00:00

> This is the man that she calls as her dad?

No. There is only one dad, you. In your parenting plan, the mother and father are explicitly defined. If your ex is encouraging your daughter to call someone else 'dad' then it is straight up parental alienation.

You've got to take the time for reconstruction. You're allowing your ex to pay rent in your head, and it's time to evict her. Read this: https://forum.mensdivorce.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=81647

silly_birb · 2020-06-20T19:48:24+00:00

I heard that on the deep web you can hire a killer for 5000-8000$

Title	Feeling really desperate
Author	PolukranosWordEater
Upvotes	36
Comments	22
Date	June 20, 2020 2:42 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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