Hi everyone, I'm a guy who lives in Pittsburgh, PA, USA. I was raised by a single father, who was an ultraliberal, somewhat feminine gay guy who was very anti masculine and not very receptive to anything involving (stereotypically) straight things; he was also very incompetent and abusive in a variety of ways. Because of this, I never really got to hang out with many straight or even remotely masculine men, or learn all sorts of skills that I wish I could've growing up. I know literally nothing about cars (driving or fixing), how to fix things around the house or any construction skills, defending myself (in fact, I was punished for doing so), anything that I think boys should learn from their fathers. I'd like to be around men who I could learn from. How could I do this? I tried an online search and not much came up (unfortunately, Pittsburgh is not a very friendly city anyway so this may be a huge stretch). If anyone can make suggestions, that would mean a lot.
I also would like to avoid groups that are aggressively macho, because even though I want to indulge more in masculinity, I'm a soft hearted guy who loves the arts and reading and I don't have a lot of aggression outside of when I'm being messed with.