Getting Knocked Up

30303030303030 · 2013-06-12T07:23:55+00:00

Here, she started crying and said that I was being selfish and wouldn’t even consider having a baby now. She then said that she loved me and wanted my baby and felt like I was scared and had no legitimate reasons for waiting, so she admitted to “taking matters into her own hands” in order to give me the “push” I needed to marry her and start a family.

textbook

tl;dr: I though my girlfriend was secretly trying to get pregnant, and it turns out she was (and is now pregnant).

Let this man sacrifice be a lesson to all of you cause he will now pay for the kid he didn't want for 18 years. There is no "pro choice" feminist rambling so loud it echoes through galaxy when it's the man who wants the "choice". Just sit quiet with your male privileges and pay. She got him.

If he marries that vile cunt...

TDCRedPill · 2013-06-12T15:35:56+00:00

Call me bitter, but that doesn't sound like behavior from someone who WANTS to get pregnant. That's behavior from someone who IS pregnant and wants to convince the guy he's the father.

At least the 'get a paternity test' posts aren't getting downvoted to zero, but they sure can't compete with the NAWALT posts.

ss_camaro · 2013-06-12T06:52:52+00:00

OP (in case deleted):

This post is an update to another post I made a few days ago, which can be seen if you follow this link. [1]

Anyway, so, as I told you guys, I had a conversation with my girlfriend last night about some of her recent behavior (wanting me to finish inside her, offering to buy condoms for me, talking excessively about babies and the like, etc.) and also about the concerns (she was trying to get pregnant) that I was having about these things and our relationship, and it did not go very well—to say the least.

I started off by telling her that I felt like we had been having problems communicating lately and maybe this had led us to have a misunderstanding about where we felt we were going. I then told her that I felt like maybe in our conversations about our future together I had made her think that my unwillingness to settle down was a sign I was still looking around or didn’t want to commit to her, when it really was just my belief that we should use this time to grow closer and work on our relationship. However, I let her know that I wanted to marry her (and have a family with her), but that I just didn’t feel ready for those things yet. I didn’t want to be hostile, so I first tried to reassure her of my commitment to her before I confronted her about trying to possibly get pregnant in secret. This is the point where our conversation started to go badly.

I then questioned her about why she had been so concerned lately with babies. Was it because several people we know have just recently gotten pregnant or had babies? Or was there something else that had caused this development? She became defensive at first saying that “all girls think about babies a lot,” but I eventually got her to admit that these pregnancies had made her think more about having a child and realize how badly she wanted one now. I told her that I understood how powerful this urge was but that I felt very strongly neither of us was ready to have a child and that we should wait, which was where things really got bad. She said something like “we love each other, so would it be so terrible if we have a baby now since we plan to someday?” I told her that the timing wasn’t right and that I was becoming increasingly concerned that maybe she wasn’t trying as hard not to get pregnant and brought up some of the reasons why (see previous post). I said that I had talked about this with some other people (you guys) and that they, too, thought it seemed like she might almost be trying to get pregnant.

Here, she started crying and said that I was being selfish and wouldn’t even consider having a baby now. She then said that she loved me and wanted my baby and felt like I was scared and had no legitimate reasons for waiting, so she admitted to “taking matters into her own hands” in order to give me the “push” I needed to marry her and start a family. This is the point in the conversation where she told me that I may not have a choice in waiting to have a baby and then said she was pregnant (I think she told me she was around 6 weeks, but I was so angry/hurt/shocked that I don’t remember). I asked her if she knew for sure, and she said that she has been to her OB/GYN to confirm it and didn’t tell me because she wanted to see how I would react to the idea.

I think at this point we both were in tears. I accused her of manipulating me and deceiving me, and she told me that this baby was “the best thing for us.” She then went and got the ultrasound photo or something and tried to show it to me, but I told her I need to think--which led her to hug me and say that “what’s done is done” and that there was “no point in me trying to fight it,” as she was not going to get an abortion.

I left after that and haven’t talked to her since. I don’t know if there is anything I can do at this point, but if she has the baby, I will be the best dad I can be. As for our relationship, I can’t imagine that I could ever be with her again given that she broke my trust. I suppose the moral of the story is to always wear condoms and never take for granted that a girl is using her birth control—no matter how much you trust her.

tl;dr: I though my girlfriend was secretly trying to get pregnant, and it turns out she was (and is now pregnant).

Clauderoughly · 2013-06-12T15:35:28+00:00

Men, if you EVER have a woman even start with the "baby rabies" take total control of your condoms, and seriously consider a vasectomy.

My wife and I NEVER want kids, but due to our open relationship status, I can still sleep with other women.

I am going to get the "snip" later on this year, so I can be 100% certain I won't have any sort of mishaps.

Remember men.

YOU

HAVE

NO

REPRODUCTIVE

RIGHTS

ONCE

SHE

IS

PREGNANT!!!

You have the "right" to pay far out the arse, and the state to take 60+% of what you have earned.

2013-06-12T12:58:04+00:00

That poor guy is stuck with a psychopath for the next 18 years.

JohnPeel · 2013-06-12T12:01:57+00:00

Here, she started crying and said that I was being selfish and wouldn’t even consider having a baby now.

Women cry so often as a get out it just doesn't affect me anymore. If I determine they are in the wrong (and catastrophically so, as in this case), it just doesn't do anything.

2013-06-12T08:05:05+00:00

And OPs first post (in case deleted):

Okay, the first thing I should state is that I greatly care for this girl and can imagine myself having a future with her. I really enjoy being with her (we've been together for a little over a year), and I'm certain that she feels the same way. I should also note that we have, up until recently, never really had any major issues, fights in our relationship. For these reasons, we have been talking a lot lately about the future (marriage, kids, etc.) and where we see ourselves over the next few years. However, while she feels we are ready to "settle down," I want to wait a little longer so that we can enjoy our youth for a few more years. This has caused some disagreement between us and did cause her to express concern over having to wait too long, but I thought that this was nothing major and told her to wait just a few more years (2-3).

As for why I think she may be trying to get pregnant, all I can say is that her behavior has been strange over the last two months.

First, I should note that, over the course of our relationship, we both have agreed that I would either use condoms or pull out, since she sometimes fails to remember to take her birth control; but she recently told me that I could start finishing inside her because she "was going to do better about remembering to take her pills." This caught me by surprise, and I told her that I was okay with continuing on the way things were, which seemed to upset her a bit. She didn't really get mad, but she seemed really insistent on me finishing inside her and promised me that "it would feel a lot better." At this point I had no reason to not believe her sincerity, so I did it a few times but then told her that I just wasn't entirely comfortable because I knew she had been forgetful in the past. This comment, for whatever reason, seemed to hurt her, so I suggested that maybe she look into an IUD as a possible solution to our dilemma. She responded by saying that she would rather stay on the pill and that I needed to just "relax and enjoy the feeling." One more thing I should note is that I have noticed she almost will no loner stimulate me to orgasm unless it's vaginally, which she claims is because she doesn't want to "tire me out" and "wants my best." However, this has never been an issue before and is another recent development which doesn't make sense.

At first I thought this behavior was a little strange, but no big deal, right? However, I finally started to get a little suspicious when she started actively questioning what I would do if she got pregnant--and by actively questioning I mean that she brought it up constantly. I told her that we would discuss that if it happened and that we should consider all options in such a situation. This caused a fight between us where she ended up crying and saying that I didn't care about her and that I was being selfish by refusing to discuss our future (i.e. specifically state what I would do if she got pregnant), but we again talked things over and I apologized, although I'm still not sure what I did wrong.

Things seemed to get better from there, but I did notice that she was (and still is) talking a lot about babies and children, especially considering that we had discussed children only a handful of times before the last two months. Specifically, though, she has been talking them up, if you will. That is, she has been talking about how "fun" it would be to have a baby and how cute they are, and she also started saying repeatedly that I would make a great dad. My only response to this has been to reminder her that I would love to have children but just not right now--to which she has consistently responded by saying something like "sometimes fate has a different plan for us" and that "we have to be flexible."

However, what finally led me to believe that she was purposefully trying to get pregnant was when she started offering to buy my condoms. This was really unusual, as I have always bought them myself throughout our relationship and before that. When I asked her why the sudden urge to do this, she said that it was because it was convenient and something that all girlfriends do. I tried to press the issue further, but she ended the conversation by saying that she just wanted to take care of me. As of now, she hasn't bought any for me and I have no proof that she could be poking holes in the condoms, but I feel really uneasy. I don't want to hurt her by refusing to have sex with her, but I also don't want to have a baby now. This isn't helped by the fact that she still wants me to finish in her when we have sex. In fact, it has gotten to the point where I feel bad if I don't comply, even though I feel I shouldn't give in to her, because I want so badly to trust her. I think I really would be devastated if I found out that she has been trying to trick me into getting her pregnant.

Anyway, am I being paranoid about my girlfriend trying to get pregnant, or do I have caused to be concerned? Also, how should I proceed and confront her about my concerns?

tl;dr: My girlfriend's behavior has been really strange lately, which has led me to believe that she might be trying to secretly get pregnant.

EDIT: Thanks to all of you for your advice. It has really made me think about my relationship with my girlfriend and also led me to the realization that I need to talk with her about my concerns, so I plan on talking to her tomorrow. I want to give her the chance to tell me if I did or said something to make her think that I didn't want her in my future and possibly talk about why she has been so concerned with babies lately. I'm hoping that maybe this is just a phase or that I'm just being paranoid, but if that isn't the case, I'm not sure what I will do. I would hate to break up with her because I do care for her, but I also know that neither one of us is ready to have a baby. I will update after the conversation.

orographic · 2013-06-12T15:00:47+00:00

Holy shit all those NAWALT posts including the top one. Do you think that matters to OP now? He is locked into 18 years of child support and their response is NAWALT. Brb vasectomy time

DaddyMonster · 2013-06-12T14:18:02+00:00

That's fucking rape!

favours_of_the_moon · 2013-06-12T17:52:38+00:00

A girl like this should be in prison.

If I broke into a girl's house and stole $250,000.00, wouldn't I be in prison? Or what if I lied to her and obtained it on false pretences?

Ragnar09 · 2013-06-12T13:11:43+00:00

Couldn't he slip some type of abortion drug into her food?

Title	Getting Knocked Up
Author	ss_camaro
Upvotes	27
Comments	33
Date	June 12, 2013 6:51 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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