The new education in our modern western world grows more and more spoiled children, the concept of "children-kings" comes from it (at least in french).

--- Forgive me by advance before to start reading because I am french.

I am really interested by that forum which melt many high level informations, simply my english may not always be perfect, so I count on you to be patient :) ---

I would like you to imagine:

It's been 3 years that am living in a shared flat, with 2 girls: a 39 y/o single mother and her 5 y/o daughter (will be 6 y/o in a couple of days), the "child-king".

The daughter looks like a little black balloon (the father is half black-white, the mother is half arabic-white).

She is fat and noisy, her mother spend 50% on her money for her little daughter expensive fancy clothes, which she has to change every year as the little girl is growing fast.

This 5 y/o girl has the total power upon her mother, she often tells her mother what to do and and she always order and do every single thing that she wants to do for herself.

--- Let's go back to the past, from 27 to 10 years ago, a small village in the south of France:

My own mother (who is still with my father) is a kindergarden director. During 16 years I lived in a flat close to the kindergarden of my mother.

There, I saw hundreds of babies going to school every year with their parents and the closed relationship between how the parents act in response to their children behavior and the evolution of those children behavior itself.

--- And coming back to present time with my 2 females room mates in the suburbs of Paris:

From the beginning, when mummy was 36 and "king-baby" was 3, I rapidly noticed an overindulgence from her mother, slowly allowing her baby to totally do everything that she wants.

Months after months, years after years, that single-mother was always denying the lost of control on the situation and justifying the fact that she has no authority on her child (she never had any authority since her child is 3 y/o).

Obviously that single mother is so proud of her daughter and only think that her daughter is so talented, so intelligent, so wise (at 5 y/o ?) and gifted, she somehow considered that her daughter is the centre of the universe, but I guess many mothers act the same way, while most of the females consider that the universe is them, most of the mothers consider that the universe is their baby.

From 2 y/o to 6, the daughter had been testing the limit of her mother, to understand the limit of her power upon her mother:

from asking, to denying, to crying, to yaling, to insulting, to beating the door, to beating her mother itself etc...

Today, that little one has total control upon her mother:

every time she wants something, she finally have it.

She totally dismiss her mother, regularly insulting her and tell her how much she does not love her, and when their is a complication (the single-mother say no, or wants her to eat something she does not want), the little girl complain 2 minutes, cry or scream, make any move, and the single-mother always gives her what she wants after 2 min of illusion of struggling.

Yesterday morning I had that picture:

they were late for school as almost every morning, and the mother was trying to look angry and to talk loudly to make her 5 y/o daughter move.

The little girl was so calm, so relaxed, no emotion at all on her face, she was just walking slowly like her mother just did not exist !! I was so surprised how totally dissociated the 5 y/o little girl was from the behavior and willingness of her mother.

The daughter just do not give a fuck to her mother.

She knows by experience that her mother has no power at all.

But,

at the same time, that little one is so possessive and don't know how to do anything alone, every second of her lifetime, she required her mother attention, treating her like one of her doll, a toy which has no power of authority, but shall be at her entire disposal for her self-entertainment.

The single-mother is regularly 1 hour late at everything because her daughter was asking to stop somewhere to play, or to buy some shitty food and else... and the single-mother is often complaining to me about it, couple of days before to proudly announce me that her daughter is improving her behavior blablabla and then goes again the story and the loop is closing.

Let's be honest: that little 5 y/o girl is a bitch. And I am wondering how bitchy she will be when she would be 10, and 15, and 20 ?

My sister and I, have been educated in the framework of respect, discipline, hard work and effort, maybe a little bit too much sometime, but the family hierarchy had always been deeply clear and natural inside me: parents rule upon the children.

I see now that the hierarchy is more and more reversed, and more and more "children-king" literally rule on their "parents-slaves".

With such a lack of natural order and family values, plus the society going us the illusion of easiness rewarding the less effort to make us accept and consume, I am very worried for the evolution of our modern rich western society.

What do you think ?