Preamble: Ok, so this is a follow up to this post and related imgur, which while it's obviously had it's fans, it also had it's detractors (namely me). What follows is an expansion of my thoughts found there, and more thoughts in general on 'text game'.
Some took issue with my tone or my acerbic word choice, but I felt it was necessary to counteract the lavish praise being heaped on mediocre content. I'm willing to attribute most of the backlash in the original thread to newer, younger members from one of the recent influxes who felt the notions of 'trying your best' and 'contribution for contribution's sake' were inherently meritorious. These people who don't fully grasp everything this sub's about. That's fine, everyone's here to learn, myself included but the point of this subreddit is improvement and being the best you can, accepting no substitutes. Thus, what initially prompted me to post was reading some of the comments; at one point someone replied 'this is flawless text game'. This is problematic for two reasons; first, because it wasn't even particularly good and second because the very concept of 'flawless text game' is wrong. I'll address both these points below.There was also a call for examples of my own, so giving the masses what they want I've included some below, but be prepared to be underwhelmed (more on that to follow).
In the original thread, the OP was trying to frame his 'guide' as how to keep a hookup from becoming your girlfriend, but this isn't particularly difficult and you don't need pages of 'text game examples' to do this, if you understand the core concept.
All it really boils down to is availability. A girl you see once or twice a week at night is not your girlfriend. She knows this. She may push for more, but if you demur every time she wants to do something off schedule, she'll soon get the picture and either adapt to the hours of operations or cast you off. Yes, her losing interest in the arrangement is a risk but that's the whole point - you don't want to date her exclusively so don't begrudge her for seeking out someone who wants to spend more time with her. If anything encourage her to date, you'll find that if your boning her well she just won't be able to connect to those guys who take her out to dinner. Your the AF to the BB. I've slept with girls before they go on dates so they don't do anything too slutty that night (their words). You can't be trying to date 2 or 3 girls at the same time but butthurt if they're doing the same thing; the good news? in my experience is that they usually won't be. Most girls (people too) struggle with dating multiple people concurrently, and assuming your overall game is tight, most will sign on for a part-time role as its better than nothing, or the less desirable alternative. This is completely their choice, so you shouldn't feel the slightest bit guilty about it, assuming your forthright from the start.
Here's a few screenshots of examples with a girl I hung out with last summer:
http://imgur.com/a/zIJwQ
Nothing super complex there, and segues well to my next point. Once you've banged her, it really doesn't matter what you say. In the original thread, the OP was practically self-defeating as he flipped between leading her on to it being something more and glibly stupid. Why are you using the rope ladder when there's an elevator? The need for cagey one-liners and master frame-keepers is diminished. You've already won the game, you have a lot more latitude. Save the pithy remarks for in person/new girls, texts should be purely logistical at this point. If you read the texts above, almost everything from my end is trying to coordinate meeting up.
This leads to my final idea, which stems from a more high-level issue with the concept of a 'step by step texting to get laid guide.' Put an idea like this in the same category as diet pills, get rich quick schemes and many other PUA scams. There's no shortcuts, magic bullets or panaceas. There's some concepts which if you apply to yourself and your 'game' should improve your odds, but will never guarantee you shit, or the particular girl you're after. Claiming anything else is disingenuous.
Like I've said a few times now, the girl in the OP was already under his thumb, so to speak, so you probably correctly concluded that you can sort of step off the gas when trying to come up with witty repartee. Okay, that's great, but what about girls you haven't slept with yet? It's completely different right?
Well, not really. I did some digging and found the texts that set up first time bangs with several different girls.
http://imgur.com/a/UYNdC
There's nothing there that is that outstanding, really. Maybe I had a funny line or two, but none of them we're exactly make or break. There's pointed invitations to do things, and from there we did things. Texting is really just a logistical tool to meet up in the flesh, and the factors at play are the same factors always at play:
How interested she is
How available she is
How you fit into these two variables.
I can confidently say I've never turned a not interested girl into an interested one via a witty message, at best maybe I've pushed a few off the fence because I fit in logistically. The point is so many factors can come into play, most way outside of your control. You could be running what many here would consider air-tight, hilarious, push/pull, rapport building wundergame, and get blown out. Or maybe all it takes you to text 'hey whats up' to set thing in motion (aka girl text game, but that's a different post). What you say is less important than all the other factors that go into her decisionmaking on whether or not this is going to happen.
Now I realize people want this quick little list of quips you can hopefully deploy at the right moment. roissy made a career out of posting things like this. delicious tacos top blog post for the longest time was '44 openers for okc' but here's the thing, none of this ultimately matters. At the end of the day, any 'guide' of canned lines can't make you witty or interesting. How do you get more witty? I dunno, become more well read, have interesting anectodes that apply to a wide variety of situations. To be interesting, you should try becoming interesting. If you're successful at this, you'll find yourself not at a loss for words when some quick joke is fitting, or the opportunity to be a little forward presents itself. Like anything, experience is the best teacher - you get better at this the more you do it.
If you have anxiety about what to say, whether it will be funny enough, or enticing enough to catch her attention, think about it like this, would you rather get a few perfunctory hahas or an actual date/meetup out of it. If you've got a funny callback to a shared experience which eases you into actually asking her to do something, use it. Eventually though, you're going to have to make the move to get her to meet up. Be direct, to the point where she has to accept or reject your offer. If she hesitates or is busy, its probably not happening. She could be actually unavailable - which is fine. Busy without an offer to reschedule is uninterested. A no ultimately is a good thing - its unambiguous and should give you closure on that particular girl.
Still, for some general ideas, if I were to highlight some salient points, try these:
DON'T
*Incessantly text
*seek approval
*gab with her
*get emotional
*chase uninterested girls - each additional invitation to do something is value lowering. She should be stoked she got invited out to do something with you, after a decline or two it should be clear its now entirely in her court if something's gonna happen.
DO
*contact early ("who's this?" is something that shouldn't happen, text her early on with something that identifies you, to the point you don't have to explicitly say your name. A quick few messages soon after meeting will really increase your retention rate down the road)
*say less than her
*know when to cut bait, only pursue girls who show interest
signs of interest:
-unprompted contact
-prompt replies
-questions
-suggestions to meetup
As you gain more experience you'll get better at recognizing these sort of 'go signs' and be more able to confidently seize the initiative when it presents itself. A few more semi-related text examples:
http://imgur.com/a/Idox6
In conclusion, Use texting as a tool to set up in person meetups, not perfecting your standup routine, mindfucking her, or really anything else. It's not that the jokes, or seductive lines, or alpha posturing or whatever don't have their place here or there, it's that it's not the primary goal. Further, all that stuff matters less if you fall apart in person. Even if I could give you a line or two that guaranteed a date, would it matter if you couldn't carry through in person?
Sorry if this sounds fatalistic or disappoints, but it's the truth. If anything it should be reassuring - there's no secret formula to successfully text a girl and get it in. You're still gonna get flaked on if the girl isn't that invested.
Feel free to disagree with what I lay out here if you think I'm wrong or whatever at any point, I welcome it. I don't love everything above as a cogent idea but I wanted to get this out tonight. Also if I didn't address anything, let me know. This is long enough as is, so I left out some stuff.
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