Summary: I just got out of a long relationship (part of an overall life transformation, and I have TRP to thank for a lot of that). Now, I'm trying to re-learn how to be single again. I wanted to post this FR from last night while it's still fresh on my mind and see what y'all think I could have done better. tl;dr didn't had sex but I had fun and think I did a lot of things well.

I met up with a girl I've known for a few years but only seen a couple of times because we live in different places. She was super excited to see me, super flirty, good kino but a little resistant. She has a boyfriend but didn't talk about him a whole lot. She said several times how great of shape I was in and how comfortable and calm I looked. Yes I lift bros, you should too. And IDGAF anymore about most of the little things that bother people, thanks TRP and meditation for that.

We went out for drinks, got a table in the corner outside and chatted for a couple of hours. We talked about a lot of things, what we had been up to, our plans for the future, but mostly about sex. About what we liked and didn't like, and how I recently ended my long monogamous relationship because monogamy just isn't that fun. I may have exaggerated the details of my current sex life a bit, and the specific amount of bondage equipment I have at my house... I guess made myself out to look like a Christian Grey sort of character. That conversation was pretty fun though, especially watching her reactions.

I told her about a girl I had recently reconnected with and was going to meet for drinks when I got back home. She said something about how I would make her panties fall off and I said "good". She said "Oh so that's your master plan then?" I said "yes, and don't you think that's the way she would want it too?" I reminded her that we were all descended from a long line of people who loved to fuck, both men and women, and she agreed. IMO, preselection demonstrated and shit test passed.

At some point during the conversation we "entered the judgment-free zone" and told each other a lot of stuff that we don't normally tell other people, for example about cheating on our SO's, and she said she felt like she had already had her one fuckup in her current relationship, and that she was disappointed because it was with somebody who wasn't that good and wasn't worth it.

Now that I think about it, this had me wondering whether I was worth it. Probably not the best frame of mind to be in (feels like I failed a shit test there). TRP what would you have said at that point?

Anyway, making it very clear to a girl that you do not judge her for her actions or mistakes is a great way to get her to open up to you and feel comfortable, and I think it also sets the stage for her to be uninhibited with you later.

We were wrapping up at the bar by this point. I asked her if she thought they would bring the check together or separate. She said she had no idea. When the check came, after a second she pulled out her card and said "I guess I'll buy you drinks." I said "OK, I'm gonna let you."

So she paid for our tab, we left, and I told her that I may or may not have some pot in the car. She sounded intrigued but declined politely with something like "no I have to be up early tomorrow for training, otherwise I would." I of course playfully mocked her for giving a BS excuse, then showed her why I drive a stick shift (dat acceleration) which she loved.

I took her back to her hotel and tried to kiss her in the parking lot. She pulled away and offered a hug, I said no and shook her hand instead.

As she was getting out of the car I pulled her down onto the seat by the back of her dress and caught her. I went to kiss her again, and she said "no I can't". I said "you could" but let her go.

I guess at that point I could have said "It's just a kiss, nothing more" or something like that. TRP what would you have said at this point?

Of course I'm a little disappointed with how the night ended, but it's fine, I mostly just want to practice and improve my game because it's fun and there are millions more hot women out there. So what are your thoughts on how I did and what I could do better next time?

Lessons learned

  • I really like being single again. It's fun.
  • Lift weights and eat real food. And if your posture sucks, fix it. Girls notice this instinctively - she had a hard time keeping her eyes off me due to how much I've changed in the past couple of years.
  • My game is a little rusty (especially w.r.t. when and how to escalate) but I will keep practicing.
  • I need more practice passing shit tests until it becomes second nature.