Summary: Frame is the core of game. Anything and everything will try to break your frame if you're not careful.

Body: It was Saturday night and I was looking to go out and have a good time. It had been a rough work week and I wanted to blow off some steam. My mind was completely focused on having a badass night and nothing else. I made a pact to myself to keep this goal and pursue it. Per usual for a Saturday, the texts started rolling in.

what are you up to tn?

The one that caught my eye was sent from this girl I'd been working on. I had been out with her a couple of times before and felt there was some chemistry between us, but nothing had happened. I sent her back a text a girl friend taught me.

hanging out with you!

She texted back that she had a shitty day at work and wanted to get dinner, a drink, and smoke. My first reaction was to comply. BP thinking had me envisioning taking her out to dinner, hearing her out, giving her advice (only if she asked for it), and heading back to my place for a nightcap where I would try and make a move.

Fuck that.

I remembered my mission, and letting her vent to me about her issues did not seem like a good night to me. I texted her back that I would be out with a group of friends and she could join when she was free. I maintained my mission and frame and by doing this, she felt it in my text and the way in which I responded. She agreed and said she'd text me when she was free. Cool. I answered a few of the other texts and got together a little group for the night.

She sat very close to me at the bar in the booth. We took turns having private conversations as well as talking with the group. She got up to say hi to some other guys and ended up hanging out with them for awhile. My buddy pulled me aside and told me to "watch out" and that I might lose her to these other guys.

Fuck that.

Protip: Sometimes friends will try to help you, but don't realize they're doing the opposite. Ignore them and stay the path.

I told him I didn't give a shit. I was there to have a good night with my buddies. Sex was not on my mind at all. I got up from the booth to grab another drink at the bar and walked right past her. As the bartender handed me another drink, she touched my shoulder and told him to put it on her tab. I waited for her to get her drink before we rejoined the group. The group decided to switch venues and we headed out to another bar a couple of blocks away.

As we walked over, it became clear to me that this was my game to lose. She was holding my hand and acting very flirty. The group decided to go outside on the patio to smoke, and we stayed inside because she was cold. She was looking into my eyes like crazy and I hit her with this line.

me: this is a bad idea Her: Yeah, we shouldn't do this

We started making out like crazy. The group saw us and gave us space. The bouncer called last call and we stepped outside. I pulled out my phone to call myself a cab. She was hanging on my arm and said, Where are we going now? Idk about you guys, but for me the hardest part of my game is the lead up to the kiss. After that, it all flows pretty easily.

We decided to go back to her place and fucked like crazy for the rest of the night. She asked me to call her "my whore" and she did everything I asked. In-between sessions she told me that she still had feelings for her ex. I ignored her and degraded her like she wanted. It turned her on so much. We started talking about anal and she told me that was reserved for LTR only. We discussed it a little bit before she very easily asked me if I was into it.

Fuck that.

I decided not to do that with her. I was picking up on her crazy and knew it wouldn't be a good idea. I maintained my frame, and upheld hers. By doing this, I was showing her that this was as far as our relationship would go and that I was not LTR material. She begged me to reconsider, but I kept solid.

Conclusion: * Your frame is the foundation of your game. If it's weak, then the rest will be weak. * Don't focus on the outcome of the situation. Stay in the moment. * If her frame is an agreement with yours, then there is no shame in helping her maintain her frame. This girl later thanked me for how I handled that interaction.