Hi there, 41M, divorced 7 years ago, kept the kids.

Posting this after reading the post of spending $0 on the last 7 women...

I too don't meet my online dates at bars (at first), however, I have the advantage of living on a tropical island.

I invariably invite my dates to my morning workout. Some stretching, some squats, some burpees and then an 5 mile walk. This all happens at the edge of an azure sea under palm trees.

Afterwards we take a dip and if the keno during the walking was successful kissing is a guarantee. Afterwards, if they are new to the island or not, we go on a little island tour that ends with feeding stray donkeys at a sanctuary. They all offer to pay for drinks, lunch etc. There is constant groping and kissing.

I drop them back at their hotel and exchange numbers.

Later that day I'll send them a message saying "I wouldn't mind another beer" they'll ask where? I set the venue and after a few drinks, on their expense, I'll tel them to pay the bill cause we're going. They all comply.

There are a multitude of (private makeout) places to choose from. They all have a view.

They all want you to take charge. All tits and all pussies are different, however, I have yet to find a woman who does not like it when you grab all her hair together close to her scull and control where her face is going.

I have more than a few advantages, I'm 6'5", white (not really an advantage on a tropical island but most don't really come for the BBC), fit, not ugly, and a particular case of not giving a fuck.

I use a little neging, mostly about their body (i like big booty and most US tourists have none or "a curve"), but never too much or too agresive. Cause if you're tall and big the worst that can happen is that they get scared. So fun, pleasantly crazy and forward all the way.

It has yet to let me down. I stick to the half plus seven rule, but have been up as much as 10 years older. I did a 42yr when I was 21 but that's another story.