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What does it mean to be "fruitful?"

trapper_bub · 2021-02-17T23:07:58+00:00

In life what things should one pursue that are fruitful and most of all how does one differentiate between what is fruitful and what is unfruitful? Thinking...

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February 17, 2021

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Title	What does it mean to be "fruitful?"
Author	trapper_bub
Upvotes	2
Comments	18
Date	February 17, 2021 11:07 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askRPC
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/askRPC/comments/lm7efu/what_does_it_mean_to_be_fruitful/
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[–]Red-Curious1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

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[–]SSDJ-like0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

I’d say your issue isn’t with success but it’s with contentness and comparison.

Don’t get me wrong, earning 6 figures, looking jacked, having a beautiful woman and excelling in your field of expertise are all great things, but absence of these things does not equate to failure or lack of success. If you look for someone who’s more talented, funny, attractive, wealthy, godlier than yourself, you’re bound to find them. It’s more so about looking back 2 years, months, weeks or hours ago and appreciating all the growth God has facilitated in your life. Take a moment to write down all the things you’ve been working on and really feel a sense of pride about these things. Pray to God and thank him for what he’s done and ask for the strength to grow even further.

This will eliminate the feeling of inferiority that girls seem to sense once they get to know you. They sense it because YOU’RE believing that YOU are inferior. All mindset brother. Change how you see yourself and so will the women. God bless.

[–]trapper_bub[S] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Oh yeah I'm not content at all and certainly do feel inferior. I feel foolish for ever even thinking I could try to even approach most of the women who reject me. My internal monologue... let's just say if I posted it here it would be taken down for profanity and really just be disturbing. I take no pride in anything I've ever done or am currently doing cus it's all really quite silly and stupid and childish notions that guide my life choices.

I feel like I havent grown at all since my parents split when I was 5 and it's over 20 years later.

I feel like I'm often called by God to grow and he has given me many many many opportunities to grow but yeah I just kinda always choose not to. I choose to do the easy thing which is run away and never really overcome the challenges He puts in front of me and that just compounds the problem more

I feel like I have too far to go backwards to even find put what the right path for me is

[–]SSDJ-like1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Appreciate your openness and honesty man.

There’s a saying along the lines of “once the internal monster if defeated, no external monsters can do any harm to you”. For your case, I’d say the external are challenges of life and the internal is that devil on your shoulder. That voice that constantly seems to justify why negativity is the only option in life. You gotta start by killing that voice man. The only way to do that (as with anything) is to let God give you the strength and discernment required to move forward. How quickly do you turn to antidepressants before you turn to God? I’m not undermining medicine and I’m certainly not your doctor so don’t take what I say as gospel, but try and let God do the heavy lifting in your life.

So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal. ‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭4:18‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Spend extended periods of time in the word and trust God to help you out of this hole. You’re loved by the God who created everything. Let your confidence rest in that. Nothing or no one can take that away from you.

[–]trapper_bub[S] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

[–]SSDJ-like0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Sounds like you’ve had a difficult childhood man. Don’t downplay the effect that it has had on you. I looked at your post history and seems like your parents are divorced. I’m going to make a lot of assumptions here but subconsciously, your mind will associate love with pain, heartache and trauma as I’m guessing that’s what you experienced when you watched the whole divorce process. Shuttling between mum and dads, hearing the arguing. Probably being in the middle of fights. These have all conditioned you to avoid love at all costs I believe (correct me if I’m wrong). So in an effort to protect yourself, you’ll prevent anyone (even yourself) from letting your high walls being broken down.

If what I’m saying resonates with you, take it before God and ask for him to give you the capacity to love yourself and others. You can’t begin to love others if you don’t love the man God has created you to be. Thanks again for your vulnerability.

[–]trapper_bub[S] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Yes quite literally in the middle of arguments. Standing in the living room holding the phone with my mother on the end of the line (cus they refused to speak to each other) in front of my father sitting on the sofa while he screamed at me and called my mother all sorts of expletives. Then getting screamed at for not repeating the expletives to my mother, then being screamed at by mom. My little sister experienced the same treatment and I'd be lying if i said there weren't times that I wanted to go over and unlock to the gun cabinate and kill him. But there were also times I had to do things like break down his bedroom door cus he locked himself in there threatening to kill himself, and I didn't want that either, I never moved so fast and hit something that hard in my life as I flew down that hall way and into that door. So idk. I appreciate having a space to be honest cus I bottle it up. Im seeing a shrink Monday afternoon.

Yeah it's an avoidance of love at all costs. Its sorta like my reaction to genuine love from friends and potential girlfriends is that I dont want to let others see or be effected by my chaotic situation so I keep them at a distance and often accomplish this by putting myself below them. So that's how my wall is kinda constructed. But then when I ought to stand up for myself or others I usually fold unless I snap. I snapped once on a bully, first day of middle school. He never messed with me again though.

Thank you a lot for letting me just riff. Its valuable to me to get these things out of my head.

[–]SSDJ-like1 point 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Man thank God not me, he cares enough that I would be able to communicate all this with you. All glory to him.

Dude I’m so sorry you’ve had to experience all this at such a young age. People don’t realise but children are at the MERCY of their parents. Whatever their parents do shapes their lives almost completely. So not only do you carry the burden of life for yourself, you’re carrying both your parents as well. I’m not blaming them and I don’t think you should either, we’re all imperfect people but you first got to acknowledge that you’ve been dealt a difficult hand. That way, you can stop beating yourself up so much.

You’re similar to me in a lot of ways. You’ll never find me angry but the day you do, you’ll wish you never activated that side of me. In a way it’s beautiful, the capacity for destruction that’s in every male. I’m not God so I don’t know what you need to hear in terms of fixing that past trauma but you’re definitely on the right path man. Asking for help. Speaking to psychologists. Taking this before God. Time heals all wounds man. Keep working.

God bless.