edit Based on the comments, there are two obvious courses of action: next or flip the situation 180.

I'd like to explore these two routes. Given my situation, where I have a tentative date setup for next week, I think I am in a position to position a next or flip based on her reactions to my actions in the coming days. This should be a fun experiment.

So a hard next: what would this entail?

Flipping the situation: how could I turn this from her stringing me along to me using her efforts for entertainment. This sounds particularly fun. I love fucking with people.

tl;dr: I'm attractive, successful and pretty much the fucking man but this one girl has me by the balls. Easy answer is to next her but thinking long-term she would be a great mate (incredibly attractive, very motherly). We go back and forth with talking and cutting off contact and starting to talk again. I don't get what is going wrong; why I can't seal the deal.

I'm a 21 year old, tall dark and handsome college student. I can essentially get any girl I want and I rarely have a problem doing so. Didn't really know what red pill was until I started getting into reddit a few months ago. At first I thought I was pretty beta as I did lack true confidence. As such, I built up my confidence by bringing out my adventurous side, working out more and breaking my usual patterns where possible. I'm not beta. I can tell you that with confidence. Honestly, I am on top of the world right now. I have two incredible jobs that are launching me way further in my career than people that are even 10 years older than me. I'm not 3% body fat ripped, but I'm in good shape and I feel fucking good about it. I have my alpha friends, beta friends, plates, seemingly everything I could want...

And possibly oneitis.

You see...last spring break I went to PCB and met this girl. Immediately knew I had to get to know her and we hit it off quickly. The day after we got back from the trip she invited me over (she lives close to me, conveniently) and we continued to hit it off really well for about a month.

At the time I couldn't pull the trigger. This girl is weird. Insanely hot, and insanely weird. Its one of the things that draws me to her because I'm pretty fucking weird too. For you nosey types: I'm majoring in IT/Business. My hobbies include biology and neuroscience, fitness and nutrition. I'm an eagle scout and love the outdoors. I'm commonly regarded as the oddest person among my peers for the ways I dress, act and go about life. And I'm fucking proud of it all.

Anyways, eventually we just stopped talking and moved on to different people. Then she started talking to me again. We have fallen in this cycle where we get to a tipping point and then nothing happens, we get pissed at each other and we stop talking. It usually alternates who is the one that cuts contact. I'd say they are 3 month cycles, give or take a week.

So just recently I cut contact with her, like a month ago. She was upset about it and wanted to be friends. I told her straight up that wasn't gonna happen. Men and women aren't friends, especially at our age. Of course she still tries to get my attention through various means. Largely by trying to make jealous of her being with other guys. I didn't cave, which I have to credit to TRP because normally I'm the guy that gets jealous and has to have what he can't have.

I stuck it out until she really started to get...desperate? I mean nothing crazy, she's a respectable lady. But I started talking with her and made it clear that we're going out on a date. Which I firmly suggested the date and time to which she accepted. This was Christmas Eve, the date is on New Years Day.

I'm trying to hold my form and just causally talk to her, sparsely of course - which isn't hard because of how much I work. Obviously I still want to talk to her to keep her on the hook but I'll be damned if she isn't the hardest person to keep in touch with.

This has happened in the past where she just doesn't respond to texts or anything, which is fine because I hate that shit too. But its all part of the game, right? I call her out on it and she will apologize and promise to get better. To her credit, she has probably improved by 5-10% each time, if you could somehow quantify it.

It has now gotten to the point where it has to be one of three things:

  • She's stringing me along, trying to keep me as an orbiter
  • She's playing the same game I am
  • I'm fucking awful at talking to people

Now the first option, I don't think is possible because, unless she is actually retarded, I've made it pretty clear that I won't just hang around. As for the second option, that is entirely plausible. The third, I don't think so because at any one time I have my other plates.

Is it possible that just this one girl is the only girl I break form with? But, especially given her background (wealthy family), I would think beta would be totally unattractive. Yet she keeps coming back saying how she misses me and really wants to see me.

It is at the point where I definitely need a second opinion, because I am far too deep in this to make a good judgement call. So, askTRP, what sayeth thee?