initiating sex

PhantomDream09 · 2014-04-07T18:45:21+00:00

How long has she been on BC? If her drive took a nose dive around the same time she started taking the pill, that's one thing...but if she's been on the pill since the start of your relationship, and her sex-drive fluctuated 2 years into the relationship, that's different.

Has she changed (gained weight for example)? Have you changed (become less assertive, gained weight, failed to keep her in line)? Has she been shit testing you more frequently?

This is about more than just sex, this is about your ability to keep her attracted to you and make her desire you as a man.

anon_throwaway0 · 2014-04-07T18:56:37+00:00

to add to my post shes feminine and attractive has good traits and isn't like her friends who abuse their bfs and treat them like shit verbally and her friends basically are the boss in the relationship and we talk about that and laugh at how the men take it and stick with her female friends. She knows I read trp and I explain it to her and she thinks its got some points and I try to enlighten her on interactions on how men and women behave. She is naturally trp female but this one issue I have bothers me

OccamsUsername · 2014-04-07T23:27:00+00:00

2 yrs into the relationship things kinda changed, I guess the honeymoon phase was over by that time.

I've seen this one a time or two. It's natural for things to mellow out from emotional highs, but if she required emotional highs to remain sexual, you may have a more serious problem than you realize.

I know for a fact she is not cheating on me and im 100% positive on this.

This is an impossible thing to claim.

My issue is I wanna make her cum and only I.

Explain to me precisely why this is important to you.

I want her to be satisfied as much as I am but find it difficult and at times pretty much force her to cum and she gets really into it and loves it, but again this happens rarely.

This sounds like she's bored with what you guys have been doing for a while.

I read enough trp to know that I need to fix this or she will find someone else to get her tingles.

That's a bit paranoid, but I can't disagree with taking this warning seriously.

Also she blames her birth control for taking her sex drive away.

She probably does not understand it herself and this is either an excuse, or something she tells you other than "what you give me in feels hasn't been exciting to me".

Whats the deal?

I need more information.

LS_D · 2014-04-08T13:51:25+00:00

some thoughts I've had ...

Let's have a quick look at the human animal and the results of sexual and attraction and the effects they would have on me and my female partner from the get go.

I considered, that due to the level of pure animal attraction we'd had for each other, she would have quickly become pregnant had we not actively engaged BC. So had a baby been conceived early in the realtionship, by the time things were going to shit with the girl, the baby would have become a toddler and consequently much less of a burden on the mother as it can walk, communicate reasonably effectively (with the mother)

By this time I would have clearly established my paternity and would have been around for those first couple of years when the mother and infant are most vulnerable and would need the most 'help' to survive. Were I to leave at this point, it would probably be, the 'naturally best time' for me to do so.

I can then continue on my mission to spread my seed successfully throughout the lands as my progeny grow up. Ideally I would be able to do this until I chose to 'retire' and return to my loving children about the place, lol I can't say I really know as this is pure hypothesis based on fact

anon_throwaway0 · 2014-04-08T15:40:05+00:00

Ah yes, the "know for a fact she's not cheating on me." Sure she might not be cheating on you, but it looks like she doesn't think you're "the shit" that she initially thought you were.

Girls (not Women, I mean GIRLS, mentally) want a man that they can look at and say "damn my man is the shit." And the way that they subconsciously do that is through those stupid "Shit tests."

so this obsession about "I make her cum 5 times/Month" bullshit doesn't matter. It's showing that you're not as awesome as she once thought you were. so take a look in the mirror and figure out why you suck. Not For Her. For YOURSELF, and fix whatever weak ass shit you started doing.

Girls don't know what they want. The position that's their favorite when they meet you, was the position that the last man fucked her best. Stop acting like she knows exactly what she wants. Maybe she does, but assuming that she does is a bad idea.

Title	initiating sex
Author	anon_throwaway0
Upvotes	1
Comments	31
Date	April 7, 2014 6:25 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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