Hello AskTRP, this is my first post so please be as clear as possible with the acronyms and idioms.

For context, allow me to explain my perspective: I am a 25 year old male, who just landed a sweet software developer job that pays very well. I just started so I haven't bought a new car or anything, but I am looking forward to that day. I feel like this will be a turning point in my life, but I'm not quite sure how to capitalize on it. Because of fear of rejection, and bullying all my life, I have a hard time just approaching random girls on the street, except when drinking I can be pretty social. I can put on a mean PUA facade, however, that I get girls every night, and that facade has gotten me laid, but I've only been in two unofficial relationships, and both were latina whores laughing behind my back.

During college, plenty of girls took interest in me. I am a decent looking guy. A lot of girls, would only want flings with me or to test my waters. They would immediately lose interest. It has even gotten to the point where some people have thought I was gay. One of my last relationships in college was with an art major, who wanted to sleep with everyone on the floor. I liked her and am still cool with her, so I guess this went positively? I am just not that social of a person, to be constantly bothering girls texting them and what not. And from what I've seen, some of my player friends are always talking to different girls. Is that what being an alpha male is all about? I've had situations where I was talking to different girls too, but because of porn I lose interest and so do they after a while.

Finally, my last girl - a really cute red-head - way back in January, I slept with her the first day I met her. She lived far, and I would not answer her beckon call. She got a BF, so I defriended her on Facebook in frustration. But, it was pretty obvious she was letting me down easy, always saying she was too busy to hangout, etc.

Tl;dr: Hot girls or girls that I like, don't take me seriously. Thirsty/less attractive girls, want relationships with me out of desperation. What am I doing wrong?