Scared to escalate

Leastohm · 2015-01-30T02:06:32+00:00

I'm going to tell a non RP story, stay with me, I'll make my point.

I was a senior in college, and starting to get serious about the fact I need to line up a job once I graduate. But I was lazy back then, and was only doing the bare minimum towards it. Went to the career fairs, which are for the most part a waste of time.

Anyway, I'm at one, waiting in line to talk to the Northrup Grumman representative. It's a long line, filled mostly with foreign national students wasting their time and the representatives since this is a division of NG that handles primarly national security work, non-citizens need not apply. I get sick of waiting, and wonder over to talk to the Navy recruiter since I was six years prior enlisted and might as well talk shop if I can't get anything productive done.

Next to the Navy is a recruiter from a prestigious organization that shall remain anonymous. They're not the type of organization that's all flashy with their presentation, so the millennial I was graduating with barely noticed he was there. Or maybe they just didn't think they were cut out for it, I sure as shit didn't think I was.

After I talk with the Navy guy for awhile, and talk about some prospects for getting a commission and resuming my service as an officer, I walk away, actually thinking about it despite my promise to my wife I'd never go back to sea. The organization's representative in question said, "I overheard what you guys were talking about. You sound like you might be a good fit for our xyz program. Would you like to come in for an interview."

I think, "Why the fuck not, I could use a practice interview." I go in, I'm relaxed, I'm game. I'm not getting the job anyway, so why not push the boundaries, take some risks, and see what kind of feedback I get. I field questions with remarkable ease, I've long been a top notch bullshitter. I know the right answer to the stupid things you know are coming, "What's your greatest weakness? Where do you see yourself in five years?" My wife works in HR, she prepped me for the tried and true trip up questions well.

So I walk out, thinking I did well, and starting to compile a list of things I cold have done better. Five days later, the representative calls me and tells me to submit my application through the website already, he wants to send me an offer. Next thing I know I have a job offer, at a dream job I never considered, and their starting offer was 20k higher than I was expecting to get out of school.

Back to your question. Find a girl that is heads an shoulders out of your league, and start applying game. You're going to get fucking shot down anyway, who gives a fuck if you screw it up. And maybe, since the pressure isn't on, you'll succeed beyond your wildest imagination.

TL;DR: MAN UP

theproudbanana · 2015-01-30T02:06:03+00:00

Drink? Go to a place no one knows you. Stop thinking what would happen, when you start thinking walk towards the girl

Masonjarteadrinker2 · 2015-01-30T16:56:50+00:00

You just gotta do it man, no answer on here will change the fear, feel the fear and do it anyways. Like anything in life it will become easier once you do it a few times. Except squats, those bastards never get easy.

oldredder · 2015-01-31T08:14:05+00:00

Is there a reason to avoid what you run into? Are these girls ugly, flakey or crazy? Are you literally holding back with no idea why?

Are you 'scared' or just 'holding back' ? What's there to be scared of?

Is it just lack of experience, afraid to fuck up initially even though that's the only way to learn?

asd1100 · 2015-01-30T08:45:27+00:00

red pill mindset

that tickles me the wrong way.

This is not a book club. The goal is not to bitch about women or stroke our cocks at how great it is to be a man.

If you can't affect the world around you are still a betard, you can have a red pill "minset" and still be a betard, you actually regress into a internet meme: the woman hating neckbeard. Your actions are the only defining things about you when it comes to the real world.

Now regarding your issue: check out if you are gay. One in ten men is, and I know a lot of those that are simply barking at the wrong tree for all their life, wondering why they don't have that "edge". Find that out and chekc that box, you need to know.

Low T, stop smoking, wanking off obsessively, start eating more healthy and work out.

Get a hooker if you are a virgin or insecure about your small dick. Learn the female body and deprogram your premise that women don't like you touching them. That they aren't sexual beings. That they don't want men/you.

Go monk mode, go on a all out self improvement fast. Reach a level where you undersand that you are emotionally autonomous and you don't need/care for external validation.

Try these in this order, don't go all monk mode because the rest is hard or uncomfortable. To be perfectly clear: you will fail at monk mode if you use it as a reality retreat before/instead of fixing your lifestyle.

Title	Scared to escalate
Author	sucks_with_girls
Upvotes	2
Comments	8
Date	January 30, 2015 1:45 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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