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Yup, good start for a novel. Well done all around.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 08:46 PM
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Not necessarily. If porn makes you happy, go for it. If you're using porn as a cheap substitute because it's low risk and you don't have to work for it, then there's a problem. If there's any general principle of TRP, it's be your own man.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 07:40 PM
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In my opinion, porn is something to pacify yourself and not go and get the real thing. It triggers an endorphin rush and you start getting hooked to the hyper stimulation. It's kind of similar to alpha widows. I'm not against it per say, used to be addicted to it myself. But it was getting in the way of being the man I want to be.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 06:31 PM
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Wasn't exactly a binge eater, but had little discipline in my diet. So I made a rule for myself, I could eat as much as I want, but it has to be healthy (lean meats, veggies, nuts, etc). I also went more or less carb free for a month, eventually the cravings died off. It's been quite awhile since I've had a cheat day, just not tempted to eat junk anymore.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 06:27 PM
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I swallowed close to twice your age. You're in a good spot being so young. Hasn't been an easy road for me. But start by lifting and losing weight. Since you're "slightly chubby" you can probably get gains while still losing fat for awhile, do that. The lifting and weight loss will help boost your testosterone, which will improve mood and help you with other things you need to do. I'd also start working on that shyness. You're introverted, nothing wrong with that. Your goal should be to become a…
/r/askTRP11/04/16 11:59 AM
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Mental break. Had a panic attack, no clue why, wrote it off to drinking too much. Turns out I was feeling like a castrated wimp in my mostly sexless marriage. Started having something close to a manic episode a couple months later shortly after my wife went on a business trip and I realized just how good I am at being a father if she isn't there to undermine everything I do. Made all sorts of progress on getting my daughter to clean up after herself, got her to eat healthier than she usually doe…
/r/askTRP11/04/16 11:53 AM
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Red Pill can't treat genuine mental illness, it is not some miracle drug. But you're showing a decent level of self awareness, so you have hope. Regarding the gym, you're right, the first step is to do something. Also what are you eating? If you eat shit, you'll feel like shit, and motivating yourself to workout will be that much harder. Regarding your social interaction panic attacks, you can try some cognitive behavior therapy on your own if therapists aren't working for you. How long have you…
/r/askTRP12/03/16 12:25 PM
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Are you in a hurry to have a child? I don't see any particular reason to be. Finish your journey on the pill, find the right women, and have children with her. Men don't have an expiration date like women. Be patient.
/r/askTRP12/03/16 01:43 AM
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If you want to fuck someone, then fuck someone. It's about that hard (no pun intended). If you're worried about what other people think of you, then you're missing the point. Be your own man. Hell, since taking the red pill the idea of taking a man and making him my bitch kind of turns me on. Does that make me gay? Don't know, don't care.
/r/askTRP12/03/16 01:39 AM
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Damn man, if I had your marriage I'd never have found MRP in the first place. With that foundation, and your self improvement, you'll have an impressive marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/16 01:12 AM
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Good news, she made this play BEFORE you got married. Bad news, your relationship is unsalvageable. Your not her alpha, and she can't overrule her nature enough to even try to respect you as a man. There is no winning here, hard next is your only play. And be thankful you're not financially tied to her. Learn from these last two years, and remember this can happen again. If you want to go down the rout of marriage one day, remember that the switch can turn any day, and you'll no longer be her ma…
/r/askTRP01/11/15 05:44 PM
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School taught you a valuable lesson, even though they never intended to. I've often found in the professional world, it's better to look good at your job than be good at your job. Most managers don't know how to actually measure your productivity, they only know how to judge superficial shit. I keep this forefront in my mind, and just got promoted this year, over several people who were equally if not more qualified. The thing that set me apart from them, I wear a suit everyday and show up to al…
/r/TheRedPill31/10/15 11:57 AM
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Caveat, without knowing your medical condition that lead you to be recovering from a what I hope is a no longer terminal illness, I'm assuming your desire to boost testosterone is not because your testosterone is low due to a medical condition. My general philosophy, there are no shortcuts. No magic supplement is going to fix me, and focusing on them is a distraction. I eat clean, plenty of lean meats, healthy fats, veggies and vitamin rich foods. I work out, lift 3 times a week, HIIT 1-2 per we…
/r/askTRP29/10/15 10:51 PM
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Sounds like my early twenties as well, full ride scholarships, got into every school I applied, failed out after my second semester. Here's the deal, you sound like you're clinically depressed. I recommend treatment, specifically cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). If you want to avoid psychologists, then get some books on CBT. I didn't realize that I was depressed, and joined the Navy. Fortunately, that path worked out for me in the long run, but I wasn't done with depression, it came back afte…
/r/askTRP22/10/15 12:44 AM
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I started when I turned 36. You missed very little.
/r/askTRP22/10/15 12:36 AM
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Yeah, tell her it'll stop itching three or so days in. (When I shave my beard my face itches for about three days until my body gets used to being clean shaven)
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/15 12:18 PM
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Big time. Before I was the quintessential nice guy beta. Where as my wife is able to rationalize anything into being not her fault, I'm able to rationalize anything into being my fault. At first she didn't take advantage of my nice guy stature, in fact she went out of her way not to. But over time, stress of job and child, and she started to take advantage more and more. The shit tests got worse and worse, and my failures got more and more spectacular. I found myself going to /r/deadbedrooms bec…
/r/askTRP08/08/15 12:14 PM
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Good news and bad news. The good news is you seem to be able to diagnose what's wrong. The bad news is you seem unwilling to do anything about it. You already know what to do. Take ownership of your mental issues. Admitting you have them is the first step, not using them as a crutch is the second step. Get treatment. Whenever you find yourself in an argument, ask yourself, what is the purpose of this argument? Do I have a desired outcome, or is this a no win situation? Am I just shit testing him…
/r/askTRP08/08/15 12:02 PM
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I've been married for 12 years, and with my wife for 15. No infidelity. However I've been with the red pill for about eight months. She's shaped up a good deal but sometimes looks like she's about to revert to brattiness again so I might eventually have to divorce her. She also seems to be dragging her feet on the more kids part, maybe hoping to run out the clock, I will also leave her for that. So on whether we'll make it to twenty or not, I'd give it a fifty fifty shot.
/r/askTRP08/08/15 11:49 AM
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Damn, I've been grading very harshly compared to these standards.
/r/askTRP22/07/15 01:37 PM
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But I feel fucking horrible right now, as I share a lot of history with this girl and still haven't fully slain the cancerous tumor that is Oneitis. I struggle to let my normally rational self override my emotions. I'm beginning to mourn the death of our relationship and our future, so I understand how I feel is probably healthy. If you didn't feel horrible right now, I'd doubt your humanity. So mourn your marriage and let the emotions wash over you from time to time. That's part of being human.…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/15 12:15 PM
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Talking society as a whole. We don't send our women to die in war. We don't mass incarcerate our women. We have nearly no state financial safety net in place for men, most homeless are men and the unsheltered homeless are overwhelmingly men. Also you part prove the point, a man has no value until he proves himself valuable to his society, as is your case with the infantry replacements. A new guy showing up has no value to the rest of the squad, we can rationalize it by saying the rest of the squ…
/r/TheRedPill18/07/15 11:38 AM
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Yup, women don't understand how big a deal sex is to men. was talking to my cousin the other day about how her husband of 8 years has fallen into a depression and how he seems unsatisfied with the marriage. Without being too crass I asked her about their sex life and her answer was about what I was expecting, "oh, we do it about once a week," (which I know probably means once or twice a month), "but sex is not that important to him." So I gave her a gentle AMALT speech (I don't need a purple pil…
/r/TheRedPill18/07/15 11:27 AM
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Feeling Good by David Burn. It outlines the basis of cognitive behavioral therapy (which I find a lot of similarities to the general red pill philosophy). It's good for dealing with anxiety, depression, shame and guilt.
/r/askTRP11/07/15 03:48 PM
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Yeah, I was about to say, she's doing a wonderful public service bringing attention to a very important issue. The prevalence of crazy women using rape accusations against guys they didn't get their way with.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/15 11:32 PM
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Yeah, CC rider being chaste with you should be a HUGE red flag of a complete lack of attraction and respect for you.
/r/askTRP05/06/15 12:03 AM
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/r/redpillwomen would be a good resource for you. Question: do you live in an area with a big Indian community? For the most part I've seen very few from that community dating outside of it where I live. It's possible guys just assume you're not going to go for non-Indian men. I'll be honest and share some of my racist side, I hold no malice towards Indians but I do make some assumptions. Attractive Indian women are a rarity where I'm at, most let themselves get obese. If I were to date one who …
/r/askTRP04/06/15 10:11 PM
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Heh, I used to do the same thing when I was a student. They'd ask me how I did so well on the test, I'd tell them, "I spent all night sleeping instead of studying."
/r/TheRedPill04/06/15 12:30 AM
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I remember back to boot camp, where I went two months of getting a maximum of 6 hours a night, and frequently much less. I spent nearly the entire time fighting off sickness. My athletic performance went way down, my head felt fuzzy at all times, I literally fell asleep on the march more than once. Since getting out and being able to go to bed at the same time every night, I can't begin to convey how much happier and healthier I am.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/15 12:29 AM
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You're doing great man. I remember the euphoria the first time I fucked the bitchiness out of my wife instead of breaking down and being her beta bitch, I got the field report somewhere deep in my comments history. I was in a week long manic high. In my case, the improvement was short lived. A couple weeks of crazy sex and then came the next major shittest. And the requests for "nights off" became more and more frequent (currently on an upswing). So keep your game tight, don't make my mistake an…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/15 11:28 AM
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There comes a time in every movement where it's goals are either reached, or overcome by events. Usually when that happens, movements go insane. Feminism is such a movement.
/r/TheRedPill03/06/15 02:01 AM
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Meet them while you travel. Women love the casual drifter to come in, seduce them, then by on their way. Especially the attached ones looking for a fling, if that's your thing.
/r/askTRP02/06/15 11:44 AM
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/r/marriedredpill is another good resource. Long road ahead of you, but there are some sages there that will help guide you. They've done wonders for me in the four months I've been unplugging.
/r/askTRP01/06/15 11:12 PM
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I liked the MMSLP's section, withholding sex is cheating. If one partner isn't putting out, the other should be free to get it from wherever he/she can and the privilege is NOT reciprocal. The promise of sexual exclusivity is implied there will be sexual availability, you take away the availability and the deal is broken. If you're no longer attracted to your spouse, man/woman up and either find a way to become attracted again or file for divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 07:56 PM
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I may be an outlier, but I went with a Keto diet, but I did not limit myself. I ate as much as I wanted when I wanted, it just had to be healthy (nuts, avocado, veggies, grass fed beef, etc). I killed all empty carbs, ate fruit only before and after workouts, and stopped drinking alcohol or anything else with calories. The result, I dropped 20 lbs in 2 months, trimmed an additional 8 over the following 3 months to slightly below my target weight, while my arms, pecs and back got noticeably bigge…
/r/askTRP01/06/15 07:49 PM
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Kill all empty carbs. Only eat fruit before and after workouts. Eat plenty of vegetables, meats and healthy fats. That helped me drop 20 in two months an I've continued losing slowly until now where I'm ready to start bulking. I also ate as much as I want, it just had to be healthy, so I kept things like nuts and avocados with me for snacks. I don't know anything about your medical condition, so consult a physician first, but that above worked wonders for me.
/r/askTRP01/06/15 11:24 AM
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"Yeah, but I'm working on my aim."
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 11:12 AM
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I admire your focus and dedication, but don't forget to stop and have fun, and riding your unicorn is fun. Also, don't over-train, it was a mistake I made when I first swallowed. Take a day off every so often from the gym, especially if you find yourself plateauing. Things will change, and change for the better. Phase out texting, others can probably advise you better on the best way to go about this since I've never texted. However, I see nothing wrong with just ignoring her texts for a period …
/r/askTRP01/06/15 02:09 AM
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proclaimed that moms had important things to do so fathers had to man up and accept they weren't getting sex until the kids got older And mothers need to realize that fathers also do important work, and need sexual release to deal with the stress so they'll just have to woman up and accept their men will fuck other women until the kids get older.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/15 12:33 PM
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Ah, the "I love you but I'm not in love with you speech". Married Man Sex Life Primer (popular material on /r/marriedredpill) covers this specifically. Your relationship is in trouble, that speech usually means there's already another man she's fucking or thinking about fucking. /u/JackGoldsteinWrites hit the nail on the head, you need to apply dread game. Now your specific course of action really depends on your relative SMVs. You want yours to go higher than hers otherwise there is NOTHING you…
/r/askTRP31/05/15 12:27 PM
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If it's anything like my marriage, there are some stormy waters ahead. It's getting better though. Keep the course, recognize when you're being blown off course and adjust accordingly, and don't be afraid of the storm.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/15 12:02 PM
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Thought provoking. I suppose I too am a selective male and also didn't lose my virginity until my early 20s (I lost it with a 9) and met my wife shortly after (also a 9, at the time). I had quit a few girls interested in me in high school and college, but none of them passed my boner test. Some told me I was superficial, a charge I denied since looks weren't everything, just a deal breaker. My navy bros didn't understand my unwillingness to settle for any old skank, and were damn curious to what…
/r/TheRedPill30/05/15 11:29 PM
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I can only tell you what works for me, meditation. I've started incorporating my past events that would cause me a great deal of anxiety into my mindfulness exercises. It allows me to explore my feelings and memories while also staying apart of myself so I can analyze it objectively and begin to try to understand. But as /u/Doulich points out, ask your therapist, I am not a professional nor do I speak to one.
/r/askTRP30/05/15 11:11 PM
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So today I did this through teasing and ridicule. She was getting ready to tell me just how wrong I was for not slowing to her glacial place while we were walking to the park with our daughter. Instead of listening I forced a kiss and grabbed her ass, as she was getting ready to yell at me I did the condescending mock sympathy, "Aww, did the big mean boy kiss you on the playground?" She laughed and her mood improved.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/15 06:33 PM
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It sounds like a long road ahead of you, and it sounds like you're doing it mostly right, a few mistakes here and there and likely still explaining yourself too much, but sounds like you're doing better than I am. You can still love your wife while being firm. That in fact is an act of love, your wife shows that she needs firm guidance.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/15 04:18 PM
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This is a bit of wisdom from me every woman should keep in mind: if you don't give your partner the feeling that he's desired, you better be sure that no other woman as attractive as you will ever do it (and for this you have to factor in your declining attractiveness). I'd go with: "If you don't give your man the feeling he's desired, you'll either end up with a broken man or a broken relationship. There is no winning scenario for you unless you get off on keeping a broken man around."
/r/TheRedPill25/05/15 01:00 PM
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TRP is mostly for individuals who's beta behavior is what's holding them back. You have much larger issues to work through, a lot of the general principles of life will help you. And the getting women is only a side effect of the pill. It sounds like you're on the right track in getting help and you show a decent level of self awareness. To my unprofessional ears it sounds like the next step you need to do is overcome your blaming of your parents. You have every right to be angry, but blaming th…
/r/askTRP25/05/15 12:48 PM
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Yeah had a similar conversation. "I married you because you're not like those other assholes." Didn't handle it as well as you did, but if it comes up again now I know.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/15 07:40 PM
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Yeah, sounds like some insecurity is happening here. The redpill is a journey of self improvement, we're not measuring ourselves against other men and trying to prove ourselves better. The only measurement that counts is against what you used to be and what you want to be.
/r/askTRP22/05/15 12:26 AM
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No exchanging going on. And I've walked out of clear duty sex in the past.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 10:40 AM
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Was she appreciative in response? Of course not. She hated that she even had to resort to acting like a bitch in public just to get your attention for your supposed transgressions. It was a lot easier when she just iced you out and you just apologized for everything. Which manifested into even more resentment and comments like: "I don't give a shit about us anymore." Hey, I deserve a little credit, I apologized for nothing. But seriously man, thanks. These posts were top notch and have really he…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 10:38 AM
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Wow, this is some heavy duty stuff. Thanks for taking the time with this response. I'll prepare for your diagnosis to be correct, and hope that it is not. Cleaning gets mentioned several times because she claims it was the source of her resentment (I left out that particular detail). She felt I wasn't doing my fair share. As for dread level ten, I almost invoked it the other night with something along the lines of "We're getting help, or we're getting divorced" but as I was angry at the time, I …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/15 10:40 PM
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Working on it, going to redouble my efforts. It's one of those things I know, but haven't internalized yet. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/15 09:59 PM
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That's a great question. It's clear in recent weeks that I am currently, whether I was or not for the first three months is debatable. I thought I was independent but that might have been my own internal bluster.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/15 09:18 PM
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You said she was a single mom, good chance you're still her AF, she just can't get away from her child as often as she would like. Also, she might be more hormonal than most, only interested in sex at certain parts of her cycle.
/r/askTRP20/05/15 08:35 PM
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You cognitively understand that, you just haven't fully internalized it. That's part of the process, or so I'm told (I'm in the same boat as you right now). Meditate, analyze your feelings, remind yourself of the abundance mentality. Those women did you a favor. They're unreliable, and probably doing a great deal of false advertising on their profiles. They're probably just there to soak up the loads and loads of beta validation. You don't want them.
/r/askTRP20/05/15 08:32 PM
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Christian girls might throw up some more LMR, but remember the power of the hamster. You just have to put it in such a way the sex is your fault and that she would have maintained proper chaste behavior if you hadn't seduced her. The joke in my catholic high school is that catholic girls are easy. Once you kiss them they're so overwhelmed by guilt they figure they might as well go all the way because they've already sinned.
/r/askTRP20/05/15 08:29 PM
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I'm a dad, and I have 10% body fat. That's a proper dad bod that your wife and children will respect.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/15 03:10 PM
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Brilliant writing, and despite having an over-abundance of parentheticals (which tend to get very distracting), easy to read. Bravo sir.
/r/TheRedPill16/05/15 12:01 PM
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Your emotions are tools, but they lie to you all the time. Listen to your emotions, understand what they are trying to say and why as they might offer insight, but never lose track of the fact that you're a logical being. If your intellect is confused and your emotions certain, be very wary of your emotions, your brain doesn't agree with what they are saying.
/r/askTRP16/05/15 11:47 AM
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How do you know? (I've already heard some of the stories, but I learn something every time you tell them)
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/15 04:47 PM
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I didn't notice a particular pattern. Lots of white and asian girls, don't recall any black girls, definitely a few Indian girls.
/r/askTRP15/03/15 12:43 AM
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Yup. Wasn't even very good looking, but he was just one of those guys everyone loved. Every guy's best bro, and never short on the attention from the ladies. This was in Chicago.
/r/askTRP14/03/15 07:45 AM
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"hey...I wanted to..." "Great, my place at 7."
/r/askTRP13/03/15 11:35 PM
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Newbie here, let me postulate and you guys can help point if I'm on the right track. You already had her interest, and I assume some level of escalation in the 'readings'. It might have worked well to kill two birds with one stone and just say, "Hey, lets get out of here, I know a great x where we can grab y".
/r/askTRP13/03/15 11:25 PM
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Great kid, now don't get cocky. Hi, I'm new here too and I saw great improvements when I first started implamenting. But then the first big blow up happened, right around day 26 of her cycle, and it was ugly, but recovered frame after some slips and got through. That one ruined valentines day. Now I'm in the middle of the second one, I'm holding frame better, but right now I'm pretty pissed that she was gone when I got home from work today and left me no indication where she took our daughter. S…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/15 10:18 PM
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Perfectly natural if you're not ejaculating through masturbation/intercourse. The prostate keeps on producing, and eventually needs to dump it.
/r/askTRP01/03/15 12:30 PM
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I often go with all three. Though I usually sub sausage for bacon.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/15 12:14 AM
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Avocados are my new addiction. I've made so many changes that it's hard to point to any one thing for why I feel so much better these days. But on days I don't eat an avocado, I feel like I'm dragging.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/15 10:16 PM
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I'm still pissed at my mom for that.
/r/TheRedPill23/02/15 01:00 AM
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It sounds like she's going to be a shitty officer. I had a few of these when I was enlisted, both male and female. I'd look at it less from the male/female angle and more from the she's just a plain shitty leader and boss angle. I recommend swallowing your pride, maintaining frame and not feeling oppressed. Take this as a learning opportunity for how to deal with shitty bosses. If you're going the military rout I can guarantee you'll have more. Edit: To give you hope, I had a similar situation w…
/r/askTRP18/02/15 09:57 PM
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from my POV, red pill is not about getting your wife to love you. it is getting her to be more attractive to you, to respect you more and follow your lead. Understand that some red pill methods will increase attraction but decrease love. IE - she will be turned on, but think you are more of an asshole. Consider this with what you choose to implement and to what extreme. Great point. I was definitely going too extreme too fast and was probably getting into divorce territory. So I've eased up quit…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/15 09:51 PM
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Option one) Say "Sounds like I have no reason to come over" Option two) Pretend she didn't say it, escalate as you normally would, if she shuts you down hard, next her and leave.
/r/askTRP17/02/15 11:59 PM
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That's my end state, the high probability method would be a temporary measure to get her more conditioned to saying yes. However, whenever I want it is > everynight. I really miss our dating/newlywed days when 4 times in a single day wasn't unheard of. Right now logistics make 2 a stretch, at least until I can condition her to wake up early and horny. Right now her waking up horny only happens on days where our daughter sleeps well and sleeps in. As for Athol Kay's advice, no one is right all th…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 11:56 PM
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A good point. I'll wait to implement the high probability plan if the situation doesn't improve. I've had some push back lately about her feeling too pressured. I do my best to not come off as butthurt, but maybe my facade cracks a little bit, I'm not afraid to admit it stings every time I'm turned down. I do however leave the house to do something productive each time, so maybe she's just reading that as punishment.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 10:52 PM
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Actually, it's discussed in the sidebar, though I can't remember which article. High value men, which by taking the red pill is something we all now strive for, are the most likely to help someone out. Especially if they see potential in them.
/r/askTRP17/02/15 10:45 PM
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Same boat here, I still occasionally get the itch but I know that a relapse could destroy me. Last thing I'd ever do is "reward" myself with that.
/r/askTRP17/02/15 10:39 PM
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Sixth, initiate sex every night. She will shoot you down every time. When she does, shrug, act like it’s no big deal, and go do something productive. Make her wonder whether you even wanted sex or if you were just messing with her. Hmm, I thought I was making a mistake doing this and was going to implement a strategy of initiating only when I had reason to believe there was a high probability of success. My general theory is that I think my wife has defaulted to the idea of no, and I want to bre…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 09:50 PM
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I suppose we'll agree to disagree. I stifled my nature that drives me to pursue other women. She didn't stifle her nature to take advantage of a nice guy. Maybe it's whining from someone deeply in the anger phase and I'll grow out of it. Maybe it's the growing awareness that I no longer want to be married to her, I'm starting to think that's more and more the case. Or maybe it's just my new frame that says I never truly valued monogamy and only went along with it because that's what I was raised…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 09:43 PM
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New like you, my marriage was a lot less fucked up, I feel for you bro. You've taken the first step. The good news is there's always a chance to fix it. I recommend reading MMSLP (married man sex life primer) stat. It talks a lot about the situation you're in now. The bad news is it might not be fixable. The silver lining is the steps you take will put you in a position to get the sex and life you want, it just might not be with your current wife. There are lots of great people in this sub, I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 07:53 PM
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If you haven't already, I recommend reading Sex God Method, specifically the section titled "The Forbidden". Basic steps for such a scenario. She says she wants to stay a virgin until marriage, you say, "That's great!". While playing around with her, tease her with, "Baby, imagine how good it's going to feel to finally have my dick up your pussy. Imagine giving your virginity up to me." And continue to describe the act and how good it will feel, especially focusing on the emotional aspects, best…
/r/askTRP17/02/15 03:05 PM
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On a similar vein. I'm initiating too much for the stage of the game where I'm at, I'm initiating every day. Going from 2-4 times a month to everyday is going to take some time. Frequency has gone way up, but I'm still getting shot down about 33% of the time, and getting shot down still affects me even if I hold frame and don't show it. I need to get her out of the habit of saying no, which means I need to read her cues better and initiate with a more high probability chance of success so that t…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 01:50 PM
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Thanks for the direct challenge, it helps my process, but I think you completely misread what I've typed and are making assumptions beyond what we're talking about. At other points you say that I blame my wife for my actions after. I do not, I point out the triggers that led to them. Ultimately it was my choice. Ultimately, it was her choice how she treated me. Ultimately, it'll be my choice whether I'm going to open the marriage or force a divorce. On a more philosophical point, I also think yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 12:01 PM
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More than half done with it, else I wouldn't have gotten to the withholding sex is cheating passage. But I definitely agree with you, reopening negotiations is something for the future. My learning process is to discuss, formulate plans, exchange ideas. Hence me talking about what I'm in no way ready to do now.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 11:54 AM
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I'm not worried about being ruined. From a financial perspective now would be a good time. I'm poised to start earning roughly 50% more. Thanks for the feedback however, I do sometimes lose sight that the primary purpose of my journey is self improvement.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 01:07 AM
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It's a good question. Most the times are good, but the bad times hit me hard. I'm hoping that the red pill will help me rearrange the dynamics of the relationship, it's already inspired me to be better. I already had an enviable life, but I often did feel like I was wasting talent. I love my wife, but when I'm deeply honest with myself, I'll say I'm doing this mostly for my daughter. I probably would have walked away and declared this marriage unfixable if she wasn't in the picture. Besides, wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/15 07:11 PM
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It will be hard to break the mindset of it being a punishment. All things being equal, I'd rather spend a quiet night with my wife if sex is off the table than going out and doing something else. But I have to suppress my secondary desire in order to achieve my primary desire.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/15 05:01 PM
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I think the main point we disagree on is it being punishment. I don't see not doing a favor I would have done under different circumstances as punishment.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/15 04:59 PM
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The hamster is strong here. If this covert contract isn't vengeful, I don't know what is. These last years are gone, and you assume no responsibility for not being the best version of yourself. Yet you want to make her pay for the lack of attraction, where it was you that you weren't improving yourself, which is what drives attraction. I think we'll just have to agree to disagree for now. Maybe as time goes on I'll emerge from the anger phase and agree with your statement. I do assume responsibi…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/15 02:48 PM
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I agree 100% on both your points. At some point is months from now. And I'm very conscious of how in the anger phase I am. If I were not married, I would ride it out in monk mode and it would pass fast because I've very little anger towards women in general. I have to deeply care to have this level of anger. Maybe as my anger subsides, I'll change my mind. It's part of why I'm holding off on firm decisions just yet. But I don't see my intent to open my marriage as vengeful, just as practical. Wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/15 02:24 PM
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So things are going well for me overall three weeks into the redpill. I hit the gym like a maniac, despite fighting a highly annoying cold the last few days, I've not even eased up. The fact the symptoms ease up when I work out helps. Professionally I'm doing things that I should have done years ago, and have started looking for a new job. I love my current position, which will make me all the more confident during interviews and give me the room to negotiate the fuck out offers. But I'm stuck i…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/15 03:01 AM
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Video games were my Blue Pill in an almost literal sense. It's how I dropped out of reality and just ignored the world for what it was. Whenever I got stressed, overwhelmed, bored, I'd go play video games. I was pissing my life away behind a screen. I'm only two weeks video game free, but man am I loving it. I've dropped thirteen pounds, I've got a six pack starting to show for the first time in my life, I bought new suits for work, I've made progress on my stalled attempt at a novel. My recomme…
/r/askTRP08/02/15 12:53 PM
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Is your place immaculate yet? If not clean. Do you have the job you want? If not start hitting you networks and looking for a better one. If yes, do it anyway, maybe pick up a second job and get that income flowing. Might be time to sign up for a night class or two. You've made an amazing step in stripping yourself of the shit that has been holding you back. Now go be free.
/r/askTRP07/02/15 06:53 PM
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Literally whistling. It's something I frequently do when I'm happy. Maybe it's bad taste, but the goal it to show my happiness is no longer coupled to hers. We had the SAHM conversation. While I'd rather she not, I've always been supportive if that was her desire. She used to say she wasn't interested. These days I'm not so sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/15 01:56 PM
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It's a very collaborative office, and peer performance review can make or break you when it comes to bonuses and promotions. There are reviews latter in the day that I've been unable to support. I was tired and dragging ass in the morning when I forced myself out of bed before I was ready. The old schedule was affecting my performance.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/15 12:22 PM
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Okay I get what you're saying. Maybe it wasn't a blunder, but it sure didn't help anything. My frame is now a guy who doesn't tie his happiness to my wife's and that I'm no longer going to put up with her bullshit. I've laid out he solution, she agreed, then changed her mind unilaterally, and decided it's my job to support it. In the past, I let these games go on, then I broke first because you're right, this is a childish game. I've tried talking to her about this twice now, both times she refu…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/15 12:21 PM
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I suspect at this stage, she'll just change the enrollment and we'll end up paying extra application fees going back and forth. I suppose it's an option, but my gut tells me she needs to accept this decision before action is taken. If I take steps myself, she'll fight even harder.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/15 02:43 AM
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We can change the enrollment status at any time. Don't even need to wait until next session. She's just being stubborn.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/15 02:15 AM
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I wasn't clear in my meaning. I sometimes fear I screwed up my marriage with 12 years of beta behavior that it'll juts be too hard to repair, that I should cut my losses and move on. Find myself over the next few years, spin plates, etc. But that's the coward's way out. I made the mess, I'm cleaning it up, for my sake, my wife's sake and our daughter's sake.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/15 01:19 AM
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Thanks for the encouragement. It's been a rough two days for me and I sometimes have the dark thoughts along the lines of, "It would be so much easier to just start over fresh with someone new." But I remind myself, I do love my wife, and the challenges we face are as much, if not more, my fault than hers.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/15 11:42 PM
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I've worked out for a long time. I have amped up my workouts, but that's a side effect of the big thing I did. I went cold turkey on video games. I used to waste 20+ hours a week on that passive waste of time. Killing that addiction freed me up to do so much more. It also made me embrace boredom. Boredom is a good thing, boredom is what drives us to be awesome. That more than anything is driving the changes in me, which in turn are driving the changes in my life. Video games were my blue pill. I…
/r/askTRP03/02/15 10:38 AM
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I don't know whether I believe it all or not yet. I've never believed any one philosophy has a monopoly on the truth. But for right now, I'm embracing the whole pill, as I gain more experience with it I'll decide if I can custom tailor it to suit my particular life. Every person is different after all. As for what you can do, and this will be hard because this is probably what got you into computer science in the first place (I'm making assumptions here, but they're probably safe), cold turkey o…
/r/askTRP03/02/15 10:36 AM
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So I'll chime in. I'm like you, I want to believe blue pill theory. But it just wasn't working. I took the redpill last week. I've known all along, I've just been popping blue pills unwilling to see the world for how it really is. I'm now married with a kid, and my marriage was okay, but it wasn't trending well. I've not even mastered most the material, but I'm working on myself and have started recognizing and blowing up shit tests. In the last week I've seen a huge turn around in my wife. Sex …
/r/askTRP03/02/15 01:36 AM
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Thanks for the quick synopsis bro. I'm working on the reading list, but I want to be able to handle the stuff I'm facing before I do (just got a loyalty test between when I asked this question and when I got back to check your answer "Are you having an affair?) before I get to that chapter in the book.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/15 12:50 AM
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Next her. You're friendzoned, and a woman who says she's not interested in dudes. A oneitis obsession with her is just going to fall flat at least 99% of the time. Now if she sees you in action with other ladies, her interest may perk up. And I can think of quite a few uses for a former lesbian.
/r/askTRP02/02/15 11:08 PM
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Not to hijack this thread, but could you point me to a quick difference between shit, loyalty and comfort tests? I just bumped MMSLP to the top of my reading list, but it doesn't arrive until the end of the week.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/15 10:25 PM
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Half way towards four. You're in for quite a ride, they get exponentially smarter by the day.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/15 10:08 PM
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I'm not going anywhere. I've got no one outside this sub to talk to about my transition; no one would understand. I have one buddy at work who's almost ready, and I'll be there for him when he is, but for right now he's comfortable on the blue pill, you can't make anyone swallow until they're ready. As for perfection, I always strive for it, rarely achieve it, and am always willing to fail. I think it's how I got as far as I did despite my blue pill addiction. Thanks for the support bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/15 05:10 PM
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Thanks for this, it sounds a lot like I'm in your old boat. Good read and reassuring that I am on the right path.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/15 01:29 AM
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Truth be told, her old self and new self is identical in those categories. Confident, thin and unwilling to compromise. All in all I prefer her as the woman she is now vs as the woman I married. I was the problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/15 01:24 AM
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Finally, don't reject asshole game Oh I agree. I'm cultivating a persona of the playful asshole. I'm trying to actually avoid being an asshole. It might be a subtle difference to most, but to me it's important that I use these techniques for the right reasons. Thanks for you help on this, and my other posts by the way. I may be a newbie here, but I already feel a great sense of camaraderie. If that is all the old you had over the new you why would she want to return to that? What was it about th…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/15 01:19 AM
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Agreed, I'm doing my best not to be an asshole. I always keep it respectable and hold frame even when she's being childish. I think that's bugging her more than anything, she can no longer make me miserable with her outbursts.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/15 11:14 PM
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I like it, simple. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/15 11:12 PM
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You're right, there's anger, and it's not at my wife. It's at myself. Forgiving yourself is harder than forgiving others. I'll work on that, thanks. As for why I think it's coming, she occasionally says things like, "I don't know what's wrong with you these days." "You've changed." Usually when she says it it's in a negative tone.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/15 09:23 PM
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First of all, ask yourself why do you care. I think of it this way, if someone gives me a high quality car, I don't give a fuck who drove it before me. If anything, her previous sexual history will probably give her some talents you're not going to find in your less experienced women. If you're worried because you fear once a slut, always a slut, and you have a compulsive cheater, follow favours_of_the_moon's advice, decide if you trust her and either keep her or next here based on the improved …
/r/askTRP31/01/15 04:04 PM
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Quality of sex was never the problem. I objected to the infrequency of sex, and was okay with it on the theory of quality over quantity. But that's a false dichotomy, I'm going to get both. I like the pregnancy fantasy, I'll keep that in my arsenal for when sex is going particularly well and she's showing signs of being extra submissive. By the way, love your posts. I'm learning a lot from reading your history.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/15 03:47 PM
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Definitely, I'm no where near ready for this conversation. But I like to understand what my end game looks like so I can set the stage for it in advance. I've a lot of work to do on myself, I started waking up two years. I've only been awake a few weeks, and I've only taken the red pill a week ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/15 03:41 PM
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So I see it two ways. If you respect other people's relationships, be a gentleman and walk away. There's nothing wrong with respecting others and their life choices. That said, a LDR boyfriend is not a boyfriend. At best it's a relationship on hold, and more often than not it's two clingy people afraid to let go. Treat her like you would any other woman, be playful, be nice, be a dick, keep her guessing. Let her see you in action with other ladies. Escalate subtly and watch the cues. If she's sh…
/r/askTRP31/01/15 03:33 PM
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P.S. You WANT to rock the boat. That is what stimulates the tingles. Yes, this so far was the hardest thing for me to accept, and the biggest payoff once I did. When I try to keep my wife pacified and happy all the time she goes numb. She needs emotional variety. Get in there, rock that boat and watch the pendulum swing. It'll go from angry and crazy to docile, eager to take care of you and ready to fuck your brains out in no time.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/15 03:22 PM
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I don't know if she is even conscious that she is doing it. I get up and go do something else and tell her to go to sleep because I'm not interested in fucking her if she isn't going to be into it. I started to come back, Sounds to my neophyte ear that you were so close to playing this perfectly, but you started to come back. This sounds like a shit test in bed. So next time she gives you a "lets hurry so I can sleep" I'd recommend your standard shit test come back. Agree and escalate is a possi…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/15 01:30 PM
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Hah, didn't see your edit until I came back here to review comments. Reading this sub for more than 10 minutes should let anyone know that self pity is the most loathed thing possible in this neck of the woods.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/15 01:37 AM
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I'm working on a novel right now, and have been for awhile. In the week I Red Pilled up, I've made more progress on it in the previous year. But as of right now, it lacks any kink, unless you count burning at the stake.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/15 11:56 PM
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I'm going to tell a non RP story, stay with me, I'll make my point. I was a senior in college, and starting to get serious about the fact I need to line up a job once I graduate. But I was lazy back then, and was only doing the bare minimum towards it. Went to the career fairs, which are for the most part a waste of time. Anyway, I'm at one, waiting in line to talk to the Northrup Grumman representative. It's a long line, filled mostly with foreign national students wasting their time and the re…
/r/askTRP30/01/15 02:06 AM
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"First thing I did was to make an online tracker for logging our physical contact on a daily basis." Sounds familiar. Fuck, everything you say sound familiar minus three kids. And in my less alpha state (I was still pretty alpha at work), I was of some sort of delusion that if I confronted her with it, it would somehow make the situation better. So glad I found MRP prior to doing that. I'll probably keep that log, and keep it updated. Have the data before in blue, after in red just in case I eve…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/15 12:01 AM
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It seldom turns off, and now that I think about it, his may also be a side effect of kicking my video game addiction. When I was bored, or needed to pacify myself, gaming was my go to addiction, I can only imagine what I could have accomplished if I had all those hours back. But no point in naval gazing. I'll keep at the meditation. Thanks for the help bro.
/r/askTRP29/01/15 12:53 AM
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It was a dread game, that my wife didn't even have to play, that inspired me (a solid 3 years before I even found this site, so I had no real clue what was going on). I got a little sympathy pregnancy going when my wife was pregnant. Went to 6'2 210, which is uncharacteristically fat for me, plus I was pretty inactive so there wasn't a lot of muscle density. When she deflated like a balloon back to her original 92 lbs within months of giving birth, I hit the gym, and have not gone a week without…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/15 12:35 AM
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It appears to me introverts are born red pillars. Introverted doesn't mean shy, it means your more comfortable alone than you are with others. You get your energy from being alone. Radio silence from a woman isn't threatening to an introvert, it's refreshing. Introverts spent less time talking and more time observing. You might not be as fast and comfortable with your words, but you'll have a better assessment of the situation and be able to keep your frame at a state where you can afford a slow…
/r/askTRP29/01/15 12:18 AM
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I'll need time before that. Hell, I just failed a shit test big time a little bit ago. I suspect I'm still getting laid tonight thanks to a semi-decent recovery, but I suspect her enthusiasm wont be what it should be.
/r/askTRP29/01/15 12:13 AM
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Dude, you've inspired me with your help here, and some of your other posts elsewhere. So I overplayed myself shortly after saying my plan was to hold off on putting theory to practice. After putting our daughter to bed, my wife went downstairs to finish up some last minute stuff from the office. Once she was done, she asked if I wanted to watch a movie. I didn't answer, walked up behind her as she was filling a glass at the sink, turn her head for a kiss. She breaks away forcefully, I'm shot dow…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 01:57 PM
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She either knows how to cover her tracks, or is clean in that regard.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 12:03 AM
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Definitely plan to. Just want to maximize my initial impact.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 12:01 AM
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That has been one of my big faults, an over-willingness to help, even with toxic takers. I'll pick that up tomorrow. Thanks for the tip.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/15 11:49 PM
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Any particular book from that reading list you'd recommend first? Work keeps me pretty busy so I'd like to prioritize to make the most of my learning time.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/15 10:10 PM
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As I said, I've realized I don't have an equal and I'm not planning on seeking someone new. I've always been a pragmatist and I don't let wishful thinking blind me from the facts on the ground. In my line of work, that gets people killed.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/15 10:08 PM
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I'm a neophyte here, so I can only speak for what would work on me. Be direct the first couple of times, you consider it a priority that food not be left out and the house be kept clean and want his support in this priority. If it still becomes a problem, then you have to escalate, but I would suggest staying away from deceit unless absolutely necessary. Throw it out if you have to, but simply state the reason, "It was left out and I don't consider it my job to clean up after you when you are to…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/15 01:20 AM
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