Yesterday I moved my GF out into a new place. I pretty much forced her to find this place when I reached the end of my tether.

First 2-3 months were amazing. She just gelled into my life and was a great companion. The sex was amazing. We had a laugh together. She introduced me to new things (took me to concerts, motivated me to find new things etc etc).

After 2-3 months red flags started causing a bad gut feeling about her character;

  1. Took her to meet one of my mates. Within a couple of minutes she was telling him about how her Jewish friend doesn't go further than oral sex before marriage and did he think it was weird (almost came across as shit test)

  2. Guys (and girls) on her social media always making sex based and phallic jokes towards her with her lapping them up.

  3. Walked in on her grabbing my housemates nipple and laughing hysterically

  4. One night went out with some of her friends. One of them (who I questioned before as they were back and forth messeging on FB 10 times a day) started using KINO on her. Eventually she touched him back on chest suggestively. As we were leaving she patted him on the butt and hugged him goodbye. Later she claimed that she meant to hit him on the back but accidentally hit him on the butt. Said guy is proficient in game, well built and over confident.

  5. She strikes up an intimate conversation with guys after a few minutes (like old friends), lots of tension spotted when shes interacting with women.

  6. Tomboy. Very good at bantering with men. ALWAYS has a quick half decent response (almost in a manic and excitable way).

  7. She told me spontaneously that she's so lucky to have me, and I'm perfect. In the same day I felt she was back handedly putting me down to others.

  8. She talked to me as if she was put on this earth to fulfill my sexual fantasies. This made for amazing sex, but was somehow a little bit disconcerting.

  9. Her actions were not congruent with what she said. Example would be telling me she misses me and will be back soon (on work night out). 2 hours later gets in (never got over this, although I'm not certain she was doing something she shouldn't).

  10. Plenty of BDP traits - lost her father in her mid teens, fell out with mother shortly after and now they don't speak. Some history of self harm. Idolising. Wild sex. A disconnection when trying to have a meaningful conversation.

  11. So many long time orbiters. Unexplained lack of friendships with women (other than the classic "girls are so bitchy, no they ARE!"). She has some good female friends back home. Here the friendships with females are based on meeting up and drinking.

  12. Gets flirted with all the time and sometimes when I'm there.

  13. Naturally gravitates and wants to make friends with other "sick" people

I'm overly sensitive anyway, and these behaviors made me almost certain that she was cheating on me.

When I broke up with her she would not accept it and told me she loves me. Want's to have a future together etc.

It was sad because we had plans together. She was absolutely devastated, crying for days. When I was giving her a lift to her new place, we were using the GPS on her phone. I see a text come through from her big ticket orbiter, asking her if shes OK (obviously she was talking to him about the breakup). This is her supposed best friend.. who's just a plain unsavory character. He "cheats on his GFs all the time", and can be found in the pub or in his bedroom at his parent's house most nights.

I felt sorry for her at this point, that this guy was key in her support network. We all know why he stuck around for so long.

Another thing about this guy, she "slept in his bed a few times" when they first met years ago. "Nothing ever happened. He tried it on once and she said no". Only a concern for me because she wanted to go and stay at his house with his family for Christmas. Very hard to believe indeed.

CLIFFS;

GF has traits of a slut

GF makes a compelling appeal to OPs emotional side that she's not like that

OP eventually gets jealous and insecure

OP breaks up and GF drops L bomb and says she wants a future together

NC for 2 days

I hope I am in the process of red pill taking.

Hope I've adhered to the rules would welcome your thoughts.

EDIT; yesterday afternoon I broke down emotionally and decided to contact her to try to get her to stay over (i know bad mistake). I felt very alone and helpless due to this situation mixed with some other circumstances.

The hamster had been working overtime for the 5 days i left her on her own. Not only had she come up with decent explanations as to why she did these things but believe it or not a lot of them were a direct result of my actions.

Words don't actually mean anything to her - she will literally say whatever it takes to try to prove that she is loyal. But as anyone with an ounce of sense knows actions are a lot more telling than words as "talk is cheap".

This confirmed that I'm happy that I've made the right decision eg been thought it is tough to be alone for a while.

Its saturday and I'm going to be starting with push ups (don't have money for the gym today) and reading The Game to start with, focusing on approaches.