Shy girls & Sex.

alveoli1 · 2016-01-09T23:23:57+00:00

Just keep escalating and pushing her boundaries. But you need to carefully pay attention to make sure you aren't pushing too far / making her do something she doesn't want to.

If shes hung up about penetration, try different shit like fingering her while getting an hj, oral, etc.

Eventually you should get through. But don't act butthurt if she shuts you down. Just try something different.

Put her hand on your dick. Say "if you say stop ill stop".

Ultimately, you need to be willing to leave her. Ask yourself how long you are willing to put up with this before you leave. And actually leave. Cause she may not put out for you. You don't want to be the guy who waited for years while she fucked some random hot guy on vacation.

This is where abundance mentality comes into play.

solasidore · 2016-01-10T01:52:43+00:00

She's just taking this business more seriously than you do. There's social and physical status change within one second in awkwardness, blood and pain. Make her trust and feel safe with you. Be a trustworthy and a safe guy, a better version of reddit advice seeker

MrFuckupKing · 2016-01-10T00:12:35+00:00

If she is a virgin or sexually inexperienced you are bumping up against her anxieties.

Remember you are most likely bigger and stronger than her and it will be your body penetrating hers. Sex is scary for a sexually inexperienced woman.

If she has moral reasons for not having sex you are bumping up against those.

Morals are those rules that breaking come with the risk of severe consequences.

If she has self esteem issues such as she thinks she is ugly or has body privacy boundaries (many women do) so is not comfortable being seen naked you are bumping up against those

If she has been taught negative messages about sex and men(men are pigs/dogs who only want one thing) you are bumping up against those.

To fuck a woman you must learn how to remove that which is preventing it by understanding all the reasons that are preventing it

This is called The Art Seduction and in my opinion is a worthwhile art for all men to learn.

What are you bumping up against?

[deleted] · 2016-01-18T11:45:12+00:00

you're mistaking your repulsiveness for her nonexistent self-esteem issues. she has been too polite to verbalise an outright no thus far. escalate things further without her explicit consent and it'll be your first rape. not being against sth =/= being for something. she is neutral and apprehensive at best. she must have a shitty relationship with her father (judging from her lack of assertiveness), and you, the same with your mother (judging from your predatory, misogynist tendencies). so maybe on some level, like attracts like re dysfunctional upbringing.

spuriousacademy · 2016-01-09T22:38:33+00:00

I was in a similar position recently. It takes time to warm her up, but once you do it'll be worth it.

See it as a positive. It means she isn't a slut who wants to ride the CC. She clearly has standards and self-restraint. I'd be happy If I were you.

In terms of actual advice: Kino Escalation.

Govedo13 · 2016-01-09T23:05:46+00:00

Kids..

just ignore the shy vibe next time and do what you want to do, the results would amuse you.. This is the final shittest, ignore and continue to do what you do. After a bit of experience you would learn the difference between "no" and "nooo"

When she starts to get uncomfortable just agree with her and go with the lines of something like "ye we should totally not have sex", while you continue to undress her. Even better is if you don't talk about it at all, if she protests physically be mildly aggressive and dominant without hurting her. I.E. she stops you with her hands, you make sure that you use gentle force to put her hands away without hurting her.

The first 3-4 times she would not be comfortable for sure, given that you both are not experienced. However you would never get to the comfortable zone unless you move a step further in that direction.

Title	Shy girls & Sex.
Author	KillMrNiceGuyDead
Upvotes	7
Comments	12
Date	January 9, 2016 10:22 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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