Hi askTRP, I am 23 year old student in my final year. I need help. I am an average guy with average looks/intelligence. I have to work hard to understand ideas and concepts I study(computer science). I put a lot of effort into bettering myself in this field but having found TRP and PurplePillDebate realized that I am not happy. In fact, I am rather miserable.
I have mild to moderate depression that stems from: not being satisfied with my career choice(I am okay at computer science(top 10%) but it is not my element. I enjoy it though), lack of friends and social networks, subpar appearance, lack of female attention, social isolation etc.
I find that as a male, I am not special and want several core things in life: being on a career path I like or at least tolerate well, female attention and sex, healthy body and mind and more free time.
I find my appearance to be a limiting factor because we are attracted to beautiful people and maximizing looks is important. Since September 1st, I lift 6 times a week on PPL split. In addition, lifting resolves around 20% of my depression. I cook at home, measure my food and count calories. Looking at myself in the mirror, I could honestly say "I'd fuck me." except that my face sucks. I have active acne, scars and acne on my shoulders, upper back. Even my mother said that I'd be rather handsome but my non-clean face disadvantages me a lot. I have yet to find anything to work for my skin issues. I used benzoyl peroxide, some antibiotics from doctors but they did not make my skin much better. Really need advice.
I also think my wardrobe sucks. Recently, a friend came back from internship in New York and he changed. He wore rather formal clothes that looked so fucking well on him, first thing I asked was whether he was going back from somewhere formal. But nah, it is his regular clothing now. It was night and day difference between regular jeans and hoodie and current clothing.
As a result of being "not conventionally attractive", I don't have friends and females are not interested in me except girls that are 4s or 5s. And even then it is quite rare. This results in social retardation and long periods of social isolation. However, despite being introvert I enjoy talking to people. It's just that I am boring, uglyish guy and people don't remember me. I'd go to parties and events but no one invites me.
I firmly believe that my depression, lack of confidence could be significantly improved by solving skin issues, wardrobe modifications. Also, I'd like to add that having performed excellently in my internship I did not get a return offer because of my shitty social skills and lack of personality. I'd like to improve on that because it hinders my career, options with women etc.
In conclusion, do you guys have advice on maximizing appearance? I found male fashion advice having lots of content but I am really bothered by my skin issues and could use some advice. Depression can only be lifted by boosts of confidence of real accomplishments. I can already feel results from the gym and now need to keep going on fixing other issues.
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